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Are Men Opting Out Relationships??

In retrospect, though she in some respects, was far ahead of me on the maturation continuum; I should have exercised some or most of those expressive needs before we got married, which was one year removed from college graduation. I realized ( and she later admitted) that a great deal of her her angst were exacerbated by the fact that I was a professional athlete with all the travel and exposure away from her. So, our divergent expectations and fears, mist certainly had some of it's genesis from the unhealthy morass of that situation as well as our youth. And though I did verbalize my issues, I too was probably ineffective as an emotional communicator being behind on the maturation curb. However, my marriage did not leave me psychologically tattered and torn, it's just that have become way too comfortable in my solitude and can't imagine changing things at this stage of the game; particularly since I've already made my genetic contributions to the future.  (Feb 3, 2015 | post #103)

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Are Men Opting Out Relationships??

But of course. A multitude of times. She would consent verbally, but not emotionally....... which was quite legible. She and l are great friends now after having raised our kids, and she readily acknowledges that part.  (Feb 3, 2015 | post #98)

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Are Men Opting Out Relationships??

Having tested the empirical waters of marriage,; I would never do it again. Ironically, my marriage of nearly ten years had more wonderful moments than not, but I found the institution and it's rules counter to my nature and far too constraining to my self expression and determination. There were many times where I resented her for my having to secure her EMOTIONALLY permission to do the things that were for my masculine enjoyment (e.g. attend a fight in Vegas with the fellows etc..). I woke up one day and realized that my social mobility was no longer dictated by myself, but by her insecurities. And although I was an excellent provider for the wife and kids with plenty in reserve, I resented missing out on some great entrepreneurs and investment opportunities because she was generally of the "bird in the hand" mentality and lacked spatial aptitude in regards to understanding these opportunities and was basically risk-adverse. Of course, when I ignored her trepidations and fears; went at it along, succeeded; she enjoyed the fruits with an unreserved sense of entitlement. As I mentioned, I resented having to secure her emotional permission, lest she pout and started vibrating on a negative frequency whenever I digressed too far from the conventional script; leaving me oftentimes feeling like a rented mule. These feelings were not about my obligation to provide a wonderful material, psychological and emotional existence for her and the kids, but rather about my losing a sense of self outside of those things, feeling indentured and constrained when it came to my right to sovereign masculine expression. I'm glad that I had the experience but I would not do it again. My solitude is far too precious to ever exchange it for marriage.  (Feb 3, 2015 | post #96)

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white man tom brady wins the super bowl

Look at this unaccomplished, undistinguished parasite attaching himself to the host body of someone else so they he can make some exponential claim to having achieved something in life. Too funny! However, if you are going to make such an idiotic claim, finish off the equation with...."it takes a stupid white man to lose the Super Bowl with the dumbest play anyone has ever seen by not giving the ball to Lynch a few yards from a win when he is nearly impossible to stop for two yards. You intellectually low hanging fruit white boys are always trying to have it both ways!  (Feb 1, 2015 | post #51)

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Are Black Women actually Loyal to Black men?

Whether we like it or not, people are preponderantly motivated by their own self interest. The only time that you hear the invocation of black women's "loyalty " by black women is when they are suffering some kind of socioeconomic deficit; otherwise, they are usually in competition mode with black men: "we've got more degrees than bm, we're doing better than they are, more of them are in prison etc.." Of course, there are always a finite number of exceptions to the rule, but this loyalty that they speak of in the collective is little more than an urban myth. Black women, like all others, are opportunistic beings in search of personal happiness and fulfillment, and their loyalties are aligned with those interest, wherever they may lie. One can live amongst other blacks, date and marry another blacks, yet, still not be loyal to the black collective outside of their personal interest. From where I cognitively stand, the invocation of their loyalty is little more than a psychological control device on their part designed to justify their entitlements to black man's productivity and romance as their default option to their own productivity and romantic needs. There is little, if anything, in our contemporary circumstances that bears evidence or support this claim of loyalty. Of course, black women could argue the same in reverse, but I rarely, if ever, hear black men as a collective make similar claims.  (Feb 1, 2015 | post #252)

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economy adds 230K jobs in october 2014

Yes, demand in the technology sector is growing, but that is a specialized sector which only occupies a small percentage of those monthly job creation numbers that jellyroll cited. Your home doubled in value because of both the Mortgage Backed Security (MBS) asset purchase program by the Federal Reserve as an economic stimulus and because the big Hedge Fund guys (BlackStone etc..) are all over the country buying up single family and multi-family residents. They know that when the impending crash happens, renting will be a way to secure their 10% ROI. So real estate values...especiall y in California are artificially inflated and not based on non government involved consumer demand. As far as the US dollar is concerned, any number of things could precipitate a massive depreciation or sell off. In fact, that is the very source of much of the conflict around the world today because the US is fighting to preserve our status as the currency of international settlement. Should that change, along with our losing the petro-dollar, we would see third world living standards in the US overnight as a result of the massive inflation it would cause. The dollar has strengthen recently because of all the capital flight out of the war zones and the countries of near and defaulting debtors, but our position is still tenuous because of the Brics nations and other countries doing bilateral international deals excluding the USD. The collapse in oil prices is a strategic geopolitical move orchestrated by the US and her allies (the EU and Saudia Arabia). In perilous times like these, you are either with us or against us. This deliberate destruction of the price of oil is just a rinse and repeat of what we did to destroy the old Soviet Union. Seventy-five percent of Russia's budget is based on projected oil and gas sales at around $104 a barrel. By destroying the price of oil, we kill their revenue, creating downward pressure on the ruble, compelling them to spend their foreign currency and gold reserves to protect the ruble's exchange value and their economy from collapses, effectively bankrupting them. No money, no military aggression and expansion. Saudia Arabia is complying because of decrease US and world demand for oil (because of shale production), and they don't want to give up the coveted US market share, so they offered us a special ppb much to the chagrin of other the OPEC members (Nigeria, Venezuela etc.. are taking a blood bath) , sinking the brent price to it's current levels. Also, if Russia, their oil exporting competitors are crippled, they benefit from in, so they see it as a win- win. Those domestic issues you mentioned are nothing but political theater; false paradigms of right and left who actually serve the same masters (special interest), fighting over the scraps lying on the floor beneath the table; so I want delve into that.  (Nov 6, 2014 | post #21)

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Why do some black women place higher standards on black m...

I'm not going to be mean, because clearly you are young and have only been outside of your parents protective custody for a couple of years and your every utterance attest to that fact. Your entire rant is emotional and conceived in your obvious contempt, antipathy and unabashed hatred for black men.....but that sounds like a personal problem to me and has nothing to do with our reality. Do you realize how silly you sound talking about "the last time you checked black men do not have trust fund or any money on the side?" How exactly would you check and verify the existence of someone's trust fund? How would you establish that black men do not have money? I mean really.....you are being silly! Black men in America have a 25,000 per capita net worth compared to black women who are at $5.00. Mind you, 25k is not much, but it's way more than 5 dollars. What this means is that every dollar that a black woman earns with the exception of $5.00 there is already an existing claim on that money by her creditors. And in this real world where the sky is oxygen-coated blue, truth doesn't cease to be true just because it's uncongenial to your emotional sensibilities. In the end, I truly hope that you find that white knight to fend and provide for you because you clearly will need it. I am not the source of your hatred for black men, nor do I see my reflection in your ridiculous assertions, nonetheless, I hope that fate and time eventually dispossess you of your spiritually corrosive angst.  (Nov 6, 2014 | post #28)