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Evansville, IN

I'm black guy can't get any on bp

I see! If that's the case, Mevin, then the best form of action would be to either keep searching, or just find another outlet. You can't bash them for their preferences. It could be that they simply are not attracted to black men, or have some other reason. They aren't running a charity service. It's a business, and because of the nature of the business, they're allowed to make any rules about it that they would like. Unless they're receiving government funding, there's not much you can do about their rules. Don't complain about it. Just move on.  (Jul 29, 2014 | post #10)

Evansville, IN

I'm black guy can't get any on bp

Sorry, Melvin. Have you considered that it may not be your skin color, but other aspects instead? Have they specifically stated that it's because you are black? I'm not sure how female standards work in among women in the escort business, but it could be any number of things. By the way you type, it draws a person to assume one of the following: 1.) English is not your first language. 2.) You have a mental handicap. 3.) You are uneducated. Consider some of the things that tend to push women away: Lack of confidence, low self-esteem, being uninteresting, desperation, etc. Unless they've specifically said it's your race, I'd consider it could be just about anything. I find it unlikely that you've called a total of seven escorts, and all of them have been racist. And it's a little worrying that you haven't found a stable relationship, or at least a decent source of sex at your age. Either you have terrible luck, or there's something you've been radiating to women that's throwing them all off. Don't just patch it up, fix the problem at it's source.  (Jul 29, 2014 | post #8)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

Just throwing this out there: Bashing black men as a whole is not much different than what The Plain Truth is doing to white people. Racism is racism, no matter what your reason for doing it, what "facts," you claim to have, etc. Can someone really attack The Plain Truth for his racism, and in the same post talk about black men are lackluster? Not dating a particular race because you harbor negative stereotypes against them, or believe that they are less than another is STILL racism. There's a difference between having a preference and being racist. If you simply aren't attracted to a certain group for physical reasons, thats one thing.If you're a male and you aren't attracted to men, because penises don't get you hot, then whatever. Move on. But if you are a male and aren't attracted to men because men are hideous, lying dogs and are less than women, you're a sexist and you may be harboring some deeper issues than basic sexism. There's is no racial/gender group that is lesser than the one beside it. So if you are hating on black men, don't bother to bring your hypocrisy to the table when you call out The Plain Truth. Because the very moment you say that "Black men are all..." or "Black men portray themselves as...," you invalidate any followup argument against him. You are mirroring his ideals, but fighting them at the same time. There is NOTHING wrong with black men. If any black men are having issues, then consider it on an individual, family structure, or communal level. Not black men in general. Not most black men. Not half the black men. Just a few in comparison to the amount of black men each of us knows individually. And if you REALLY want to get the wheels rolling up there with some delicious food for thought, check into the work of Tim Wise. Tim has written plenty on how negative portrayal of black men in media has affected not just other races' views on black men, but has had some subconscious effect on black people as well. What you see on the news, in media, or in entertainment such as music or film, is NOT what "Black" is or what "Black" means by a long shot. Black men are under fire in media and in law, and there has been plenty of research done on the subject (not just by Tim Wise) to prove it. We hear all the time that the justice system is biased against minorities. We hear it in every place and from every direction. They aren't lying. Minorities (especially minority males) are misrepresented in media and just about every other aspect of society. So don't run off saying that "Black men are..." In all honestly, it is hard for anyone who is not a black man to understand his plight, his mentality, or why he is and does. Not dating black men doesn't mean you don't support them, in the same way that a black man dating a white woman does not mean he does not support, love, or respect black women. Your true test of character arises when someone asks "But what do you think of black men?" If you can't uplift, support, and promote black men, as a black woman, no matter what your personal preferences are, you may have some deeper racial hate or discrimination buried in there. To reiterate: I'm not saying that it's wrong to date white men (I do so myself), but don't throw dirt and salt onto black men because you do. That's just the crowning head of racist mentality, birthed just a bit from the subconscious (in the places you've ignored).  (Jul 28, 2014 | post #7033)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

He's not a thug. He's a noted troll. http://www.topix.c om/forum/afam/T7D9 5KV00IGPOAT96 So.... basically just ignore him.  (Jul 26, 2014 | post #6950)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

Anywho, just to clear things up, you are completely and entirely wrong in every way, shape, or form. I will not share myself with more than one man regardless of race. Also, don't presume to know what I will do, or calculate my actions. Feel free to calculate my speech. Feel free to make presumptions about my personality. Feel free to assume ridiculous things about my thought process and preferences. Such things don't matter to me. But I have made no assumptions nor direct comments about your physical being, your life, or anything outside this conversation. I have said nothing about your wife, nor children. I believe that they are beautiful and wonderful individuals. I have not said that you are ugly, that you beat up white people, that you sleep around, or that you are jobless. I have no doubt that outside of this forum, that you must be a wonderful person, and that what negative traits we have seen do not completely sum you up. Your actions and personal life are not in question here. Your beliefs and hateful/close-mind ed comments are in question here. Only the things you have said, do I make points about. As well as any ignorance which I've noticed. I have not interfered with your other conversations. I simply ask that you show me the same respect. Don't spread callus rumors about what I would do with myself, or make negative presumptions about who I am outside of this forum. if you've the need to comment, do so based off of what I say, what I imply, and the bits of information I give in between. I don't know what you're doing with the others, but you and I are not fighting. Or at least I don't see it that way. I honestly see this as a friendly debate, and would shake your hand and treat you with no ill will in the street. As long as we keep it strapped to what's being said here and now, we can debate this for as long as you'd like.  (Jul 24, 2014 | post #6915)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

Same, sweetheart, and I know it isn't easy. The opportunities are numerous, but sometimes you just want to wait for just the right person. I intend to wait till marriage. I've always been very loyal person. I've never cheated, nor even considered it. The thought of doing so sickens me to the core of my being.Thinking about it creates a little pit in my chest, similar to some temporary depression. And the thought of sharing my body with more than one man? Don't even get me started. >_> I know that this is off-topic, I just wanted to throw this in there. It's so rare to meet someone over the age of 13, who's still a virgin. I don't know any in my area, so it's quite interesting.  (Jul 24, 2014 | post #6897)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

I'm beginning to believe that the only self-hate here, is what's present in you. On a couple of occasions now, you've insinuated that being well-spoken or well-educated is a solely white trait. In that way, it sounds like you're trying to say that to be black you must be uneducated and speak ignorantly. And to do anything BUT that means that you want to be white. That's a pet peeve of mine. As a black man, you should be destroying that stereotype, not building on it. You should be further proof that education and class are not solely attributed to any particular race. But when you type, I keep imagining the racist, knee-slapping, uneducated crows from Disney's Dumbo. If you have such racial pride, uplift your race by being the best that you can be. Uplift your race by tearing down the stereotypes that have plagued us for generations. Get educated and act like you have a bit of sense. This isn't to be mean. It just upsets me when someone claims to have pride in a particular group, but is one of the tallies against it. For instance, any American who claims to be a patriot, then breeds hatred, as if that benefits other American citizens or this country as a whole. Or people who claim to activists for the humane treatment of animals, but then bomb research clinics and kill people. If that's the way that you believe that humans ought to be treated, then the killing of animals is as humane as it gets. Actions speak louder than words. So if you claim to have any pride in your race, then back it up with actions that prove that. Don't feed into stereotypes that we are hateful, uneducated, race-baiting, individuals that are incapable of using correct English. If you had any real pride in who we are, you would emit the aura of everything that a black man (or any man for that matter) should be. And so far, you have shown no positive qualities. So as far as I'm concerned, it seems more like subconscious self-hate in the guise of pride.  (Jul 24, 2014 | post #6894)

Sanford, FL

All us blacks should go back to Africa

I have plenty of real life experience with the good and bad of this species, as well as with every race. If you honestly don't believe that humanity has ALWAYS created an enemy, it's you that needs to do a bit more research. At just about every point in history, and in every area, there has always been a created enemy. From witches, demons, and Nazis to rebel forces during civil wars all around the globe. Gypsies, Jews, Muslims, and even certain denominations of Christianity at some point or another. When we are not at war with one another, we are at war with ourselves. Where you to place a people of all the same race, and religious beliefs onto an island, people of different hair colors/length or height would form rival groups and begin fighting. It's a noted fact about our species. I'm not necessarily saying that it's a bad thing. In fact, I find it quite interesting -- the lengths that we're willing to go through to feel like a community. Because nothing seems to band a group of people together like a common enemy. Few Americans are more patriotic than when we are at war. If you don't believe me, just take a look at the polls they take about patriotism around wartime and between wars. You'd be shocked. The creation of a common enemy is the shade by which humanity bands together. And if you drew a time line from one pariah to the next, you would rarely find a time gap between them. Not long after one hate became unpopular, another would take it's place. Sometimes, certain pariahs overlapped. Also, that liberal stuff is another example. Another "Us & Them". Our planet is littered with proof of my theory. Check it out sometime.  (Jul 24, 2014 | post #279)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

Dating outside your race is not against nature. In the end, we all originated in from the same place, we are all the same species, and we are all trapped on this planet. It is not in the nature of ANY race to hate. If you notice hate, it has something to do with the individual projecting it. NOT their entire race. To say that I hate myself because I have a particular preference is completely ignorant. NOTICE: I do not want to "breed the black out of me." That doesn't even make sense. I am black, and wouldn't change it for all the money in the world. I'm proud to be who I am. I am beautiful, intelligent, generous, and charming. Even if I WERE self-hating, the idea of "breeding out the black," wouldn't make any sense. It wouldn't affect me, just my children.... So... Maybe you can clarify the term. Anywho, for those of you just tuning in: No, I don't believe that I can change his mind. I'm foolish enough to believe that you can fix stupid. I just like a good debate now and then, and it's always interesting to hear the silliness that hatred breeds in the darkest pits of a person's mind. If anyone else is up for joining in on the fun, I welcome you to it. ;)  (Jul 23, 2014 | post #6851)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

Being proud of who you are is a good thing, but to be proud of who you are to the detriment of others that are of a different race? That IS racism. That's pretty much the definition of it. Thinking one race is any better than another. You go on to stereotype white people as being hateful of blacks. Not true. Like ANY and EVERY race, there are racist people in the group, but that doesn't spoil the bunch. For example, you are racist. If someone were to take one look at you and believe that all black people were equally racist and hateful, I'd call them out on that ridiculousness, too. A closed-mind is an empty one. It's one that can neither be fed new information, nor release out-dated opinions. You've had a bad experience with white people. And for that, I'm sorry, but it happens. You aren't the only one. I've had bad experience with racism from just about every race (including black people). It doesn't make me hateful because my mind is open, and I am well-educated enough to know that I do not, and cannot, even pretend to know every person on this planet, nor their opinions in regards to race. I know that the small percentage of people that I've had problems with are NOTHING in comparison to a heavily populated planet housing more than 7 billion people (all of which are completely unique). I'm well-educated enough to know that the civil rights activists who worked tirelessly to DESTROY hate, wouldn't approve of it being thrown in the other direction. You might like to think that I'm the one making the mistake, but if you took a moment to analyze it, its your ancestors that would be ashamed of you. Too many people died to fight racism for you to sit there and be just as hateful as the people they fought against.  (Jul 23, 2014 | post #6850)

African-American

Why do good looking black women like white men so much?

And why can't it just be a matter of preference? Like having a thing for men with dreads? Or an accent? Stop trying to put a negative, generalized label on something that is dependent upon individuals. I know white women who would never date a white man. I know black women who would never date a white man. I know females who are into chicks, males who are into guys, and one Latina who will only have choke-sex. The fact of the matter is, that we all have our own preferences whether we notice it or not. Racism is ignorance, and ignorance isn't attractive no matter who you are.There's nothing wrong with any race, or interracial dating. There is a difference between self-hate and being open-minded and courageous enough to admit what you want and who you want. Dating outside your race DOES NOT mean that you want to BE the race you've chosen to date. It means that rather than confining yourself to your own race to appease those around you, you've made the decision yo put your happiness first, to be with who you want to be with. I'm female, and if someone told me that it was self-hate as a female, to be straight. That someone being attracted to men meant that I hate myself as a woman, I would be a fucking idiot to pretend to be attracted to females just because of what the rest of the world thinks. I'm straight. I'm attracted to males. If they didn't like it, they could ride the "I Don't Give a F@%K Canoe" right to Hell. If you aren't interested in interracial dating, then so be it. That's your preference. Do you! No one's bashing you for it. The question is, why are you so angry when other people ARE interested in it?  (Jul 23, 2014 | post #6835)

Sanford, FL

All us blacks should go back to Africa

Every race on this planet has it's issues. As does every gender. Every group. Every person. In fact, I believe that you can find an equal number of problems in just about every group. We all view what a "problem " is quite differently. Whats categorized as an issue could differ based on race, upbringing, culture, community, level of education, etc. Humans in general seem to be hard wired in an "Us & Them" state of mind. As if the idea of not having a villain to this story, would be overwhelmingly outrageous. I say this in general. Not everyone is like that I'm sure. But has anyone noticed that there's ALWAYS a group we focus on, no matter what the situation? Name any point in history, and there's always been a villainous group, which we find numerous reasons to hate. Then, a few decades later, we list similar reasons to hate a different group, and so on and so forth.Often, previously despised groups join together with those who vilified them, just to vilify someone else! Just an interesting observation. If anyone else has noticed this, I'd be interested in hearing opinions on it. I love humanity. Even in all our flaws, we are a beautiful species with limitless potential. I used to want to study psychology, but soon realized that although debating on these forums and chatting with friends about these matters is educating, I sincerely doubt I could dedicate myself to to studying humanity in this way. The sheer stupidity of it would infuriate me to the point of insanity. So don't mistake my questions, curiosity, or possibly inflammatory statements as being anything more or less than what they are: A pure unadulterated desire to hear what you think.  (Jul 20, 2014 | post #277)

Sanford, FL

All us blacks should go back to Africa

The worst part is that I'm making sense, but it's not trying to be heard at all. Whether or not anyone considers themselves a racist, at least be dignified enough to present yourself as a stellar example of a human being. Be the best this world has to offer by keeping an open mind. That has nothing to do with your beliefs, but your whole mentality. Why on Earth would you WANT to be close-minded? That is NOT an attractive attribute in any human being. It's nothing to boast about. I'm not trying to change your mind with any of this. I simply enjoy a good debate. I am not angry, nor do I hate you in any way, shape, or form. All are welcome to join. Just try to keep an open mind, just as I have. I have admitted faults and pointed out positive traits in every group I've presented. I'm neither for nor against any race in particular, but adamantly against the idea that race should affect the way we treat one another as human beings. Still, I feel as though I'm conversating to the walls, rather than to the good-hearted, honest, bold people I know you all are. :\ I don't believe that racism defines you as a person, but that it's a simple result of the appropriate environment/point in time to nurture it. I've got quite a few friends and associates that consider themselves to be racist, so I KNOW that does not define who you are, nor explain such a close-minded approach to the subject or the current debate. If we're talking -- if we're REALLY talking -- at least be open-minded in your responses. I can hardly take someone seriously if they are too jaded to admit or even notice flaws in their own side of the argument. It's not a matter of proving you're right, but explaining to me why you think that you are, and allowing me to do the same. We then gather the information we receive from one another, and on our own terms and in our own time, choose whether or not to tailor our opinions based on new information. Not forced. Just fed. Does ANYONE understand what I'm getting at with that? :| Or am I in a hopeless situation here?  (Jul 20, 2014 | post #276)

Sanford, FL

All us blacks should go back to Africa

Every nation has it's issues, don't ever forget that. But America ISN'T just known for being racist against blacks, but against ALL minorities and legal/illegal foreign immigrants. It doesn't really seem to matter who you are for some strange reason. Also, take care to remember that while you call out the violence in Africa, remember that it's a small number of crime lords and that do these things. That's like taking a look at the KKK in the US, or even the group of racists here online and saying "All white people are racist." It's not true. In fact, I believe that a majority of racism is dying off with the previous generations (I'm 22). With each new generation, our country heals from decades of hate. I'd think that most people would be happy at the sight of such psychological development, but there will ALWAYS be people who can't stomach the idea of the future, so stay wrapped up in the past. A racist is somewhat similar to the people who bashed the invention of the television, because they thought it wouldn't last -- that radio would always reign supreme. It seems silly now, just as racists will seem ridiculous to the majority in a few generations. Also, it absolutely annoys me that people assume that black people and Middle Eastern natives have committed the most heinous and numerous crimes. Take a look into any history book. Ask any number of people from all around the world and ask them which racial group has committed the most evils all throughout human history. You might learn something. Just about every country or continent has it's own story on the matter. Always a different evil. Usually the same group. It's just fact. Nothing wrong with it. I don't believe that white people should be accused or vilified for the countless evils of their ancestors throughout the entirety of known history. It's just another interesting fact to present to those who insist upon vilifying others as if their own race had done no evils. As if they were the best thing since the beginning. "He who is without sin, cast the first stone." .... An interesting idea. We're ALL stuck on this planet, one way or another. The very LEAST we could do is try to get along with one another.  (Jul 20, 2014 | post #275)

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