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Doylestown, PA

Bucks disciplines workers at 911 center

Dear Old RN, I have been reconsidering my last response to you. You believe that it is a family's obligation to make sure that elderly, disabled family members are safe. Are you aware that Brenda's father, a heart transplant patient, had recently suffered an extemely debilitating stroke? Where would you guess Brenda's mother spends most of her time and energy? Aside from her parents, Brenda had a single sister with a full time job and two daughters of her own. As kind and loving as Brenda was, she had not been able to go outside to interact with her neighbors in years. In fact it was sad to read the reports of just how many people that lived so close to her had no idea of who she was or the extent of her physical condition. But if you did read the reports and statements from the caretakers that Brenda employed, you would know how well this heroic lady was able to care for herself and relieve some of the burden that you would place on her family. Just whom in her family do you think was supplying her with cigarettes to set her bed on fire? What DO YOU KNOW about any of the people that cared for Brenda? You question the morality of family members that had to walk out of Brenda's home leaving her all alone and unsafe. Did you ever consider that maybe this family didn't want to leave Brenda that way? Do you think they didn't try to persuade Brenda to consider different living arrangements? Brenda simply wouldn't have it! So now I return to my original assesment of you being "a tradgedy waiting to happen". What pleasure can you possibly take in rubbing this family's nose in the obvious? Are you that oblivious to think you can pass judgement on this family or are you just plain stupid? It always amazes me how some supposedly educated people (RNs) can be so inconsiderate. Think twice before making outlandish comments. Some poor bastard might think you actually know what you're talking about!  (Feb 15, 2008 | post #64)

Doylestown, PA

Bucks disciplines workers at 911 center

Dear Old RN, I too am a healthcare professional(27 years) and can completly emphathize with your point of view. However, if you had known Brenda Orr you would realize that despite her disabilities, Brenda was a fiercly independent individual. Her parents, family, and friends were all distraught over their inability to persude Brenda of the dangers of her living conditions and especially with regard to her tobbacco habit. But try to understand Brenda's reality of living the best part of her life on a space the size of a queen size mattress and perhaps you can be more underestanding. Put yourself in Brenda's position, an extremely intelligent, dynamic personality, trapped in a listless body, with an abysmal prognosis for any positive improvement. Pehaps then you can forgive her the single vice of enjoying a couple of ciggarettes.  (Feb 15, 2008 | post #63)

Doylestown, PA

Bucks disciplines workers at 911 center

Poor Pedro, has life treated you so bad?  (Feb 15, 2008 | post #58)

Doylestown, PA

Bucks disciplines workers at 911 center

you sir, are an idiot  (Feb 15, 2008 | post #57)

Doylestown, PA

Doylestown woman who died in fire was put on hold by 911 ...

Unlike many of the folks commenting here, who only know of Brenda Orr from the recent tradgedy involving her death, I had the priviledge and honor of knowing Brenda in life. I first met Brenda when she was working her way through high school and college at the local shopping center. She pouring coffee for diners at Grants while I was bagging groceries at the nearby supermarket. I was fortunate enough to call Brenda my friend throughout some of the best times of our lives. We had enjoyed all the fun and excitement of teen age life and similarly shared the hopes and dreams of our generation for the opportunities to come. To describe Brenda Orr in those days, you would have to imagine a beautiful young lady, full of determination and willpower to make her mark in life exceptional. And that she did. Brenda was an excellent student at Temple University and took her education seriously. Brenda was all business in college and this would serve her well throughout her professioal career. Brenda was also the sweetest girl you could ever want to meet. She was always smiling and never had an unkind word for anyone. Simply put, Brenda was loved and admired by everyone who knew her. As often happens with college friends, Brenda and I soon went our seperate ways after graduation. It wasn't until last summer that by pure chance, we had the opportunity to get reacquainted. When I visited Brenda in her Doylestown home, I was saddened by the obvious effects that her disease (MS) had inflicted on her. Brenda had lost the use of her lower extremities and much of the physical beauty I had remembered from our youth. But I can honestly tell you that as soon as she smiled at me and began telling me her story, I instantly recognized my old friend as she had always been. Brenda Orr never gave up one minute of her life to a disease that would just bury most of us. Brenda Orr was a fighter. Her mind was crystal clear as she told me about everthing and everybody she knew about over the last 20 years.Brenda was intelligent, knowledgable about most everything, and engaged with a humor that would want you to keep talking with her for hours. Brenda lived life even in her most disabled condition to the fullest. Her motto was "one day at a time". I never heard Brenda complain about her condition, rather she was thankful for what little she could do as compared to those folks that couldn't. Brenda was an exteremely independent individual. She insisted on living her life on her terms. And she did a pretty damn good job of accomplishing just that. As for the 911 call, I'm amazed at how accurately Brenda described her situation, her address, and the urgency of her need for help. I wonder how many of us could have responded or held up under similar conditions. But rather than rehash the contoversy of Brenda's death, I'd rather just celebrate her life. This was the most courageous, heroic, individual I have ever met. Brenda Orr was a person that all of us could admire. Yes she had her faults, smoking in bed is never a good idea, but who among us is without faults. As someone who had the honor and priviledge of knowing Brenda Orr in life, I'd just like to remind you that this was a real person with the same hopes and dreams that all of us share. Brenda never gave up on those dreams, and in doing so, was an inspiration for all of us who knew her. I already miss my friend Brenda, but I know in my heart that she is still looking out for me from a much better place now. And so in closing, I would just ask you to reflect on the beautiful person that was Brenda Orr. Say a short prayer for her safe and peaceful journey beyond this life where she suffered greatly. Remember her family and friends who still greive her loss. And hope with humility that we all could be a little more like Brenda.  (Feb 15, 2008 | post #80)

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