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Gauifaleai

Australia

#1 Dec 18, 2012
My cousin is planning her wedding and her parents want it done full Fa'asamoa..my cousin whos husband is Tongan doesn't mind traditional or fa'apalagi very understanding cause hes mamoga...my cousin on the other hand loves a traditional wedding but not a faifeau's daughter as her maid of honor although its Samoan custom for a bride to have the faifeau's daughter as her maid of honor regardless if shes good or bad..that sucks alot,also she doesn't want heaps if bridesmaids. One more thing the most complicated of them all,she wants her best friend who is already married and has kids to be her maid of honor,but in Samoan custom maid of honor should not be married or any kids, is it possible for her to still respect her parents and break our Fa'asamoa traditional ways?
SURF808

Porirua, New Zealand

#2 Dec 18, 2012
I'm not sure if it's written anywhere, as to how a 'true' FA'ASAMOA wedding should be conducted!!!

Our Samoan customs and traditions have been intermingled and mixed with various religious beliefs for so long, that almost everybody has an opinion and my put in their two cents worth.

As for me, the pride and groom should plan for "their" big day by themselves, however they wish. Her best friend vice the Faife'au's daughter!?! I would tell her to go with her best friend... she'll be much happier and the wedding will be pleasant.

They may seek advice from families and friends (minister or professional), but the final 'say'so' is their's alone.
Not giving in or trying to please their parents, in a tactful manner of course, especially if the parents are picking up the majority of the tab...

Since: Mar 11

Auckland

#3 Dec 18, 2012
Great advice SURF, but man its Fa'asamoa in weddings has gotta be the headache of all headaches. I watched my sister get married 14 yrs ago without her bestfriend in the line. It really made me sad, even today she talks about her not being a part of the bridal party cos my mum had other ideas.
Gauifaleai

Australia

#4 Dec 18, 2012
My aunty and uncle( her parents) are very traditional and want her to do it,she doesnt,shes telling my mom to talk to her brother(brides dad) to leave the Fa'asamoa way out off her wedding, also my cousin does not want the any of that si'i thingy where you bring gifts and exchange for boxes of food and money...
SURF808

Porirua, New Zealand

#5 Dec 18, 2012
It sounds like your cousin's parents are doing this so called traditional Samoan wedding for their pleasure but against their daughter's will.

A few 'Bible' verses may play into your cousin's decision.

For example: The command says; "Honor your father and your mother: Then you will live a long, full life..."

"To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams..."

Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

I hope they can find common grounds to reconcile; otherwise, she will be one unhappy bride!!!

Since: Feb 12

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#6 Dec 19, 2012
Hahahaa The decisions of all decisions. Aua ge'i ka'u valea ifo ou makua... ua iloa!

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#7 Dec 19, 2012
Look up the meaning & derivation of the word "tausama'aga".
Gauifaleai

Australia

#8 Dec 19, 2012
SURF808 wrote:
It sounds like your cousin's parents are doing this so called traditional Samoan wedding for their pleasure but against their daughter's will.
A few 'Bible' verses may play into your cousin's decision.
For example: The command says; "Honor your father and your mother: Then you will live a long, full life..."
"To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams..."
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
I hope they can find common grounds to reconcile; otherwise, she will be one unhappy bride!!!
lol yes she is already one miserable bride already,she just want all that Fa'asamoa wedding cause she knows she will be wasting more money,you know ten cows for mahana..lol..she respects her parents but does not want to have a traditional samoan wedding.But thank you for your good input
Gauifaleai

Australia

#9 Dec 19, 2012
Christina E E wrote:
Great advice SURF, but man its Fa'asamoa in weddings has gotta be the headache of all headaches. I watched my sister get married 14 yrs ago without her bestfriend in the line. It really made me sad, even today she talks about her not being a part of the bridal party cos my mum had other ideas.
lol yes it is. Sadly we end up broke from that fa'asamoan wedding. Buying boxes of elegi and pisupo and ie toga and siapo's,its such a painstakingly expensive wedding.
Gauifaleai

Australia

#10 Dec 19, 2012
fonk-difyd wrote:
Look up the meaning & derivation of the word "tausama'aga".
malo lava mo le feso'aso'ani
tamasamoamoni

Honolulu, HI

#11 Dec 21, 2012
fonk-difyd wrote:
Look up the meaning & derivation of the word "tausama'aga".
Can you enlighten us on the meaning of "tausama'aga, thank you.
tamasamoamoni

Honolulu, HI

#12 Dec 22, 2012
Gauifaleai wrote:
My cousin is planning her wedding and her parents want it done full Fa'asamoa..my cousin whos husband is Tongan doesn't mind traditional or fa'apalagi very understanding cause hes mamoga...my cousin on the other hand loves a traditional wedding but not a faifeau's daughter as her maid of honor although its Samoan custom for a bride to have the faifeau's daughter as her maid of honor regardless if shes good or bad..that sucks alot,also she doesn't want heaps if bridesmaids. One more thing the most complicated of them all,she wants her best friend who is already married and has kids to be her maid of honor,but in Samoan custom maid of honor should not be married or any kids, is it possible for her to still respect her parents and break our Fa'asamoa traditional ways?
No disrespect intended, but do you people really know what a real faasamoa wedding is?

“MASINA”

Since: Jul 10

Location hidden

#13 Dec 23, 2012
I haven't seen a "Fa'asamoa" wedding done for some time...quite some time.

As well as the weddings of some big families(chiefly) where both the fa'asamoa and fa'apalagi(christian) way was observed. The bride and groom prepped and dressed, for the cultural wedding and dressed and prepped in the palagi/(christian ceremony) A very very...expensive undertaking indeed for both families.
Gauifaleai

Australia

#14 Dec 26, 2012
tamasamoamoni wrote:
<quoted text>No disrespect intended, but do you people really know what a real faasamoa wedding is?
whats your input may i kindly ask?
Gauifaleai

Australia

#15 Dec 26, 2012
Taupoimasina wrote:
I haven't seen a "Fa'asamoa" wedding done for some time...quite some time.
As well as the weddings of some big families(chiefly) where both the fa'asamoa and fa'apalagi(christian) way was observed. The bride and groom prepped and dressed, for the cultural wedding and dressed and prepped in the palagi/(christian ceremony) A very very...expansive undertaking indeed for both families.
me too,last time was when I was 5 years old...now its full on whitemen style

Since: Mar 11

Auckland

#16 Dec 26, 2012
tamasamoamoni wrote:
<quoted text>No disrespect intended, but do you people really know what a real faasamoa wedding is?
Can say there's no such thing these days. Can't say Ive seen people sao mea traditionally without the use of money. When you say the real fa'asamoa what exactly are you referring to? You talking bout the whole shebang?

Since: Feb 12

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#17 Jan 6, 2013
tamasamoamoni wrote:
<quoted text>Can you enlighten us on the meaning of "tausama'aga, thank you.
I honestly dont know too much about this subject.. but tausama'aga derives from the word samasama which means yellow. Back then in the old days when a man and women were to get married, they would dye their skin yellow useing tumuric. Intrestiing is , is that this practice of dyeing the skin is still alive today in india.
tamasamoamoni

Wahiawa, HI

#18 Jan 9, 2013
fonk-difyd wrote:
<quoted text>
I honestly dont know too much about this subject.. but tausama'aga derives from the word samasama which means yellow. Back then in the old days when a man and women were to get married, they would dye their skin yellow useing tumuric. Intrestiing is , is that this practice of dyeing the skin is still alive today in india.
You are correct. When a person sama, he or she uses what is called a lega, which is a tumuric using different fragrant's from the best smelling flowers such as Lagaali, Moli, Oriana, Mosooi, ect. mixed with oil, and when appied to ones skin, makes it shine or glow a golden yellow. It ancient times, royal samoan weddings did the TAUSAMAAGA, where the boy's family sama their boy, and the girls family sama their girl, and then you have the TAUSAMAAGA where the bride and the groom are brought together. You also have the TINI, which is the chants and dances verifying and solidifying the royal lines, you have the MEA AVAGA, which is the best gifts each side can produce, and you have different important ie's like the IE OLE MALAE , and the IE OLE MOMOLI, and soforth. There is other stuff but I can't remember.
plNGPong

Stoke-on-trent, UK

#19 Jan 9, 2013
Get ready to geyt your money suxk dry lol.

Since: Mar 11

Auckland

#20 Jan 10, 2013
tamasamoamoni wrote:
<quoted text>You are correct. When a person sama, he or she uses what is called a lega, which is a tumuric using different fragrant's from the best smelling flowers such as Lagaali, Moli, Oriana, Mosooi, ect. mixed with oil, and when appied to ones skin, makes it shine or glow a golden yellow. It ancient times, royal samoan weddings did the TAUSAMAAGA, where the boy's family sama their boy, and the girls family sama their girl, and then you have the TAUSAMAAGA where the bride and the groom are brought together. You also have the TINI, which is the chants and dances verifying and solidifying the royal lines, you have the MEA AVAGA, which is the best gifts each side can produce, and you have different important ie's like the IE OLE MALAE , and the IE OLE MOMOLI, and soforth. There is other stuff but I can't remember.
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