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A prenuptial agreement protects assets of the husband and...

Patrick, I have been thinking the very same thing. Someone else on this forum said that people who are so adamantly against prenups probably don't have any assets to protect. After my father died, my mother married a man who turned out to be, well, to be kind, not what she really needed. He was also a widower, had been a family friend, but you never really know someone until you live with him. Or her. (By the way, a longer period of mourning would have saved her from making such a dreadful mistake out of loneliness.) Anyway, their marriage lasted barely a year, and she had a devil of a time getting out of that marriage without losing all that she and my dad had built up over the years. She learned a very hard lesson. Anyone can be mistaken going into a marriage. Nobody gets married knowing that it won't work out, but sadly that is very often the case. Wise people plan for the unexpected.  (Feb 8, 2008 | post #90)

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A prenuptial agreement protects assets of the husband and...

Claire and Amy are right. Asking a good friend to be a personal attendant is beyond insulting. It's a humiliation. And who does this bride think she is? A princess? A movie star? People who have personal attendants pay them to take abuse and gopher. LW1, I guess this shows you where you rank as a friend, hmmm? I feel bad for you. Tell her no. Tell her HELL no.  (Feb 7, 2008 | post #2)

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Who's responsible in a 1-night stand?

Is it too late to jump in on this one? Some of you are operating under the assumption that people who have one-night-stands know what they're doing. Imho, one night stand participants are probably drunk or in some other altered state, or they would never engage in such immature, selfish, downright dangerous behavior. People who are under the influence of alcohol, some other drug, pheromones, hormones, and loneliness (or perhaps they're just incredibly horny) do not know what they're doing. Their brains have turned off. All the blood is in their nether regions. They're stupid. Yes, perhaps there are possible consequences to be suffered. An unwanted, or at least unplanned, child may be coming into this world. An STD may have been tranmitted. A marriage may be in jeopardy. Self-esteem may be lost. But do the people involved think of that? Possibly. Fleetingly. But they're not going to let anything get in the way of their instant gratification. Life isn't fair. People shouldn't act that way. Children should be wanted, planned, and welcomed. But as long as two lonely or desperate or horny or drunk or selfish people engage in sex outside of committed relationships, these things will happen. It's really depressing to think about.  (Feb 7, 2008 | post #44)

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Is he the marrying type? Just ask

You hit the nail right smack dab on the head.  (Feb 7, 2008 | post #14)

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Tolerance for others' beliefs could help heal world woes

Alz, I will watch it because I'm not afraid of ideas that challenge my own. I used to be a conservative Christian, and a member of the Young Republicans. But that was just how my parents brought me up, and now I'm Buddhist and we believe that detachment from the world is a condition to be desired. So the utopia of nothingness is, when you think about it, nirvana. But I will watch the video. I AM a liberal, but hey. I've changed my mind before and I might again. Life is short, and I'm trying to be as many people as possible before I die. Peace.:)  (Feb 7, 2008 | post #23)

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Tolerance for others' beliefs could help heal world woes

I know a lot of religious people of all faiths who are truly good people, but I gotta agree with you, Gemini. We seem to want everyone's tolerance for our own positions, but we are unwilling to give it to those whose beliefs are different. And when I say "we" and "our," I'm talking in general. It's the way humans seem to operate. I used to wonder what the hell John Lennon was talking about in his song "Imagine, " but as I get older, it's starting to make sense.  (Feb 6, 2008 | post #15)

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Readers sound off about what's really wrong with the world

Vishnu, it's in the mail. Maybe. One of the things that's wrong with the PEOPLE in the world, is politicians. They lie. I agree that the world is great. And actually, most people are, too.  (Feb 6, 2008 | post #50)

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Smelly foods don't belong on airplanes

As I have said before, Miss Manners is my hero. Her graciousness is steadfast, and her advice is kind and thoughtful. And as I read through these comments, I couldn't help but notice that the rudest comments of all the forums I visit are on Miss Manners! Gotta love it. If she read these comments, she'd probably soil her drawers. I have been guilty of bringing smelly food on flights. I honestly didn't think about the effect my submarine sandwich might have on others. I'll certainly keep my food choices more bland from here on out. I think babies of all ages should be welcome at weddings, but then I only attend weddings of family and friends who would be okay with that. I don't even know anyone who would object to a baby's presence. So, I have no strong opinions on the topics. Sure was fun reading the comments today, though.  (Feb 6, 2008 | post #123)

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Mom must inform school about drugs

Thank you. I appreciate what you and Anthropology101 bring to these discussions. Of course, I enjoy the strictly emotional arguments, too. I think I must need more real friends. My friends and I don't discuss anything as fun as cousins having sex, taking one's shoes off, or narcing on our daughter's friends. Oh wait. We have discussed that last one. Anyway, thanks for the info.  (Feb 6, 2008 | post #48)

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Woman's drinking problem makes her a menace

Riverinne, you're good people. Well, actually, you're probably only one person, but you know what I mean. Good post.  (Feb 6, 2008 | post #105)

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Woman's drinking problem makes her a menace

Okay, that settles it. We have heard from the ultimate authority. God, while we have your attention, should we be forced to remove our shoes when we visit our friends who have just invested thousands of dollars in their floors?  (Feb 5, 2008 | post #89)

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Readers sound off about what's really wrong with the world

Air conditioning! That's what's wrong with society. Back in the day (they tell me) people sat out on their front porches and visited with their neighbors and knew each other. That led to respect for people and property, and kids grew up knowing that adults were keeping a friendly eye on them. Now we sit in front of our TVs and X-Boxes and (ahem) computers and don't know what the hell's going on right outside our doors. I read an essay on the evils of air-conditioning a few years back and those were some of the main points.  (Feb 5, 2008 | post #28)

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Woman's drinking problem makes her a menace

This discussion about cousins is fascinating! I guess the subject is more spicy than drunken professors. I have to agree with those of you who are not grossed out by cousins "dating, " but I still understand the "ick" factor that some others of you mentioned. As for me, I think that the familiarity issue is important. I have some 2nd cousins who are almost sibling-like because of our close proximity and our togetherness from the time we were kids. Other cousins I hardly ever see and wouldn't even consider relatives. I realize that this argument doesn't hold water because some sibs are separated at birth and I don't think anyone here would have the opinion that it's okay for them to form a sexual bond. As for the LW, I find it pathetic that any woman OR man would admit "he/she is using me," and wonder what to do. Pitiful!  (Feb 5, 2008 | post #63)

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Request to keep an eye on house a puzzle for next-door ne...

Unbelievable? Yes, you are. You seem to have a direct line to the subconscious of the letter writer. "If she meant this, then she would have said this..." That line of argument is complete garbage. You think she was justifying her behavior? Well I think she wasn't. You think she should have said this or that? Well, she didn't. Who are you, Unbelievable, to read all of your issues into her letter? Your post is full of "if that was the case," and all sorts of illogical assumptions that no argument should be allowed to get away with. And where in my post did I call her a hero? Obviously,you have emotional issues, Unbelievable. Geez, Geez, and Geez!  (Feb 5, 2008 | post #51)

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Pregnant teen can no longer hide secret affair with pastor

Did anyone notice that in the girl's letter she refers to herself and the good pastor as a "couple" ? Yeah, but a couple of whats? A couple of IDIOTS. I agree with everyone who has stated that the pastor is to blame. BUT I refuse to believe that a 16-year-old girl is not responsible for her decisions. The pastor is MORE to blame because of his age and his marital status and the sheer hypocrisy of his actions, but she's no victim. She is a willing participant. She knows she is pregnant, but does she even SAY anything about it? NO. This girl is too stupid to breed. And another thing, the term pedophile usually refers to predators who prefer prepubertile children, not adolescents. As a previous poster noted, 16 is, in all ways physical, grown. Does this make it okay for the pastor to have sex with her? Of course not. I merely mention this to underscore her own culpability. I realize I sound really harsh. Sorry. I have taught teenagers for too long not to realize that those girls know EXACTLY what they are doing. They just don't consider the consequences.  (Feb 4, 2008 | post #57)