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Sereno family: 6 kids from the Chicago-area Sereno family...

This is an awesome, extremely inspiring story. The Serenos sound like a lively bunch; what I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall during one of their symposiums ... priceless! I'm sure this family has had its fair share of bumps in the road, but it sounds like each member is better for it. Wishing you all much continued success ...  (Apr 24, 2009 | post #9)

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Husband's nightmare attack leaves wife trapped in fear

"Rose," I'm with you! I can't imagine my husband ever laying a finger on me. And, if he did so unintentionally/un consciously, I can't imagine that he would not do everything in his power to identify the cause in order to satisfy both me and himself that it would never happen again! The fact that LW1's husband refuses to attempt to identify the cause and help his wife through her emotional turmoil is unacceptable and speaks volumes about the kind of person he is. (I do not think he is someone I would stay married to!) I must say, however, that while I'm certain these kinds of things happen, the timing of the letter is a little suspect ... this exact thing occurred on a recent Grey's Anatomy episode!  (Apr 8, 2009 | post #198)

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Husband's nightmare attack leaves wife trapped in fear

So people should be forced to change their plans to avoid hurt feelings? That's not life, and surely, that's not the solution. There's a way to do everything without being tacky about it. The "offense " in this letter should't be the fact that LW2's daughter wasn't invited, but that the "host" handled the invitation process in a tacky manner. Now, once that is established, you look to the fact that the "host" is another EIGHT-year-old (put simply: "consider the source")! Also, people automatically assume that the other little girl, Brittany, was being snotty, but she could very well have been innocently relating what her parents told her (i.e., that she could invite more guests as others declined). Just as LW2's daughter has to learn that you won't always be on the A-list, Brittany (and other kids) have to learn that there are limitations. I applaud Brittany's parents for setting limitations, as I can envision the choice went something like this: (A) Have the party at your venue of choice (e.g., American Girl, tea party at the Drake, etc.) and choose 10 of your 30 current "B.F.F.s " (because at that age, girls change best friends more often than they change socks); or (B) Have all 30 of your B.F.F.s over to the house for pizza. We've all had to make similar choices, and there's nothing "wrong" with either; the "wrong" is in how our choice is conveyed to those who didn't make the invite list!  (Apr 6, 2009 | post #128)

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Husband's nightmare attack leaves wife trapped in fear

It's amazing to me how many different reactions people are having to LW2. Last month, my son received one of those "whole-class " invites and my hubby and I thought it was kind of strange. It was a party at the boy's home. We've never met his parents and our son has never talked about him. We declined. Granted, our children are still very young (both are under 5), so for now, their parties consist of family and our close friends' children. Even with those limitations, our son's last b-day party had 20 kids (we didn't invite anyone from his class)! I agree with those posters who say use this as a teaching moment and move on. Kids are very resilient. If we coddle them and harp on every slight, we will instill a "woe is me," dependent attitude. If we teach them that life isn't always just or fair and to "treat others the way THEY want to be treated," we will empower them to be independent, empathetic problem-solvers who can handle just about anything life throws at them.  (Apr 6, 2009 | post #104)

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Texting while driving: Illinois House backs ban aimed at ...

So, we don't have enough cops out on the road to enforce red light-running and/or speeding (hence part of the rationale for "photo-enforc ement"), but we have enough cops to enforce TWD (Texting While Driving)?!@# Come on! I know people who text and e-mail while driving and/or at red lights, and it drives me nuts, but how do we enforce this? How long does a police officer have to ride along-side someone before knowing whether the driver is texting (versus placing a call, looking up a contact in her phone book, etc.). This is just another do-nothing piece of legislation that officers will enforce at their discretion (if at all)!  (Apr 2, 2009 | post #109)

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Child suicides: Recent suicides put spotlight on preventi...

Oakton parent: You know nothing about me, where I get information, "what [I] want to see in every situation," etc. You chose to put your angle and "connection " to this particlar case out there - you know nothing about me and/or mine. And I haven't "trashed " anyone, but, again, you're so angry that anyone who expresses any doubt in the version of the facts that were related to you is the enemy. This is not a forum about Lewis, specifically, so I will stop using it as such. Again, on the topic of the article: I have no doubt that pre-pubescent children are capable of committing, and do commit, suicide, and I pray that adults will be diligent to heed the warning signs before it's too late.  (Apr 1, 2009 | post #64)

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Jefferson Tap beating trial: Police sergeant to testify i...

Okay, thanks for the clarity on that one question. How about the other two?  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #34)

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Jefferson Tap beating trial: Police sergeant to testify i...

Okay, forget my damages comment in my first post, because as I understand it, this is a CRIMINAL trial for aggravated battery (not a civil suit for money damages). So, thanks for your synopsis, but I guess my next question is: how is what you've said relevant? If it's a criminal prosecution, then the STATE has brought the charges and, at least for now, the victims aren't seeking any money from anyone. Then, my next questions would be: (1) Are any of the defendants denying that they were involved in a phsyical altercation (i.e., are they denying the "battery "); and (2) Are any of the defendants claiming that they got physical with the "victims " because they faced imminent bodily harm (i.e., that there was legal provocation and they acted in self-defense)?  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #18)

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Reformed mom wants to reclaim her son

K8ordie, you almost lost me with the forced sterilization, but great post otherwise! Keep up the good work!  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #89)

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Reformed mom wants to reclaim her son

Bryan, I applaud you and your wife for stepping up and raising someone else's child - truly I do. But, where your post goes wrong (as do the thought processes of so many others in custody battles) is right here: "It would not be fair to US...." (Emphasis added.) The only relevant consideration in any custody matter is, and should be, what is in the CHILD'S best interest. We are all human, so we get caught up in all of the other stuff (e.g., how much money, time and effort we've put into giving the child a better life, etc.), but all of that needs to be set aside. I don't profess to know your situation, and it sounds like - for now - your niece is right where she ought to be. But that does not mean that the current situation is the end-all-be-all and will always be in her best interest. LW1 should not push herself on her child, but that does not mean that she should not be afforded the opportunity to get to know him and reestablish a role in his life, unless doing so would not be in his best interest (i.e., it would cause him undue stress, anxiety, and/or harm).  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #85)

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Jefferson Tap beating trial: Police sergeant to testify i...

Can someone please tell me - because I admittedly have NOT been following this every day - whether any of the defendants are denying the beatings took place? So far, I've read their "justificatio n" (i.e., the "grieving son" defense), and their attempt to reduce damages (i.e., that the victims couldn't have suffered the types of injuries they claim), but I haven't read: "I/We didn't do it!" Am I missing something?!@  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #13)

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Tom Joyner calls firing from Clear Channel's WVAZ-FM 102....

All you TJMS fans: please wait until tomorrow before you get too worked up! I'm with the others who think that this is nothing more than a well-played April Fool's joke. Anyone who's familiar with WGCI's antics knows that the station attempts an April Fool's joke every year -- several times it has involved a change in personalities and/or line up. If it's not a joke ... I think you TJ fans should take a page from his book and handle his departure with class; you can voice your preference and displeasure without "downing " Steve Harvey. Steve Harvey, too, has made great strides in two very difficult fields (comedy and radio), and he, too, gives back to his community. You don't have to like his show, but don't tear him down or wish failure on him.  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #54)

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Child suicides: Recent suicides put spotlight on preventi...

Thanks for the "tip," but one of the FIRST things in my post accounted for you being a parent with children at the school. Hence the tone of your posts and the bias. Which, as I've already said, I get. I understand that children are capable of some heinous things, including committing suicide. I also know for a fact, however, that coroner's and police officers make mistakes when it comes to suicide determinations. Finally, I'm sure that the police and school board held meetings to de-brief Oakton parents about certain conclusions and details, but don't think that means you know ALL of the details. You know what they wanted you to know and what the police and school officials felt would be sufficient to assuage the fears and concerns of all affected. You can be angry, call me a "liar," whatever suits you. But, I'm entitled to my opinion and you're entitled to yours. You choose to believe the "facts" as they were told to you, and I choose to believe that things may have happened a bit differently. You weren't in that bathroom and neither was I, so the FACT is that we don't know what happened there.  (Mar 31, 2009 | post #57)

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What is day care for?

I suppose you feel the same about nannies, babysitters or any other non-parental childcare arrangement? And, I suppose you also take issue with parents sending their kids off to school everyday? (Because what is school but an 8-hour boondoggle for parents?) Home school, people! It's the only way! Unless you're hovering over your kids 24/7, you're a terrible, slovenly, unfit parent whose parental rights should be terminated. PUH-LEASE! Grow up, will you!  (Mar 30, 2009 | post #3)

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Mom pleas for sons missing 17 days

Thanks for the link "Valerie, " I just enrolled for wireless alerts! I hope that it's true that the site doesn't sell your information, but it was worth the risk.  (Mar 30, 2009 | post #40)