my sis wanna marry Ethiopian, pls help!

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IluvMySomalia

UK

#1 Aug 5, 2012
Well there's a riot in my family going on now lol suddenly my sister said she wanna marry an Ethiopian guy. my dad is dead so he's not thr to give his piece but my bros r saying a big NO NO but mom is okay with it (in fact supports the idea cos she says its all abt religon and the dude is muslim O:

what should I do, Im 100% against this but seems like nothing is thr for me to do:(

“Gaal wannabe”

Since: Jan 12

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#2 Aug 5, 2012
Ze Qabil identification bitte? Schnell!
IluvMySomalia

UK

#3 Aug 5, 2012
My opinion is not influenced with qabil, but I cant imagine a non Somali husband for my sis. i dont see a reason for that. maybe u dont have sisters to understand my position idk
S0mali

United States

#4 Aug 5, 2012
Well, there are some Somalis who identify themselves as Ethiopians (i.e. Somalida ku hoos nool gacanta Gumeysiga Qaar ka mid ah) there are Amharas, there are Tigres as well as Oromo, so what ethnicity does the guy belong to? I myself would never support if my sister were to marry an Ethio man. But it's different when a sister has the support of her mother. Now it appears that you and your brothers are not in a position to do anything to persuade the sister not to marry this guy since she has the full support of your mom. Fortunately, the guy is a Muslim, and that solves a tremendous number of other problems.
S0mali

United States

#5 Aug 5, 2012
IluvMySomalia wrote:
My opinion is not influenced with qabil, but I cant imagine a non Somali husband for my sis. i dont see a reason for that. maybe u dont have sisters to understand my position idk
BTW, remind your sister that he future offspring won't be consider to be Somalis in the eyes of the Somali community. They'll be more like Ethiopians! And you know Somalis and Ethiopians are like Dab iyo Gas to each other. I mean, her children will have hard time in interacting with Somalis because most Somalis may consider them as Ethiopians instead of Somalis, and may or will affect them in a way to the extent that they will feel like they're not welcome in Somalia or where Somalis live. Trust me I've practically seen cases like this. So it's always wise to think twice just like the Somali adages goes: WIILKAAGU/GABARTAADU mar ayay HIIL kaaga baahanyihiin; waana marka aad guursanayso. Meaning choice wisely the person whom you're willing to marry and think about how that will affect your children in the future.

Since: Jul 12

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#6 Aug 5, 2012
IluvMySomalia, he is a muslim does not cut it. You must look at if he prays his five salah, fasts, gives zakah and does his upmost to stay away from sins. Islam forbids racism, and if your brothers only reason of being against this man is based on his not being somali then you need to tell them. It is sinful to turn down a potential based race or tribe. If that fails, then I would advice you to take them to an imam. That said, please disregard everything S0mali stated. The days of jahilia is over where people married based on tribes and ethnicitiy, and obviously S0mali is stil stuck in that jahil era, do not worry about how your children will be treated, worry about if the man you are about to walk down the isle will treat you according to your rights nnscribed in the Quran and hadith.
Rahma

Liverpool, UK

#7 Aug 5, 2012
Ive never seen a Somali-Ethiopian mix lol
Ali

Denmark

#8 Aug 5, 2012
I have 3sistah if one of them would do something like that i would kill them. I dont Care about qabil but he have to be somali. The children will not be somali and when Somalia get peace what she gonna do with Ethiopian..?
njkm

Bradford, UK

#9 Aug 5, 2012
IluvMySomalia wrote:
Well there's a riot in my family going on now lol suddenly my sister said she wanna marry an Ethiopian guy. my dad is dead so he's not thr to give his piece but my bros r saying a big NO NO but mom is okay with it (in fact supports the idea cos she says its all abt religon and the dude is muslim O:
what should I do, Im 100% against this but seems like nothing is thr for me to do:(
The wali must bless this marriage and give her permission to marry this man otherwise it will be fitnah. As you fathers dead I believe the wali(Guardian) is the eldest brother so if he does not allow her to marry the Ethiopian and does not witness the marriage then she has commited fitnah.
Ali

Toronto, Canada

#10 Aug 5, 2012
Don't listen to fufu.

You must do whatever you can before your sister throws away her life!

Find her a Somali brother who will treat her good. Think of the future. Think of the kids!!

But at least he is a Horn African. If he is Afar or Oromo, isn't so bad but still, the kids will NOT BE SOMALI.......

“SNEAKING INTO SOCIAL NETWORKS ”

Since: Dec 11

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#11 Aug 5, 2012
BEING SOMALI ISNT A GREAT THING !!!LOOK AT SOMALIA WTF ```SEE WHAT SOMALIS BRING ONLINE?? NOTHING
SOMALIS ARE SAD PEOPLE``I DONT CARE IF THIS GIRL MARRIED ETHIOPIAN OR ANY RACE BUT MARRING NON SOMALI WOULD BE BETTER FOR HER FUTURE AND KIDS
The_Truth

Columbia, SC

#12 Aug 5, 2012
He is a Horn African, that's what counts.

Since: Aug 12

Toronto, Canada

#13 Aug 5, 2012
IluvMySomalia wrote:
Well there's a riot in my family going on now lol suddenly my sister said she wanna marry an Ethiopian guy. my dad is dead so he's not thr to give his piece but my bros r saying a big NO NO but mom is okay with it (in fact supports the idea cos she says its all abt religon and the dude is muslim O:
what should I do, Im 100% against this but seems like nothing is thr for me to do:(
The man is muslim. Unless he has a bad character there shouldnt be any problem.
The_Truth

Columbia, SC

#14 Aug 5, 2012
We need to be more conscious of race, and less conscious of scally constructed dividers like religion. They are both Cushites...Somalia and Ethiopia need to unite.
Sincere_Muslim

Canada

#15 Aug 5, 2012
IluvMySomalia wrote:
Well there's a riot in my family going on now lol suddenly my sister said she wanna marry an Ethiopian guy. my dad is dead so he's not thr to give his piece but my bros r saying a big NO NO but mom is okay with it (in fact supports the idea cos she says its all abt religon and the dude is muslim O:
what should I do, Im 100% against this but seems like nothing is thr for me to do:(
This is fckin pathetic. What's wrong with Ethiopians? They are the same people as us. They are closer to than Yemeni people or Arabs or anybody else for that matter. And he is a muslim on top of that. I know you wouldn't be against it if it were an Arab or a white dude, you racist.
Peace iyo Bariis

UK

#16 Aug 5, 2012
Only the Afar tribe in Ethiopia is beautiful, the rest are ugly in my honest opinion.

Since: Aug 12

Toronto, Canada

#17 Aug 5, 2012
Peace iyo Bariis wrote:
Only the Afar tribe in Ethiopia is beautiful, the rest are ugly in my honest opinion.
Dude we are genetically closest to Oromos so if your calling them ugly then you are basically calling yourself ugly.
IluvMySomalia

UK

#19 Aug 7, 2012
I was wondering if you guys ever heard of wax ladhahoo ''Adari'' or '' Adare''.... the dude isnt 'pure' Ethiopian, he's mixed. Ethiopian mother (Adari) and dad mixed with Yemani iyo Oromo. Anyway I didnt like the fact he's not Somali. he doesnt even speak any somali. I'm confused, man. so is my family:(
njmk

Bradford, UK

#20 Aug 7, 2012
I already answered your question, her Wali can reject the marriage and it won't be a valid marriage. Do you retards even listen?
IluvMySomalia

UK

#22 Aug 7, 2012
njmk wrote:
I already answered your question, her Wali can reject the marriage and it won't be a valid marriage. Do you retards even listen?
bro/sis, thanks for ur reply but I said in my op that my dad is dead, so my bros cant say no if they wanted to marry. i think its only the father's permission that is wajib not the bros.

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