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Western NY baby dies after mom leaves him in car all day -

Thank you. As one of the people who has posted harshly in this forum, I deeply appreciate that you hope no harm comes to my son and that I can learn from your words rather than by being shown exactly what it'slike tobe in this woman's shoes.  (Aug 4, 2007 | post #26)

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LIRR sued for affects of second-hand smoke

Thank you. If it weren't for my 3-year-old son, I don't know what would have happened to me. Best to you.  (Aug 4, 2007 | post #127)

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Man, 77, killed in car crash in Bay Shore

WHo are you talking about? Are you talking about sully or bayshore woman. Sully made a ridiculous comment, and bayshore woman defended the man. But you addressed bayshore woman, which confused me. Bayshore woman does not think the accident is the gentleman's fault. I see bayshore woman did agree with sully about "old" people and driving. If THAT's what you're talking about, yeah, she shouldn't generalize. But I think she was just saying in a kind of short hand that she agreed that age and driving is an issue, which it IS. Most accidents are cased by people under 24 and over 75. I think there should be more frequent and strict testing before issuing or amintaining a license in these age groups. I know I will be old sooner than later. The car accident I was in, as a passenger, aged me 10 years probably. But I don’t drive anyway. Why? Because I’m a bad driver. Bad drivers, any age, should not be on the road. It just so happens that most bad drivers are either rather young or rather old.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #12)

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Hate-crime arrests in Quran desecrations at Pace University

I appreciate your reply. I have to catch a train and I have a bust weekend, but I want to actually look at the video and answer you with some thought. Please forgive if it takes a little while. I didn't want you to think I was ignoring you since you were good enough to answer me.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #631)

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Western NY baby dies after mom leaves him in car all day -

I do appreciate your attitude. I am actually working on suspending judgement, but it's HARD! My only motivation is that I don't want the universe to teach me the lesson by having my child harmed through my being careless. It's just, as a parent, so difficult for me to imagine how this could have happened. I always know where my son is, and when he is with me, I am constantly aware of him. Is he awake, is he thirsty, is he wet, is he breathing, why is he crying, why is he not crying? Anyway, I'm glad you're there. Maybe I'll get there.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #15)

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Western NY baby dies after mom leaves him in car all day -

I'm with you. I always know where my son is. Especially when he was a baby (he's almost 3 now) I knew where he was every second and I called to check on him at least once a day. My husband was a SAHD for the first year, then we got a nanny and now he goes to day care. I didn't even like leaving him with my husband (who is safe and responsible). I thought about him constantly, then with the nanny, I called, I did pop-ins. I just don't understand, even suffering from severe sleep deprevation, how you could forget to drop your child off and leave him in the freaking car! I don't know how this woman will ever get over this. I guess I should say "There but for the grace of Gad go I." I would hate to have to learn empathy in a harsher way. NOW I have to call and check on my baby!  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #14)

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Western NY baby dies after mom leaves him in car all day -

"Brayden was the 19th child to die in a hot car this summer in the U.S. and the first in New York state, Null said. The number of such deaths has risen dramatically since the mid-1990s, totaling around 340 in the past 10 years. Experts said the increase coincides with the practice of putting children in the back seat, where they are more easily forgotten." WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??!!?? How do you FORGET that your baby is in the back seat? And others leave them on purpose because they don't want to bring them into the store or don't have day care while they work. How can people not KNOW the danger? Poor babies. They depend on us for everything and we are a nation of IDIOTS! It's beyond sad.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #13)

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Man, 77, killed in car crash in Bay Shore

I'm confused. I don't think she was blaming the old man. And what does ethnicity have to do with it? However, drivign is not a right. It has to be earned by properly demonstrating that you are fit to drive.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #10)

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Hate-crime arrests in Quran desecrations at Pace University

You know, we're either going to find common ground and learn to work together, or we're going to kill each other, or we're going to spend so much energy fighting with each other that our enemies will just come pick us off and we won't know what hit us. I am a liberal. Personally, I think that a hate crime has to be perpetrated against an individual or group of individuals. Otherwise it is freedom of expression if the act is done with your own property or vandalism if it is done with someone else's property. That’s probably not TOO far from what you believe. But why would I be compelled to join the conversation in your support when you start right off blaming me and calling me vermin? The actual difference between most liberals and most conservatives is just a different perspective on a few matters of policy. Overwhelmingly, I think both groups love our country and value the Constitution. However, intense partisanship fueled by what essentially amounts to an elite ruling class has us hating each other, has us virtually at war. If we could stay focused on issues, as opposed to positions, we could move beyond this and force our public servants to actually get some work done because we are paying attention to something besides how much we hate each other. I’m ALMOST ready to stop hating you. Do you think you could take a tiny step in my direction and not use every single issue you come across as a springboard for an attack against me and people who share by basic policy vision?  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #627)

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Man, 77, killed in car crash in Bay Shore

I think it's too easy to get a driver's license and too hard to lose your license. Teenagers especially think that once they are 16, it is their right to drive. They get pushed through this rite of passage in such a routine manner. And people in general aren’t thinking in terms of life and death when they get behind the wheel. People roll through stop signs, accelerate through yellow lights, don’t use turn signals, pass on the right, and exhibit all kinds of reckless driving behaviors and think there will never be any consequences. Some Car Accident Stats: On an average, there are more than 6 million car accidents on the roads of the US, annually. Every 12 minutes, one person dies because of a car accident. Every 14 seconds, a car accident results in an injured victim. For those in the age group of 1 to 30 years, the leading cause of death is due to being involved in a car accident. People, who are between 15 to 24 years, and those who are above 75 years of age, are the people who are most severely affected by car accidents. About 40% of car accident fatalities occur because of a drunken driver. About 30% of the car accident fatalities can be attributed to driving above the speed limits and 33% and above because of reckless driving that causes the car to go off the road and result in an accident. Personally, I lost my baby, broke my back, pelvis, ankle and ribs when a teenage driver ran a red light and drove directly into my seat. She was not even ticketed. Insurance paid my medical expenses. I did not sue the family because I did not want to take their personal money, force them into bankruptcy and make them all pay for her mistake. But I think more should have happened to her. I don’t think she truly understands what she did and that she was responsible. As a society, we treat car accidents as if they are just bad luck and are reluctant to hold people accountable. Even the language we use: car “accident” implies that we assume a lack of fault or negligence, when in most cases, someone was clearly negligent. I just wonder, what can reasonably be done to reduce these kinds of incidents.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #8)

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LIRR sued for affects of second-hand smoke

I never thought that you or your family smoked or did anything but the best for your family. That's not what I meant. Obviously, you're an educated family who did all the right things and still suffered a horrible tragedy. If you were not dismissing smoker as a factor in your reply to the other poster, I misunderstood, and I'm glad you were not. I lost a baby in a car accident. It was the other driver's fault. We did everything right. I can relate.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #124)

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Mom charged in court after tot left to wander -

They STILL don't say where the other 3-year-old's parents were!  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #2)

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LIRR sued for affects of second-hand smoke

I didn't say you were stupid and I didn't say that smoking caused SIDS. I said that smoking has been shown to reduce the risk of SIDS. I saw that you were upset with the other poster who said that smoking causes SIDS. My attempt was to mediate between her misrepresentation and you emotions, because there is something valuable in each of your perspectives that should be preserved. The poster who said that SIDS is caused by smoking is wrong to say that, because, as you are well aware, we don't know the cause. But there is value in the suggestion that parents may want to prctice some risk managment by avoiding known risk factors, such as smoking. While it's true that SIDS has claimed babies in non-smoking homes, babies who were put to sleep on their backs, with no pillows or blankets, parents can still reduce risk by managing known risk factors, of which smoking IS one. Here's a great link on this: http://sids-networ k.org/experts/smok ing.htm Your post is valuable because it shows a deeper understanding of SIDS, but personally I felt it was unreasonable to dismiss smoking as a risk factor. I didn't mean to make you defensive.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #122)

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GOP's Ron Paul Has Unusual Appeal -

I like Ron Paul. I'd be thrilled if he won the Republican Primaries. I am a Liberal Progressive, but I don't hate the GOP, I hate what the GOP is becoming. I'd love to see a smart, honest, principled public servant like Ron Paul take back his party. In my dream world, the race would be between Ron Paul and Dennis Kucinich.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #3)

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LIRR sued for affects of second-hand smoke

While it is misleading to say that smoking causes SIDS, it has been shown to be one of many factors that can increase the risk of SIDS. I'm very sorry for your loss, and I understand it was not smoking related, but in other cases, smoking has been a factor. Not smoking around a baby will reduce, not eliminate, their risk. I'm sure you would want that for other moms and sisters out there. My heart goes out to you and your family.  (Aug 3, 2007 | post #119)

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