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2 kinds of fireworks after family dinner

Stu actually said, "I would fully support laws against protesting at a cemetery." No where did he say it was acceptable.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #529)

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Dear Abby 7-3

I think you did pretty good and I love that he is into Dean Martin!  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #36)

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Divorced mom puts child in the middle

You are so hysterical! If you lived closer I would love to hang out with you!.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #90)

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Savage Love 7-1

http://www.loversl ane.com/Under+The+ Bed+Restraint+Syst em/cid=587/page_no =1/edp_no=9166/sho p.axd/ProductDetai ls  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #22)

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Savage Love 7-1

http://www.loversl ane.com/Under+The+ Bed+Restraint+Syst em/cid=587/page_no =1/edp_no=9166/sho p.axd/ProductDetai ls http://www.stockro om.com/ Hurry before they are gone!  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #21)

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Dear Abby 7-3

Now that would be fun!  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #16)

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Annie's Mailbox®, July 3

I like your response to LW3.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #3)

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Dear Margo: A 3-Year-Old Hellion?

I much prefer your advice for LW1. She needs to say something and be supportive. But if that is not effective then she must bow out of this friendship as others have already done. It is sad that this child not only has no limits but that she is creating limitations for her parents.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #4)

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Divorced mom puts child in the middle

Excellent point about pack behavior.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #47)

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Divorced mom puts child in the middle

What do you think dog food is? Meat, vegetables, rice, potatoes, and a bunch of nasty chemicals and preservatives in some cases. There is nothing wrong with feeding "people" food to dogs. Stay away from nitrates, onions, peppers, and too many spices.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #45)

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Divorced mom puts child in the middle

You lucky dog. I have to work from noon to 8:30. At a grocery store. The day before the 4th of July. On a day we get a delivery. With my bipolar boss. Oh well, I get to see my nieces and nephews tomorrow and Sunday. My soon to be seven year old nephew is amazing. Super smart and great taste in music. He likes The Clash, U2, Warren Zevon, Tom Waits, Lindsey Buckingham, etc. The easiest way to get him to do something that he doesn't want to is to let him know that U2's Bono does it. "Bono likes lima beans."  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #43)

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Divorced mom puts child in the middle

Today's Dear Margo. http://www.topix.n et/forum/source/ch icago-tribune/TS1H N9D8BR5FOAUUE#last Post  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #40)

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Dear Margo: A 3-Year-Old Hellion?

Dear Margo: I have a good friend whose 3-year-old is a complete terror. The child has no boundaries and has never been disciplined in her life. When my friend and her family visit my home, this little girl is constantly jumping on my furniture, throwing DVDs and torturing my animals. The other day I caught her choking my dog to the point where he almost passed out. My friend ignores this behavior and acts like it's no big deal. When I take objects away or put my animals outside, the child either throws a tantrum or deliberately waits until I turn my back to resume the bad behavior. It is getting to the point where I can't hang out with this friend anymore. The last few times we've gone out in public with this family, their daughter has hit other children, thrown a tantrum or attempted to take off her clothes and run around naked. Her parents do absolutely nothing. The worst part is that my friend is completely clueless. She told me recently that she wants to sign her daughter up for flute lessons and possibly enroll her in acting classes. Many of our other friends have stopped seeing this family because of this kid. How can I discuss this problem with my friend without offending her? I have a 1-year-old with whom I am very strict. I fear that if I approach her, the response will be that I just don't understand because I don't have a 3-year-old, or that I punish my child too harshly. Honestly, I don't want to tell my friend how to raise her child; I just want this kid to learn to respect other people and their things. — About To Lose a Good Friend Dear Ab: People are tetchy about criticism of their children, so don't expect your friend to welcome what you have to say. I would encourage you, though, to tell her that the acting out of this child is a sign of psychological disturbance and you highly recommend seeing a child specialist. This kid is crying out for attention and limits. You might point out the number of friends who have peeled off and ask her to think objectively about a youngster who has no discipline and exhibits a lot of bizarre behavior. None of this may sink in until the flute teacher, for example, removes her from the class, or other kids' parents refuse to let her come play. — Margo, necessarily Where Is Your Boyfriend? He's in the Joint Dear Margo: I am a 20-something going for my master's degree. I have been fortunate enough to have met a man who is caring and wonderful. He knows me as well as anyone does, but here's the problem: He is incarcerated, and the friends and family I have told are horrified. I have not told my mother yet because I know she will be upset. No one seems to be supportive of this relationship, and I don't know how to tell people that I know this is my destiny. How can I tell them that I am confident in my choice and that I am happy? — Struggling Dear Strug: Well, I suppose you could say you are confident in your choice and that you are happy. I hope you understand that your friends and family have your best interests at heart, and a guy in jail may not sound to them like a real catch. What you don't say is what this man is in prison for and how long he will be there. I hope you are aware of the rather well-known fact that prisoners famously con people "on the outside" to wait for them, send money, etc. I think whether or not you knew this chap before he did what he did and went to the clink is crucial. It sounds to me as though your mind is made up, but you would do well to give it a think, as the Brits say. — Margo, pensively  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #1)

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Annie's Mailbox®, July 3

Dear Annie: Two months ago, I was looking at my wife's cell phone because I needed a new one and wanted to see if hers was better. I was not looking for anything. Isn't that always the case? I ended up on her mobile Facebook site. I knew she had become reacquainted with her longtime high-school boyfriend, and I was cool with it. I am friends with a bunch of women from past relationships. Well, I stumbled upon a conversation that went from normal to questionable very quickly. She told him to call when I was not around. He responded, saying he was going to send her some photos. I confronted her in an easygoing way, and she told me they barely spoke and I'm crazy to think otherwise. When I told her I saw their conversation, she freaked. Then she showed me the photo he sent — it was of him in ladies' underwear. I asked her to "de-friend " this guy and she refused, saying she didn't want him to feel she was judging him. A month went by and I asked whether they had been in contact. She said "no," but acted oddly, so I checked her phone again. Sure enough, they are still talking. She won't go for counseling. I have asked many times because we have communication issues. I wish I could find a way to articulate how this situation has made me feel without looking like a jerk. — I Wear Boxers in Massachusetts Dear Boxers: The fact that this man is a cross-dresser should be irrelevant, but sending intimate photos is out of bounds. Most cross-dressers are straight, and such communication could be a way for this man to get some sexual thrills. Your wife should not be encouraging it or doing it behind your back. Since you already have communication issues, counseling is a good idea, and as always, if she won't go, go without her. Dear Annie: My husband used to be nice to have a conversation with. Now he gets angry and loud, and has a sharp answer for everything. He yells at me in public and his comments are very hurtful. He refuses to celebrate holidays. Could he be going through some health problems, or is he just changing as he gets older? He comes from a very angry family, and I wonder whether this is genetic. His sister is hateful toward her husband, and his father treats his mother shamefully. Everyone tells me to leave him because he is so verbally abusive, but I love him and want to help. — Need Guidance in Ohio Dear Ohio: There could be a genetic component, although it's just as likely it's learned behavior from growing up in such a dysfunctional family. Still, a change in demeanor can indicate a medical problem, so it would be wise for him to get a complete checkup, and you should suggest this for his general health. Before the appointment, alert the doctor to the behavioral problem because your husband is apt to stay mum on the subject. Dear Annie: Your response to "Wife of a Sneak" sucked. She discovered her husband had been going to strip clubs and getting lap dances. Why didn't you ask her what the women in the strip clubs were doing for her husband that she wasn't? I don't believe for a moment he would have been in such a place if he found at home what he found in a strip club. — Patrick in Stockton, Calif. Dear Patrick: Oh, please. This usually has nothing to do with what's at home. Strip clubs can fulfill an ego fantasy for a guy who wants to have a variety of attractive, naked women fawning all over him. It makes him feel important and powerful. And insecure men often prefer professional women because they don't care if the guy is unattractive, inept or disappointing as long as he has money.  (Jul 3, 2009 | post #1)

Q & A with Kim 0806

Hometown:

Rockford

I Belong To:

a truly amazing and diverse family. I have 4 parents, 5 siblings, 8 nieces & nephews and there are 3 "races" and 4 religions between us.

When I'm Not on Topix:

I am playing with my dogs, working, reading, arguing with my bass guitar, or having a great time with my niece and nephews (or watching BRAVO).

I'm Listening To:

Tool, The Who, Foo Fighters

Read This Book:

Read a book, ANY book , just read!

Favorite Things:

My boyfriend, my brilliant and loving dogs Buddy and Sandy, and my amazing nieces and nephews

On My Mind:

Light travels faster than sound. That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

I Believe In:

karma and the golden rule