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All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

I think we should campaign to have more judgement types added to the forum. I'd like to see FFS, WTF and TW@@T and they would all be used on 'her of many names'! Any you'd like to add?  (Sep 3, 2013 | post #2116)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

The facts as witnessed on a beach day by me! I did not pay for the privilege of attending one of these glorious days but would have happily donated double the sponsorship if I had known about it - I definitely will next time! I took balls and sweets with me. I did not witness ANY inappropriate behaviour only a lot of fun and laughter. I personally paddled with a couple of children and watched the fear of water disappear from their face and be replaced by unadulterated joy! How sad that anyone wishing to spend time making a child's life a little more bearable is labeled a pedo! You have said that you volunteered In a school, Lisa so was that only to get access to small children? Should we accuse you of being a potential pedo?  (Sep 3, 2013 | post #2110)

Gambians and Islam

What I mean are people that want to practice their religion to the detriment of others. People who kill others purely because they are of a different religion. Killing innocent families can never be justified by religion. Examples ........ The Crusades in Medieval times, Catholics and Protestants in Northern Ireland and the Israeli - Palestinian conflict. I'm trying to give examples that cover different religions ....... but there are many more. Maybe my choice of word was wrong, fundamentalist ....... maybe fanatical would have been better?  (Aug 30, 2013 | post #30)

Hope or hopeless?

Thank you Anon. It's yours and stories like yours that give women the strength to move on. I know I am in the minority (still in a relationship with a Gambian) but I know after finding and reading this forum I will NEVER build a compound there. My eyes are well and truly open and as I have said before, if we ever progress to marriage it will only be after a prenup is signed. Sometimes it is better just to walk away for your own sanity. I have been divorced (an Englishman) and walked away with nothing but I couldn't have been happier :)  (Aug 30, 2013 | post #232)

Gambians and Islam

I work and socialise with all religions and have never had a problem. I do not 'practice' any religion but believe I am a good, fair and honest person. All I ask from other human beings is respect and honesty in any relationship we have - friends, lovers, colleagues! My gambian partner is a Muslim, he doesn't drink, he doesn't smoke, he doesn't gamble, he prays (not 5 times a day) but he does have sex before marriage :) I firmly believe fundamentalists of ALL religions are the problem - not people going about their every day life peacefully within their religion. 99% of all the worlds problems are caused by or fuelled by religion (don't ask me to prove my statistics).  (Aug 30, 2013 | post #9)

There are two sides to a story

At last the voice of reason lol  (Aug 27, 2013 | post #215)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

I wish you hadn't posted that video, I was trying to keep a low profile - now everyone knows what I look like! Red is certainly my colour lol  (Aug 26, 2013 | post #1800)

Hope or hopeless?

My sentiments exactly! I think a lot has to do with their family background. Some of my bf's family have travelled out and by gambian standards the family are doing well. They don't 'need' me to support them, of course some of the extended family have asked! Everyone assumes that I send money to him on a regular , I don't , he works! I'm like you, I think, a realist - I know the pitfalls and so far I've been able to avoid them! I think setting groun rules is very important from the start, we both know what the other expects from a relationship!  (Aug 21, 2013 | post #66)

Bumsters

Whoa there! I think TRJ meant she couldn't see what all the fuss was about in regard to him! That he was unattractive! Not a nice person!  (Aug 19, 2013 | post #10)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

I'd have to be crazy to be offended by someone using my forum nickname! In the UK it's cockney slang for wife! And when I call myself wife I intend to be as much trouble as possible lol  (Aug 19, 2013 | post #1637)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

I agree, my dad's name has seen me this far! I think I'm right in saying that many Gambian women do not use their husband's surname, but keep their maiden names. I find it funny that many 'convert' to make their husband happy but surely it's a BIG sin to pretend. I do not personally practice any religion, just try to live my life honestly and treating people fairly. Too much hurt is caused by all recognised religions!  (Aug 19, 2013 | post #1633)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

I guess everyone's outlook depends on different points of reference. I remember as a child (sorry to disappoint but I'm not a wrinkly ninrty yer old) watching the band aid/live aid circus. Me and many of my peers were made to feel guilty about our 'privileged' upbringing. And we were compelled to raise and send as much money as possible. 150 million was raised by Geldolf screaming 'send us your f..king money!' Nearly 30 years on, how much difference did it really make? Fat cats just got fatter! I continue to give but only directly, never through charities! I have spent some time volunteering and saw firsthand that giving time, sharing knowledge, talking to girls about education (including birth control) was more effective then throwing money at them!  (Aug 19, 2013 | post #1632)

All off topic chit chat thread (NO LEMONS LOL)

Yo Msunel, I hope you're not taking my name in vain lol!  (Aug 19, 2013 | post #1628)

The REAL DEAL ABOUT GAMBIAN MEN!!!

And deep fried mars bars!  (Aug 14, 2013 | post #260)

There are two sides to a story

There are actually three sides to every story - his side, her side and the TRUTH,  (Aug 13, 2013 | post #5)