Any positive marriage stories to Moroccan men?

[Lisa_Michigan]

Hi All,

is anyone on here married to a Morroccan man, if so how long and how is it working for you?

[Jane]

I have been married for over 8 years to a moroccan and we have a wonderful life, and can't ask for more

[Lisa-Michigan]

Jane wrote:

I have been married for over 8 years to a moroccan and we have a wonderful life, and can't ask for more

Thank you for your response.

[LMN]

Hi Lisa,
I’m a Moroccan, and have lived all my life in Morocco and nine years ago I met this British wonderful lady, and then our story started, had to move to UK and start a new life together. We have lived already six years in UK and we’re planning to move to Morocco (seeking sunnier place to live in) after we managed to secure jobs for both of us in there, so with bit of luck every thing will go just fine.
We got married seven years ago, and we have never been as happy as now. In the beginning we used to have arguments about religions and history, and some silly discussion like whose people are better but later on we settled down about the fact that we’re from different backgrounds and that surely will have a big influence in our lives. So we kind of agreed to talk more about each matter freely without getting angry or offended. Since then, somehow we managed to cope and find the happiness of marriage. My brother is married to European too and my uncle is married to an American and I have never heard any strange stories coming out of their relationships.
But don’t understand me wrong I have heard horrible stories too, but I think it’s more about the way you see each other and how you want your relationship to be.
Hope every thing will go just fine with you too, but just keep in mind it is more about the two of you what you really want

[Lisa-Michigan]

LMN wrote:

Hi Lisa,
I’m a Moroccan, and have lived all my life in Morocco and nine years ago I met this British wonderful lady, and then our story started, had to move to UK and start a new life together. We have lived already six years in UK and we’re planning to move to Morocco (seeking sunnier place to live in) after we managed to secure jobs for both of us in there, so with bit of luck every thing will go just fine.
We got married seven years ago, and we have never been as happy as now. In the beginning we used to have arguments about religions and history, and some silly discussion like whose people are better but later on we settled down about the fact that we’re from different backgrounds and that surely will have a big influence in our lives. So we kind of agreed to talk more about each matter freely without getting angry or offended. Since then, somehow we managed to cope and find the happiness of marriage. My brother is married to European too and my uncle is married to an American and I have never heard any strange stories coming out of their relationships.
But don’t understand me wrong I have heard horrible stories too, but I think it’s more about the way you see each other and how you want your relationship to be.
Hope every thing will go just fine with you too, but just keep in mind it is more about the two of you what you really want

Thank you for your response, I'm eager to get more male feedback. Arguments in the first couple of yrs of marriage is normal for anybody, not just religious and cultural differences, I am glad to see yours and your brothers working it out, thanx again.

[Autumn1890]

I don't want to write a book because I can. I've tried to write you twice. There is not enough space or time right now to fit it in this little box. I'm married to a Moroccan husband for a 1 year and 3 months. I've known him since Jun 2005. Yes, he lived in Morocco before I met him and then we brought him over. If you want to know more, please e-mail at [e-mail]. I will give you all the details that you want to talk about. Be open. Educate yourself. Take care.

[RandyRachid]

kEEP AWAY FROM MOROCCAN MEN ,WE ARE NOT SUCKERS

[aziz a]

moroccans go by the region they come from. go visit region and what you see is what you get. i am berber male been married to japanese for 13 years 2 kids she is christien and i don,t believe in religions and never discus it .i am more about love comfortable living and future

[RandyRachid]

Bukake Bukake that's only language the japanese speak lol

[Lisa-Michigan]

Autumn1890 wrote:

I don't want to write a book because I can. I've tried to write you twice. There is not enough space or time right now to fit it in this little box. I'm married to a Moroccan husband for a 1 year and 3 months. I've known him since Jun 2005. Yes, he lived in Morocco before I met him and then we brought him over. If you want to know more, please e-mail at [e-mail]. I will give you all the details that you want to talk about. Be open. Educate yourself. Take care.

Hi Autumn, I know it looks like I'm just now responding to you, but I responded to your personal email weeks ago, and wondered why I didn't get a response from you. I think I put 1980 instead of 1890, so I will email you again so you will have my personal email account.

[usgirl]

Hi Lisa my name is Chasity and Im african american as yourself, and is currently engaged to a moroccan man. Not being married just yes I cant tell you if the marriages are successful in Morocco. My belief is that they are, due to what my fiance shares with me. But this can varu from person to person. He tells me that he does not believe in divorce and the majority of moroccan people do not divorce there. I hope that sheds some light on the subject. I was worried at first being black how I would fit into this culture. I will tell you that their primary language is French there and not english like in america. Communication is difficult for none french speaking people. Good luck.

[usgirl]

what exactly do you mean by this please explain Im engaged to a moroccan man and now your scaring me. I love him to death and know that he is mature, well educated, financially independent, so I did not plan to run over him, but give me more insight.

[Lisa-Michigan]

usgirl wrote:

Hi Lisa my name is Chasity and Im african american as yourself, and is currently engaged to a moroccan man. Not being married just yes I cant tell you if the marriages are successful in Morocco. My belief is that they are, due to what my fiance shares with me. But this can varu from person to person. He tells me that he does not believe in divorce and the majority of moroccan people do not divorce there. I hope that sheds some light on the subject. I was worried at first being black how I would fit into this culture. I will tell you that their primary language is French there and not english like in america. Communication is difficult for none french speaking people. Good luck.

Well I'm not new to the moroccan culture, one of my best friends (of 8 yrs) is moroccan, that is how I was introduced to my male friend from morocco. I've always wanted to learn french and I plan to learn french, for myself, but it will be a plus for my relationship with him. How did you meet your fiance?

[Lisa-Michigan]

usgirl wrote:

what exactly do you mean by this please explain Im engaged to a moroccan man and now your scaring me. I love him to death and know that he is mature, well educated, financially independent, so I did not plan to run over him, but give me more insight.

I don't think you were responding to me, but I will say go with your instincts. I was visiting a site on Danielpipes.org , and there is a lot of horror stories of women who were married to moroccan men, but I choose to stay away from there, because I am only getting one side of the story. Many american women, not all, but a lot tend to be in a power struggle with men,# 1, plus one of the women on the other site, chose drinking, partying and male friends over her husband, as a wife sometimes you have to put your life on the backburner for the sake of your family. I know a lot of women would disagree with me, but I wonder if they are married.

[Rachid]

AS A MOROCCAN I WILL GIVE A FIRST ACCOUNT POINT OF VIEW BEFORE YOU MARRY A MOROCCAN.FIRST OF ALL YOU HAVE NO SAY HOW TO RUN HOME OR FAMILY YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR JOB TO LOOK AFTER HOME AND YOUR HUSBAND.YOU HAVE TO LEARN MOROCCAN AND RESPECT HIS CULTURE AND FAMILY VALUES ,YOU WON'T SMOKE OR DRINK ALCOHOL IN FRON OF YOUR IN-LAWS.YOU HAVE TO CALL YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW (AUNTIE WHATEVER HER NAME IS.)YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR FRIENDS,PARTYING ,GOING OUT TO NITECLUBS,STAYING LATE DRINKING WITH YOUR FRIENDS,YOUR HUSBAND IS YOUR FIRST PRIORITY HE COMES EVEN BEFORE YOUR BABY!!(I'M NOT JOKING)YOU WILL HAVE NO CONTROL OVER YOUR MONEY EVEN IF YOU WORK (WITH HIS PERMISSION)YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM YOUR WAGES.ONE THING YOU HAVE TO REMEBER YOU MUST BECOME A MUSLIM OTHERWISE IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM TO INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND BE ACCEPTED ,OTHERWISE THEY WILL CALL INFIDELE AND THEY WILL MARRY HIM WITH A 17 YEARS OLD VIRGIN MOROCCAN MUSLIM AND YOU CAN'T DO NOTHING ABOUT IT.REMEBER AS MOROCCAN MEN WE HAVE A RIGHT TO MARRY 4 WIVES AT SAME TIME IF WE CAN AFFORD IT.WELL,IF YOU NEED MORE INFORMATIONS MY NAME IS RACHID I LIVE IN ENGLAND HERE IS MY EMAIL:[e-mail]

[Lisa-Michigan]

Rachid wrote:

AS A MOROCCAN I WILL GIVE A FIRST ACCOUNT POINT OF VIEW BEFORE YOU MARRY A MOROCCAN.FIRST OF ALL YOU HAVE NO SAY HOW TO RUN HOME OR FAMILY YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR JOB TO LOOK AFTER HOME AND YOUR HUSBAND.YOU HAVE TO LEARN MOROCCAN AND RESPECT HIS CULTURE AND FAMILY VALUES ,YOU WON'T SMOKE OR DRINK ALCOHOL IN FRON OF YOUR IN-LAWS.YOU HAVE TO CALL YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW (AUNTIE WHATEVER HER NAME IS.)YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR FRIENDS,PARTYING ,GOING OUT TO NITECLUBS,STAYING LATE DRINKING WITH YOUR FRIENDS,YOUR HUSBAND IS YOUR FIRST PRIORITY HE COMES EVEN BEFORE YOUR BABY!!(I'M NOT JOKING)YOU WILL HAVE NO CONTROL OVER YOUR MONEY EVEN IF YOU WORK (WITH HIS PERMISSION)YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM YOUR WAGES.ONE THING YOU HAVE TO REMEBER YOU MUST BECOME A MUSLIM OTHERWISE IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM TO INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND BE ACCEPTED ,OTHERWISE THEY WILL CALL INFIDELE AND THEY WILL MARRY HIM WITH A 17 YEARS OLD VIRGIN MOROCCAN MUSLIM AND YOU CAN'T DO NOTHING ABOUT IT.REMEBER AS MOROCCAN MEN WE HAVE A RIGHT TO MARRY 4 WIVES AT SAME TIME IF WE CAN AFFORD IT.WELL,IF YOU NEED MORE INFORMATIONS MY NAME IS RACHID I LIVE IN ENGLAND HERE IS MY EMAIL:[e-mail]

Thanx for the info, this is pretty much what I've already heard/read. Anyway, many of what you state in your post I don't do anyway ie drink, smoke, go to night clubs etc, I was raised in a strict christian home, where many of the women I know put their husbands and families first, so what I read is not much of a stretch from how I was raised anyway. I don't plan to jump into marriage with this man, and I will ask him about the multiple marriages etc, i've already asked him about converting to islam, of which he said I would not have to, call me gullible, but I try to give ppl the benefit of the doubt.

[Larbi]

as a Moroccan Man i would like to say that Moroccan Men are very very different from each other, it's bit true that the majority of them are still conservative and more protective to their culture especialy if they are religeous but some (which unfortunatly very few) are very open and totaly opposite to the idea of not opening up to the other culture, for exemple with the bit of friends and family pressure i married this young morrocan virgin as arrange marriage and while i back in London trying to get all papers ready to bring her to this country i meet thsi woman from slovakia who i felt in love with her in the first sight, she smokes and drink but i dont mind that at all as to be honest with you it suit me ven better because i like having a drink myself so i found it even better to share a nice bottle of wine with someone i love rather then finding a friend to go out to pub with. obviously i won't like her going to pub with a male friend as that would make me feel very jealous then again i think most of men would no matter what he is from..
I can say that it's not easy to live with someone from different background but its not impossible as long as you can talk honestly to each other and respect each other's culture. anyway it's never been easy to live with someone even if he is your twin brother or sister let alone someone with different background...
so, i what i want to prove here is that Moroccan men are very different, some of them i cannot even communicate with them because we have totaly different view from each other so i always try to keep my distance from the narrow minded ones.

Regards

Larbi

[Lisa-Michigan]

Larbi wrote:

as a Moroccan Man i would like to say that Moroccan Men are very very different from each other, it's bit true that the majority of them are still conservative and more protective to their culture especialy if they are religeous but some (which unfortunatly very few) are very open and totaly opposite to the idea of not opening up to the other culture, for exemple with the bit of friends and family pressure i married this young morrocan virgin as arrange marriage and while i back in London trying to get all papers ready to bring her to this country i meet thsi woman from slovakia who i felt in love with her in the first sight, she smokes and drink but i dont mind that at all as to be honest with you it suit me ven better because i like having a drink myself so i found it even better to share a nice bottle of wine with someone i love rather then finding a friend to go out to pub with. obviously i won't like her going to pub with a male friend as that would make me feel very jealous then again i think most of men would no matter what he is from..
I can say that it's not easy to live with someone from different background but its not impossible as long as you can talk honestly to each other and respect each other's culture. anyway it's never been easy to live with someone even if he is your twin brother or sister let alone someone with different background...
so, i what i want to prove here is that Moroccan men are very different, some of them i cannot even communicate with them because we have totaly different view from each other so i always try to keep my distance from the narrow minded ones.
Regards
Larbi

Thanx for your response, i'm glad to be getting a man's side of the story, because the women on this one site are ripping into you guys. I've often said that American men would love to be more in control, while we keep our mouths shut, but women's lib and laws, give us women the right to speak our minds, it can be a good thing, but also a bad thing, especially if you want to keep your marriage intact. I have more to say, but i'm in a hurry to get to work.

[Li O]

Lisa-Michigan wrote:

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Thanx for your response, i'm glad to be getting a man's side of the story, because the women on this one site are ripping into you guys. I've often said that American men would love to be more in control, while we keep our mouths shut, but women's lib and laws, give us women the right to speak our minds, it can be a good thing, but also a bad thing, especially if you want to keep your marriage intact. I have more to say, but i'm in a hurry to get to work.

I strongly agree with Larbi, I’m a Moroccan myself and live in UK with a European lady whom I fell in love and got married 8 years ago, our marriage is just doing well. My wife is atheist, and it has never bothered me as I’m not into religious that much. She drinks sometimes and so do I and I found it very convenient as we can do almost everything together. So basically cook, train, go out and meet our friends together.
Actually since I have lived in UK, it was a big issue for me to make any Moroccan friend, as mostly all of them would start to be involved in my relationship and criticise my marriage about the fact the we can have few drinks sometimes or because we are both not very religious. As I remember I have had bad experience from few Moroccan friends’ ages ago. So decided, I would never do the same mistake again. So, since I have moved to UK I have avoided them like plague.
But with all those years has passed, as much as I avoided them as much as I missed their sense of humour, and warm chat. I became very desperate to get to know at least one Moroccan I can go to a pub with our partners and have normal nice chat without him or her thinking of me as a sinner.
What I want to say is Moroccans like the rest of other humans they differ from one person to another but the majority, here where it becomes tricky and difficult, are very influenced by our religions and male society where we come from which some times can clashes to another western opinion.
Wish you very good luck in your relationship and remember it is just how you really feel about the whole thing yourself.
L

[Lisa-Michigan]

Li O wrote:

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I strongly agree with Larbi, I&#8217;m a Moroccan myself and live in UK with a European lady whom I fell in love and got married 8 years ago, our marriage is just doing well. My wife is atheist, and it has never bothered me as I&#8217;m not into religious that much. She drinks sometimes and so do I and I found it very convenient as we can do almost everything together. So basically cook, train, go out and meet our friends together.
Actually since I have lived in UK, it was a big issue for me to make any Moroccan friend, as mostly all of them would start to be involved in my relationship and criticise my marriage about the fact the we can have few drinks sometimes or because we are both not very religious. As I remember I have had bad experience from few Moroccan friends&#8217; ages ago. So decided, I would never do the same mistake again. So, since I have moved to UK I have avoided them like plague.
But with all those years has passed, as much as I avoided them as much as I missed their sense of humour, and warm chat. I became very desperate to get to know at least one Moroccan I can go to a pub with our partners and have normal nice chat without him or her thinking of me as a sinner.
What I want to say is Moroccans like the rest of other humans they differ from one person to another but the majority, here where it becomes tricky and difficult, are very influenced by our religions and male society where we come from which some times can clashes to another western opinion.
Wish you very good luck in your relationship and remember it is just how you really feel about the whole thing yourself.
L

Thanx for your response as well. The Moroccan man that I am acquainted with, comes to me through a long time female Moroccan friend. She is married to an American (for 9 yrs now) and she surrounds herself with Moroccan friends, as well as a few of us Americans. She told me one day, that sometimes she prefers to be just friends with Christians (I'm one) to her Muslim friends, for reasons to long to post. Thanx again, fellas.