'interracial Relationships are bad! and causes alot of problems who agrees?

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Armani

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Nov 19, 2013
 
St. Paul, Minn.— When Idil Mohamed walks down the street with her husband, they often attract stares, and sometimes rude comments.
"Just the other day we were walking together and this guy yelled out the window and he said,'interracial,'" Mohamed said. "Yeah, obviously, you can see that."

Idil Mohamed is Somali, and wears the Muslim headscarf. Her husband, Julian Chippendale, is white. He converted to Islam before they met on a Muslim dating website. Chippendale agrees that he and his wife attract attention when they're in public.

"We get very strange looks any time we are together," Chippendale said. "Often times, I myself wouldn't feel necessarily as uncomfortable, but my wife often does not even want to be seen holding my hand, because it's awkward because of all the looks."

"My family were shocked, because I was the first person to actually marry outside of my race," Mohamed said. "Except for my aunt. My aunt was very supportive of me marrying him, but everyone else was totally opposed to it."
After she married Chippendale, Idil Mohamed's relationship with some of her family members frayed. Some close family members started to distance themselves from her.

"They really want this to work out but they don't fully accept it. It sometimes makes me feel uncomfortable," Mohamed said. "I want to have a good relationship with everyone in my family. I want to be able to visit my relatives and feel well accepted. But hopefully with time it'll change."
It's been nearly 20 years since Somali refugees first began settling in Minnesota, but there is little data on Somalis and interracial marriage in the state. Hassan Mohamud, the imam of Minnesota Da'wah Institute in St. Paul, said he is officiating more interracial marriages these days at his mosque, especially between Somali women and white men.

"We see more Somali females marrying outside of the Somali culture, compared to the Somali men marrying outside of the culture," Mohamud said.

Somali women like Idil Mohamed are breaking the social norms of marriage and cultural traditions in their community.marrying a non-Somali, even if he is Muslim, concerns many Somali parents who are not yet ready to accept that love is color blind.

Hassan Mohamud, the imam of Da'wah, said parents often have difficulty embracing their future sons and daughters-in-law.
"I had one case that the father said,'I don't care who is the groom. I don't want my daughter to marry any non-Somali person,'" Mohamud recalled. "We asked why? He said,'I want to communicate to the husband of my daughter, and I don't speak the language, I don't know the culture.'"

The confusion runs both ways. Imam Hassan Mohamud said non-Somali men usually come to him and ask questions related to Somali marriage, and the expectations that they give financial support to the bride's relatives and money or gifts to the parents.
Despite these big responsibilities for grooms,

Julian Chippendale said about 30 of his Caucasian friends are married to Somali women, and he often gets teased by his male Somali friends.

"Often times, it's with friends of mine and brothers who are just joking with me, but often times it's just like:'You all cadaan, all you white guys, you are just stealing our women, what is wrong with you.' They do in a joking fashion," said Chippendale.

Acceptance has come slowly from his in-laws. Idil Mohamed's parents don't speak English, so, Chippendale tries to speak to them in Somali.
"I call her 'hooyo,' mother in Somali. We are very close and we talk all the time," said Chippendale. "My Somali is not the best, but I try to get by and connect with her as much as I can."
Hablaha Reer Xamar

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Nov 19, 2013
 
I do agree of staying away from them evil recessive genetic freaks..

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Nov 19, 2013
 
Uum well...I don't think marrying outside your race is that bad...I mean if you love eachother..and the person is muslim...but I guess am just old fashioned...I realy want to stick to my roots...besides even if I do fall inlove with a person from another race...yeah my dad will probably kill me..seriously like he'd probably shoot me!.....but hey..its everyones choice to choose who they wana be with...

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Nov 19, 2013
 
How is it bad? NEVER did anyone ever make a valid point regarding the disregard of IRs. You just happened to be another .... Basically nothing to see here,
Armani

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Nov 19, 2013
 
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How is it bad? NEVER did anyone ever make a valid point regarding the disregard of IRs. You just happened to be another .... Basically nothing to see here,
”Basically nothing to see here”

This aint you're thread, so keep on moving

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Nov 19, 2013
 
Armani wrote:
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”Basically nothing to see here”
This aint you're thread, so keep on moving
Do you care to explain as to what you mean by that comment.
Armani

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Nov 19, 2013
 
XalimoDeOriginal wrote:
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Do you care to explain as to what you mean by that comment.
Are you blind? Can you read?

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Nov 19, 2013
 
Armani wrote:
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Are you blind? Can you read?
I somehow confused your post with an Alfred Hitchcock article I was reading on the side tap. My mistake.-_-

But please continue reading my comment while you still believe I'm in a futuristically sublime place where I write to you using my touch screen with built in Braille-keyboard that can also read to me your highly anticipating post.

P.S I think you didn't SEE when I said "explain" your previous comment bc I surely did READ that part.
Armani

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Nov 19, 2013
 
XalimoDeOriginal wrote:
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I somehow confused your post with an Alfred Hitchcock article I was reading on the side tap. My mistake.-_-
But please continue reading my comment while you still believe I'm in a futuristically sublime place where I write to you using my touch screen with built in Braille-keyboard that can also read to me your highly anticipating post.
P.S I think you didn't SEE when I said "explain" your previous comment bc I surely did READ that part.
I Noticed, thats why I questioned sight. I guarantee to you that you are not enough to even explain Sh!t to you. Now stop boring me to tears and move aside.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
I think people engage in interracial relationships for the following reasons:

1) Boredom/ Loneliness
2) Proximity/ Opportunity
3) Flattery/Ego
4) Taboo/Exoticness/Fantasy
5) Intoxication (Drugs or Alchohol)
6) Indifference

I guess you can personally proactively deal with 1), 5), & 6). 2) & 3) are basically environmental, and 4) is controlled by "word of mouth" and media.
 

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Nov 19, 2013
 
Armani wrote:
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I Noticed, thats why I questioned sight. I guarantee to you that you are not enough to even explain Sh!t to you. N
Sarcasm goes a long way.

"Now stop boring me to tears"

I'm not the one to help you with your bipolar tendencies.Just make sure you take your pills on time.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Inter racial is odd to me.

The only people who do it are those that have self hate (want light skinned kids, hate their Somali forehead, etc), want to show off, or are just insane.

The idea of me having some mixed confused kids is horrifying.

These kids are lost.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Jamac wrote:
Inter racial is odd to me.
The only people who do it are those that have self hate (want light skinned kids, hate their Somali forehead, etc), want to show off, or are just insane.
The idea of me having some mixed confused kids is horrifying.
These kids are lost.
I disagree. A lot of people end up in an interracial relationship because they're attracted to them for one reason or another. It doesn't make that person a self hater. They are a self hater if they bash their own people to justify their relationship though. I personally like women from different races. One from Barbados, one from China, one from Afghanistan (don't go for Afghan women, I stopped liking her after 2 months because I learned the truth LOL), one from Ethiopia (spare me the racism), and one from Argentina. It only didn't work out for the Afghani for cultural reasons that I respected and accepted and the Ethiopian because she left the university. Mixing is a tad complicated, but your family will come around eventually, because they have no choice, especially if the child is already born. This is new for Somalis, I understand that, but you can't stop change. These relationships will happen, whether we like it or not.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Jamac wrote:
Inter racial is odd to me.
The only people who do it are those that have self hate (want light skinned kids, hate their Somali forehead, etc), want to show off, or are just insane.
The idea of me having some mixed confused kids is horrifying.
These kids are lost.
I agree

I disagree with interracial marriage And passionately defend racial identity. God made us different. You are hater of your people if you don’t want to stay who you are. Are you ashamed of what God made you? God didn’t make no mistake when he made us all as we are. I tell you no Man on this earth … can please me like my Black Somali Men… I want to be with my own. I love my people.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Most interracial marriages end up in divorce and the consequence is mostly painful. Better stay away. Instead of creating problems. Be a problem solver just by stay away things that are prone to put you into trouble.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Somali Man wrote:
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I disagree. A lot of people end up in an interracial relationship because they're attracted to them for one reason or another. It doesn't make that person a self hater. They are a self hater if they bash their own people to justify their relationship though. I personally like women from different races. One from Barbados, one from China, one from Afghanistan (don't go for Afghan women, I stopped liking her after 2 months because I learned the truth LOL), one from Ethiopia (spare me the racism), and one from Argentina. It only didn't work out for the Afghani for cultural reasons that I respected and accepted and the Ethiopian because she left the university. Mixing is a tad complicated, but your family will come around eventually, because they have no choice, especially if the child is already born. This is new for Somalis, I understand that, but you can't stop change. These relationships will happen, whether we like it or not.
In the next 50 or so years most Somalis in the west will perish because of mixing and interracial marriages generation after generation. Those who can claim to be 100% pure Somalis would be small i number.
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Hablaha Reer Xamar wrote:
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 I tell you no Man on this earth … can please me like my Black Somali Men… I want to be with my own. I love my people.
Abaayo, keep the Somali Spirit alive. We love you too!
Somali Man

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Gardarro wrote:
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In the next 50 or so years most Somalis in the west will perish because of mixing and interracial marriages generation after generation. Those who can claim to be 100% pure Somalis would be small i number.
I'm pretty sure that's not going to happen. Most of us barely date/marry outside our race, so we as a people will survive.
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Nov 19, 2013
 
Somali Man wrote:
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I disagree. A lot of people end up in an interracial relationship because they're attracted to them for one reason or another. It doesn't make that person a self hater. They are a self hater if they bash their own people to justify their relationship though. I personally like women from different races. One from Barbados, one from China, one from Afghanistan (don't go for Afghan women, I stopped liking her after 2 months because I learned the truth LOL), one from Ethiopia (spare me the racism), and one from Argentina. It only didn't work out for the Afghani for cultural reasons that I respected and accepted and the Ethiopian because she left the university. Mixing is a tad complicated, but your family will come around eventually, because they have no choice, especially if the child is already born. This is new for Somalis, I understand that, but you can't stop change. These relationships will happen, whether we like it or not.
And what's this truth you discovered about Afghan women?
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Nov 19, 2013
 
only women with low self esteem end up with interracial marriage or women with long history of hood rating around and usually the men treat them like a doormat eventually stealing their kids or the men completely disappearing leaving unknown weird looking kids with you where do you find them

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