Hi world~ I'm Korean and ask anything~ I'll answer as much as I can

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Since: Oct 11

Namhyangdong, Korea

#1 Oct 7, 2011
Hi.. world~ I'll be happy to answer anything you're curious about. my name is Joseph and new here. I'm supprised to see how world is much curious about Korea. I'm Korean (born and raised) and stayed in the U.S about 5 years as an international student. But I havn't used english for many years (hmmm... 10 years?) so there might be some(or lots of) mistake. Please bear with me.

Thanks and have a nice day~
Kristina

Fort Myers, FL

#2 Oct 8, 2011
Annyounghaseyo Joseph! I was wondering something. I'm currently in college to become a teacher so I can teach english in Korea, but now I'm scared. I don't want to offend you but I've heard that Koreans are racist against black people. Is that true? I'm a first generation Jamaican-American. Would that cause any problems for me in Korea? It would make me very sad if that's true. I want to go there very much.

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#3 Oct 8, 2011
Kristina wrote:
Annyounghaseyo Joseph! I was wondering something. I'm currently in college to become a teacher so I can teach english in Korea, but now I'm scared. I don't want to offend you but I've heard that Koreans are racist against black people. Is that true? I'm a first generation Jamaican-American. Would that cause any problems for me in Korea? It would make me very sad if that's true. I want to go there very much.
Hmmm... I have to say there are racists against black people in Korea. I heard some english institute prefer white people. But more important issue is about your accent. I wonder if you have strong Jamaican accent. I personally had a hard time for my Texan Accounting teacher back in my college year in the U.S. We have English teachers from the U.S, Canada, U.K, and Australia. But I think we still prefer American accent.

Anyway, yes, race does matter to some people. But no not to all.
Jennifer

Belfast, UK

#4 Oct 8, 2011
Hi JosephKim

I love learning about different countries,

I am from London contact me

jemm1001@yahoo.co.uk

we can be pen pals

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#5 Oct 8, 2011
Jennifer wrote:
Hi JosephKim
I love learning about different countries,
I am from London contact me
jemm1001@yahoo.co.uk
we can be pen pals
Thank you. It is good to have a friend around the world.

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#6 Oct 8, 2011
In the U.S, black people suffered long time for racism. But I also heard Pygmies had hard time among other african tribes. Even if they are all white, Irish and Italian had hard time among the WASP. In Asia, East Asians think they are superior over South Eastern Asians. In Korea? we also have discrimination over races and cultures.

So, I say racism is based on ignorance. Majority don't like to loose their control over the society. It's about hunman nature. We just want to take a control over others. Once we have time to understand each other, racism may be faded away.

Still, it is such a stupid, and is so sad to define a person by the color of skin. We all have warm and red blood under the color. It is what we have inside that define us, not what we have outside of us.
Kristina

Fort Myers, FL

#7 Oct 8, 2011
JosephKim wrote:
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Hmmm... I have to say there are racists against black people in Korea. I heard some english institute prefer white people. But more important issue is about your accent. I wonder if you have strong Jamaican accent. I personally had a hard time for my Texan Accounting teacher back in my college year in the U.S. We have English teachers from the U.S, Canada, U.K, and Australia. But I think we still prefer American accent.
Anyway, yes, race does matter to some people. But no not to all.
Actually I don't have a Jamaican accent at all. I was born and raised in America, and my English is very good. Personally I don't think I have an accent at all but I guess I have to sound like I come from somewhere... Does that help? I really don't want to have a bad experience after putting in so much effort to get there.

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#8 Oct 9, 2011
Kristina wrote:
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Actually I don't have a Jamaican accent at all. I was born and raised in America, and my English is very good. Personally I don't think I have an accent at all but I guess I have to sound like I come from somewhere... Does that help? I really don't want to have a bad experience after putting in so much effort to get there.
The reason I mentioned about accent is only because Koreans expect their teacher pronounce more like native english speaker. Like I said, I had a hard time with my teacher's Texan accent during my first year in the U.S. After years later, I could understand many different accents like black, latin, and other part of Asian cultures.
You don't have to lie about your origin. I think origin doesn’t matter at all, in Korea. They wouldn't mind about your background. They'll just think you as African American. It is same thing that you guys can't tell the difference between Korean, Japanese, or Chinese :)
And of course, like I said, some private institute may prefer white teachers. But I've seen many black teachers around my city. So I think you could have ask them if they don't mind about race, if that really matters to you.
Years ago, we didn't have enough ESL teachers in Korea. But there are more applicants then before. So it might not be that easy to find a job. I think it is better for you to aim a public school rather than private institute.
Well... Kristina.. I think it is worth a give a shot, if that's what you really want to.
Kristina

Fort Myers, FL

#9 Oct 9, 2011
Alright. Thank you for your help!^^

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#10 Oct 10, 2011
Kristina wrote:
Alright. Thank you for your help!^^
Well.. I'm glad if I could help you.
Have a nice day and wish your dream come true.:)
Isabelle

Tempe, AZ

#11 Oct 11, 2011
I guess I have a question to ask about Korean culture. I recently started dating a SOuth Korean guy I met in college. Almost right away he started telling me he loved me. For me telling someone "I love you" is very special. My question is what does saying "I love you" mean to Korean men?

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#12 Oct 12, 2011
Isabelle wrote:
I guess I have a question to ask about Korean culture. I recently started dating a SOuth Korean guy I met in college. Almost right away he started telling me he loved me. For me telling someone "I love you" is very special. My question is what does saying "I love you" mean to Korean men?
"I love you" between lovers? It depends on what kind of person he is. Koreans are passionate, so they can be quite hasty in the eyes of foreigners. It is true. Yet that doesn’t mean Koreans say “I love you” easily and meaninglessly. I mean, in my case, I don’t say I love you that easily unless I’m sure about it. But who knows? He said it because he really mean it. He may just had a big crash on you suddenly. Who can define when to say "I love you"?

But well... actually, I’d like to say “Nothing is wrong to be careful.” Nowadays, people think dating someone doesn’t mean marrying him/her. It doesn’t matter if it’s just about having fun by dating someone. I don’t know about you or him. But from what you have wrote, I assume you’re a prudent person. So you’d better think about something after dating. Doesn’t he have to go back to Korea for his military duty? I mean even if he is done with military service, doesn’t he have to go back someday?

Anyway, It is your decision to make, but I say “why don’t you try to figure out what he really want first.” One thing is very sure. Any man who want quick sex is always a big mistake. It doesn’t matter which race or country he is from. There are always jerks winning a foreign girl is some kind of trophy in his life.

In the bible it says “Love is patient.” I think this explains everything. True love can wait.
Isabelle

Tempe, AZ

#13 Oct 13, 2011
I think your explanation is resenable. I had a talk with him about this whole deal just so that we were on the same page of where we stood at this point of the relationship. In a way I new the cultural differences made a gap between our understanding of Love so I wanted to clear it up.
For sure, he really likes me so he is not just after sex. Not only because he told me so but also because there are other things that convince me of his affection towards me. First of all,he is always trying to please me and treats me like no other man has before. Then he has made comments about our future together. He has made comments about us possibly getting married someday, us going to Grad school together, apparently his brother nows about us (from what I have read this is a big deal because Koreans are discret about when they are dating), and he has commented that his parents might be ok with him marrying a foreigner. Even if he is not completely in love with me yet he ceirtainly talks of it as a possibility.
However, I am hesitant to fall in love with him. He will eventually go back later when he finishes Grad school (he already served his military service). Then I am not sure if marrying me would ever be ok with his family. Apparently his older brother almost married a caucasian american but his extended family (not his parents) got in the way so it never happened. If a caucasian female was rejected by the family, I will definately be turned down too since I am a latina. How would our interacial relationship be seen in Korean society? What are Koreans perspectives on Latinos?

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#14 Oct 13, 2011
Isabelle wrote:
I think your explanation is resenable. I had a talk with him about this whole deal just so that we were on the same page of where we stood at this point of the relationship. In a way I new the cultural differences made a gap between our understanding of Love so I wanted to clear it up.
For sure, he really likes me so he is not just after sex. Not only because he told me so but also because there are other things that convince me of his affection towards me. First of all,he is always trying to please me and treats me like no other man has before. Then he has made comments about our future together. He has made comments about us possibly getting married someday, us going to Grad school together, apparently his brother nows about us (from what I have read this is a big deal because Koreans are discret about when they are dating), and he has commented that his parents might be ok with him marrying a foreigner. Even if he is not completely in love with me yet he ceirtainly talks of it as a possibility.
However, I am hesitant to fall in love with him. He will eventually go back later when he finishes Grad school (he already served his military service). Then I am not sure if marrying me would ever be ok with his family. Apparently his older brother almost married a caucasian american but his extended family (not his parents) got in the way so it never happened. If a caucasian female was rejected by the family, I will definately be turned down too since I am a latina. How would our interacial relationship be seen in Korean society? What are Koreans perspectives on Latinos?
Well.. good for you and your boyfriend developed into more profound relationship. I wish you keep love each other and get marry some day.

About your question. I don't think race is a big deal. Since he is younger son, he's obligation to family is less than his older brother. If his brother got married to a Korean girl. It will be fine. Moreover, you said his parents didn't say NO to that girl. Then why not you?

You said your Latina but I'm not sure if you're close to the spanish-Mediterranean-caucasia n blood or more of South American Native blood. If your skin is paler than Korean, not many Korean can tell the different between the Mediterranean caucasian and Northern European caucasian.

I hope everything is just like you said.

My best advice to you is be a Korean. Think and act like Korean if you truly love and even thinking of marrying him(And if you're truly convinced that he is planning to get marry you) Koreans believe in their culture than just race. Once they think you're adapted to its culture, they'll love you. I hope my advice works.
toni

Gwynedd Valley, PA

#15 Oct 15, 2011
do korean men date african-american girls? how would koreans treat a black girl? I am very interested in the korean culture for some reason and me being black i would like to know if i would be treated well if i visit there.
Isabelle

Tempe, AZ

#16 Oct 16, 2011
Hey toni Im not the JosephKim, the Korean expert that started this thread, but there are Asian men that date African Americans. I am dating a Korean right now and Im Hispanic. Then he told me that when his brother came to the USA he dated an African American for a while. Im pretty sure his brother isnt the only one to have ever dated an African American. There has to be a small minority that would like to date a woman of color and to a ceirtain point im evidence of that.

The other part of your question I cant answer but to a ceirtain point I am curious to know how Americans of color would be treated there. Hopefully Joseph kim answers that part.

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#17 Oct 17, 2011
toni wrote:
do korean men date african-american girls? how would koreans treat a black girl? I am very interested in the korean culture for some reason and me being black i would like to know if i would be treated well if i visit there.
Well.. i haven't seen a korean date a african-american in korea. But it will be a different story in the u.s.

if korean don't approach to a certain race, that's just because they aren't used to it. We don't see foreigners that often. i mean we see them a lot more often than before, but it is still rare thing. People would notice the foreigners when they walk around.

i think it is not about a race but about mutual feeling. Guys would usually get attracted by girl's apparence first don't they? I think Halle Berry is attractive, and most koreans may agree with me.

Race doesn't really mean anything once you get to know them. But it is still not very easy thing for a FOB.

Since: Oct 11

Daegu, Korea

#18 Oct 17, 2011
Isabelle wrote:
Hey toni Im not the JosephKim, the Korean expert that started this thread, but there are Asian men that date African Americans. I am dating a Korean right now and Im Hispanic. Then he told me that when his brother came to the USA he dated an African American for a while. Im pretty sure his brother isnt the only one to have ever dated an African American. There has to be a small minority that would like to date a woman of color and to a ceirtain point im evidence of that.
The other part of your question I cant answer but to a ceirtain point I am curious to know how Americans of color would be treated there. Hopefully Joseph kim answers that part.
Way to go Isabelle~ it seems you became quite confident dating korean. I hope you become happy with your boy friend. I'm happy for you.
toni

Gwynedd Valley, PA

#19 Oct 19, 2011
do korean male prefe females with curves or just straight skinny?

Since: Oct 11

Namhyangdong, Korea

#20 Oct 20, 2011
toni wrote:
do korean male prefe females with curves or just straight skinny?
It depends. So the view might be different. But well... most men(not just Korean) never~~~ like skinny as fashion model. Does this answer your question?

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