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Do you enjoy pillow talk?

LOL. Yah sumone used my name for a poll too. Why are they doing that?  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #2)

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Why is it wrong for a woman to have a career?

Okay I read the whole thing. And I agree. I don't think it's wrong for a women to have a career as long as she understands that if she chooses to have a family her career can not still be her main priority. Personally I'm not career-orientated. Though I have a very nice job right now, it's not something I plan to do for a very long time. My hobby is to write, and that will be my career once I marry. But still even then my family would be my MAIN focus. I value family, and relationships more than I value a career. It's just not in my nature--I've tried to be career orientated but for some reason it hasn't worked out.  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #21)

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Why is it wrong for a woman to have a career?

How many 23 year old men are in positions to support women or even WANT to? LOL I'm sorry I couldn't read the rest. I just spazzed out.  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #20)

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Why is it wrong for a woman to have a career?

Thank you. :-)  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #17)

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Brothers what do you think of this Latina?

C/S! I feel sorry for his gf. he obviously has no remorse for his actions. Its been a week since that thread about cheating on his gf with a latina, and now THIS? WTF is up with him. Now I do hope the gf leaves his trifling ass. SMH  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #30)

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Why is it wrong for a woman to have a career?

Hi Knoxxie how is your book doing? Whats the name of it? I'm also writing a novel right now. Let me know how the book is doing! :-)  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #13)

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Do Educated, Good Job Toting Black Women Have Chance for ...

Half of the people posting in this thread are trolls.  (Sep 19, 2009 | post #290)

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I (wm) need the in sight of the bw Here

LOL  (Sep 18, 2009 | post #36)

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you aint cute, thats why!

And maybe that's why you don't have a boyfriend(I know you were upset about that earlier this year). Not picking on you, but I'm just saying... But I agree with you about the "good" men comment. A lot of people(men and women) are tripping lately about mates... It isn't just in black americans', I've noticed it happening among other races too. Marriage rates are declining for most people, and divorce is high, and MOST people aren't happy even with their degrees, jobs, etc. It's really sad how people have become. 2012.  (Sep 18, 2009 | post #39)

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you aint cute, thats why!

Agreed. That is an issue some bw are having. They are allowing things that DON'T matter to men to be the DEFINING factors to why they are entitled to having certain husbands/boyfriend s. It doesn't matter if your: college educated, a virgin, cute, in shape, have a degree, a good job--if you aren't humble, feminine, sweet, giving, loving, reasonable, and maternal then men will only see you as a bang and that is it. That is the difference between wifey and buddy. Too many Bw always say "I got this degree, this job, I work out, I'm polished and I want my man to be the same, why can't I find him? It's the same thing. Also on another issue, a lot of bw also tend to let these things(degree, occupation, money, looks, height, weight, background, etc) distract them from meeting potentially nice men who may not come with the total package but nonetheless will love them and do everything they can to be good husbands. I have noticed couples where the woman seems ugly, and the man is attractive and you wonder why is he with her? Why? Because in the end it was her heart, her personality and her love that won his heart not how she looked or how much she earned. Just a thought.  (Sep 18, 2009 | post #38)

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Do Educated, Good Job Toting Black Women Have Chance for ...

I agree with this as a whole, I've noticed this too. But I think the reason this happens, is because a lot of us are always having to prove ourselves to white folks. The more educated you are, the more you have to prove. You have to prove that you are upscale, sophisticated, intelligent, cultured, informed etc. And YOU want to be as polished as you can be, because it comes with the package. You have the nice job, the qualifications, the money, and you want someone that can ADD to that, not take away from it. It really makes sense. And for black women it makes MORE sense, because as a whole black people--men and women included, are always having to prove themselves worthy, not only to others but to themselves. And BW especially, feel the need to prove themselves not only to white folks, but to black men. And that's a completely different issue. But I'm sure BM feel the same way, the only difference is that it's okay for BM to toot their horn about their accomplishments because it's seen as masculine. But Bw are doing it too, and it's a turn off. The other issue is that there is a clear gender role confusion going on. A lot of bw do define themselves by the same attributes that men define themselves when listing why they are a good mate. I think in a way, WW do it too, but not to the extreme because WW have way more options when it comes to men. Generally WM(and not bashing BM) have it together more in terms of education, occupation, and family values. So WW don't have the same tedious weeding out process as BW do, and it isn't AS hard to find men who can live up their expectations. It's a different story for BW. But then again the same goes for BM. In general it can be argued that WW may not be having as hard of a time, despite their education, and high standards--because in general they are still more humble about them and more carefree. Which makes WM feel more secure as men, and which means the women seem less threatening and more marriagable. Where as BW, well I hate to say it, but a lot of us have issues being humble, being carefree, and learning not to be overly materialistic in the getting to know you process. There is a way to "weed" out men, without being outright with it. Lisa Raye was an example of the "unhumble " BW. LOL. Anyway, to each their own. I;ve learned to be more humble when it comes to men, and I hate to say it but I learned it from my friendships with WW and WM.  (Sep 18, 2009 | post #167)