Oli

Greenford, UK

#55 Feb 1, 2009
You know what? I am a white guy but I am sick of hearing women complain about how men cheat and so on, I have known many women who not only cheat ALL the time but when a guy cheats on them or tries to leave them start crying and saying he ruined their life, I mean it is shocking but as a man you learn to deal with it because almost all women have been raised to believe that they are entitled to own a guy, they think that there is nothing wrong with having a serious boyfriend but keeping a few irons in the fire in case he does not work out the right way, I dated a girl who punched me in the face because I looked at another girls butt when we broke up I told her how sorry I was and she said "don't worry I have another boyfriend and a sex friend", it turned out she had been cheating all the time for 4 years at least she told the truth and did not give me a guilt trip for dumping her. People blame Nigerian men but when white women go abroad to work or study they so often do the same, leaving behind some chump who is waiting to marry them in case they don't find "Mr.Right" abroad, the only difference is Nigerian men have a stronger desire, so they are willing to sleep with pretty much most women and they will keep trying after they are rejected, to be honest most white people should thank them for satisfying a lot of women who would otherwise never have sex or at least decent sex. I would just tell the Nigerian guys to try to be a little more honest, they do not have to mention their partners at home but they should just keep saying they are not in a position to get into something long term, of course this is not always going to work as many women love lying to themselves about how he will eventually fall in love with them.
Sister A

Morges, Switzerland

#56 Feb 1, 2009
Oli wrote:
You know what? I am a white guy but I am sick of hearing women complain about how men cheat and so on, I have known many women who not only cheat ALL the time but when a guy cheats on them or tries to leave them start crying and saying he ruined their life, I mean it is shocking but as a man you learn to deal with it because almost all women have been raised to believe that they are entitled to own a guy, they think that there is nothing wrong with having a serious boyfriend but keeping a few irons in the fire in case he does not work out the right way, I dated a girl who punched me in the face because I looked at another girls butt when we broke up I told her how sorry I was and she said "don't worry I have another boyfriend and a sex friend", it turned out she had been cheating all the time for 4 years at least she told the truth and did not give me a guilt trip for dumping her. People blame Nigerian men but when white women go abroad to work or study they so often do the same, leaving behind some chump who is waiting to marry them in case they don't find "Mr.Right" abroad, the only difference is Nigerian men have a stronger desire, so they are willing to sleep with pretty much most women and they will keep trying after they are rejected, to be honest most white people should thank them for satisfying a lot of women who would otherwise never have sex or at least decent sex. I would just tell the Nigerian guys to try to be a little more honest, they do not have to mention their partners at home but they should just keep saying they are not in a position to get into something long term, of course this is not always going to work as many women love lying to themselves about how he will eventually fall in love with them.
Yeah Oli, I must say that all you are saying is right. What you wrote makes complete sense, it's the truth and if anyone dinies it, the person is a liar. What I liked best is when you said about being a bit more honest. It's not just the Nigerian guys but everyone - women as well.... Honesty is always the best. I myself have never been into having more than one partner, but I have to be honest - I have also cheated once. I cheated my boyfriend with my ex. But the very same day I finished the relationship because I realized that if I cheated, then something was wrong. Everyone is entitled to have their own way of relationships, but I think it's good to clearify things in advance. So thanks Oli, I like what you said.
Sister A

Morges, Switzerland

#57 Feb 1, 2009
The only thing I would like to add is that it is not right to have a child with someone that thinks you want to have a long term relationship while you yourself know that you're not ready for that. Folks, think of those children and don't be egoists....
Sister A

Morges, Switzerland

#58 Feb 1, 2009
That counts for women and men of any race...

Since: Oct 08

Canada

#59 Feb 1, 2009
Sister A, your honesty is well noted. The truth shall set you free. Sometimes we forget to remove the plank in our eyes, but are quick to see the peck on somebody's eye. I have been reading your inputs to this forum with keen interest. you have always been very objective in most of your peace. Keep up the good work.
Remi

Birmingham, UK

#60 Feb 2, 2009
Yes we all know that women chat too,

I'm sure thats not being disputed..........

But it is more common amongst men

When women Cheat it is most likely to be because the man has failed to give her the emotional, pyshical etc etc etc aspect of their relationship........

For most men, it seems to just be a physical thing full stop..........

Some men seem to think that it is ok to road test other vehicles........

not bothering to maintain the one they have at home (Please except my apologise, with the choice of words have chosen)

Both men and women are entitled to be in a committed relationship where there are no third parties..........

Unless stated otherwise..........
Sister A

Riehen, Switzerland

#61 Feb 2, 2009
Honest Truth wrote:
Sister A, your honesty is well noted. The truth shall set you free. Sometimes we forget to remove the plank in our eyes, but are quick to see the peck on somebody's eye. I have been reading your inputs to this forum with keen interest. you have always been very objective in most of your peace. Keep up the good work.
Oh, thanks, what an honour to hear that from you. Well, I try to be objective.... I have a son and he has the right to have his own opinion and not to be polluted by my experience.
ddr

Bristol, UK

#62 Feb 4, 2009
Remi wrote:
"why are Nigerian Men such liars, Cheats and womanisers"
people get over your selves..........
this just doesn't just happen amongst Nigerian men this goes on in different cultures and societies every day..........
I think it appears to become a Nigerian issue because misogyny is normalised here. Apparently it is common for even professional men to raise their hands to women. PLus 80 yr old men able to marry 12 yr old girls? Not nice.

Please enact the Children's Act!!
OLA

London, UK

#63 Feb 5, 2009
Nigerian men! what can i say, please avoid them like the plague they are born liars its in their gene but you have to have been hit by one to recognise the patern, they will play humble and tell you how they have been maltreated by a woman but believe me everything he's telling you that the previous girl did to him is what he'll do to you later if you believe him, they are like a snake they waych and strike when you list expected .
OLA

London, UK

#64 Feb 5, 2009
all i can say is dat all of nigerian men are heartless and have no mind. they go from 1 lady to the next. none of them have a heart!!!!!! a warning to all you ladies out there never go out or sleep with a nigerian man cos once they found that they are the owner of a child they are gone into thin air, coming fron my point of veiw!!! look for someone besides nigerian men. anything is better even an ALIEN honesley i mean it.
Sister A

Saint Gallen, Switzerland

#65 Feb 6, 2009
OLA wrote:
all i can say is dat all of nigerian men are heartless and have no mind. they go from 1 lady to the next. none of them have a heart!!!!!! a warning to all you ladies out there never go out or sleep with a nigerian man cos once they found that they are the owner of a child they are gone into thin air, coming fron my point of veiw!!! look for someone besides nigerian men. anything is better even an ALIEN honesley i mean it.
If you read my previous posts you'll see that I have had my share of the bad luck with the Nigerians. But honestly.... those Nigerians I have met and known (I grew up with a Nigerian step father) really love their children. They might have an different view about how to bring a child up, a different view of what is right but deep in their hearts they really care.(I know at least the Igbo's do, I have not had much to do with Yoruba's and other tribes, so I don't know about them - and I only wanna talk bout something I know). Do you have a child with a Nigerian?
Sister A

Saint Gallen, Switzerland

#66 Feb 6, 2009
Haha, I just realize I seem to move every 4 days, first I lived in Zürich, then Aargau and now Thalwil. Sorry guys, it's not my fault that it keeps changing....
ddr

London, UK

#67 Feb 7, 2009
OLA wrote:
all i can say is dat all of nigerian men are heartless and have no mind. they go from 1 lady to the next. none of them have a heart!!!!!! a warning to all you ladies out there never go out or sleep with a nigerian man cos once they found that they are the owner of a child they are gone into thin air, coming fron my point of veiw!!! look for someone besides nigerian men. anything is better even an ALIEN honesley i mean it.
A nigerian man tried to set me up exactly in that way. He kept bullying me and chiding me to let him come back to my flat (He didn't ask, he demanded as if he were paying the rent). He refused to tell me where he lived! The whole thing was designed to set up a **** buddy he could call on whenever he wanted, and split in case of pregnancy. He didn't even realise that I was not physically attracted to him!

All this after I'd made it clear I only wanted a platonic relationship. He jumped me on a dark road and started rubbing himself up against my backside. Tell me, what piece of s**t thinks it's actually an achievement to impose on a women in this way. Did he think I'd get used to him, when his actions actually just made me want to barf?

I feel seriously sorry for nigerian women if this behavior is commonplace in their native country.
Remi

Birmingham, UK

#68 Feb 7, 2009
that is certainly not a Ngerian thing..........

Thats a rapist thing..........

However, I must confess, there are some Nigerian men who just wont take no for an answer..........

And when you tell them this, they turn nasty,.........

It's sad really.

although for every "MAD" Naija man, there is a good one, just like my husband..........

But then again I wouldn't tolerate crap from him or any other man for that matter.

"DDR" When a man is behaving like that, don't give them the chance to talk to you again.........

Platonic relationships with such a man, just would not have worked..........
keisha

Barking, UK

#69 Feb 7, 2009
not all nigerian men are bad, am 28 and i have had 3 relationship with three nigerian men, the first turn out to be a cheat, the second was the same and guess what am married now to a lovely nigerian man who is a good husband and good father to our children.

i just think people should stop generalising nigerian men
caramely_lovely

London, UK

#70 Feb 8, 2009
they are pieces of shit. end of. to be so ugly yet so arrogant- it just baffles me- and they are ugly as hell.
Yaro

Nigeria

#71 Feb 8, 2009
Nigerian men, Nigerian men....for God's sake, there are 150 million Nigerians and you guys had some bad experiencess with one or two guy then you go about generalizing how fair is that?
ddr

Tonbridge, UK

#72 Feb 8, 2009
Sorry, Yaro. The good suffer for the bad, as they say.
Danielle

AOL

#73 Feb 8, 2009
I have visited posts like this when I first started dating my Nigerian man. I didn't agree with the generalizations because I thought I had a good Nigerian man. I should have seen the warning signs. He never introduced me to his Nigerian friend's wives. It was like I was never invited fully into his Nigerian circle. He claimed he worked so hard so he barely had enough time for me. But he was a charmer, a good lover, he showered me with gifts. When ever I needed a business favor, he always came through. He told me he loved me. I fell in love with this man. He went to Africa in January. I was so excited for his return. He came back and told me he was married, and his wife and child were coming to live with him soon. Just like that. Sounded like another person. So cold. I spent almost two years with him. I was faithful. I am hurting sooooooo bad. He told me he still wants to be special friends. I didn't do anything to deserve this. He's already planning on cheating on his Nigerian wife. I want this pain to go away soon.
zahara123

Los Angeles, CA

#74 Feb 8, 2009
Nigerian man in the States are the same so full of shit,and would do anything to get their papers so please ladies out there if u are American and dating a nigerian man. i can tell you for sure if he is not a citizen he wants to become one and would do anything for you until the three years are up and he is about to get his citizenship he will start working his way out slowely they dont even care if you have kids.I know one and i will make sure he pays for the shit he put me through.

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