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Morganton, NC

Why do people secretly text a married man?

I'm sorry... But do your husbands have NO responsibility here? No role to play? Are they allowing this to continue? If your home is wrecked, you can't just blame her. He is obviously not discouraging it. After all, it takes two to play. She's not the one that has promised you loyalty. It shouldn't be solely up to you to stop her. Why is your husband not telling her to back off?  (Dec 13, 2014 | post #10)

Morganton, NC

Is god dead?

I'm glad for you, that you are happy in your faith. That's wonderful. But your faith is just that - yours. It's not for everyone. You cannot expect everyone to share your beliefs and thoughts, because we don't share your experiences. Quoting the book that you base your faith on does nothing for those of us who don't believe in the divinity of that book. Just like reciting verses from the Qu'ran or L. Ron Hubbard would prove absolutely nothing to you. Of course I say to follow your own logic and reason, because I don't actually believe the there is any external divine presence to lean upon. If you do, and it helps you, or gives you clarity, that's great, but many of us simply don't see it that way. You can pray for me if it will make you feel better. You aren't the first, and you won't be the last. I've been down that road, which has led me to the one I'm on now. I'm secure in my worldview, as I imagine you are. I hope you realize that it's not one's beliefs that make a person "good" or bad", but one's behavior. Not all of us need the promise of reward or punishment to make good decisions and be good people. In the arena of morality, beliefs are largely irrelevant. Of course I can't speak for anyone but myself, I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule, but my disbelief in deities does not change who I am. When it comes down to it, we are probably more alike in our basic morals than we are different. If you are open to researching other belief systems, you will find that they all share the same basic principles, with a few discrepancies, which proves to me that morality is universal. Most of it is common sense, and deals with empathy, instead of doctrine. With that said, even people who believe in the same God and attend the same church services tend to differ in their opinions of what is acceptable, and what it all means, which just goes to show, that morality comes from within, not from a book or a belief. There's no way for anyone to possibly know that one path is more fulfilling than another. It's all very personal. It's not as simple as just choosing to believe. Faith is enough for some people, but not for others. Is there anything I could say to you that would make you abandon your deeply held beliefs and start believing in Zeus? No? So why would you assume that you could convince someone else to believe in your God with a few verses from the Bible, or a prayer? Especially if they've already explored that path and found it fruitless? It's not as if atheism is a decision one makes overnight. It's not really a decision at all, but a conclusion. It's not exactly easy to let go of a God belief that has been ingrained in us since childhood. It took a long time, and a lot of pondering, to come to the conclusion that I have. I have my reasons for not believing, just as you have yours.  (Nov 8, 2014 | post #6)

Morganton, NC

Is god dead?

OK seriously Topix! I typed my reply again and it didn't post either. What's up with that?! Glad I saved it this time. If there's some kind of lag and I end up posting multiples, I apologize.  (Nov 8, 2014 | post #5)

Morganton, NC

Is god dead?

I just typed out a reply and clicked submit, but apparently it got lost in the abyss. I'll come back to reply when I'm not frustrated with technology and have more time. Plus, I wanted to see if this reply would post.  (Nov 8, 2014 | post #4)

Morganton, NC

Name of old Mexican restaurant on Burkemont Ave.

eyeroll* Even if this was a legitimate concern, you do realize that Mexican restaraunts are not the only ones employing "illegals, " right? And even so, white people can also have these diseases. Better just stay home and cook your own food, packaged and processed by illegals, in warehouses teeming with E coli. Funny how some people can't answer a simple question about a restaraunt without letting their politics be known.  (Nov 7, 2014 | post #4)

Morganton, NC

Name of old Mexican restaurant on Burkemont Ave.

I think you mean Max's Mexican Eatery, and no, we don't have one anymore. El Portal is good though (in the new Walmart shopping center). It is Los Arcoiris, they just moved and changed the name. There's also Las Salsas, at exit 105 (also very good, maybe better than El Portal), and a newer one (I forget what its called) out by Kmart.  (Nov 6, 2014 | post #2)

Morganton, NC

Is god dead?

I think that most believers believe mainly because they were indoctrinated as children, and are scared to doubt because they are threatened with eternal hellfire. A lot of people go their whole lives never really questioning their beliefs. They cling to them because it's comforting and familiar, and have no real reason to deeply reevaluate their truths. I absolutely agree that children should be free to choose. I think its awful to tell a child that there is only one way to believe, and that if they don't, they'll be punished forever. I think its best to expose them to diversity, to let them know and see for themselves that there are countless beliefs, and that no one can possibly know the truth about anything of "divine" nature. We all must find our own way. There's a wonderful quote I read that I can't remember verbatim, but its something like, "Follow the man who seeks the truth, never the man who claims to have found it." Not to say we should blindly follow any man, but if a man claims to have found the only truth, you can be sure that he has not, because he has closed his mind at that point. Follow your own logic and reason. Why should we accept something on faith if it flies in the face of logic?  (Nov 3, 2014 | post #2)

Morganton, NC

Why do people secretly text a married man?

She is wrong for doing this, of course. Maybe you should confront her. Have you asked her to stop? Has your husband asked her to stop? If not, then why would she stop if your husband allows it to happen? Obviously, the simple fact that he is married is not enough to keep her from acting that way, so maybe she needs to be told that she's crossed a line. Be proactive, or continue to put up with it. Your choice. In the end, it comes down to whether or not you fully trust your husband. If he entertains her flirting, or ends up cheating on you, that is on him, not her. He made the vows to be faithful, not her. Men are not powerless creatures that must succumb to any advances made toward them, although that's what so many people seem to believe.  (Oct 23, 2014 | post #3)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

slow clap* Bravo, good sir.  (Oct 23, 2014 | post #394)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

There is so much wrong with your statements I donít know where to start." Yeah, I know the feeling. Likewise.  (Oct 14, 2014 | post #303)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

They can go to a church if they so please, if the church will have them. Some will, some won't. There are many churches who are more than accepting of homosexual couples, because "God is love," and all that. I know this may come as a shock to you, but there are plenty of open minded people out there, as well as plenty of deeply religious homosexuals. If you run a church, by all means, post a sign on the door to let people know that you won't be marrying gays, but that's about where your control over the situation ends. Churches still have every right to deny any couple for whatever reason. No one is forcing churches to go against their "values. " You know why? Separation of church and state. Which is exactly why Churches have no right to dictate marriage laws. Works both ways. Isn't it grand? Why do you think a homosexual couple would want to get married in a facility that would only have them if they were forced to? Would you want to get married in a church that didn't welcome you? I'm sure homosexual couples that have been fighting for the right to get married are just thrilled that they finally can, and will find a place to do so that will accommodate them.  (Oct 14, 2014 | post #302)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

Seriously? Marriage is a legal contract. Two consenting adults can enter into a legal contract. An animal, a child, or an inanimate object can't, obviously. Your argument is invalid..  (Oct 14, 2014 | post #296)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

fist bump* I try. ;)  (Oct 13, 2014 | post #280)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

Yes, by all means, leave him a nasty Facebook comment. Keep doing the Lord's work! /sarcasm And he can overturn it because the rights of others are not something you get to vote for. Hence, "unconstituti onal." Can you elaborate on how gay marriage affects you? Why fight it?  (Oct 13, 2014 | post #279)

Morganton, NC

Gay marriage is on its way, folks.

A sin is a sin is a sin, right? How about you let others seek their own salvation, and you seek your own. Why so much focus on homosexuals if we all sin, and one sin is no better or worse than another? There are as many interpretations and beliefs as there are people on this planet. Yours really doesn't hold any more water than someone else's. Which is why it's a ginormous waste of time trying to "set others straight," or change who they are and how they live their lives. Not everyone wants or feels the need to be saved. That's all very personal. Threats of judgement and promises of eternity mean absolutely nothing to a lot of us. When it comes to marriage, it is a legal issue, not a moral or religious one. If we're going to stick to the religious definition of marriage, then we need to remove government involvement from it altogether. But as it stands, marriage is a legal institution, therefore religion is irrelevant. If we're going to forbid gays from getting married because "God," than we also need to forbid anyone who's not Christian. But, that's ridiculous right? Right. If religion should dictate marriages and laws, what about divorce? Why is gay marriage a bigger issue? "I'm sorry that gay marriage is destroying the sanctity of your fourth marriage." I apologize if this doesn't fully pertain to the conversation you and whoever else were having. I didn't read all the comments. I just saw yours and got carried away. But there, there's my $0.02.  (Oct 13, 2014 | post #272)

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