American girl/Moroccan her with tourist visa

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jetseter78

Shawnee, KS

#1 Feb 21, 2011
I am wondering thoughts on a Moroccan guy here in the US on a tourist visa. He says he has a business back in Morocco but doesn't want to live there again. He is close with his family and will visit every 6 months. We are in love and talking about waiting 2 or 3 years before getting married. I have read all the horror stories of bringing a Moroccan to the US and being used for a green card. I don't feel he is using me since he says he is willing to wait to get married. Surely there are plenty of American girls that would marry him sooner than I would. I think I will feel better once I travel to Morocoo and meet his family and see his business. Any tips on this subject? He says his family doesn't mind if he marries an American/non-Muslim girl.
TigerLily

Minneapolis, MN

#2 Feb 21, 2011
My suggestion...travel to Morocco and get to know his family and friends.
It's true there are many Moroccans who will use anyone for a green card (it's sort of epidemic), but this one might be an exception. It's a good sign that he is able to get a tourist visa on his own. They are not easy to get. In order to have a tourist visa application approved, they must 1)Prove they have enough money 2) Have a good job 3) Own some property. Or at least their family should be...somewhat wealthy. In other words, they have to prove to the embassy that they are not desperate to leave. So...although he doesn't sound particularly desperate, I would be concerned that he says he doesn't want to live there. So, yeah...once again...take your time, get to know him (and his family)better, learn about his culture, go to Morocco and find out for yourself why he doesn't want to live there. If you have any doubts about this guy...trust your intincts and drop him like a hot potato!
Meowmixx

North Vancouver, Canada

#3 Feb 22, 2011
DON'T GO TO MOROCCO! READ ABOUT YOUR RIGHTS IN MOROCCO AND HOW EASY YOU CAN GET TRAPPED. Morocco is not the US.
habiba

Denver, CO

#4 Feb 22, 2011
I am a Moroccan lady, I have been married to an an American man for about seventeen years. We have a very good mariage. We are still in love after all this time. Like every couple we have our differences, but they have nothing to do with religion, or culture. we have a lot in common. we want the same things for the kids, and we both know what to expect from each other. My advice to you is to discuss things, to get to know each other well. you need to know what his expectations are, how religious he is, how you both want to bring up the kids, if you are planning on having any. A lot of subjects can be brought up, and if he is the one, you probably can have a good life with him because like everywhere, there are a lot of nice Moroccans out there.
seen enough

Casablanca, Morocco

#5 Feb 23, 2011
To add to the comments: get your family involved. Have them travel with you to Morocco and check out the guy's family, friends, etc. Your perspective alone is limited. they may be able to see something that you don't. Check out his business. What is it? Is he truthful?
Also, see if his family is interested in immigrating. That may be a goal - to get his family over. Remember, this is not just about him, it's about his family. It's a group thing. If anyone from his family comes over, you are going to host them as the daughter in law.~ In Moroccan culture, daughter-in-laws are often mistreated. Hospitality is huge and you don't know how to do that. Once the mother-in-law comes, watch out!
The religious aspect is tricky too. He may appear all nice now but he can change especially if he is with family, relatives, et. If he wants to get a green card, then that is the reason he wants you. If you decline, he'll look for someone else. Cross-cultural marriage is much harder than you think. I've seen enough.
Also, he may marry you only to divorce soon after. Why? Because he wants his family more. Family and his parents are more important to him than you. Sorry, this is reality. You may have a 1-4% chance.
Jozef

Casablanca, Morocco

#6 Jul 19, 2011
to jetseter78 .

Believe me American Girl , he would do the best he can to be a good husband , the fact I m Moroccan and I have the same story even I have some bad coincidences . but I can sure you, he is not interested in that stuff of green card he is aiming to having a perfect life with you .!!he choose you and you choose him cause destiny gets you together ..can you just imagine that horrible distance that is between you , can you Imagine it , that would makes him loves you more and more . for me the distance seems like a punichment .
but I promise you one thing ... you will love his country and you will see ..I m absolutely sure that his family would love you ..a love that you won't even imagine .

the Moroccan guy " just a friend ^^
do not go there

London, UK

#7 Jul 19, 2011
jetsetter 78 My ex had to prove he had money before he got a student visa, he had a rich uncle who helped him prove he had savings.My ex's family were very nice to me before marriage too, as their son used me to get his greencard, and his financial stability.He left me with his three children and does not pay any maintenance towards the upkeep of his three children, he sends money to his family in Morocco and neglects his children.He is building a house for himself in Morocco.My ex was nice to me up until he was ready to leave. Be careful and use your judgement and gut instincts.
Wind Dancer

San Antonio, TX

#8 Jul 21, 2011
do not go there wrote:
jetsetter 78 My ex had to prove he had money before he got a student visa, he had a rich uncle who helped him prove he had savings.My ex's family were very nice to me before marriage too, as their son used me to get his greencard, and his financial stability.He left me with his three children and does not pay any maintenance towards the upkeep of his three children, he sends money to his family in Morocco and neglects his children.He is building a house for himself in Morocco.My ex was nice to me up until he was ready to leave. Be careful and use your judgement and gut instincts.
Are u saying that he is in England and you two have 3 children together that he does not financially support? What r the laws in the UK? Can u get him arrested, like in the US for failure to pay child support? I wouldnt let the jackass get away with it but I can understand that ppl get tired of fighting the system. It does wear u down. I know because I have worked for the US government in the past. Yuk!
Bilma

New Haven, CT

#9 Jul 28, 2011
I am agreed with Josef. I loved to visit Rabat and met wonderful, simple and sincere people. Follow your heart instead of people's comments. I am from Spain but I live in USA for now 24 years.
Dragonfly

Homestead, FL

#10 Jul 6, 2012
It's been a year. Any news? Are you still together? Did you go to Morocco?
Brandy-Fatemah

Saint-laurent, Canada

#11 Sep 27, 2012
Meowmixx wrote:
DON'T GO TO MOROCCO! READ ABOUT YOUR RIGHTS IN MOROCCO AND HOW EASY YOU CAN GET TRAPPED. Morocco is not the US.
I am a canadian who was living in morocco and actually woman have alot of rights do not believe all you read, yes there are some bad stories but you also hear of stories of americans
Jetsetter 78

Kansas City, MO

#12 Sep 27, 2012
We are not together anymore but he still calls sometimes and tells me he wants to come be with me here in the US. Im still unsure about his life in Morocco and heard he may be married over there which he denies. My gut tells me something isn't right and he's lying about something. Maybe one day I will learn the truth.
Jetsetter 78

Kansas City, MO

#13 Sep 27, 2012
Thank you everyone for your thoughts on my issue :)

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#14 Sep 27, 2012
Jetsetter 78 wrote:
Thank you everyone for your thoughts on my issue :)
I am glad that you were able to avoid all the troubles of marriage with this man. I also hope that you didn't lose a lot in this relationship -- money, sleep, dignity or yourself. I went through some tough times with the Moroccan man I met but he was living in Germany and still is. He, too, actually just contacted me recently and told me that he still loves me but I told him no. Whatever courage you had to resist this man, more power to you!

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#15 Sep 28, 2012
Jetsetter 78 wrote:
We are not together anymore but he still calls sometimes and tells me he wants to come be with me here in the US. Im still unsure about his life in Morocco and heard he may be married over there which he denies. My gut tells me something isn't right and he's lying about something. Maybe one day I will learn the truth.
i read wht u said and im wondering,how u arent sure but u talk like u found something about him?why we have to judge people becoz we heard some bad stories?nd the question u should ask urself is 'if this man wants ur green card then why he still fone u instead of searching another who can give him quickly?'anyway its not good to doubt when we dont see anything by our eyes coz maybe the other person is real but our thoughts are false
Abdeljalil

Agadir, Morocco

#16 Nov 14, 2012
Heey I'm Abdel From Morocco & i want to find work in New York ! I Find one in Qeens Some moroccan restaurant i want dating girls Usa i'm a single & Have 20 Years i work in McDonald's i going school,i study,i have house,. i can speak english cuz i'm learn it at school with french loke this is my compte facebook add me and we talk later :) https://www.facebook.com/Mr.Imbratoriz.LARTIS...

Since: Sep 12

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#17 Nov 14, 2012
Abdeljalil wrote:
Heey I'm Abdel From Morocco & i want to find work in New York ! I Find one in Qeens Some moroccan restaurant i want dating girls Usa i'm a single & Have 20 Years i work in McDonald's i going school,i study,i have house,. i can speak english cuz i'm learn it at school with french loke this is my compte facebook add me and we talk later :) https://www.facebook.com/Mr.Imbratoriz.LARTIS...
baraka man choha homa galsin kay3aybo fina o nta 3ad makatzid thacham bina o tbayn rassek bhal ila man3ref chni kayn 3andhom homa
lara

Bridport, UK

#20 Jan 3, 2013
do not go there wrote:
<quoted text> I have forced him to pay through the child support agency. He is self employed black cab driver who declares to the inland revenue that he is on 12k per annum, so he pays me peanuts for the up keep of three children.He is a born and bred compulsive liar, he lies to every one and gets away with it.The liar's name is Tarik Arafa, who used me for a british passport and financial stability when he achieved his mission he filed for a divorce, so he can marry a moroccan woman. Rutheless and a heartless man, what goes round comes round.
Have faith, look after your children & yourself... and this man will be left with nothing.. dont worry, what comes around goes around.. he will deserve what he gets..
FOUAD

Jersey City, NJ

#21 Feb 20, 2013
That time when a moroccan will do any thing to stay here is gone.As a moroccan who lived here for 20 years,I have seen in last years people going back to Morocco to do their lives in there.The America we saw in American movies is not here, here is work ,pay bills, get older, and then die.So I don't think that Moroccans are rushing to get here.I do believe that taking your time to be married is necessary with a moroccan or none moroccan
ahmed

Amsterdam, Netherlands

#23 Apr 20, 2013
hahaha sir a hmarr sir. hahaha.
Abdeljalil wrote:
Heey I'm Abdel From Morocco & i want to find work in New York ! I Find one in Qeens Some moroccan restaurant i want dating girls Usa i'm a single & Have 20 Years i work in McDonald's i going school,i study,i have house,. i can speak english cuz i'm learn it at school with french loke this is my compte facebook add me and we talk later :) https://www.facebook.com/Mr.Imbratoriz.LARTIS...

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