Dating a Divorced Man........A nightmare????????????

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By Chelsea Kaplan
If youíve just begun dating a divorced man, you may soon realize that the ďregularĒ dating rules donít always apply. Whether itís due to encounters with his ex, issues concerning his children or heavier-than-average baggage, dating a divorced man can be especially challenging. For tips on how to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a divorced man, heed the advice of Dr. Christie Hartman, author of Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if Heís Right for You.

Q: In which ways is dating a divorced man different than dating a man who has never been married?

A: Divorced men have more baggage than never-married men. And while baggage doesnít have to be a negative thing, it does create more challenges that you will need to be prepared for.

Q: Tell us about the specific challengesÖ

A: Well, first and foremost, all divorced men have an ex-wife. Because marriage is such a serious commitment, ex-wives tend to have more power than ex-girlfriends, even after the marriage ends. If they had kids together, she will always be in the picture, feel protective toward her kids, and feel she has certain privileges with him due to having had his children. Whatís more, women without kids may be surprised by the amount of time and care that children require, which will influence the freedom the couple has. Lastly, divorce can be financially devastating. On top of the actual divorce costs and having to split up all the family assets, divorced men may have child support or alimony obligations. These factors will influence his futureóand his future with you.

Q: When dating a divorced man, is there anything in particular that women should be wary of?

A: Women should definitely be on the lookout for a guy whoís not yet over his marriage. Heíll talk excessively about the marriage, ex-wife, or divorce, frequently praise or badmouth his ex, and spend more time with the ex than is necessary for children or polite friendship. Itís OK if he displays these signs once in a while, but they should not occur frequently.

Q: In your opinion, are most divorced men looking for another long-term relationship?

A: Some divorced men, especially if the divorce is recent, may be more interested in having fun than in having a relationship. Unfortunately, they may not be aware of this, or if they are, they may not share it with you. Usually after being single for a couple of years, the issues surrounding a manís divorce ó and his grief about it ó will resolve itself.

Q: When it comes to dating divorced men, are there definite doníts?

A: Donít be afraid to ask questions. Find out if his divorce is final, when he separated, if he has children, why his marriage ended, etc. Also, donít give too much too soon. Divorced men, especially if still divorcing or recently divorced, can be needy. Never give more than you are getting.
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Thatohatsi wrote:
By Chelsea Kaplan
If youíve just begun dating a divorced man, you may soon realize that the ďregularĒ dating rules donít always apply. Whether itís due to encounters with his ex, issues concerning his children or heavier-than-average baggage, dating a divorced man can be especially challenging. For tips on how to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a divorced man, heed the advice of Dr. Christie Hartman, author of Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if Heís Right for You.
Q: In which ways is dating a divorced man different than dating a man who has never been married?
A: Divorced men have more baggage than never-married men. And while baggage doesnít have to be a negative thing, it does create more challenges that you will need to be prepared for.
Q: Tell us about the specific challengesÖ
A: Well, first and foremost, all divorced men have an ex-wife. Because marriage is such a serious commitment, ex-wives tend to have more power than ex-girlfriends, even after the marriage ends. If they had kids together, she will always be in the picture, feel protective toward her kids, and feel she has certain privileges with him due to having had his children. Whatís more, women without kids may be surprised by the amount of time and care that children require, which will influence the freedom the couple has. Lastly, divorce can be financially devastating. On top of the actual divorce costs and having to split up all the family assets, divorced men may have child support or alimony obligations. These factors will influence his futureóand his future with you.
Q: When dating a divorced man, is there anything in particular that women should be wary of?
A: Women should definitely be on the lookout for a guy whoís not yet over his marriage. Heíll talk excessively about the marriage, ex-wife, or divorce, frequently praise or badmouth his ex, and spend more time with the ex than is necessary for children or polite friendship. Itís OK if he displays these signs once in a while, but they should not occur frequently.
Q: In your opinion, are most divorced men looking for another long-term relationship?
A: Some divorced men, especially if the divorce is recent, may be more interested in having fun than in having a relationship. Unfortunately, they may not be aware of this, or if they are, they may not share it with you. Usually after being single for a couple of years, the issues surrounding a manís divorce ó and his grief about it ó will resolve itself.
Q: When it comes to dating divorced men, are there definite doníts?
A: Donít be afraid to ask questions. Find out if his divorce is final, when he separated, if he has children, why his marriage ended, etc. Also, donít give too much too soon. Divorced men, especially if still divorcing or recently divorced, can be needy. Never give more than you are getting.
i' bored!

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Ka sesotho, ka bokhutsoanyane, ho thoe;
" E se ka re ha moloi a lahlile thokolosi ea hae ea ba uena ua e thonaka o re o tla loea hantle ka eona ho mo feta.
Moloi o tena a lahla thokolosi eno hobane e na le tsa eona tse sa mamelleheng"

Ke keletso eaka eno ea nkhanyetsang a phahamise letsoho!!!!!!!!!!

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Ka sesotho, ka bokhutsoanyane, ho thoe;
" E se ka re ha moloi a lahlile thokolosi ea hae ea ba uena ua e thonaka o re o tla loea hantle ka eona ho mo feta.
Moloi o tena a lahla thokolosi eno hobane e na le tsa eona tse sa mamelleheng"
Ke keletso eaka eno ea nkhanyetsang a phahamise letsoho!!!!!!!!!!
Keletso ea hae kea e bona feela jaolo ka motho oa monna u ka be ntse u itholetse. Ke mang ea tsebang? Mohlomong u tlaba e mong oa banna ba na ba hlaliloeng ene u tla lebella ho tsoelapele ka bophelo joale ha ba nka keletso ena ea hau, ho hlakile hore u tlaba motaoi-toai u re mosali o u loile.
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May 13, 2008
 
Umaga wrote:
<quoted text>i' bored!
I'm bored too!! but i like what somebody said "khaohale le thokolosi ea motho"

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Keletso ea hae kea e bona feela jaolo ka motho oa monna u ka be ntse u itholetse. Ke mang ea tsebang? Mohlomong u tlaba e mong oa banna ba na ba hlaliloeng ene u tla lebella ho tsoelapele ka bophelo joale ha ba nka keletso ena ea hau, ho hlakile hore u tlaba motaoi-toai u re mosali o u loile.
Nke se nyala khetlo la bobeli ngoana mme.

Ha u bone u bone mabekebeke!!! etsoe ngoana ea kileng a cha o tsaba mollo.

Ea hananang le nna a phahamise letsoho.!!!!!!
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Thatohatsi wrote:
By Chelsea Kaplan
If youíve just begun dating a divorced man, you may soon realize that the ďregularĒ dating rules donít always apply. Whether itís due to encounters with his ex, issues concerning his children or heavier-than-average baggage, dating a divorced man can be especially challenging. For tips on how to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a divorced man, heed the advice of Dr. Christie Hartman, author of Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide if Heís Right for You.
Q: In which ways is dating a divorced man different than dating a man who has never been married?
A: Divorced men have more baggage than never-married men. And while baggage doesnít have to be a negative thing, it does create more challenges that you will need to be prepared for.
Q: Tell us about the specific challengesÖ
A: Well, first and foremost, all divorced men have an ex-wife. Because marriage is such a serious commitment, ex-wives tend to have more power than ex-girlfriends, even after the marriage ends. If they had kids together, she will always be in the picture, feel protective toward her kids, and feel she has certain privileges with him due to having had his children. Whatís more, women without kids may be surprised by the amount of time and care that children require, which will influence the freedom the couple has. Lastly, divorce can be financially devastating. On top of the actual divorce costs and having to split up all the family assets, divorced men may have child support or alimony obligations. These factors will influence his futureóand his future with you.
Q: When dating a divorced man, is there anything in particular that women should be wary of?
A: Women should definitely be on the lookout for a guy whoís not yet over his marriage. Heíll talk excessively about the marriage, ex-wife, or divorce, frequently praise or badmouth his ex, and spend more time with the ex than is necessary for children or polite friendship. Itís OK if he displays these signs once in a while, but they should not occur frequently.
Q: In your opinion, are most divorced men looking for another long-term relationship?
A: Some divorced men, especially if the divorce is recent, may be more interested in having fun than in having a relationship. Unfortunately, they may not be aware of this, or if they are, they may not share it with you. Usually after being single for a couple of years, the issues surrounding a manís divorce ó and his grief about it ó will resolve itself.
Q: When it comes to dating divorced men, are there definite doníts?
A: Donít be afraid to ask questions. Find out if his divorce is final, when he separated, if he has children, why his marriage ended, etc. Also, donít give too much too soon. Divorced men, especially if still divorcing or recently divorced, can be needy. Never give more than you are getting.
Ke eng that mining exec is a divorcee...
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May 13, 2008
 
u batlang mahlatseng a motho e mong?
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Chehe le buoa tse kholo litaba bana beso

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May 13, 2008
 
Just living in the real world where things are happening and ignorance kills. was just sharing with those faced with the challenge. as for my new release, he is too single and few odd years younger than me........ how do you like that. Wake up look around your little sister may be hooked up with a divorceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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May 13, 2008
 
Thanks, I am dating a divorce who I think is still denying the fact that its over between him and his ex wife. But he badmouths the ex-wife every chance he gets.

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I am not a marriage expert but i like giving free advice cause bonyane access ea info kena le eona. The bottom line is what you feel and being honest about it. Why dnt you tell him straight hore uena u jola le ena not his ex, her being the centre of your discussion denies you the benefit of being alone with him. just tell him its like you are still sharing him. be honest to yourself, you better off without him than sharing him with his ex, it will hurt but not for long, it will work out if he is only over his ex, otherwise you are running a risk of being kamehla seriting sa ex ea hae,,,,,,,,,,, but ha ba tsoane, there are still good ones out there, may be he is still hurt do your part he may come around to your party....... good luck gal.

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May 13, 2008
 
Real Aviv wrote:
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Ke eng that mining exec is a divorcee...
jo u sound bitter, keng? chill Life is Good.......
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Mar 5, 2010
 
I.s it a good idea to be faithfull to a divorced man
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Mar 11, 2010
 
ke qhangwe hleng
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Mar 11, 2010
 
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ke qhangwe hleng
Botsa shasha ngaka ea mofu oohle. I'm a ka o phekola hau so utloele ka eena le T'soani oa motseba.
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Mar 11, 2010
 
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ke qhangwe hleng
ikenye monoana
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Apr 29, 2010
 
Jooee!!!

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Apr 29, 2010
 
Tiny wrote:
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Botsa shasha ngaka ea mofu oohle. I'm a ka o phekola hau so utloele ka eena le T'soani oa motseba.
win!
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#21
Apr 29, 2010
 
Why do people ba nang le kelello ba ikhathatsa ka lona.

You are so useles it's not funny anymore.

A nthe basotho ke liphoofolo tsa mofuta ofe?

Lea sabisa.

A million people from all over the world ba bula website ena hoping to get something good and positive from sechaba sa bana ba basotho empa even hoping hore basotho ke batho banang le mekhoa le boeletsi.

Empa Ka nnete lea soabisa.

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