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Ladysmith, VA

Terrible tantrums

Thank you HildaB and Don'tDoIt, thank you for understanding and being willing to be more aware. Most of us who parent autistic children make awareness our number2 prioity in life, right after caring for our children. Its nice when people are open to changing how they view childrens' behavior for a less judgemental perspective. I will admit I used to be the same way, I used to think that children were "brats" when they were acting up in a grocery store. And I am embarrassed to admit I even thought it about my own child before the diagnosis. But now I take a look back and rather than brat being my default judgement, I think perhaps the child is autistic or developmentally delayed, or possibly maybe really distressed over a parents' divorce. It makes it a lot easier to show compassion. I so rarely get someone lending me a hand when I am out in public. In addition to my daughter being autistic my almost three year old has ADHD. Going out with them is rough. I have moments where they are both trying to run out into the street. The autistic one usually because she is so distressed and my toddler because he is so active and instead of offering to help, people glare at me and whisper in my direction. Its hurtful and it does nothing but make the situation worse. I ask of anyone who may be willing when you see a parent or caretaker struggling please see if you can assist them in any way, in the very least offer a smile, it will help the parent relax and be better able to resolve the situation. Also, please try to remember that 95% of autistic children are of the high functioing variety, meaning that you wouldn't be outwardly aware that they are autistic. And the stats are now 1 in 86 boys and the girl stats are too hard to figure out as they are often go undiagnoses. I thank you again for allowing me to share and for being so open minded.  (Mar 7, 2008 | post #26)

Ladysmith, VA

Terrible tantrums

Wow. Are you serious, Lisa Gi? Do you have any experiences with special needs children more specifically children with autism? My daughter has autism. She is high functioning,so no she's not like Rainman. You probably wouldn't guess she was autistic unless you knew a lot about autism or was the parent of an autistic child. She would just seem "odd" to you and probably like a "brat". But she isn't a brat and I didn't go looking for a label for her misbehavior. In fact its the typr of "misbehavior " that indicates a problem. When my daughter's tantrums lasted for hours no matter what I did and when they continued long past the age at which is was acceptable I knew something was wrong. Your post is ignorant and dismissive. I suppose you are one of "those people" who stare with disgust at my daughter as she has a meltdown over apparently nothing in Walmart. I guess you are one of "those people" who tell me that I should spank her more or discipline her better. What you don't know is that she is autistic and that maybe the flickering of the fluorescent lights in stores is painful to her. You don't know that she CAN'T control herself, its not a choice for her and it has nothing to do with her raising. Next time you see a child throwing a temper tantrum rather than gettting all self righteous and judgemental how about having some compassion. Give that mother who is struggling a smile or a kind word rather than a nasty look. It really could make a difference.  (Mar 6, 2008 | post #18)

Ladysmith, VA

Walmart???????

In Lake Caroline there are only about 960 homes, I think that Lake Landor has a bit more.Pendleton only has 29 homes right now and Ladysmith Village has a little over a hundred I believe, when it is done it will have 3170 homes. I don't think there are 12000 homes yet in a 12 mile radius. I think we have a ways to go before we hit 12000.  (Jan 13, 2008 | post #12)

Ladysmith, VA

schools are going K-5 in fall 08

And thank you for your acknowledgements. :) I am sure that when you and your wife do have children you two will be movers and shakers for the schools like you seem to be for our county. I always love to hear about people caring about the direction our county goes. We need to move forward, progress is a good thing. :)  (Dec 17, 2007 | post #6)

Ladysmith, VA

schools are going K-5 in fall 08

Eric, I agree with you completely about how they should go about rebuilding the county schools. It is an ideal and I believe less costly solution than what the county has planned. It is a solution that has been proposed to the school board but for some reason they won't even look into it. The parents of this county have begged for new schools and/or renovating the existing schools for years and until a massive movement last year our concerns were not heard. They are still largely unheard. They make promises but then wind up spending the money elsewhere. It gets to be quite frustrating. You know what is really sad? That the school board supposedly didn't even know that the schools were in such poor condition. They thought that all the parents were exaggerating the problem until they finally toured the schools last spring. Why aren't our school board members regularly touring the schools? I personally know of over a dozen families that actually moved out of the area due to our schools and I know of several who enrolled their children in private schools instead.  (Dec 17, 2007 | post #5)

Ladysmith, VA

schools are going K-5 in fall 08

As someone whose children would be zoned to go to the old school and whose children did attend LPS yes, I would prefer them to wait until 09-10 to switch to K-5 configuration. What the school board promised us was that LPS would remain pre-K-2 and the new school would be 3-5 until ALL schools in the county were up to par. That isn't going to happen by next September. Have you ever been inside LPS? Its not just a matter of slapping on some new paint. The school is in HORRIBLE condition. There is mold, the bathrooms are falling apart, the school is dingy and poorly lit. Its old, there isn't really much that can be done to it at this point. They need to tear it down and rebuild it. It should have never been allowed to get in the condition its in now. You are one of the lucky ones your child/children will get to attend the new school,so it doesn't matter to you the condition the rest of the county's schools are in. My children have horrible allergies, one has to go weekly for injections and they missed so much school last year due to the school building making them sick. They attend a new school now and they haven't been sick once. As for opening the school for the fifth graders its a waste of money. They will have to run the heater/ac at much warmer temps in the winter and cooler in the spring than it would have to run if it were empty. Opening the school will require lights and media equipment to be run that wouldn't have to be run if the school was empty. It will also require a kitchen to be in operation and a staff of cafeteria workers. The amount of money that it will take to open that school for just fifth graders could at least make a dent in the money required to renovate the old county schools. The school board simply doesn't get it. The new school is their "baby". The other schools don't matter anymore, that has been made pretty clear over the course of the past year. The school board promised the people of Caroline County on May 21, 2007 that the schools would not be reconfigured until all schools were equal. They lied. Again.  (Dec 16, 2007 | post #3)

Ladysmith, VA

schools are going K-5 in fall 08

At the public hearing in May it was decided that the school configuration would not change to K-5 until all schools were equal. As one could have guessed it was a lie. Starting in fall of 08 the schools will change to K-5. Supposedly in this short amount of time a gymnasium is supposed to be added to LPS, the bathrooms renovated, new ceiling tiles, new paint, etc. etc. Its impossible for all of that to be done by the start of next school year. So, most of Caroline County students will be attending school daily in delapidated buildings and a small very lucky few will get a state of the art top of the line school. There will be no way for the two groups to compete academically once they meet up again in middle school. And to add to the fun, the school board has also decided to move the fifth graders into the new school after winter break in January 08. What a waste of funds. Does Caroline county really have enough money to operate an entire school just for fifth graders? This means money going toward heating/cooling the new school, cafeteria workers, janitorial staff, electric, etc. The school board is always complaining about lack of money to get our old schools renovated, it seems to me that they don't allocate their funds wisely.  (Dec 12, 2007 | post #1)

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