Send a Message
to IVF Goddess

Comments

13

Joined

Jul 1, 2007

IVF Goddess Profile

Forums Owned

Recent Posts

Infertility

Miscarriage Statistics and Support

For every four couples who welcome new babies into the world each year, there’s one which won’t, falling victim to that dreaded word – miscarriage. The issue has come back to the fore recently after the release of study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology which found that women who consumed more than 200 mg of caffeine a day (that’s 2 cups of coffee) can double the risk of miscarriage. What now? Give up your daily Cappuccino fix and you’ll be fine? Well, that seems to be the message to come out of this research if you believe what you read in the media. The coverage has almost entirely focused on the headline-grabbing “2 Coffees a Day Can Cause a Miscarriage” and has virtually ignored the fact that there are many more causes of miscarriage. Unfortunately, not all miscarriages are as easily controllable (ie make that a decaf instead) let alone understood by modern medicine. So here is a list based on recent research papers (2007-2008) on the so-called uncontrollable versus the preventable miscarriages. Uncontrollable Miscarriages: - Age Well there’s nothing much you can do about your age. The older you are, more chances you have of conceiving embryos with chromosomal abnormalities. The miscarriage risk after 6 weeks gestation at age 40 is 42% by opposition to 25% at 35. The average miscarriage statistic is 15% across all age groups. - Chromosomal Abnormalities: Nothing much can be done here either. Indeed chromosomal abnormalities are the underlining factor behind a staggering 70 per cent of all miscarriages that occur before 6 weeks gestation and 50% of losses which take place between 6 and 10 weeks inot the pregnancy. Preventable Miscarriages: - Caffeine Reduce your intake to less than 200 mg of day. That’s the equivalent of two or more cups of regular coffee, between 5 and 6 cups of tea and five 340ml (12-ounce) cans of caffeinated fizzy drinks. - Smoking, alcohol and recreational drugs Goes without say really. Give them up yesterday if you’re serious about having a child. - Avoid toxic chemicals: Cleaning detergents and even petrol fumes when filling up your car - Don’t eat large fish such as tuna which contain high levels of mercury. - Don’t consume undercooked meat of fish such as sushi which contain harmful bacteria to the foetus. - Get vaccinated for rubella or chicken pox before you get pregnant as these vaccinations can cause birth defects and contribute to miscarriages. - Stay away from soft cheeses like gorgonzola or brie - Take prenatal vitamins. - Lose weight Obesity is fast emerging a leading cause of miscarriage - not mention birth defects. - Eat Healthily - Stress Easier said than done when you’re already anxious I know, but a recent British study found that stress can increase the risk of miscarriage. - Hot tubs They too should be avoided although more definite studies need to be done on that topic. - Microwave Ovens More research is needed here too to be conclusive but the medical advice today is to stand at least 170 cm (5 feet) away from a microwave oven. Curable and Detectable Causes of Miscarriage: But there are a number of things your doctor can do to determine the underlining causes of your miscarriage especially if it is recurrent: tests to determine if there are chromosomal problems between you and your partner, blood tests to find out if autoimmune disease, diabetes or hormonal imbalance may be the problem and the list goes on. The best advice to come out of the medical establishment is that if you’ve suffered a single miscarriage, keep on trying to conceive because the odds are in your favour. Jodi Panayotov http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com/ Disclaimer: This information is not to be considered as medical advice. Always consult a professional medical practitioner for professional advice.  (Feb 27, 2008 | post #1)

Infertility

Unexpalined Infertility and Herbs

So you are finally at the doctor’s office after years of unsuccessful copulating, seeking an answer with a side of treatment. Admittedly it’s been a relief to share with someone who’s not going to run off and tell everyone you know your intimate secrets. Especially if it means your doctor is going to DO something. The tests he sends you for are both embarrassing and painful but because they’re going to shed fluorescent light on what ails you and your partner you’ll live with them, even welcome them. “You want me to put my feet, where..THERE, but they won’t fit….auuuggghh!” “How long did you say the needle had to stay in?” “Do I get anaesthetic?” “It’s been twenty-four hours – should I still be in this much pain?” are all pressing questions you find yourself asking the doctor, whilst for your partner it’s, “But how do I get it in there?” and “Do you have anything else but scotch/Penthouse?” A couple of weeks later you’re back, all anticipatory that they’ll have found something and an indicated treatment will be offered. Your partner is the first to receive his results and has to refrain from doing a Toyota ‘Oh what a feeling’ leap out of his chair at the news that his ‘boys can swim’. Whilst happy for him you realize that this must mean it’s you with the problem and nervously await the verdict. It takes a while as there is much frowning, paper shuffling and throat clearing and mumbling on the part of the doctor. ‘CHRIST,’ you think, ‘what’s going on? Do I have a whole range of fertility issues?” Eventually, as if he suddenly remembers there is a couple sitting in his office and it is not, after all, time for a leisurely Sunday-morning-pap er type-browse of your notes, he looks up. Both you and your partner stare at him, dry mouths slightly ajar. “I’m afraid,” he says, and you nod, feeling quite afraid yourself. “I’m afraid that you have what we refer to as…um..” Your hands grip the chair and you lean forward. “It’s ….er…UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY.” “What’s that???” you demand an explanation. “It happens to about one in ten couples.” “What does?” “The unexplained infertility as I’ve just said. It means basically that the tests didn’t find anything untoward. Your tubes are clear, there’s minimal endometriosis, and you’re ovulating very month.” You realize it’s like the answer to a multiple choice question – ‘none of the above’. “But are there other tests you can do, you know, something else…?” “No those are the main ones we use.” “So what now?” “Well it’s up to you.” “Up to me?” “Yes, you have three options. We can do a course of fertility drugs or we can try a cycle of IVF or we can do nothing.” Nothing, of course is out of the question, otherwise you wouldn’t BE here. But IVF???? Already? When there’s nothing discernibly wrong? “T-tell me about the f-fertility drugs,” you stammer. “Well you take a course of Clomid which boosts ovulation, producing more eggs so increasing your chances of conception. But.” Why is there always a ‘but’? “But what?” “You also increase your chances of multiple births.” “Oh, is that all.” “Yes, I just had to inform you so that you make an informed choice.” “One more thing,” you say after he’s written a prescription and is holding it there in front of you like he’s a game show host and you’re about to take ‘the money or the box’. “How, if we have ‘unexplained infertility’, do you think this may work?” “By boosting ovulation…” “But you said I am ovulating.” “As I said, you’ll produce larger and more eggs which increases your chances ..” You and your partner leave the office, taking the prescription and your unexplained infertility with you. That night you pour a glass of water and open the packet of pills. Opening your mouth you pop the pill in, move it to the back of your tongue and take a large gulp of water. There, you’ve swallowed it. By Jodi Panayotov, the author of 'In Vitro Fertility Goddess'  (Nov 26, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

Fancy an IVF Holiday?

Apparently there exists a phenomenon called the IVF tourist. My first thought when informed of this was of someone in golf pants and white joggers doing tours of IVF clinics during their annual leave. The kind of tourist who’s bored with monuments and wants an ‘experience’. Maybe they had guides showing them from room to room. ‘And here is the room where it all happens and that’s the stirrup chair. What, the guy in the white coat? He’s the embryologist. You wanna photo with him? Sure, wait till he brings the blastocyst up on screen…’ Actually I had it wrong. An IVF tourist is someone undergoing IVF who chooses to do it in a vacation spot. Greece is one of the more popular ones if the marketing can be believed. Here you can have it all, really – embryo transfers, ultrasounds, ruins, and sun and sea all in the one package. And who can resist an IVF clinic in a quaint stone village? Or a donkey ride up a cobbled alley before the Egg Extraction? How about a set of worry beads to help you through the two week wait? Getting your pregnancy test result at a taverna with a jug of ouzo handy in case it’s negative? There are so many plusses I can hardly stand it. Right. But where do I go to organize this? My travel agent? Or do I buy the plane tickets direct from the IVF clinic? Hmm, this is all a bit unusual. How about the accommodation – is it attached to the IVF clinic, part of the same complex? ‘Oh you’ll be staying in the luxury Hellenic Fertility Villas, breakfast buffet and blood tests included.’ ‘Great but what about the ultrasounds?’ ‘For them to be included you’ll have to upgrade to our Deluxe Infertility Package which also includes donkey transfers to and from the clinic.’ ‘Fabulous, where do I sign up?’ Then of course you have to start packing – so much to take. Bathers, pessaries, pads, sun cream, what if you forget something crucial? It’s not as if you can pop home for it. It’s bad enough packing for normal holidays but IVF ones – well. And of course the airline is one of those budget ones with one kilo of hand baggage and ten kilos of check-in between you. So you have to discard almost all of your clothes as the IVF ice box with all the preliminary drugs that you received weighs more that the hand baggage limit on Aristotle Air. You’d forgotten what it was like getting through airports these days with all the security measures and what should be a simple three and a half hour flight (they forgot to mention the ten hour transit in Athens) turns into almost a twenty-four hour ordeal. By the time you reach the villa you’re exhausted, shattered. But you have a week to recover before the egg retrieval and you realize you’re going to need it. Now if only that rooster that seems to have stationed itself beneath your window (it’s 3am) will shut up. By 6am you know that after your IVF holiday you’re going to need a holiday… For more articles by the author go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Aug 28, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

IVF Pregnancy Risk Should You Worry

So you are finally pregnant after however many heart-wrenching soul-and-budget-de stroying tries at IVF. Is it time to relax? To cut loose, feel normal again, to let your soon-to-be-luxuria nt-thanks-to-pregn ancy-hormones-hair down? Time to join all the other smug pregnants shopping at Egg and flaunting their bellies at every snatched opportunity? By all means feel free to try but there are those of us, who, after so much worry and hopelessness, find it hard to stop worrying and rid ourselves of the nagging spectre of doom. After the euphoria of the positive pregnancy test wears off a feeling of anxiety, even fear can replace it. Oh my God, how am I going to cope with twins/triplets/qua ds? What if after all this I miscarry? Will my baby/s be normal? Why am I thinking this stuff? Maybe part of the reason lies with the fact that an IVF pregnancy is illuminated at every step of the way. There’s barely a minute when you aren’t being tested for something and monitored for something else long before you even conceive and beyond, until the end of the first trimester. Firstly there’s all the blood screening tests then the drug screening tests, the ultrasounds, then when your baby is barely more than a four cell genetic (and oh so cute – looks like DH when he first wakes up) cluster you get to see it on a screen and it gets a rating. Meantime you are following its progress like you’re the paparazzi and it’s Paris Hilton. You’re obsessed with every detail, how many cells is it now, is it a Grade One or Two, how’s it doing? Is it transfer-worthy? Is it implantation worthy? How’s it doing? It’s only eight cells and you’re turning into an anxious parent mulling over its achievements. On the day of the transfer, you’re up at dawn, having not slept a wink. After the transfer you feel every little twinge, you don’t want to drive or make any sudden movement in case you dislodge it. You become constipated for fear of it falling out when you go to the toilet. You cross off not the days but the hours, the minutes, until the pregnancy test. No wonder, by the time you get it, you’re exhausted. Then there is the scan to wait for before it becomes an official positive. You get to see the tiny pole beating. Then, if you’re 35 or over you have the further abnormality testing to get through and another scan at the end of the first trimester. Meantime the non-fertility challenged woman has had sex, merrily gone on her way probably drinking and generally obliviously enjoying herself. At some stage she realized her period was late and peed on a stick. Oh, OK, I ‘m pregnant. A couple of months later she rocks up at the obstetrician’s office for her first appointment. So it’s little wonder the woman experiencing pregnancy after IVF may suffer higher anxiety levels than a non-fertility challenged woman and surprising that more of us don’t end up sedated. What do the statistics say? Is the IVF pregnancy less likely to succeed? Marginally. There is a higher rate of miscarriage although this is largely due to IVF being prevalent amongst those over 35, where the rates of miscarriage are higher anyway. There is a higher risk of premature birth but again this is so for multiple pregnancies or older women too. So there is nothing conclusive to say we should worry more but, I say, after all we’ve been through you can hardly blame us, can you? Jodi Panayotov, author of ‘In Vitro Fertility Goddess’ and has been described as "Australia's answer to Bridget Jones" (ABC Radio. For more on IVF pregnancy go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Aug 26, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

Preventing Miscarriage & Dealing With It

I never thought I’d see ‘miscarriage’ and ‘good news’ in the one sentence, or even for that matter on the same page, but even the most unlikely couplings can occur. And what, in this instance, brings these strange bedfellows together? Firstly miscarriages, treated by much of the medical profession and most of the well-meaning-no-id ea-relative-and-fr iend-society as being due to some unfathomable deep dark force that you can’t argue with, are actually due in most cases to something both identifiable and treatable. Obviously a first miscarriage is unforeseeable and therefore in theory unavoidable yet it can be the cue to get checked out before another occurs. The medical profession, however, have other ideas. They like you to experience three consecutively before springing or at times limping into action. Then they officially label it as ‘recurrent miscarriage’ which opens the door to all sorts of tests although often you need to ask for the key. Unfortunately at this point you’re so stressed and stricken with grief you aren’t feeling very assertive so unless you have a pro-active doctor you still may not have any answers. See, there are many factors which have been identified as causing or contributing to miscarriage and these include diabetes, high blood pressure, polycystic ovary syndrome, fibroids and thyroid abnormalities. As well there are chromosomal abnormalities, blood-clotting disorder and weak cervix. And here’s the thing, the good news as it were – except for the chromosomal abnormalities they all are easily treatable. Even the non-treatable chromosomal abnormalities have their jaunty side. As the cause of 50% of miscarriages they are usually random and therefore one-off unlike miscarriages that have an underlying medical cause. So the idea is, get thoroughly checked out for all possible causes after a miscarriage although some doctors, like Mary Stephenson, MD, a professor of obstetrics and gynaecology and director of recurrent-pregnanc y-loss program at University of Chicago Medical Centre says when planning to get pregnant you should get checked out. Sensible woman, I say. Having talked my doctor into getting every test in the solar system done after my second miscarriage, which showed up my thyroid condition, I wish I’d had those tests done first. Then again it’s probably not practical to have every woman of fertile age lined up at pathology clinics and letting enough blood to keep Count Dracula comfortable in retirement. So how, short of pleading with your GP, can you be tested for miscarriage-causin g conditions? According to Stephenson a specialized recurrent-pregnanc y-loss clinic will be able to identify and test for underlying problems which can manifest themselves in someone who is outwardly healthy. Once picked up, it is a matter of treating them, usually with a course of medication. Hence for women who have experienced the devastation of recurrent miscarriage there is plenty of hope that they can conquer it and win. In the gloom and doom surrounding pregnancy loss this can only be good news. To read more about miscarriages by the same author go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com/a rticles/miscarriag e-myths-and-truths /  (Aug 21, 2007 | post #1)

Nonfiction

In Vitro Fertility Goddess: The New Bidget Jones?

In Vitro Fertility Goddess by Jodi Panayotov A fertility-obsessed woman’s absurd journey to motherhood “Australia's answer to Bridget Jones, with a twist and a few hilarious turns on the road to motherhood.” Gail Boserio, Books Editor ABC Radio National ‘Breakfast’ Do you keep a basal thermometer by your bed as an object of foreplay? Do you spend an abnormal amount of time in the bedroom upside down? Are you increasingly of the opinion that there are two types of people in the world - the Fertile and the Infertile? At 37, I discovered that my fertility had turned into a succession of recurrent miscarriages. With the help of a famous herbalist, a gay gynaecologist, a one-legged psychiatrist, an IVF clinic and a spiritual healer - oh, and one husband, I managed to have a baby… “IVFG is an achingly funny journey into eventual motherhood.... Jodi has not only produced a bitingly honest account of infertility - but a page-turning, laugh-aloud adventure story.” Fran Kelly, Presenter ABC Radio National ‘Breakfast’ To read a free excerpt of In Vitro Fertility Goddess go to: http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 24, 2007 | post #1)

Literature

"Australia's Answer to Bridget Jones" ABC Radio

"In Vitro Fertility Goddess" by Jodi Panayotov A fertility-obsessed woman’s absurd journey to motherhood “Australia's answer to Bridget Jones, with a twist and a few hilarious turns on the road to motherhood.” Gail Boserio, Books Editor ABC Radio National ‘Breakfast’ Do you keep a basal thermometer by your bed as an object of foreplay? Do you spend an abnormal amount of time in the bedroom upside down? Are you increasingly of the opinion that there are two types of people in the world - the Fertile and the Infertile? At 37, I discovered that my fertility had turned into a succession of recurrent miscarriages. With the help of a famous herbalist, a gay gynaecologist, a one-legged psychiatrist, an IVF clinic and a spiritual healer - oh, and one husband, I managed to have a baby… “IVFG is an achingly funny journey into eventual motherhood.... Jodi has not only produced a bitingly honest account of infertility - but a page-turning, laugh-aloud adventure story.” Fran Kelly, Presenter ABC Radio National ‘Breakfast’ To read a free excerpt of In Vitro Fertility Goddess go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 24, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

Infertility Book In Vitro Fertility Goddess Free Excerpt

Something peculiar has been happening at work. Since I told the pregnant crew member and large group of turkey-rissole-eat ing members of the public about the miscarriage, a girl here and a girl there has come up and confided in me about their miscarriage/s. Evidently the telegraph, telephone, tell-a-flight-atte ndant thing has been working and half the workplace know about me. And it seems I'm not just elected Chief Representative of the Miscarriage Society but have also been given an honorary seat on the Failure to Conceive Board. The latter meets spontaneously and surreptitiously on a one-to-one basis as revealed to me one day when I'm sitting in the flight attendant lounge and a Fertility Goddess sidles up to me wearing the Olympic uniform. 'Oh no' I think. In my mind now there is a clear demarcation between Us and Them and she is one of Them. I force myself to do the minimum compulsory requirement - I congratulate her and ask when it's due and she tells me. There is an awkward silence during which I frantically scan the room for someone with a new shade of nail varnish that I can feign interest in. Before I find someone S blurts out that she never thought she'd be in this situation, she and her partner had been trying for years and finally, due to IVF she was pregnant. The worse thing for her was that her husband had had a one night stand before he met her and the woman subsequently gave birth to his child. Then during all their difficulties and expenses with falling pregnant he'd been paying child maintenance! "That's horrible, horrible, you poor thing," I say, totally empathic. Encouraged by my response she goes on to describe how, before they tried IVF they'd even resorted to having sex with her standing on her head, an image I'd rather not have been offered. As I'm wondering what more to say to all of this she gets up all of a sudden to go to her aircraft then presses a card into my hand with the name of her doctor, saying if I got to that point she couldn't recommend him highly enough. What point she thought I was at I have no idea and nor could I recall having told her I was considering IVF because I wasn't. For a minute I think I may have acquired a large sign on my forehead saying 'INFERTILE. PLEASE APPROACH WITH ANECDOTES AND ADVICE' and actually glance at the nearest mirror but no. As for the IVF thing, in a past, pre-conception life, I had been adamant that if when the time came to have a child I couldn't there would be no way I'd line up for treatment that was obviously so painful and expensive. Instead I'd do things like fly on the Concorde and do the Orient Express with the money. Excerpt of 'In Vitro Fertility' Goddess' by Jodi Panayotov. To read more Free Excerpts go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 24, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

How Many IVFs are Too Many?

And while we’re there, how long is a piece of string? Or maybe you’d best ask our federal Health Minister, Tony Abbott. He thinks the answer is ‘more than three’ if you’re 42 or over, and ‘more than three a year’ if you’re under 42. How a man who’s never experienced a follicle-stimulati ng cycle came up with these figures is unclear. Still I’d like to see his political career limited to no more than three cycles and I’ve never been a parliamentarian. The point is, it’s our fertility he’s talking about and governments should not have a right to meddle with it. Nobody from the government tells a woman on a sole parent pension who’s had, say, six children to different fathers that she’s reached her tax payer funded limit because it’s clear any future ones will be no-hopers, therefore their prison bills will provide a budget blow-out. They wouldn’t dare, yet they want to limit the ability of a fertility challenged woman to reproduce due to the resultant blowout of health costs and a small chance that a healthy child and therefore functional member of society will result. I know a woman who finally gave birth to a son after twenty IVF treatments. Can we look back and say, that was too many, given that it took that many for a child to be born? Incidentally, as far as this woman was concerned, it was her last try. After I had my first child with the help of IVF I undertook three more attempts before I gave up. It was a personal choice, which I only arrived at after the third try. At that point I decided that I could no longer ride the rollercoaster and would just concentrate on the child I have. The point is, for everyone it’s an individual thing. You just know when you can’t give it another try, when you make a decision to focus on the child/ren you’ve got or search another avenue like adoption. Yet perhaps there is such a thing as too much IVF. Perhaps it can be defined as the point when you’ve had to sell your house, your spouse has left and you’re wandering the streets wearing ten hats, pushing a full shopping trolley and shouting randomly at passersby. In which case maybe Tony Abbott is really just trying to look after us after all. It’s what caring politicians do, don’t they? by Jodi Panayotov author of In Vitro Fertility Goddess. To read a free excerpt of the book go to http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 22, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

IVF Success With Grade 3-4 Embryos

I wish I could say that I achieved success with my Grade 3 Embryo. If so, I would have two children now. The thing was, until the morning I arrived at the IVF clinic for my frozen embryo transfer, I had no idea that I was having a Grade 3 embryo implanted. I knew there were two embryos stored, one of them being only a few cells, thus its lower grade, but I assumed the Grade 2 Embryo would be coming to the party. How wrong I was. While both had been thawed the Grade 2 had simply failed to grow any further while the Grade 3 had picked up momentum and was on its way to being a Grade 2. This, the doctor informed me gravely while I sat with my legs in stirrups awaiting the equivalent of the world’s worst pap smear. By this stage I was so primed, having had a previous cycle cancelled due to drug failure and two months short of my 41st birthday, I would have gratefully accepted a Grade 7 embryo, a single cell amoeba, anything that may have had a microscopic chance of becoming a human being. They could have offered me a key role in a cloning experiment and I’d have said yes. Two weeks of crossing my legs and going to the toilet carefully followed, but I wasn’t feeling any of the early symptoms after IVF that I’d felt the first time, i.e., the twinges and slight cramping. On the day of the pregnancy test I was cautiously optimistic (admittedly easy to be when you’ve already got a fifteen month old child toddling around) yet the result was negative. My little embryo had failed to implant. I have no idea what the success rate is with these lower grade embryos but presumably there is some, otherwise they wouldn’t store them. And it’s interesting that a day can make an enormous difference as to what grade an embryo is. Just as it can go from Grade One to Grade 3 overnight, the reverse may happen too. And anything can happen once they’re implanted. So again there is no exact science with regards to the grade and quality of embryos, as with everything else under the infertility umbrella, it’s akin to shifting sands. By Jodi Panayotov Author of 'In Vitro Fertility Goddess' http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 22, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

Infertility Rage: The New Road Rage

Right. I've read everything I can get my hands on about fertility and successful conception and there's a bloody lot of it, going on and on about the right weight, exercise, nutrients and vitamins - green tea, no alcohol, no smoking, no stress and six items of leafy greens a day, Vitamin B1-100 etc. Yet see plentiful disturbing daily sights which point all evidence to the contrary. Everywhere there are copious numbers of grossly overweight women with four children under the age of 4 (plop, plop, plop, plop) with exercise consisting of repetitive raising of lit cigarette to mouth when not seated in fast-food places consuming diets devoid of anything remotely nutritious. Their children are all blonde and gorgeous and named after revered objects like motorbikes and alcohol, revealed when they’re shouted at every two seconds, “HARLEY DAVIDSON, COME HERE NOW! NOW OR I’LL F....N’ KILL YA! YOU TOO KAH-LUA!” And clearly the stress of shouting at their children all the time doesn’t impact on their fertility either. This is an excerpt of 'In Vitro Fertility Goddess' by Jodi Panayotov "Australia's Answer to Bridget Jones" - ABC Radio http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 19, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

Off the Fertility Wagon Again...

I was on the fertility wagon once, not for very long because I bought the wrong ticket. Still I was there and I remember it well. I even have a child to prove it. Admittedly I was given a leg-up, meaning I used assisted reproductive technology, but for nine glorious months I got to enjoy the world from a different perspective. It was the perspective that fertility goddesses see the world from: the ‘I can reproduce, I can bear children, nah, nah, nah’ one. And I enjoyed it, I really did. I started to settle in, feel right at home, even started to think about redecorating, when it happened. I fell off the wagon. This time it took me by surprise as I’d really believed I’d conquered my infertility, that if I’d been there that long I could stay. Pregnant again through natural causes after my IVF child, I was on the cusp of becoming a fertility goddess. Until I miscarried at seven and a half weeks and from there everything went into decline. I tried Frozen Embryo transfer to no avail and failed two IVF drug tests. The brief glory days of having a successful pregnancy had passed. I was shattered, beyond hope. By now I was forty-one and a half and didn’t have the energy to pursue getting back on the wagon again. And now that I’ve had a full hysterectomy I’ll have to find another way to get around. I’m thinking the Menopausal Motorbike, part of the latest trend in HRT or Hormone Replacement Transport. But I digress, easy to do when your body is the temperature of a charcoal brazier. What is the point of this story? It is that fertility isn’t an absolute or a given. You can’t buy it, trade it or get rid of it. It can be yours and then you can lose it, or you can think you haven’t got it and in the brief but painful jab of a trigger injection you find it. It can be fleeting, or it can be permanent like cellulite or having a Bush in politics. And if you can’t be a real fertility goddess, you can fake it. Just look at Hollywood, the world capital of Botox, plastic surgery and Assisted Reproduction. And of course, falling off the wagon. by Jodi Panayotov, author of 'In Vitro Fertility Goddess'. http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com/  (Jul 19, 2007 | post #1)

Infertility

http://invitrofertilitygoddess.com

Meet the author of ‘In Vitro Fertility Goddess’ Jodi Panayotov, "Australia's answer to Bridget Jones" (ABC Radio), as she uses sharp humour to help fertility-challeng ed women overcome this all-consuming affliction. http://invitrofert ilitygoddess.com  (Jul 1, 2007 | post #1)

Q & A with IVF Goddess

Headline:

In Vitro Fertility Goddess

Hometown:

Brisbane, Australia

Read My Forum Posts Because:

They're funny

Read This Book:

In Vitro Fertility Goddess

Favorite Things:

Writing

Blog / Website / Homepage:

http://invitrofertilitygoddess.com