How moroccan men handles relationship

[Tea tree]

Wind Dancer wrote:

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I think it would be foolish for you to convert just to marry him, but of course the choice is urs and urs alone.

Please do not convert to Islam just because of him... Islam is not just a religion, it's a way of life.

[AdeyzMarci]

Anon, Hi.

I wanted to comment on your post. I am (African)American and have been 'dating' my (Moroccan) boyfriend since August last year. He came on very strong initially (after we met and spoke, of course, for a time). I thought also was much too soon to try get kiss. He was only testing me. Okay, so I gave in to that kiss...(am not Muslim, Christian, studying Quran, maybe one day to convert to lovely Islam). Anyway, needless to say, I am very much in love with this man. He, howevever, tells me (now) that he never expected a 'serious' relationship--despite his telling me on very random and sweet (non-intimate) occassions that he loves me---which I totally believe. BUT, I think either his family is encouraging he wed within his family OR he has met another. I don't know. I do know that I have been somewhat pushing him by being an over-texter (I have no experience texting, and may have done too much ...driving him mad at so much words not in his language (I do speak, write an read Arabic, but of course, since he is wanting to perfect his English...)

Anyway, back to your comments, cuz it is not about me..., Anon, I read somewhere that Arab men (perhaps moreso those from Northern Africa) want date women of color moreso (1) because we may be more approachable,(2) more open minded,(3) they don't always view color as a hindrance to their getting to know, and (sadly)(4) we have been deemed more likely to give in to desires quicker than our sister Arab women. I don't know which is true. All I can say is it is YOU who can set your limits within a relationship. If you want to get to know this one further, agree to being his "friend" but without "benefits" cuz within Islam the relationship is forbidden anyway...but I am not Allah, and anyway, I desire my man in all ways (but don't get what my body want, of course...cuz we practice discipline--the hardest thing in the world to do when you love another.) Anyway, Anon, let your heart and MIND guide you---of course, and the holy teachings of Islam. God bless you, and all readers.

(Also, off subject, I wanted to encourage peace between races. I, even I as an (African/Portugese/Indian/Whit e mixed) American women, become so offended when people get on a forum and say cruel things about another's culture or way. All were raised the way they were. Why criticize? Just learn and understand that. And, above all else, be ready for whatever pitfalls may happen if you mix with that culture, whatever it is; cuz if love develops, like mine has, fear and denial and all other things WILL come into place and one will become somewhat confused because of the time vested in getting to know and releasing the heart to that other. People everywhere are BEAUTIFUL and WONDERFUL. God bless each of you and each of your relationships, insha allah.

Anon wrote:

Slmz, I know this topic has taken place long ago. But I'm seeking your opinion. I'm from South Africa and I have met a Moroccan man. He is good looking, speaks very gentle and very charming. My question to you is. How do I know he is no fake towards me. We went out on 2 dates and wanted to sleep with me on the first date. I said no. Second date same thing, I said no. He left it at that and couldn't understand why I didn't wanna sleep with him. Now after the last dates we didn't see each other and have been chatting on a regular basis. He told me that he wants me to be his girlfriend. It was a shock to me cause we only went out twice.
I don't know him that well that he has decided that this is where he wants to be with me. I have been through dating so many times and this is a first that a guy move so fast and wants a relationship. I don't know if I will get a response from you. But I'm putting this out there so that maybe someone will answer me. I forgot to mention that I am Muslim. Shukraan for anyones response.

[Moroccan pride]

AdeyzMarci wrote:

Anon, Hi.
I wanted to comment on your post. I am (African)American and have been 'dating' my (Moroccan) boyfriend since August last year. He came on very strong initially (after we met and spoke, of course, for a time). I thought also was much too soon to try get kiss. He was only testing me. Okay, so I gave in to that kiss...(am not Muslim, Christian, studying Quran, maybe one day to convert to lovely Islam). Anyway, needless to say, I am very much in love with this man. He, howevever, tells me (now) that he never expected a 'serious' relationship--despite his telling me on very random and sweet (non-intimate) occassions that he loves me---which I totally believe. BUT, I think either his family is encouraging he wed within his family OR he has met another. I don't know. I do know that I have been somewhat pushing him by being an over-texter (I have no experience texting, and may have done too much ...driving him mad at so much words not in his language (I do speak, write an read Arabic, but of course, since he is wanting to perfect his English...)
Anyway, back to your comments, cuz it is not about me..., Anon, I read somewhere that Arab men (perhaps moreso those from Northern Africa) want date women of color moreso (1) because we may be more approachable,(2) more open minded,(3) they don't always view color as a hindrance to their getting to know, and (sadly)(4) we have been deemed more likely to give in to desires quicker than our sister Arab women. I don't know which is true. All I can say is it is YOU who can set your limits within a relationship. If you want to get to know this one further, agree to being his "friend" but without "benefits" cuz within Islam the relationship is forbidden anyway...but I am not Allah, and anyway, I desire my man in all ways (but don't get what my body want, of course...cuz we practice discipline--the hardest thing in the world to do when you love another.) Anyway, Anon, let your heart and MIND guide you---of course, and the holy teachings of Islam. God bless you, and all readers.
(Also, off subject, I wanted to encourage peace between races. I, even I as an (African/Portugese/Indian/Whit e mixed) American women, become so offended when people get on a forum and say cruel things about another's culture or way. All were raised the way they were. Why criticize? Just learn and understand that. And, above all else, be ready for whatever pitfalls may happen if you mix with that culture, whatever it is; cuz if love develops, like mine has, fear and denial and all other things WILL come into place and one will become somewhat confused because of the time vested in getting to know and releasing the heart to that other. People everywhere are BEAUTIFUL and WONDERFUL. God bless each of you and each of your relationships, insha allah.
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May Allah (swt) bless you and make everything you wish for happen soon inshaallah...Marriage is not easy specialty with 2 people from different cultures but with love and understanding and accepting the other's differences , magic happens!!!
Anon, I wish for you two all the best inshallah,try not to let him get what he wants from you, he may be testing you just to see how easy you give yourself up physically, because from my culture (as a moroccan) the lady who gives everything to a man illegitimately before marriage she doesn't deserve him as a legitimate husband, good luck to you all.

[Curious]

Ok..does ANYBODY (women) have anything positive to say? I just "met" a half Moraccan/Syrian man and though I know to be careful with any man in general I find the differnce in culture fasinating. He has already told me that he is looking for a passionate, sexual woman, long term relationship, no time for games..he's 41 with no kids (so he says) I am 49. He prefers African American women, which I am and I just want to know should I run for the hills or give him a chance to prove what he says is true. He says he's been here (USA) for 25 years

[Curious]

I wanted to add..I have been single for many years and I want to be in a relationship but though I am interested in getting to know him I feel like he is rushing, he told me that I can ask ANYTHING and he will answer..he thinks I am beautiful, exotic, sexy etc etc. What concerns me is that his profile seems that he dwells a lot on the sexual aspect of relationships, I AM NOT GIVING UP THE COOKIES ANY TIME SOON lol!I also need it to be known that I met him on a dating site, we have had 1 conversation on the phone..he left his number with a plea to call..I called but blocked my #, I would like to meet him, he's in NC I'm in GA, he has lived in GA in the past and has family here, he said he's coming to GA this weekend for business. I also want it to be known I'm NOTtrying to marry this man, I want to get to know more about him as a person, start a friendhip, learn about his culture idk..maybe I shouldn't call him again. Before we hung up he asked me to blow him a kiss through the phone I said no..I don't know you lol!

[Moroccan Pride]

Curious wrote:

I wanted to add..I have been single for many years and I want to be in a relationship but though I am interested in getting to know him I feel like he is rushing, he told me that I can ask ANYTHING and he will answer..he thinks I am beautiful, exotic, sexy etc etc. What concerns me is that his profile seems that he dwells a lot on the sexual aspect of relationships, I AM NOT GIVING UP THE COOKIES ANY TIME SOON lol!I also need it to be known that I met him on a dating site, we have had 1 conversation on the phone..he left his number with a plea to call..I called but blocked my #, I would like to meet him, he's in NC I'm in GA, he has lived in GA in the past and has family here, he said he's coming to GA this weekend for business. I also want it to be known I'm NOTtrying to marry this man, I want to get to know more about him as a person, start a friendhip, learn about his culture idk..maybe I shouldn't call him again. Before we hung up he asked me to blow him a kiss through the phone I said no..I don't know you lol!

Just be careful please, don't believe anything yet....if I was you I would tell him that I'm looking for a serious relationship based on physical denials, if he's serious he'll accept your wish if not be sure he's just paying around):, don't give up easy he'll stick to you....I'm moroccan and I'm sure about what I'm saying, good luck!

[Curious]

Moroccan Pride wrote:

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Just be careful please, don't believe anything yet....if I was you I would tell him that I'm looking for a serious relationship based on physical denials, if he's serious he'll accept your wish if not be sure he's just paying around):, don't give up easy he'll stick to you....I'm moroccan and I'm sure about what I'm saying, good luck!

Thank u for ur reply..we have both stated that we are looking for a SERIOUS committed relationship. No games..I do not want him for sex and not sure about a relationship as of yet..as I said we've only "met" today & have had 1 conversation..I am debating on calling him again. Would it be wrong to ask if he is here legally? I'm not trying to be used in any shape form or fashion. He keeps saying he is looking for his soulmate..any suggestions as to how to handle this/him? I've never dated anyone outside of my race let alone culture but have always been open to the possibility..and I KNOW I have to be cautious

[Curious]

So the guy I was speaking of is NO MORE..after we spoke on the phone this past Tue..same day I posted..I did not call him the next day due to prior family obligations..which I TOLD him.. so I get on my profile later that nite and he messages me that I'm just like everyone else, playing games, not being serious etc etc sounding kinda upset. So I message back basically saying I told u I had things to dothink what u want and that if ur mad cuz I didn't call u then maybe we should stop this before it starts. Also you're moving a little too fast for me, I said maybe that's ur way but it sends a red flag up for me as to why the hurry? What are the real intentions? I reminded him AGAIN thatI have to develop a friendship before anything else, I said I don't just fall into the arms and bed of men I do not know..anyways he messaged back saying he don't give a rats ass WHAT I think about him! I messaged back for him NOT to contact me again..so thankful I blocked my # when I called him!

[xena]

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[Vanveen]

I got a controlling spell from this Dr.ikhumiseiozoyaspellcaster@g mail.com and it has been of great help to me, I control my husband as I like and he sex me whenever I told him to do that!

[Moroccan Pride]

Curious wrote:

So the guy I was speaking of is NO MORE..after we spoke on the phone this past Tue..same day I posted..I did not call him the next day due to prior family obligations..which I TOLD him.. so I get on my profile later that nite and he messages me that I'm just like everyone else, playing games, not being serious etc etc sounding kinda upset. So I message back basically saying I told u I had things to dothink what u want and that if ur mad cuz I didn't call u then maybe we should stop this before it starts. Also you're moving a little too fast for me, I said maybe that's ur way but it sends a red flag up for me as to why the hurry? What are the real intentions? I reminded him AGAIN thatI have to develop a friendship before anything else, I said I don't just fall into the arms and bed of men I do not know..anyways he messaged back saying he don't give a rats ass WHAT I think about him! I messaged back for him NOT to contact me again..so thankful I blocked my # when I called him!

Sorry to hear that, but you should be very grateful that you got rid of him before it got too serious, good luck to you.

[hi there]

Salam

[Musa Aisha]

Yes I'm free from the embarrassment I got from these men, I gat their control in my hands and no more molestation or heart break. To thanks to my friend for his information.

[Rose]

Curious wrote:

So the guy I was speaking of is NO MORE..after we spoke on the phone this past Tue..same day I posted..I did not call him the next day due to prior family obligations..which I TOLD him.. so I get on my profile later that nite and he messages me that I'm just like everyone else, playing games, not being serious etc etc sounding kinda upset. So I message back basically saying I told u I had things to dothink what u want and that if ur mad cuz I didn't call u then maybe we should stop this before it starts. Also you're moving a little too fast for me, I said maybe that's ur way but it sends a red flag up for me as to why the hurry? What are the real intentions? I reminded him AGAIN thatI have to develop a friendship before anything else, I said I don't just fall into the arms and bed of men I do not know..anyways he messaged back saying he don't give a rats ass WHAT I think about him! I messaged back for him NOT to contact me again..so thankful I blocked my # when I called him!

he sounds just like someone I know. I married him and he gave me nothing but heart break and used me to no end without any
mercy or feelings. All the niceness was a surface nothing beneath and I fell for it. Be glad you blocked your number and be good to yourself, forget him and go about your way.

[mao6521]

Rose wrote:

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he sounds just like someone I know. I married him and he gave me nothing but heart break and used me to no end without any
mercy or feelings. All the niceness was a surface nothing beneath and I fell for it. Be glad you blocked your number and be good to yourself, forget him and go about your way.

hi rose I have experienced what you experienced. I experienced sweet talk and kindness but the heartbreak after I married him was horrible. I was one of those who were fooled and if anyone is reading this please look beyond the Moroccan man's charisma. We are fooled every time we get sucked in. If any Muslim believes in Allah then they will understand there are consequences to their actions. So all you ladies out there please be careful. I have gone thru hell with my Moroccan husband and I would not wish this pain and suffering on anyone. I can handle a lot of things but I couldn't handle his dishonesty about girls outside of our marriage. He loved saying he was at one place and I saw he was at another place. It's sad to read emails or text or even see pictures between my husband and other girls. If you read on about morrocans they all have the same patterns and I would suggest to all of you to stop at the red flags you see and don't get sucked in by their sweet talk. Please ladies out there be very careful. This is your life and all of you deserve peace and happiness.

[Rose]

misticlady wrote:

I dated a Moroccan man for 8 months, he was really great at first and I got caught up in the fascination of another culture, but once that wore off I realized he was using me, I gave him Money to pay his bills, I picked him up every week and his son. Sometimes I took many trips into town for him. I even let him use my food stamp card. His cousin lives with him, his cousin so he says has stolen money from him, but honestly I know he has a gambling habbit, how else would someone with two jobs never have money. I broke up with him 3 times, but he guilted ne back everytime, but the last time after I took him back he said...I couldn't lose you, what woman would pick you iy up every week,let you stay in her house, do what ever you want you r, everything a man wantin a woman ius in you. Then he was suffering because of bills and started talkng about marriage...red flag....then when I took him home his cousin was drinking again and he started drinking. Then his cousin tried to force himself on me and all my ex boyfriend could say was he doesnt know what he is doing he is drunk, then he got upset with me for crying....so I broke up with him for the fourth and final time. He tried toi get me back, sending me pictures of his son crying then have the three year old little boy call me and you could tell he was being told what to say. So later I took one last trip into own and gave him back his stuff. He said thank you and sorry for notr being the man you wanted me to be, good luck. I'm so happy now, I don't have to spend all that gas money and cigarette money, and my food stamps are mine and my sons. Not saying he is a bad person, just that he doesnt know how to act in America, you can't treat woman thus way. He always says his cousin says if your girlfriend doesnt pay your bills you don't need her, his cousin us married to a lady in Arkansas but is in reno dating a married woman who spends her husband's money on him. He says he never looked to me for money, well I think he needs to take a long hard look in the mirror.

I experienced what you are writing, except a little different.
my exhusband used me to no end. I loved and trusted him for a couple of years when we lived in Morocco. He never gave me a hard time was always very caring and sweet. When filing for his visa he said I pay back to you all the expenses for the visa and his part of the travel, etc. It cost me several thousand dollars. Then we came to the US and no sooner I layed the foundation for him (housing, job, bank account, etc.) all hell broke lose. He then not once feeled obligated to any material marital duty or help around the house or anything. He called me and my family all sorts of dirty names, no one was good except him. He terrorized me in a way I cannot even describe. He wanted to have his own friends and come and go whenever he pleased. He demonized me, etc. etc. it broke my heart and of course he would not even think at all of repaying to me the money he said he repay me for his expenses. He went and bought his groceries, then he invited me to eat with him, after I cooked ofcourse. He neither honored Christmas nor my birthdays, told me he is not a Christian so no Christmas for him, did not tell me happy birthday or anything like that. I could not believe what I saw and how any one can change like that. Ofcourse I would not sign again a petition for him to remove the restriction from his green card. Best thing the Government could do, restrict the green card and then after 2 years wants to see prove of a normal marriage. I am writing this to warn all women out there. Not to cut anyone down but warn!! Chances are you will get hurt because Moroccans are very skilled in beeing charming and sweet until they got what they want and need, even if it takes a couple of years. I am not the only one to have experienced such. They manipulate and play with your brain. Be careful!!

[sally]

hi everyone,
i just wonder if anyone can help me with my problem.
i'm an asian girl living in saudi arabia.
i once send my cv in this site where i apply for a job. one day, a man contact me on my phone and told me that he had read my CV and to let me know that they are hiring.. he discussed about their company and but since they are in Riyadh while i'm in jeddah.. i refuse his offer. but still after rejecting, he still keeps on calling regarding their sister companies here in jeddah. but still i'm not convinced. until one day he ask my father's contact number (by the way, i once told him that i live her with my family and he was so happy when he knew about it) he wants to ask my hand from my father. he then said that he is on another intention with me when he contact me aside from offering a job. he is Moroccan/American , 36y/o , wants to marry a filipina girl.
he seems to be a nice man. but i don't know if i'm going to reject him or accept his offer.
actually, after reading some of comments here.. i got scared! wish someone could answer me. thanx in advance!

[Authentic Moroccan]

Wow horrible stories, I didn't know that we have a bad reputation overseas. I'm not here to tell how Moroccan men are good or awesome, but if someone treat you bad that mean only one thing, you don't know how to choose your man. Moroccan are not all bad and are not all good. That's true most of poor moroccans dream about going overseas not just in europ or united states but also to middle east like KSA of UAE. I'm just want to say that because poor people can't find good work with good salary in Morocco. But they don't know that life overseas is hard too. First time I came to europ it was for studies and saw that european people live in shit too and they can't find work. And also we(Moroccans) special students we don't act like Moroccans whom born in europ. We are educated and respect law, we live in regulare situation and we paye taxes like everyone. So we don't need a european girl for visa, and after studies we can work here normally. I just wanna say that if there is some moroccans who want to go out with you just for visa, there also much more moroccan (if they accept) to go out with it will be just because he like you (especially if you are blonde because we like blonde girls ).
I was thinking about going with a european girl but when I knew what you think about us, I don't think it will be possible. I prefer I japanese girl lol

[Rose]

Authentic Moroccan wrote:

Wow horrible stories, I didn't know that we have a bad reputation overseas. I'm not here to tell how Moroccan men are good or awesome, but if someone treat you bad that mean only one thing, you don't know how to choose your man. Moroccan are not all bad and are not all good. That's true most of poor moroccans dream about going overseas not just in europ or united states but also to middle east like KSA of UAE. I'm just want to say that because poor people can't find good work with good salary in Morocco. But they don't know that life overseas is hard too. First time I came to europ it was for studies and saw that european people live in shit too and they can't find work. And also we(Moroccans) special students we don't act like Moroccans whom born in europ. We are educated and respect law, we live in regulare situation and we paye taxes like everyone. So we don't need a european girl for visa, and after studies we can work here normally. I just wanna say that if there is some moroccans who want to go out with you just for visa, there also much more moroccan (if they accept) to go out with it will be just because he like you (especially if you are blonde because we like blonde girls ).
I was thinking about going with a european girl but when I knew what you think about us, I don't think it will be possible. I prefer I japanese girl lol

Everyone prefers something different. I know Moroccans like Japanese women because they also like going to Japan and work there, however, Japanese and Moroccans may be more compatible because a Japanese woman learned by their culture how to obey her man right??? RIGHT!!
But stupid they are not, and a well educated Japanese woman will not marry a Moroccan man because her family would object to it. So in the end same soso,(the reason I know? I travel a whole lot and have lived in Japan for 2 years).

[Rose]

sally wrote:

hi everyone,
i just wonder if anyone can help me with my problem.
i'm an asian girl living in saudi arabia.
i once send my cv in this site where i apply for a job. one day, a man contact me on my phone and told me that he had read my CV and to let me know that they are hiring.. he discussed about their company and but since they are in Riyadh while i'm in jeddah.. i refuse his offer. but still after rejecting, he still keeps on calling regarding their sister companies here in jeddah. but still i'm not convinced. until one day he ask my father's contact number (by the way, i once told him that i live her with my family and he was so happy when he knew about it) he wants to ask my hand from my father. he then said that he is on another intention with me when he contact me aside from offering a job. he is Moroccan/American , 36y/o , wants to marry a filipina girl.
he seems to be a nice man. but i don't know if i'm going to reject him or accept his offer.
actually, after reading some of comments here.. i got scared! wish someone could answer me. thanx in advance!

You sound like a real nice lady. I live in America and know these type of Moroccan/American men.
Ask many questions and have him prove everything to you. Unless he is very well educated and has a good paying job stay away from him. What kind of job is he doing and ask all these questions. How did he came to America on the green card program or on a spouses visa? If he came on a spouses visa most likely he used her to come over here, so be careful.
The Moroccan men like Asian women because Asian women by their culture are obedient to men. Be very careful, ask many many questions and have him prove everything to you. If he is for real and a good man he will have no problem with it but if he has something to hide he will stop his advances and disappear.