Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1165 Jan 28, 2012
I am new to this forum and just read other comments- Having been to gambia a lot in the last few years I have noticed that there are a lot of UK men and women young and old who go there to pick up sexual partners and get drunk - I have witnessed it and I think it is disgusting. Why do people from the UK act so disrespectfully in an islamic country BUT it is also so so sad that the gambians latch onto this as a way of making a living - lots very wrong with all of this!!!!

“Justice and Equality for all”

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#1166 Jan 28, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
I am new to this forum and just read other comments- Having been to gambia a lot in the last few years I have noticed that there are a lot of UK men and women young and old who go there to pick up sexual partners and get drunk - I have witnessed it and I think it is disgusting. Why do people from the UK act so disrespectfully in an islamic country BUT it is also so so sad that the gambians latch onto this as a way of making a living - lots very wrong with all of this!!!!
I just replied to you on another thread and told you which thread that you can put his name up for all to see and hopefully people will take note or even know of him. Yes, it's true, there is a lot of sex tourism there due to poverty and wanting a better life, it's also the old european men that do it and it is very noticable if you walk down the senegambia strip or go to Ali Baba Gardens , it's a real eye opener. Were you very wary when you first met your husband and had you heard the stories or did you totally trust him? There is lots wrong on both sides and some of this forum is an education. Sorry you had to go through it but MOST people are helpful and non-judgemental here and as for the others, take no notice. Your friends seem to have judged you harshly but girls/women on here who have been through a bad Gambian Experience will empathise and hope this can be a place for you to vent a bit.

“Justice and Equality for all”

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#1167 Jan 28, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
I was stupid enough to marry a gambian- after 12 years on my own I was happy and doing well with career and socially. As a result I have lost my friends in the uk, he has got me into serious debt and my life is in pieces!!!I now feel so very stupid and niave for falling for all of it. there is so much more to this story ... but please please be careful ladies. dont end up like me!!!!
Oh, and please don't call yourself stupid - some of these guys could win an oscar they're that convincing. If your friends were your true friends they would have stood by you. How about family? Everyone makes mistakes, you are not to blame for putting your trust in someone.

Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1168 Jan 28, 2012
LemonSweet wrote:
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Oh, and please don't call yourself stupid - some of these guys could win an oscar they're that convincing. If your friends were your true friends they would have stood by you. How about family? Everyone makes mistakes, you are not to blame for putting your trust in someone.
My friends and family turn against me including my 20 and 21yr old kids- I am now completely on my own except for the debt I got from my husband which wil take years to pay off. I marryied for love and committment and was willing to give up everything in uk to be with him in gambia and completely change my lifestyle for the better- yes I know gambia is very different- have been in rainy season many times and know exactly what its like- but I wanted to be with the man I married (for the rest of my life)no matter what - BUT he is a fraud - not even a bumster - at least they admit to what they are doing to a certain degree - but my husband (as was) is in a different league!!!we could have had a good life together in gambia - basic but happy and he would have been better off and running his own business with me beside him - thats why I was stupid to believe in this!!!

Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1169 Jan 28, 2012
LemonSweet wrote:
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I just replied to you on another thread and told you which thread that you can put his name up for all to see and hopefully people will take note or even know of him. Yes, it's true, there is a lot of sex tourism there due to poverty and wanting a better life, it's also the old european men that do it and it is very noticable if you walk down the senegambia strip or go to Ali Baba Gardens , it's a real eye opener. Were you very wary when you first met your husband and had you heard the stories or did you totally trust him? There is lots wrong on both sides and some of this forum is an education. Sorry you had to go through it but MOST people are helpful and non-judgemental here and as for the others, take no notice. Your friends seem to have judged you harshly but girls/women on here who have been through a bad Gambian Experience will empathise and hope this can be a place for you to vent a bit.
Thank you so much - will check other threads - I have also started a thread about mansea beach hotel!!!- there is lots wrong there!!! I find the whole tourist sex thing SOSO disgusting - its not just the men its the women as well- and not just older men and women - I have only ever been on holiday to have a rest - not for sex or 1 night stands - have never done this in my life!!!!!!!

“Justice and Equality for all”

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#1170 Jan 28, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
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My friends and family turn against me including my 20 and 21yr old kids- I am now completely on my own except for the debt I got from my husband which wil take years to pay off. I marryied for love and committment and was willing to give up everything in uk to be with him in gambia and completely change my lifestyle for the better- yes I know gambia is very different- have been in rainy season many times and know exactly what its like- but I wanted to be with the man I married (for the rest of my life)no matter what - BUT he is a fraud - not even a bumster - at least they admit to what they are doing to a certain degree - but my husband (as was) is in a different league!!!we could have had a good life together in gambia - basic but happy and he would have been better off and running his own business with me beside him - thats why I was stupid to believe in this!!!
Hi there, I'm a bit confused. Alex 118 who you named on the Cheating Gambian Men - he is someone different? Not the man you married?
A lot of horror stories of women selling up everything to go and live in The Gambia, check what BeatThe System said about her friend. The stories are endless. Doesn't planning to go back there bring back painful memories or are you trying to get back what is yours? I think personally that I would need a break from The Gambia after your traumas. I'd probably want to go somewhere totally different. But that's me.

“The truth shall set you free.”

Since: Sep 11

Sutton Coldfield, UK

#1171 Jan 29, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
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Thank you so much - will check other threads - I have also started a thread about mansea beach hotel!!!- there is lots wrong there!!! I find the whole tourist sex thing SOSO disgusting - its not just the men its the women as well- and not just older men and women - I have only ever been on holiday to have a rest - not for sex or 1 night stands - have never done this in my life!!!!!!!
can i ask how many times you have been to gambia?

Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1172 Jan 29, 2012
Tutti K wrote:
<quoted text>can i ask how many times you have been to gambia?
I have been 12 or 13 times - I do love the country and most of the people are lovely - there is something really special about it- its just a few that spoil it and give the country a bad name!

Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1173 Jan 29, 2012
LemonSweet wrote:
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Hi there, I'm a bit confused. Alex 118 who you named on the Cheating Gambian Men - he is someone different? Not the man you married?
A lot of horror stories of women selling up everything to go and live in The Gambia, check what BeatThe System said about her friend. The stories are endless. Doesn't planning to go back there bring back painful memories or are you trying to get back what is yours? I think personally that I would need a break from The Gambia after your traumas. I'd probably want to go somewhere totally different. But that's me.
Alex118 is not my husband- just someone I had the misfortune to come across!I have not been back for a while and have no plans to return soon. I am sorting things out from the UK and have no intention of chasing him for money - as there is no point and will cause me more stress and possibly put me in danger. He has to live with what he has done and will answer to God at the end of the day. I just want to prevent others getting into the same situation as me!

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#1174 Jan 29, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
I am new to this forum and just read other comments- Having been to gambia a lot in the last few years I have noticed that there are a lot of UK men and women young and old who go there to pick up sexual partners and get drunk - I have witnessed it and I think it is disgusting. Why do people from the UK act so disrespectfully in an islamic country BUT it is also so so sad that the gambians latch onto this as a way of making a living - lots very wrong with all of this!!!!
Stating the obvious, but..
Just as not all gambians are scammers, so not all visitors to gambia are going there for sex..
The gambian scammer would maybe excuse himself/ herself by , for example, assuming that all europeans are 'easy' or stupid' and get what they deserve...or that they have the right to scam europeans because of past 'wrongs' visited on africans by europeans.. and/ or they are doing it for the benefit of their families.
Some visitors would assume all gambians are scammers because of the actions of some, and be suspicious of all of them..
In your situation, it wasn't fair on you if the guy you had the experience with thought like that..
You were two individuals in a relationship, never mind the external factors influencing you both.. you both had a responsibility to be respectful and loving in that relationship , and it sounds like he let you down.. You are not to blame for that.

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#1175 Jan 29, 2012
Selma wrote:
Karen Edwards Sanneh. Regular visitor to the Gambia where she stays for six weeks at a time at the Mansea Beach Hotel.
Has been arrested on numerous occasions for violent attacks on other guests at the Mansea Beach hotel.
Is known to the British Consulate who have a file on her, as has the Senegambia Police.
Brags her son was in the SAS :) and that he tracked down Saddam Hussein lol She lives in a fantasy world :)( if he is or was in the SAS he must be deeply ashamed of his old slapper of a mother).
Returns drunk from the Ali Baba bar with different bumsters and attacks iother guests.
Avoid this hotel and avoid this woman. She is a nasty piece of work who should be banned from the Gambia.
This ugly violent foul mouthed old woman in her 60's gives Britain a bad name.
Give up!!..

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#1176 Jan 29, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
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My friends and family turn against me including my 20 and 21yr old kids- I am now completely on my own except for the debt I got from my husband which wil take years to pay off. I marryied for love and committment and was willing to give up everything in uk to be with him in gambia and completely change my lifestyle for the better- yes I know gambia is very different- have been in rainy season many times and know exactly what its like- but I wanted to be with the man I married (for the rest of my life)no matter what - BUT he is a fraud - not even a bumster - at least they admit to what they are doing to a certain degree - but my husband (as was) is in a different league!!!we could have had a good life together in gambia - basic but happy and he would have been better off and running his own business with me beside him - thats why I was stupid to believe in this!!!
I'm so sorry to hear your family have not supported you, especially your children, that must hurt a lot.. you risked everything to be with him.. its bad enough that people lose out financially and suffer emotionally from the actual breakdown in the relationship, never mind your own support network letting you down..
But this is the risk in doing a 'shirley valentine'.. in a cross cultural relationship we do lay everything on the line for the other person.
I hope in time your family come to understand your predicament ..
i'm sure you need them now more than ever.
Sometimes scammers are fools to themselves..

Since: Jan 12

Lytham, UK

#1177 Jan 29, 2012
Beatthesystem wrote:
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I'm so sorry to hear your family have not supported you, especially your children, that must hurt a lot.. you risked everything to be with him.. its bad enough that people lose out financially and suffer emotionally from the actual breakdown in the relationship, never mind your own support network letting you down..
But this is the risk in doing a 'shirley valentine'.. in a cross cultural relationship we do lay everything on the line for the other person.
I hope in time your family come to understand your predicament ..
i'm sure you need them now more than ever.
Sometimes scammers are fools to themselves..
Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts- it is much apprectiated !
Katja

Banjul, Gambia

#1178 Jan 31, 2012
I want to name a bumster called Alladin who married a British lady last week.

What she does not know is he already has a Gambian g/friend who he asked to be3 bridesmaid at the wedding.

He is using the British lady as an ATM to fund his lazy lifestyle and pay for his Gambian wedding in six month'stime.

No one has told this poor woman the truth. She send this guy money for his rent etc.

They say love is blind, this is a classic case of this being so true.

“Justice and Equality for all”

Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#1179 Jan 31, 2012
Katja wrote:
I want to name a bumster called Alladin who married a British lady last week.
What she does not know is he already has a Gambian g/friend who he asked to be3 bridesmaid at the wedding.
He is using the British lady as an ATM to fund his lazy lifestyle and pay for his Gambian wedding in six month'stime.
No one has told this poor woman the truth. She send this guy money for his rent etc.
They say love is blind, this is a classic case of this being so true.
How do you know so much, Katya? If u know her, why don't you tell her what's going on - it would be more useful than telling US, don't you think?

“The truth shall set you free.”

Since: Sep 11

Sutton Coldfield, UK

#1180 Jan 31, 2012
Katja wrote:
I want to name a bumster called Alladin who married a British lady last week.
What she does not know is he already has a Gambian g/friend who he asked to be3 bridesmaid at the wedding.
He is using the British lady as an ATM to fund his lazy lifestyle and pay for his Gambian wedding in six month'stime.
No one has told this poor woman the truth. She send this guy money for his rent etc.
They say love is blind, this is a classic case of this being so true.
hey "kakja" selma/sol309 you really get around, no wonder you can only afford to stay in cheap hotels like the mansea why dont you give this fake posts a rest nobody believes you anymore.

“just move to the left abit !!!”

Since: Jul 10

Location hidden

#1181 Jan 31, 2012
Katja wrote:
I want to name a bumster called Alladin who married a British lady last week.
What she does not know is he already has a Gambian g/friend who he asked to be3 bridesmaid at the wedding.
He is using the British lady as an ATM to fund his lazy lifestyle and pay for his Gambian wedding in six month'stime.
No one has told this poor woman the truth. She send this guy money for his rent etc.
They say love is blind, this is a classic case of this being so true.
a gambian called ALADIN... did he rub his magic lamp & you appear at the banjul civil office to see all.
this is not a shocking story.... it goes on but hopefully not so easy to get to uk anymore...

“free your mind.”

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#1182 Jan 31, 2012
carefulgirl wrote:
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Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts- it is much apprectiated !
I hope they will come round, in time..
and that you have other people you can turn to for support...as well as sharing here..
sf queen bee

Telford, UK

#1183 Feb 19, 2012
michae correa is a lieing cheating weasle he is married to gambian with children also has a girl friend sarah taylor and myself watch out for this man hes no good says hes honest dont cheat he took money from myself and other girls i have since found out many girls are in the frame also so be warned ladies he wears a state uniform acting as a body guard check him out on face book hes just a very very high classic bumster also still trying me now

“i dont stand any crap anymore”

Since: Dec 11

bham

#1184 Feb 19, 2012
sf queen bee wrote:
michae correa is a lieing cheating weasle he is married to gambian with children also has a girl friend sarah taylor and myself watch out for this man hes no good says hes honest dont cheat he took money from myself and other girls i have since found out many girls are in the frame also so be warned ladies he wears a state uniform acting as a body guard check him out on face book hes just a very very high classic bumster also still trying me now
i see on his fb he actually states he,s in a relationship with sarah taylor ,and interested in women .

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