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Overcoming Myths about Men

Have you ever found yourself making the same mistake over and over simply because you didnít know any better at the time? Weíre all human from time to time we unintentionally make the occasional blunder due to a bunch of mistaken assumptions running in the back of our mind. These false beliefs keep us blissfully unaware that our ill-informed decisions will actually lead us to disaster! And you know what? This isnít a bad thing in itself because learning from our mistakes adds to our body of knowledge. However, wouldnít you want to AVOID making these boo-boos if you COULD? This is why you need to UNLEARN any incorrect notions that could cloud your better judgment. How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind? Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them. When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction. Thus, letís take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of: #1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women. Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place. Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER. This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era. You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside. She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much. This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way. Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves. Being low maintenance in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities. This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesnít throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark. (And I emphasize OCCASIONAL, as opposed to habitually, but anyway) This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum. When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women donít often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances. All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about. Therefore, itís NOT about being so laid-back to the point where youíre frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guyís every whim or even TOLERATE selfishness. And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself. Remember, thereís a difference between a cool girl that doesnít get upset over the little things and the emotional SLAVE who doesnít have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of love. The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you. If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say itís dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend? Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies? Even though weíre always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self. If you build your universe around whether youíre single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness. Read More Here: http://advice-abou t-dating.blogspot. com  (Jan 22, 2013 | post #1)