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Should teens be caned at home?

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“Say no to Prejudice,Racism ,”

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#1 Apr 30, 2008
I know this is not a popular answer but yes, I believe in the cane.

Since: Dec 07

Dublin

#2 May 1, 2008
Ian in Dublin wrote:
I know this is not a popular answer but yes, I believe in the cane.
Hi Ian,

I am not sure about this one ... My instinct tells me that both parents and teachers should be allowed to punish the children in their care, if they do not show other people respect.

But should that punishment be allowed to go as far as physically hurting the child? Will that teach them respect, or will it make them even more anti-social and aggressive ...

Do you have children?

“Say no to Prejudice,Racism ,”

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#3 May 1, 2008
Anagogic wrote:
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Hi Ian,
I am not sure about this one ... My instinct tells me that both parents and teachers should be allowed to punish the children in their care, if they do not show other people respect.
But should that punishment be allowed to go as far as physically hurting the child? Will that teach them respect, or will it make them even more anti-social and aggressive ...
Do you have children?
Yes, i have three children. One girl and two boys. I am not supporting the abuse of power, or child abuse. The way I look at is this , years ago, i'm in my forties, kids were physically punished with the cane or the belt, and society was less agressive, being punished did not cause children then to become anti social. Abuse of kids by serious persistant assault will damage any child, but parental punishment, seldom, but when needed is not likely to.
Thanks for the reply though

Since: Dec 07

Dublin

#4 May 1, 2008
Ian in Dublin wrote:
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Yes, i have three children. One girl and two boys. I am not supporting the abuse of power, or child abuse. The way I look at is this , years ago, i'm in my forties, kids were physically punished with the cane or the belt, and society was less agressive, being punished did not cause children then to become anti social. Abuse of kids by serious persistant assault will damage any child, but parental punishment, seldom, but when needed is not likely to.
Thanks for the reply though
You're probably right ... I don't have kids yet, so I am not really in a position to say much.

My husband is quick to say that children should be caned but when I tried to give our dog a tiny little smack, he asked me not to do it again because she looked so sad (he's a softie, like me)
:-)

“Say no to Prejudice,Racism ,”

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#5 May 2, 2008
Anagogic wrote:
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You're probably right ... I don't have kids yet, so I am not really in a position to say much.
My husband is quick to say that children should be caned but when I tried to give our dog a tiny little smack, he asked me not to do it again because she looked so sad (he's a softie, like me)
:-)
There is just no answer to that! lol

“Say no to Prejudice,Racism ,”

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#6 May 2, 2008
Anagogic wrote:
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You're probably right ... I don't have kids yet, so I am not really in a position to say much.
My husband is quick to say that children should be caned but when I tried to give our dog a tiny little smack, he asked me not to do it again because she looked so sad (he's a softie, like me)
:-)
There is no answer to that!!! lol
Heather

Middlesbrough, UK

#7 May 26, 2008
Any form of physical punishment should be a last resort -- not that I am saying I totally disagree with it. It's just that way it is more effective.

If it is done all of the time, children will just become hardened to it. I find the naughty step very effective when they are young children and the way they are treated at this age (not just in terms of how they are punished) has a major effect on how they become as young adults.
Heather

Middlesbrough, UK

#8 May 26, 2008
If they are happier as people, they are less likely to be badly behaved.

For example,

- Don't call them things names like stupid if you are annoyed with what they have done. These names might be harmless but they all contribute to the image that person creates of themselves.

- Ask their opinion on matters and show them that it is valued whether you agree or not. Too many times have I seen children calmly suggest something to their parents, just to be interupted by another and ignored. Probably the same sort of people who punish their child for not acting like a grown-up.

- If you feel you have done something wrong, say you are sorry. Praise them for the achievements they have made big or small and make sure the emphasis is on what they have done and not just what they can do better next time.

.... basically, just be their friend.

Since: Dec 07

Dublin

#9 May 26, 2008
Heather wrote:
If they are happier as people, they are less likely to be badly behaved.
For example,
- Don't call them things names like stupid if you are annoyed with what they have done. These names might be harmless but they all contribute to the image that person creates of themselves.
- Ask their opinion on matters and show them that it is valued whether you agree or not. Too many times have I seen children calmly suggest something to their parents, just to be interupted by another and ignored. Probably the same sort of people who punish their child for not acting like a grown-up.
- If you feel you have done something wrong, say you are sorry. Praise them for the achievements they have made big or small and make sure the emphasis is on what they have done and not just what they can do better next time.
.... basically, just be their friend.
Heather, this sounds like very good advice. I will do my best to follow it!
Heather

Middlesbrough, UK

#10 May 26, 2008
Anagogic wrote:
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Heather, this sounds like very good advice. I will do my best to follow it!

I got a lot of my advice from this website.
http://www.innerself.com/Parenting/raise_happ...
Anyone who wants to give an opinion here, please read this. How you treat your children has a massive effect on their behaviour and if you know of any children who you think need a good caining see if you can relate their family's parental skills to any of this.

Since: Dec 07

Dublin

#11 May 26, 2008
Heather wrote:
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I got a lot of my advice from this website.
http://www.innerself.com/Parenting/raise_happ...
Anyone who wants to give an opinion here, please read this. How you treat your children has a massive effect on their behaviour and if you know of any children who you think need a good caining see if you can relate their family's parental skills to any of this.
I will take at look at this - thanks!
respect

Ireland

#12 Jun 16, 2008
i was brought up with respect, an attribute sadly lacking today.Disrespect and insolence were met with the simple instruction "Bend over".caning done my generation no harm at all and preserved some element of self respect for others, and the law. I think it was a monumental mistake to abolish it.

“The enemy is in our camp.”

Since: Mar 08

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#13 Jul 17, 2008
Sure, teach them not to be violent by beating them. That will surely work.

Since: Jul 08

Dublin

#14 Jul 19, 2008
I used to smack my kids, but found it was a waste of time, so I stopped.
david

AOL

#15 Aug 7, 2008
yeah about 30 to 40 times on the bare buttocks
Greco In Oz

Paola, KS

#16 Aug 8, 2008
jaysus people, try growing up with abusive parents and you'll think differently, can't believe 72% of you think it's ok. God help those children.

I raised two sons without hitting them and they grew up to be good men. Ya don't need violence to raise up your children.

Since: Jul 08

Dublin

#17 Aug 8, 2008
Greco In Oz wrote:
jaysus people, try growing up with abusive parents and you'll think differently, can't believe 72% of you think it's ok. God help those children.
I raised two sons without hitting them and they grew up to be good men. Ya don't need violence to raise up your children.
Fair play to you, you musta had the patience of job.:-)
Greco In Oz

Paola, KS

#18 Aug 9, 2008
McGoo wrote:
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Fair play to you, you musta had the patience of job.:-)
yea well, I grew up knowing how it felt and I wasn't about to treat another human being that way. Makes me ill when people hit kids or animals.

it's not patience so much as learning how and when to pick your battles with kids or anyone else for that matter!
Malcolm

UK

#19 Sep 16, 2008
Heather wrote:
Any form of physical punishment should be a last resort -- not that I am saying I totally disagree with it. It's just that way it is more effective.
If it is done all of the time, children will just become hardened to it. I find the naughty step very effective when they are young children and the way they are treated at this age (not just in terms of how they are punished) has a major effect on how they become as young adults.
"Last resort"? I went to school in the late 50s/early 60s. Our history master, Mr S, was renowned as using his cane for the slightest infraction of the rules. What a tyrant one may say. What was surprising, however, is that Mr S actually rarely used his cane! Boys knew where they stood. And, as a result, he was a successful and interesting teacher.
Maureen

Ireland

#21 Sep 24, 2008
I fully agree with Malcolm. I have 2 children, now in their late teens and both have been, and still are caned.What has it done to them:
Taught them respect
Obedience
Modesty
Morality
and most importantly,Discipline.
The biggest mistake the modern generation made was abolishing caning in schoools and in the home

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