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The struggles of a single black woman in Atlanta

I recently started talking to a man for about 3 months. We hit it off pretty well, it seemed. I introduced me to all his friends and I hit it off with them also. He also accidentally met my parents in a run in and he felt cool about it and even liked them. We always had communication issues because he works 12 hours a day and is a model with casting calls. Sometimes he would call a day and a 1/2 after I would call, but I knew that he was tired. I always told him that I needed more attention though which he said he'll work on and he did. Suddenly, I hit a brick wall. He has a roommate. I asked his roommate should I pop up for my beau's birthday or do you think he doesn't like me that way yet. He starts by saying that when he first saw me he told him I was WAY too good for him. he said that he is a compulsive liar. he tries girls just to test run them and hangs them out to dry. he uses women, one girl recently bought him an IPAD and he's been driving other women's cars around. the only reason he was telling me this, he says, was because he thinks it's disgusting. He said that he can hear the sex noises from him to other room. I told him we NEVER had any intercourse. He doesn't ask me to and he knows I don't believe the premarital. He said that's why it's a surprise he has you around. And he says that he probably sees me as a way to get out of his current situation. Then he begins to tell me that he owns the house he stays in and that my beau is actually homeless and appears out of no where. When he first came there that he had to give him underwear to sleep in. he said he figures out new things about him everyday like his real name and the fact that he had felonies. i figured this out on my own too, which i thought was scary until he explained. he told me that the person I am talking to could be a closet gay and that he used to have strange men in and out all the time and he had to ask him not to bring them over anymore. he says that he seems sickly and told him to be tested multiple times, but the person i'm dating told me he was tested a yr ago. his roommate says he don't think so. i SNAPPED on the person i am dating and told him to never contact me again. he said whatever ok, whatever you say. later, he gave me a chance to explain and i told him only 1/2 the truth. I NEVER told him that it was his roommate for the fear of him being thrown out. He told me, yes he's had girls over, but that was in the past. he said he was single of course he would do things like that, but other than that he says he's been faithful and loyal and has been trying his best to comply to whatever i have thrown at him. i couldn't shake what has been said so I told him we shall remain friends. I later called and the roommate told me that I have a messiah, captain save a hoe complex. he also stated that my beau thought i was needy (which i'm not: have my own car, house, job, and business), i called plenty this week because of all this craziness. he told me that i should have not made assumptions and searched for things i didn't want to know.he said that i probably made the wrong decision and missed out on a good person. AFTER I BROKE IT OFF WITH THE GUY. then, at the end of this. i figure out the roommate is gay. he made a statement like,"if he was straight he couldn't live with me. he a little girl boy" the day before. i paid no mind. Now I'm thinking, why would a guy put guy code to jeapordy like that? why would he care to tell me this? why would a 27 yr old man room with a 32 year old man in Atlanta, GA (DL city of the world) WTH should I do?!?! run? or stay? His other friend told me that his roommate is probably just crazy and I should tell the guy immediately to give him a head's up. I really don't want to get back in there. I left him 3 messages to contact me because I felt bad for not telling him the truth (i only told him about the girl part and that I heard it from a girl). ugh  (Jul 13, 2013 | post #1)

Marion, NC

What should I do as a woman? (black male relationship drama)

I recently started talking to a man for about 3 months. We hit it off pretty well, it seemed. I introduced me to all his friends and I hit it off with them also. He also accidentally met my parents in a run in and he felt cool about it and even liked them. We always had communication issues because he works 12 hours a day and is a model with casting calls. Sometimes he would call a day and a 1/2 after I would call, but I knew that he was tired. I always told him that I needed more attention though which he said he'll work on and he did. Suddenly, I hit a brick wall. He has a roommate. I asked his roommate should I pop up for my beau's birthday or do you think he doesn't like me that way yet. He starts by saying that when he first saw me he told him I was WAY too good for him (being attractive and smart). he said that he is a compulsive liar. he tries girls just to test run them and hangs them out to dry. he uses women, one girl recently bought him an IPAD and he's been driving other women's cars around. the only reason he was telling me this, he says, was because he thinks it's disgusting. He said that he can hear the sex noises from him to other room. I told him we NEVER had any intercourse. He doesn't ask me to and he knows I don't believe the premarital. He said that's why it's a surprise he has you around. And he says that he probably sees me as a way to get out of his current situation. Then he begins to tell me that he owns the house he stays in and that my beau is actually homeless and appears out of no where. When he first came there that he had to give him underwear to sleep in. he said he figures out new things about him everyday like his real name and the fact that he had felonies. i figured this out on my own too, which i thought was scary until he explained. he told me that the person I am talking to could be a closet gay and that he used to have strange men in and out all the time and he had to ask him not to bring them over anymore. he says that he seems sickly and told him to be tested multiple times, but the person i'm dating told me he was tested a yr ago. his roommate says he don't think so. i SNAPPED on the person i am dating and told him to never contact me again. he said whatever ok, whatever you say. later, he gave me a chance to explain and i told him only 1/2 the truth. I NEVER told him that it was his roommate for the fear of him being thrown out. He told me, yes he's had girls over, but that was in the past. he said he was single of course he would do things like that, but other than that he says he's been faithful and loyal and has been trying his best to comply to whatever i have thrown at him. i couldn't shake what has been said so I told him we shall remain friends. I later called and the roommate told me that I have a messiah, captain save a hoe complex. he also stated that my beau thought i was needy (which i'm not: have my own car, house, job, and business), i called plenty this week because of all this craziness. he told me that i should have not made assumptions and searched for things i didn't want to know.he said that i probably made the wrong decision and missed out on a good person. AFTER I BROKE IT OFF WITH THE GUY. then, at the end of this. i figure out the roommate is gay. he made a statement like,"if he was straight he couldn't live with me. he a little girl boy" the day before. i paid no mind. Now I'm thinking, why would a guy put guy code to jeapordy like that? why would he care to tell me this? why would a 27 yr old man room with a 32 year old man in Atlanta, GA (DL city of the world) WTH should I do?!?! run? or stay? His other friend told me that his roommate is probably just crazy and I should tell the guy immediately to give him a head's up. I really don't want to get back in there. I left him 3 messages to contact me because I felt bad for not telling him the truth (i only told him about the girl part and that I heard it from a girl). ugh  (Jul 13, 2013 | post #1)