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Is whooping your child on the same level as domestic abuse?

Do you think maybe its a different thing for girls? Would you do the same thing your mom/dad did to you to your own daughter? And another thing I hate, is when a man whoops his daughter...It just don't seem right. I got whooped and I turned out good,(for the most part),but I realize that like many people that got whooped, there was no communication involved with the parents. It was just fear and then fear eventually turns to some type of violence (the kid hits/fights back/rebels). Not only that,but the things I got whooped for, I would just find a way to do them without getting caught. Its like parents are just getting their own personal frustrations out on their child by beating him/her and yelling. There are a few of us who got whooped and turned out ok,but for some reason I believe there are way more who didn't. I bet if a study was done and we asked the drug dealers,baby momas,baby daddies,school dropouts,crackhead s,morbally obese,whores/prost itutes,of our community how many of them got whooped growing up, I bet over 60% of them would say they did and quite often. Just like that prison study was done. Its part of the slave mentality too thats been past down. The masters beat us with whips to get us to obey and to vent their frustration and then black folks beat their children for the same reason. And we can't blame whites for what we do to our children/community over a century after slavery. I can't even hit a puppy,so I don't see how anyone can beat/whoop their child... which brings up another subject I won't discuss on Topix dealing with self-image and whooping your child.  (Oct 21, 2009 | post #16)

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Is whooping your child on the same level as domestic abuse?

Yeah,whoopings are punching,kicking,using objects. Thats (what I think) most black kids get,not spankings. And on top of that the parent doing it is screaming at you.  (Oct 21, 2009 | post #12)

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Is whooping your child on the same level as domestic abuse?

Wow...Im glad your breaking the cycle though. Thats why I think its on the same lines as domestic abuse. Using your hand and objects to force someone to obey you or because they did something wrong. And Im talking about stuff kids normally do,like you said,not eating certain foods. I remember when parents threatened to whoop me because I didn't want to eat some d*mn pork chitlings and I was around 4 years old!! Can you believe that country sh*t! My uncle saved me though because he sneaked in and ate them for me. My parents were young parents too,so maybe this is something that usually happens among young parents,which is also a problem in the black community. And I didn't even get the "worse" whoopings. I can remember talking with friends,cousins,cl assmates,etc. and they would talk about getting hit numerous times with objects such as wooden spoons(like the poster up top),wood boards,electric cords,broomsticks, fly swatter handles,wood sticks(not switches),and even with their parent's fists and kicking,etc all up to they were age 18 and left the house...I don't think I ever got whooped with any except a belt, and I had issues with anger management issues,so imagine them. Many of them have mental issues, or whoop their kids, or simply not on the right path (jail,oow kids,quit school,etc). My mom and dad were whooped growing up and for a long time they fought each other and he would beat her.  (Oct 21, 2009 | post #10)

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Is whooping your child on the same level as domestic abuse?

Getting hit with a switch or wooden spoon is not a spanking,but more on the lines of whooping/beating. As far as I know,there aren't any studies done on whoopings and domestic violence,but I do remember hearing that most of the men in prison got whooped when they were young (somn like that). I do think it depends on the person and like you, Im not falling into "the trap",but thats us,what about the others who fall into the trap? Why did you decide to not whoop your kids,even though your parents did it to you? You must have realized somn wasn't right about that.  (Oct 21, 2009 | post #9)

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One child dead, another critically injured in house fire

Sad...More than likely, the mother will be prosecuted and sent to prison for a little while....Happened down here a couple a years ago. http://www.al.com/ news/birminghamnew s/index.ssf?/base/ news/1210839384200 70.xml&coll=2  (Oct 20, 2009 | post #2)

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Why Are 1 Of 8 Girls Pregnant At Robeson High?

Yeah ok  (Oct 20, 2009 | post #7)

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Is whooping your child on the same level as domestic abuse?

Just my opinion... Whooping, not spanking or a swat on the wrist, I'm talking about whooping and beating(like what goes on in black families), with the belts,objects,punc hing with fist,slapping,etc. .. I just put that on the same level as someone beating their wife or husband. Not only that,but I think this is one reason people commit domestic violence later in life or why black women stay in abusive relationships.  (Oct 20, 2009 | post #1)

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Why Are 1 Of 8 Girls Pregnant At Robeson High?

Sad.... 115 black girls at Chicago school pregnant... http://www.youtube .com/watch?v=WazmO uNLyn8 Young and pregnant...15 with 2 kids http://www.youtube .com/watch?v=qzKKq L6JwcY&feature =related My opinion why many are young and pregnant http://www.youtube .com/watch?v=DHlPm xrPtOg  (Oct 20, 2009 | post #5)

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Out of wedlock children and BW

I hate when people bring other ethnic groups into the mix. I am black,this is a black forum,lets talk about black issues. Not only that, but from what I see,what I SEE, many hispanics and latinos take care of their children,rich or poor. Unless their illegal,from what I see,alot of them get married too,even if the child is conceived oow. I used to work in a health clinic, and I tell ya, those Hispanics didn't mind paying for their children's or pregnant wife's care with cash. I believe some of them were illegals too,but they would pay for $300-500 procedures without complaining.And most all the time the man was their with his wife. And lets not talk about some of the black patients.  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #86)

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hindu, middle eastern men dont like Black women

At another gas store down here,they have their little kids working at the registers! Well at least they look to be 11,12,13 years old. And they don't keep their stores up. I don't eat stuff from there anymore and I always check the expiration dates on drinks,cause they have alot of expired stuff in their stores. No its off the subject,but I'm just saying.  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #181)

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hindu, middle eastern men dont like Black women

True story. Alot of Middle Easterners down here own gas stores BP's,Shell's,etc. A couple years ago,I was in a store paying for gas and some candy. This young one,who was cute,had on a nice outfit,the curly hair,the accent,err thang,was working. He started talking to me,flirting,telling me I'm cute,and stuff like that,I was flattered! I pumped my gas and left and didn't realize till later on that day,that he jiffed me out of some money. I gave that mofo $20 for $10 in gas and a cheap piece of .50cents candy and I only got like $4 and some change back! I felt stupid. I haven't been back to that store since.  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #179)

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Out of wedlock children and BW

The only thing I can think of is to somehow help their parents,especially their mothers first. In alot of cases,their parents or single mothers are naive or simply not raising them right and don't know how or don't care. Too many black parents are selfish and not investing in their kids. Some can't wait till their kids are 18,so they can cut loose of all responsibilty,put them out the house,etc..(and not in a positive funny way).Even if they werent doing anything anyway. Someone started a post the other day about unwanted children in the black community,and unfortunately I agree with them. Many black women and black parents have unwanted children that they recklessly planned for. They thought everything would be all cute and dandy to have a baby,and realized differently as the child grew up. Some parents associate their shortcomings,faile d relationships,and other life difficulties with the fact they had children. They regret having children,they project their insecurities onto their children,and they also get that way if they didn't have an ideal pregnancy and/or if their whole idea of having children with a certain man and having a certain life/lifestyle isn't going the way they visioned. And in this society,a woman can't give up her children or give the father full custody,for fear of rejection and being talked about. Also,the father simply may not be the best. When it comes to unwanted children,I believe it is worse for girls,for some reason. Maybe because I notice alot of black women love their sons,take up for their sons, and encourage their sons,especially if he is an athlete. Notice how in the black community, many black families have different rules to raising their girls verses their boys. Or if their daughter get pregnant,she is shunned by the family,but if the son gets someone pregnant,they swere the girl was tryna trap him,he is not the father,etc... Soooo....basically it starts at home...  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #69)

African-American

How can we promote self-esteem for our young girls?

It will be kinda hard,but I think in order to help young girls,we have to first promote self-esteem and a whole lotta other stuff in their parents,and their family,esp. aunts, and female cousins. Some black mothers aren't boosting their daughters self esteem because the mothers,themselves , don't have it. How can moma(who thinks she is ugly) tell her daughter that she is pretty,if the daughter looks like her? How can moma,(who only thinks she looks good when she has weave down her back,long fake nails,a mile long fake eyelashes,caked on makeup,urban designer clothes on,and green contacts), tell her 8 year old daughter that she is beautiful in her natural state,if her daughter looks like her in her natural state? Get me. What if the daughter looks like her dad, who abandoned mom right after the birth,and mom still has animosity towards him? Some Black women have self image issues,and low self worth,and they project those issues onto their kids. So basically we would have to somehow start with the parents,especially the mothers,who are suppose to be showing their daughters how to be lovely young ladies.  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #13)

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How can we promote self-esteem for our young girls?

Agree  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #12)

African-American

Out of wedlock children and BW

http://www.youtube .com/watch?v=DHlPm xrPtOg  (Oct 1, 2009 | post #62)

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