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Hassan

Southall, UK

#22 Mar 21, 2013
hi wrote:
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First of all fear Allah. Be married to this "girlfriend" then face that what u have done was to have zina. That's right that u shouldn't have to said to your parents that u had haram zina, coz that would hurt them very much. Tell them u were married for one year and u were afraid to tell them coz u were afraid that u might lose connection or/and be very angry. Your parents love u and they will all enjoy to see your child, but when u are telling them that u are married don't say that she is pregnant. U might give them this information about 4 mouths after!
But I still don't understand how u just could make zina just like that. Especially when u say that u two spent weekends together and so on. I might be 2013 but we are still Moslems and we are still Somalis and have traditions and religion that tells us that's unacceptable. But we are humans and may Allah show u and your WIFE the right way forward! Salam
Wtf are you talking about? A typical somali household is conservative, he commited zina outside of marriage and got someone pregnant .Dont sugar coat this, walal, he's fucked .Not only did he compromise his faith but he is now obligated to provide for this child ( if she decides to keep it) and whatever he had planned for his future it has gone out of the window by now.
Ilwaad

UK

#23 Mar 21, 2013
What you did was very wrong. It amazes me that you fear what your parents will say more than the sin that you have committed. You are aware that zina is a grave sin right?

Firstly, you need to repent to Allah.
Secondly, you need to find out if she is really pregnant. You mentioned that she missed her period and was feeling ill? She needs to d a pregnancy test to know for sure. If she is pregnant then you'll have to face up to your actions and be a man. Islamically, you can't marry her until she gives birth. So I suggest you marry her and take care of her and your child.

If she is not pregnant then you need to sever any contact with her, repent profusely and be more practicing as a Muslim. Try and get married in a halal manner to her if you are ready if not then no more contact should be made.

Lastly, you need to be honest with your parents and face up to your actions only if she is indeed pregnant. You've put yourself in this situation so be man enough to deal with it.

May Allah swt make it easy for you, accept your repentance and make you more steadfast in your Deen. Ameen.

“Somali? of course.”

Since: Mar 13

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#24 Mar 21, 2013
Who Cares wrote:
SO I met this pretty and nice Jamaican girl (she is half Cuban too)
and we spent the entire winter together in my flat
we started as friends and she used to spend the entire weekend with me, one thing lead to another and now she is pregnant
my family are not in this country but it will be hard to explain to my Nomad dad and mom the I didn't marry a Somali girl and I am having a child with my Jamaican girlfriend
How do I break it down to my mom and dad?
any ideas guys and girls?
Abort the child or marry her: i would do either of so if i was in that situation.

If you marry her, then in one or another, convert her to Islam.
Ilwaad

UK

#25 Mar 21, 2013
Ancient Prince wrote:
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Abort the child or marry her: i would do either of so if i was in that situation.
If you marry her, then in one or another, convert her to Islam.
Aborting a child is a sin. The unborn child does not deserve to pay for the actions of two grown adults. Abortion is also haram in Islam unless the mother's life is at risk.

“Somali? of course.”

Since: Mar 13

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#26 Mar 21, 2013
Ilwaad wrote:
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Aborting a child is a sin. The unborn child does not deserve to pay for the actions of two grown adults. Abortion is also haram in Islam unless the mother's life is at risk.
I don't have knowledge in this field of Islamic knowledge, but however i never saw an evidence suggeting abortions forbidden.
thehassanabdi

UK

#27 Mar 21, 2013
Ancient Prince wrote:
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I don't have knowledge in this field of Islamic knowledge, but however i never saw an evidence suggeting abortions forbidden.
I too don't have any knowledge on that subject but on the other hand abortion is a life being destroyed and i don't think it's right.

“Somali? of course.”

Since: Mar 13

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#28 Mar 21, 2013
thehassanabdi wrote:
<quoted text>I too don't have any knowledge on that subject but on the other hand abortion is a life being destroyed and i don't think it's right.
You are right. But think about the childs later low self-esteem because he is acknowing that it wasn't on purpose that he was born. And that he isn't welcome in any society; he will be an outlander and an son of a an cheap woman to Somalis while the same to Jamaicans/Cubans.
Hassan

Southall, UK

#29 Mar 21, 2013
Ilwaad wrote:
What you did was very wrong. It amazes me that you fear what your parents will say more than the sin that you have committed. You are aware that zina is a grave sin right?
Firstly, you need to repent to Allah.
Secondly, you need to find out if she is really pregnant. You mentioned that she missed her period and was feeling ill? She needs to d a pregnancy test to know for sure. If she is pregnant then you'll have to face up to your actions and be a man. Islamically, you can't marry her until she gives birth. So I suggest you marry her and take care of her and your child.
If she is not pregnant then you need to sever any contact with her, repent profusely and be more practicing as a Muslim. Try and get married in a halal manner to her if you are ready if not then no more contact should be made.
Lastly, you need to be honest with your parents and face up to your actions only if she is indeed pregnant. You've put yourself in this situation so be man enough to deal with it.
May Allah swt make it easy for you, accept your repentance and make you more steadfast in your Deen. Ameen.
You make it sound like you have the answer, she might not accept his proposal and keep the child, that's what's usually occurs in relationships.
Hassan

Southall, UK

#30 Mar 21, 2013
tamrat wrote:
You tell them that they shouldnt travel all over the world to have 15 children. They can come to uk and use the social Money to make even more than 15 children not only from somlian wives but some jamican too.
Dont tell Your jamica lady's parents. Only the embarasment kills them.
At least the Somalis and Africans have self respect unlike these folks:

http://www.spifftv.com/video.php...

Since: Mar 13

Location hidden

#31 Mar 21, 2013
Hassan wrote:
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At least the Somalis and Africans have self respect unlike these folks:
http://www.spifftv.com/video.php...
Just Somalis please, Africans don't have self-respect.
man

Jönköping, Sweden

#32 Mar 21, 2013
My advice: is deldel!
Hassan

Southall, UK

#33 Mar 21, 2013
Biography wrote:
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Just Somalis please, Africans don't have self-respect.
Was that a direct response or where you just trying to assure yourself? No african (period) would engage in such a filthy act and lable it as a category of "Dance".Those who were raised with family values where taught not to ape after the yardies. there's plenty of videos where that came from but They're more explicit than the one I've just showed and some of them have children involved. Disgusting.

Since: Mar 13

Location hidden

#34 Mar 21, 2013
Hassan wrote:
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Was that a direct response or where you just trying to assure yourself? No african (period) would engage in such a filthy act and lable it as a category of "Dance".Those who were raised with family values where taught not to ape after the yardies. there's plenty of videos where that came from but They're more explicit than the one I've just showed and some of them have children involved. Disgusting.
Africans raised with family values? What world are you living on. They are thieves and they are friends with the gangster thief Jamaicans too.
Ilwaad

London, UK

#35 Mar 21, 2013
Hassan wrote:
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You make it sound like you have the answer, she might not accept his proposal and keep the child, that's what's usually occurs in relationships.
You accuse me of acting like I know the answer when you're doing the same.

I wasn't suggesting he marry her without her consent, obviously. If it is possible he should marry her.

Either way, we can only speculate only he knows the answer to this dilemma.

“Safar Dheer iyo”

Since: Jan 11

Sahay Gaaban

#36 Mar 21, 2013
This seems a joke to me than a serious hadal.
Ajanabi lovers suck

Toronto, Canada

#37 Mar 22, 2013
You are a sell out to your people and a disgrace to your parents.

I would spit in your face if I had the chance.

Ajannbi lovers are filth and must be excommunicated from our community.
Ajanabi lover n Proud

Woodford Green, UK

#38 Mar 22, 2013
^^^^^^^^^^

see what are you missing on

http://www.santabanta.com/gallery/miss-univer...

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Since: Apr 12

Location hidden

#39 Mar 22, 2013
you kids sound so damn ignorant, how can you have issues when you haven't had a functioning gov't since 91? that's 21 years for you math majors. secondly, most somalis are mixed with arab/african and are classified as 'caucasian' just google it!! i don't need to hear about your bitching. last but not least i'll leave you with a quote "Adapt or perish, now as ever, is nature's inexorable imperative."

H. G. Wells

“Somali? of course.”

Since: Mar 13

Location hidden

#40 Mar 24, 2013
Hassan wrote:
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At least the Somalis and Africans have self respect unlike these folks:
http://www.spifftv.com/video.php...
At least these Jamaicans have clothes; when you consider the barbaric bantus that walk in the wild and eating berries like if we still were stuck in the stone age.
Awale

Leicester, UK

#41 Mar 24, 2013
OP should repent, pray to Allah for forgiveness, he should go to a clinic to do an STD test and get and have a parental test done to see if this is actually his child.

On a different note, how can you have intercourse with someone who doesn't wash it down there, someone who is not clean? She must smell like rotten fish down there.

lol, brothers you're desperate. May Allah swt give you imaan and show you the right path.

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