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Columbus, OH

Xenos Christian Fellowship is a CULT!

The above post was meant as a response to a post other than the one above it so just ignore it.  (Apr 2, 2013 | post #421)

Columbus, OH

Xenos Christian Fellowship is a CULT!

All I can say is BRAVO! What a great analogy.  (Apr 2, 2013 | post #420)

Columbus, OH

Xenos Christian Fellowship is a CULT!

I agree with you Ann. As I have mentioned previously, I attended Xenos and did appreciate several of the teachings. Clearly these are generally a well intended group of people, however when such a significant number of people who are familiar with the "cult like features" have expressed concern about the matter then I think this should serve as a red flag. The idea of what is referred to as "church dicipline and church authority" is not a unique concept. How this concept is interpreted may vary according to the churches who practice it. However it is implimented, there should be no doubt that love, compassion and understanding should be exercised to the fullest because this is the heart of Christianity. To love one another and do unto other's as you would have them do unto you is the very foundation of the Christian faith. I agree with you when you say that it sometimes takes years for people to work through personal difficulties. In some instances the only way a person can work through their issues is under the care of a therapist. Professional therapists are experts on human behavior and issues and they know that it is not unusual for long periods of time to pass while someone is working through difficulties and because of this one of the key features of the therapeutic setting is patience on the part of the therapist. The group leaders at Xenos while well intended are NOT trained therapists. They do not hold doctorate degrees in psychology or social work and therefore are unqualified to attempt to force certain decisions on people who are struggling with difficulties that require a professional approach. One thing I can tell you is that the practice of kicking someone out of the group/church might possibly be the worst thing. So I agree that sticking beside someone who is hurting and confused about what course to take with regard to personal issues is the most common sense approach and the most loving thing to do for a fellow church friend. There's an old saying that flys are easier to catch with honey than vinegar. While this in no way suggests that condoning certain behaviors/choices that a person in the group has made or is involved in, it does mean that offering patient loving support to the individual as a person in their own right might get certain results much more quickly than ostracizing them which more often than not causes bitterness and a sense that those who were counted on have acted as hypocrites. In certain situations this can be very painful and may distance the victim even further to the degree that they no longer want to attend any church. I can tell you for a fact that I know of at least two individuals who this has happened to.  (Apr 2, 2013 | post #418)

Columbus, OH

Xenos Christian Fellowship is a CULT!

Just because someone has made a committment to join a small group or cell group does not give permission to the small group leaders and other group members to run the loves of it's members. They also do not have the right to emotionally abuse their fellow group members by ostracizing or shunning them if they choose of their own free will to continue in a relationship that the groups deems as somehow wrong or sexual in nature. While giving some well intented and sought after advice from a member who seeks it because he or she in struggling is one thing, however pressuring someone to act against his own concience or go against what should ultimately be between him and God is wrong. This is a control technique often used by cults and it is not becoming of a Christian, The best thing that a group leader can do for someone is to offer kind Christian council, (if it is asked for) and pray that the person will be guided by God in all his decisions and in his or her own time do what is right under the circumstances.  (Mar 21, 2013 | post #401)