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Mar 28, 2008

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North Lake Tahoe recreation update

Kinda pricey but I guess if you have 10 people splitting the cost it won't be so bad.  (Sep 24, 2008 | post #2)

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Why Do Young Women "Hook Up" With Guys?

I am curious to find out what is behind this disturbing trend where teen girls and young women in their 20s meet some dude wherever, then "hook up" (aka have sex with him) sometimes within just a few hours of meeting? Don't girls expect more from men anymore? Don't they want more for themselves? Is this all that relationships have become for young people?  (Sep 24, 2008 | post #1)


What's Up With This HOOKING UP Thing?

I am curious to find out what is behind the trend for teen girls to meet some dude then "hook up" aka have sex with him? Don't girls expect more from men anymore? Don't they want more for themselves?  (Sep 24, 2008 | post #1)


Does Anyone here Write...?

I am an advice columnist and write lots of articles on dating and relationships, with a focus on Black love. I've also written a book entitled "Sucka Free Love: How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional & The Deranged!' at suckafreelove dot com. I'm working on getting some of my wonderful thoughts published in magazines so that people that don't know about my website can still benefit from my background and expertise. If anyone has ideas for topics they'd like me to address, please let me know! Visit me on AskHeartBeat  (Sep 23, 2008 | post #72)

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How Shutting Your Big Mouth Can Improve Your Relationship

Women can't stand empty silences and will often fill the quiet with tidbits of information about their past, laying them out like an offering to the Gods. Why clog a man's brain with information that will do nothing but make him jealous, cause him to question your past, or make him feel insecure about a future with you? Really, it would be best if women learned to shut up sometimes! Woman complain frequently about male/female communication. "Men don't communicate" these ladies say in frustration. Women complain that men give one-word answers, don't elaborate and tell the entire story in a play by play fashion, and that it feelings like "pulling teeth" to get information out of them. Women operate on a different dynamic and love to share their feelings, experiences and thoughts with others. I think this female style of communication is a way that bonds us and brings us closer to others. Which means this communication style is fine with other women when we get together and talk about family and work. But it is absolutely positively the wrong way to communicate with your romantic partner when it comes to the sexual pleasures you've enjoyed before he came on the scene! "She possesses an air of mystery." Sadly, that trait is one many women have completely abandoned. In their quest to "be honest" women feel it necessary need to tell their man every thought that passes through their head, and every single thing they've ever done in this life and those previous. In other words, women blab and share wayyyy too much information. Guys avoid those types of disclosure like the plague. Their thinking is if you haven't asked a specific question, it isn't important enough to bring up, and it's probably not in their best interest to do so. Your past, with all your mistakes, challenges, and experiences together created the fascinating creature that he has fallen in love with. Your past should be something you keep to yourself and reflect on in old age with a enigmatic smile. It should be remembered and respected, but never trotted out for critical review and comment by every guy you date! Ms. HeartBeat www.askheartbeat.c om  (Mar 28, 2008 | post #1)

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