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What is considered skinny, thick and fat?

Generally I consider skinny to be someone with very little body fat or muscle mass. I consider myself to be skinny--I am 5feet 4 inches tall and weigh 101 pounds. Fast metabolisms run in my family and if I don't make an effort to make sure I eat enough, I will drop under 100 lbs and REALLY look scary skinny. I would love to look curvy/thick. A curvy woman would be one whose chest measurement and hip measurement are about the same, with a waist about 8-10" smaller than the hip measurement. Mostly flat stomach, some thickness to the thighs/legs, and some azz to go with it, LOL. Usually referred to as the 'hourglass figure'. A thick woman would have essentially the same proportions, just on a larger scale and perhaps with a more solid/heavier build. She might carry around some extra weight but it won't look sloppy and is mostly on the thighs, butt, hips, breasts. Fat--to me--would be someone who is obese (80+ lbs overweight) and generally carries the extra weight in their stomach. At any rate, I don't personally judge women on their body types since sometimes there is not a lot one can do about being too thin or being too fat. There are as many preferences among prospective partners for body types as there are body types, so it is all okay.  (Jan 28, 2015 | post #187)


20 Things You May Not Know About Africa But Really Should

Thank you for a very interesting thread and the great information! I knew a couple of them, but you have really done some research :)  (Jan 28, 2015 | post #6)


Peanut allergy treatment success by Melbourne researchers...

I really hope that they can expand the success of this treatment and bring it worldwide. Ditto for soy allergies, wheat allergies, seafood/fish allergies, other nut allergies and rye allergies. Every school my daughter has been to has been nut-free and this has made it a challenge for lunch as one of her all-time favorite lunches is peanut butter. My current workplace has several individuals who are seriously allergic to soy, wheat, various nuts, and fish. I am semi-vegetarian so eat a lot of soy, love wheat bread, and am positively crazy about any kind of nuts. The only kind of meat that I DO eat once in a great while is fish...LOL. I generally just bring in something safe to eat such as fruits (but no blueberries/they are allergic) or vegetables. A treatment for serious food allergies would make it easier for both the people who must live with having these allergies as well as us without the allergies...  (Jan 27, 2015 | post #1)

Jonesboro, AR

Unions? Good or bad??

I used to be a union member when I was an hourly employee in a factory as a machinist. I am now a member of management and of course am no longer a union employee. I come from a heavily unionized area of the country so will hopefully be able to give some insight into this. Under the NLRA (National Labor Relations Act) employees engaging in organization activity is protected by law. An employer cannot make threats, promises, or fire employees in retaliation for their support of a unionized workplace. Employees typically initiate forming a union by contacting a union representing their industry via the union's website or phone number. If the employees are not sure which union to contact, the AFL-CIO is contacted. A local union organizer then will get into contact with the employees and pretty much walk them through the process of setting up union meetings, passing out union ballots, etc. 30% of eligible employees in the company must vote 'yes' for the union for the workforce to become unionized. An employer might conduct a union awareness/avoidanc e campaign at this time. The company might discuss the cost of union dues, how pay rates may not increase, and that benefits may/may not change. The company is not allowed to: spy on union meetings, ask employees who supports/does not support unionization, make promises/threats to employees, interrogate employees, fire employees for participation in union organizing activities. Employees who feel that any of these have occurred put in a complaint with the NLRB (National Labor Relations Board). After a union is voted in, the company is generally given 30 days to negotiate a contract with the new union. Employees elect their union representatives, who generally serve for the length of the contract (varies, depending on the union--usually 2-4 years). Working conditions, job bidding, and economic terms are discussed. The biggest issues often arise over the economics as I called them. Pay rates and benefits costs are often the main areas of contention, and so are cost-of-living raises over the life of the contract. It is pretty unusual for unions to go on strike, and the relationship with company and union tends to be more collaborative now than in the old school days of the 70's. It is true that pay can change or stay the same, and is true that the company is only going to bargain what they are able. I have worked in both union/non-union shops. Generally, employees are better paid in union shops and have better benefits/lower cost per pay period. Dues also vary by union, but it is generally going to be equivalent to 2 hours of your pay and is taken out monthly. Employees in union shops say they like the consistency of how the rules are enforced and say there is less favortism. Employees in non-union shops say they like the merit raises which are not of a fixed amount (like the cost-of-living raises) in the union shops. Just be prepared for the leadership of the company to be less than thrilled about the union organizing. There are some less than ethical companies who will try and find a reason to let employees go during a union campaign who they think are the ringleaders of the organizing. It is pretty much up to each person to decide, but I would recommend that you go ahead and do some research and don't be afraid to ask the union organizer questions. That is what she/he does and they are used to it. Either way you go, good luck.  (Jan 27, 2015 | post #5)


Name something POSITIVE about black people.

1) The human race--our species originated in Africa and the first civilizations developed in Africa. In a sense, we are all African if you trace our ancestry back far enough. 2) Great music: Rock and roll, jazz, the blues... 3) Overcoming adversity-blacks managed to survive horrible conditions in slavery, and continue to show resilience when faced with racism. 4) Inventors and pioneers: Alexa Canady-first black female neurosurgeon who created a treatment for excess fluid on the brain, Otis Boykin-greatly improved the electrical resistor to make it practical, Hiram Revels-first black MS senator 5) Arts/Literature: Alice Walker, Maya Angelou, Toni Morrison, James Ellison--to name a few.  (Jan 27, 2015 | post #382)

Jackson, TN

Wbbj mugshots 90-95% blacks

I've worked in the criminal justice field, and the 'justice' part is a serious misnomer at least for non-white individuals. (No, I'm not black) People of all races commit crimes, it's very much an equal opportunity issue. Believe me, blacks are not the only ones out there getting in legal trouble. The issue is that blacks are more likely to be arrested for the crimes they commit. Many of the blacks you see in prisons are from poor families so they didn't have the money for a good got stuck with the court-appointed attorney. Okay, when a family/defendant in a criminal case PAYS an attorney well to defend a person accused of a crime, that person has a better chance of ending up with a lighter punishment such as some probation or maybe probation/restrict ions such as 'house arrest'. Court appointed attorneys are poorly paid, very often overloaded with cases...and generally not given much time to prepare for the defense of the individual they are assigned to. All of these factors generally spell a worse outcome for the individual, even if this is his/her first time in trouble with the law. Most prison populations are 60-70% black. I'm not sure of the actual statistic, but I believe that blacks are a little under 15% of the overall US population. Hispanics and Native Americans are also incarcerated at a rate much higher than their actual population percentages. Whites are (if I remember right) right around 65% of the overall US population but generally 20-25% of most prison population. These numbers can vary a bit depending on geography, but blacks are pretty much always the majority in a prison population. The criminal justice system is pretty much a reflection of society. We are still racist in a lot of ways. We still hold the stereotype that young black males are criminally inclined, and I have heard a lot of stories from black friends about being hassled by law enforcement for WWB 'walking while black' and 'DWB' driving while black. I lived in diverse cities my entire career, but did not see a black executive manager until I was 42 years old. I have yet to see a black woman who is in the top ranks of leadership. Back in the late 1990's when I hired a black woman as trainee for a leadership role, I was given a lot of grief for it until the rest of the leadership team saw that she was very talented. Don't try to tell me that it is only blacks that commit crimes and it must be something inherently criminal within blacks to engage in criminal behavior. Look at the facts and try to understand the larger issue before you judge people. Thank you.  (Jan 27, 2015 | post #123)

Corinth, MS


Yes, I have known people who are in the situation that you are in. Being married to a control freak is not a healthy relationship, and definitely can diminish the feelings that you originally had for the person initially for the person. The first thing to try (if you are comfortable with it) would be to try speaking with your spouse about his/her controlling behavior and how it makes you uncomfortable. Give specific examples. If you do not want to continue this relationship with him/her, then start making a plan to leave him/her and focus on the practical aspects of it. Plan for finances--look for somewhere to live, see if you have friends/family you can stay with temporarily if you don't have an income of your own right now. Research divorce attorneys and costs--it generally costs less if there aren't any children involved. Be prepared for him/her to contest the divorce and try to have a strong, supportive friend or family member who can serve as a confidante and helper during this process. I personally could not stay in a marriage where I did not love the person AND he was a control freak. My marriage has somewhat drifted apart over the past 3-4 years, but we still love/care about each other--in a friendship kind of way...and nobody is trying to control the other. I didn't do too badly...the first 19 years of the marriage were fantastic. That is a lot more than most people get to have and we had very few arguments and no issues with abuse, etc. I cannot tell you what to do in this situation, but you might want to talk with support groups in your area or counselors.  (Sep 11, 2014 | post #15)

Honolulu, HI

Why are Hawaii people so stupid? is impossible to make assumptions about any group of people no matter where one goes. I have lived in many different US states and traveled to several countries and have met people who have impressed me and others--well, not so much. I personally also am not offended by jokes about my ethnicity either. I have always found the racial and ethnic diversity of Hawaii interesting, and don't find the English Creoles sometimes spoken there to be a substandard form of English. There are many different forms/dialects of English and who is to say which one is correct? Glad to hear that you have a good attitude about all of this.  (Sep 11, 2014 | post #714)


Woman Dozes Off, Tanning Bed Timer Fails

I feel so bad for this lady...this burn has to hurt! Never get into a tanning bed, period. Stay out of the sun...both are just horrible for your skin. People guess my age as 10-15 years younger than my actual age--probably because I stayed out of the sun and use a sunblock when I am outdoors. The sun is NOT your friend, especially if you are fair-skinned...jus t sayin'  (Jul 20, 2014 | post #8)

Obstetrics and Gynecology

Male ob/gyns are perfectly fine

An OB/GYN saved my life 2 weeks after I had my daughter and suffered a massive hemorrhage. The ER doctors on duty did not know how to due the specific procedure I needed to stop the bleeding, and if the OB/GYN had not arrived quickly that night, I would not be here now. I ended up needing 3 pints of blood transfused, and I am not a large person. The hospital actually called my husband shortly before the OB/GYN arrived and told him to get down there because I was not going to make I am definitely one person an OB/GYN has saved.  (Jun 7, 2014 | post #34)

Employment / Labor Law

Is Age Discrimination the Root Cause of Long-Term Unemplo...

There are a lot of reasons for long-term unemployment, but yes I do think that age discrimination is a factor. In fact, I know from personal experience as an HR professional who has worked with some unenlightened hiring managers that ageism is most definitely an issue in the workplace--particu larly with hiring and promotional opportunities. I have had some hiring managers who have been more subtle and express worries to me that they want to hire the person who will be in the job 'longer term' since they have the assumption that the candidate who is over 50 is thinking of retiring at 55. I've also had managers assume that candidates over 40/50/60...etc. are technologically impaired, take more sick time, are less physically fit, and so on than their younger peers. I have even had a few hiring managers who came right out and stated that they thought a candidate was 'too old'. I take the time to correct the hiring managers' assumptions about workers who are over 40...but some HR managers kowtow to the pressure. I am 44 myself and am in great shape! I'm also looking for a new job and yeah, it is taking a loooong time--so far it has been about 8 months. I don't discriminate in any other ways when I hire, but do have a preference for older workers. I have found that older workers tend to miss less time (contrary to popular belief), tend to be more open to learning new skills (again, contrary to popular belief), and have more experience so are generally able to 'hit the ground running' after learning company-specific processes. At a prior company, I took on a role where the whole department was a mess and they wanted me to take on a college recruit to help me clean it up. Instead, I saw the scope of the mess and hired an older worker (age 56) to work with me more as an equal to get the department functional again. I caught all kinds of resistance on this, particularly with the salary I was going to pay him and the idea of an older worker who would more or less be an equal. This guy really helped save the department, because his expertise in HR was 25 years compared to my 5 years at the time. After the company finally saw what he had done and overcome their resistance, they happily promoted him to my role upon my recommendation after I moved on. I really wish more companies would see the value of older workers. This company would not have if I hadn't pressed the issue of bringing in an older worker and if they had not actually seen him in action.  (May 19, 2014 | post #32)

Utica, NY

Saltwater aquariums

They are actually easier to have now then they were when I was a kid in the 1980's and had one! The initial cost in setting one up is a bit higher than a freshwater aquarium, though you probably already knew this. The filtration options are much better now than the old-school options I used to have like the undergravel filter and the standard filter that hung on the back of the tank. A fish-only tank is probably the easiest set-up to have, and my easiest set-up was a tank with damselfish (hardy) and live rock. Triggerfish are also hardy, but are aggressive and generally do not do well with tankmates and will eat any invertebrates! Reef tanks are pretty popular, too and some species of sea anemone and corals are relatively hardy, at least for their type. They are interesting when they are kept with clownfish and some invertebrates like shrimp and such. I would recommend getting some books on the topic of saltwater tanks, visiting websites, and finding a good aquarium store with people working there who know what they are talking about. It has been literally YEARS since I left Utica so I don't know offhand if one exists there.  (May 7, 2014 | post #5)

Arnold, MO

a few fox bus drivers forcing union

I can see both sides of the issue because I spent some years as a union member (UAW), a couple of years as a union steward--and now I work in HR and am the company representative that bargains with the union so I have done a 180 turn. I personally think that people need to decide for themselves if they want the union in or not. Unionized employees generally earn higher wages and have better benefits based on my experience in various companies, and there is more consistency with the disciplinary process. In non-union companies, you do see merit-based pay raises (sometimes), more employee engagement programs, and do not have to pay union dues. Union dues vary by the union, though I paid 2 hours of my hourly rate per month when I was a union member. The unions now generally do not have the adversarial relations with management that were common in the earlier decades. I mean, I have gone into places where the prior management had been negative to the union and there was some negativity from the union at first but really, the union and company have quite a few common goals--they both want the company to be competitive and stay in business. From my time in HR, I have not had an issue working with a union, even with the stronger unions. The vast majority of unions do not want a strike, either. Strike pay is virtually NOTHING, and employees on strike do not qualify for unemployment benefits in the states I have worked in. Every contract I have bargained has a no-strike/no-locko ut clause, meaning the local union will not go on an unauthorized strike and the company will not do an unauthorized lockout of unionized members. As far as employees who support unions, there are good employees who support unions and yea, there are a small percentage who support them that are lazy. The majority of union employees are just like employees in non-union workplaces--they want to come in and do a good job. I encourage anyone whose workplace is thinking of unionizing to look at both sides of the issue before making a decision and be informed.  (May 7, 2014 | post #12)

Cherokee, NC

Gay Marriage - Cherokee, NC

Great post :) Actually, there is an entire book on same sex activities in the animal kingdom written by Bruce Bagemihl entitled Biological Exuberance. I used it as one source several years back for an argumentative essay on the position that sexual orientation is not chosen.  (Mar 14, 2014 | post #37)

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