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Danville, IL

Fallen Marine returns home

What an amazing tribute to a hero! The community really came together to welcome him home. There are not enough words to express my gratitude.  (Jun 8, 2012 | post #1)

Crawfordsville, IN

Crawfordsville church volunteer faces 5 counts of molesta...

I am the mother of a similar situation in Illinois. I pray for the victims in this case as it has been a hard road to deal with over the past 3 years. I read the news coverage and wanted to puke when I read that the church was trying to counsel one of their own in his difficult time! Focus on counseling those poor young victims! Don't victimize them further! The church involved in our case never reached out to us instead focused on the perpetrator. I am not saying that prayers should not be said for him as well but he chose his actions. Those young victims are the ones that need to be focused on!  (Mar 2, 2012 | post #3)

Alvin, IL

andy thomas

thank you beth! it has been great to gain a friend!  (Nov 14, 2011 | post #162)

Alvin, IL

andy thomas

Rossville Mom, I would like to thank you for your post. You have no idea how comforting your words have been. I am sure had you approached my son he wouldn't have been offended or humiliated. Trust me he has sat thru LOTS of whispering and stares ESPECIALLY if it was at the school. While it is difficult having been the "poster child" to Andy's situation he has handled himself much better than i have or would have if I were in his shoes. Despite any of his bad decisions in his life or how he was raised (blah,blah,blah) I couldn't be prouder of what he did. It's not been an easy road. He has overcome alot and will have many years of healing ahead of him. He WILL overcome all of this and he WON'T let this incident define who he is as a person. I am thankful to see how strong of a person he truely is...even though it was at such a high cost. Again, thank you for your support! If you see us out and about please feel free to approach us...we welcome supportive people...it helps heal!  (Nov 13, 2011 | post #160)

Alvin, IL

andy thomas

THANK YOU! Just for the record the Judge that sentenced Mr Thomas stated that had he proceeded with a trial and subjected these kids and other jurors to the testimony he would have sentenced him to life in prison. Mr Thomas was given a gift of 30 years. He could have received 150 years. My family felt his sentence was fair to spare these kids from testifying. Those who dont feel its fair need to realize that my son was handed a "life sentence" at the hands of "judge Thomas".....h e will spend his lifetime recovering from his abuse, learning to cope with how his actions have affected his life in many areas....relations hips, trust and forgiveness. Again you also pointed out that there ARE multiple victims. He was charged with 5 counts, the US Atty stated in court there were at least 10 others that were good cases, not great cases and would have required testimony to get a conviction. Not to mention the hundreds of images that they were not able to identify. I hope he does "make things right" with God, the one who will ultimately judge him. If he truely was a strong Christian....Satan would not have been able to lead him astray. I do appreciate those who have come to my son and the other victims defense in this matter. The others opinions dont really matter any more! If they are still so ignorant to not be able to see Andy for the predator he was I cant change their opinions. I often wonder if given the opportunity...woul d they leave their vulnerable teenage son with him knowing what they know now?  (Sep 13, 2011 | post #151)

Rossville, IL

andy thomas

Dear Family Member.... I am so sorry that you are "sickened " by this forum, as you should be on various different levels. I hope you took the time to read thru all of the posts on here. You can never truely understand the hurt and pain our families have been thru unless you have had to deal with this happening to your child. If you truely read the posts in here you would have read that i have said multiple times that i pray for andys family as they are dealing with this tragedy as well. I am not a heartless individual, it pains me to know his family is suffering due to his lack of good judgement. It is not for me to judge him....however i am within my rights to despise, hate, feel sorry for him, think he is pathetic, etc and so on as i am dealing with all of the emotions that this man has brought on MY family as well as many other families. YOU have no right to judge how we are feeling and the emotions we are dealing with, unless of course you are willing to walk in our shoes! I stood before a courtroom full of andy supporters and spoke my peace. I acknowledged that andy not only did andy betray us, he betrayed the community, church, his family etc. with his illness. I also stood in that courtroom and looked him in the eye and told him that i hope to one day be able to forgive him because i know ultimately i have to in order to fully heal . I have personally reached out to Andys immediate family and they know how I feel. It took alot to get the courage to approach them but I did it because my heart ached for them in their difficult time. Alot of people "judged" my son in the beginning, but he never waivered in his strength of coming forward. I am thankful he had the courage to protect others from enduring the pain, who knows how long it would have gone on had it not been for him stopping the cycle! I will end this post as i have done several others....i pray nightly for andys family and hope that they are getting thru this as best as they can. i also pray that God will have mercy on Andy....he is the one that he will answer to in the end!  (Sep 11, 2011 | post #149)

Rossville, IL

Former Ill. minister gets 30 years for sex charges

it is finally over...time to start the healing process!  (Jun 24, 2011 | post #1)