Dating a Haitian man??????

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Nov 13, 2012
 
haiti truest luv
HeavensRing

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Dec 11, 2012
 
Will wrote:
Question: I dated a Haitian man. I would ask him question about our relationship. He would not answer my questions, his reply would be, "it is not polite to ask questions, Haitian men should have some secrets, questions cause trouble". And I am very big on communications. Therefore, this cause trouble in our relationship. He would always want to know about me or where I am going. However, when I would ask him. He would either argue or chance the subject and try to accuse me of trying to cause trouble by just asking a questions.
Please explain Haitian men act this way?
OMG, I had the same issue. I SWEAR almost exactly. If I asked a question, he would either 1) mentally shut down 2) put up his hand to signal that he's done talking or 3) tell me that this is an inappropriate time to talk about this but would never discuss it again. Communication was HORRIBLE. He treated me like a queen until I pissed him off but I had to be a mind reader b/c he wouldn't tell me what I did to tick him off in the first place. I only know he was angry b/c of how he acted (sulking, suspicious, quiet, etc). He would hold EVERYTHING in and then only after weeks or maybe months, HE'd BLOW UP and then tell me all the things he thought was wrong with me. He'd take HIS time to settle down a few days later and then go back to life like normal WITHOUT having any discussion or communication to prevent it from happening again... I had to walk away. As much as I loved him... a relationship without communication will NEVER work.
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Dec 11, 2012
 
And yes, he would control every aspect of our life together. He would treat me like a princess, I'll admit that but he had to know where I was every min of the day. IT was his way or the highway. He also was very conceited and arrogant. If you asked him a question, he would certainly (if he responded at all) tell you that he was ABOVE this or that or that he was too smart for this or that. He would belittle everything and everyone. His family was always better than everyone else. Eventually, he started treating me like I was less than he was too...as if to say, you should be happy I even bothered with you. I could never have a conversation with him without him getting defensive or thinking I was attacking his HONOR. It didn't matter how polite I was or respectful, you could NEVER ask him a question without him being offended.
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#71
Dec 12, 2012
 
HeavensRing wrote:
And yes, he would control every aspect of our life together. He would treat me like a princess, I'll admit that but he had to know where I was every min of the day. IT was his way or the highway. He also was very conceited and arrogant. If you asked him a question, he would certainly (if he responded at all) tell you that he was ABOVE this or that or that he was too smart for this or that. He would belittle everything and everyone. His family was always better than everyone else. Eventually, he started treating me like I was less than he was too...as if to say, you should be happy I even bothered with you. I could never have a conversation with him without him getting defensive or thinking I was attacking his HONOR. It didn't matter how polite I was or respectful, you could NEVER ask him a question without him being offended.
PRECIUZ-You should never desappeared topix that was alive. And PRECIUZ said once she pick something it's not really alive anymore. Come back,PRECIUZ! Come back,PRECIUZ! Where's PRECIUZ? Where did she go? Please Topix let her come back.
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#72
Dec 28, 2012
 
when i just start talking to one yesterday but he been tryna get with me for yrs.... and i never gave in for some reason maybe judge him for what my fsmily matters went thru with them but imma try it out for my self and see....he seem cool
Tanisha

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#73
Dec 28, 2012
 
well*
yacobo

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Dec 30, 2012
 
I am a Haitian man. I will never trust an American woman because of the selfishness that is in them that tv promotes. The first american woman i had i dated, i was first friends with her when she was dating another she would talk to me for hours, we were in love, but she always wanted to go to the club by herself wit her friends( the only reason why ppl go to clubs and bars is to try to get hit on, I didn't need another girl i got one at home she's what i need). But she was always on the phone with the same guy and later she moved on to him, i worked long hours and i trusted her she nevr cheated on me but once she started talking to him it was over. Second girl just used me to get to someone with more money, cus she says she deserved better, because i didnt give her enough. real! Haitian woman will stick to you and love you for ever, they cook they clean and they work and provide for their family because they where raised to do so,thats when there is no need to control or demand things. If your woman doesn't work and sits around watching tv allday doing minor errands because she takes care of the kids you should expect home cooked meal when you get home its not hard to ask, and ahaitian woman will do that. she doesn't go to the club because she spends her free time with you because thats all she needs.
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#75
Dec 30, 2012
 
Linda wrote:
I just dont know how to take him at tyms. He is very jealous at tyms, then at tyms he sooo I dnt no. we started out keeping us a secret, then recently he decided to tell his friend, or our friends. But, we arent together. Im just tryen to figure him ot, which is hard. I give him his space and let him cum to me. Because I do like him and enjoy the time we spend together. Just dnt know if I should just continue to wait for him to move us forward, or move forward by myself and keep things as they r with us now.
Move on to someone else. He is too hot and cold to be stable with his feelings. life is short and you should enjoy yours.
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Dec 30, 2012
 

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I am a Haitian man. I will never trust an American woman because of the selfishness that is in them that tv promotes. The first american woman i had i dated, i was first friends with her when she was dating another she would talk to me for hours, we were in love, but she always wanted to go to the club by herself wit her friends( the only reason why ppl go to clubs and bars is to try to get hit on, I didn't need another girl i got one at home she's what i need). But she was always on the phone with the same guy and later she moved on to him, i worked long hours and i trusted her she nevr cheated on me but once she started talking to him it was over. Second girl just used me to get to someone with more money, cus she says she deserved better, because i didnt give her enough. real! Haitian woman will stick to you and love you for ever, they cook they clean and they work and provide for their family because they where raised to do so,thats when there is no need to control or demand things. If your woman doesn't work and sits around watching tv allday doing minor errands because she takes care of the kids you should expect home cooked meal when you get home its not hard to ask, and ahaitian woman will do that. she doesn't go to the club because she spends her free time with you because thats all she needs.


that is not fair to say of all american women. generalizations due to your selection, can be made about any woman. Sometimes we give too much too soon. I was involved with a haitian man who constantly was evasive and missing in action but that is not to say all haitian men are of that fiber.
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Dec 30, 2012
 
HeavensRing wrote:
And yes, he would control every aspect of our life together. He would treat me like a princess, I'll admit that but he had to know where I was every min of the day. IT was his way or the highway. He also was very conceited and arrogant. If you asked him a question, he would certainly (if he responded at all) tell you that he was ABOVE this or that or that he was too smart for this or that. He would belittle everything and everyone. His family was always better than everyone else. Eventually, he started treating me like I was less than he was too...as if to say, you should be happy I even bothered with you. I could never have a conversation with him without him getting defensive or thinking I was attacking his HONOR. It didn't matter how polite I was or respectful, you could NEVER ask him a question without him being offended.
This pretty much sounds like emotional and mental abuse. what an insecure man.
Run and remember you are worth more. I had to learn that lesson myself.
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Dec 30, 2012
 
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OMG, I had the same issue. I SWEAR almost exactly. If I asked a question, he would either 1) mentally shut down 2) put up his hand to signal that he's done talking or 3) tell me that this is an inappropriate time to talk about this but would never discuss it again. Communication was HORRIBLE. He treated me like a queen until I pissed him off but I had to be a mind reader b/c he wouldn't tell me what I did to tick him off in the first place. I only know he was angry b/c of how he acted (sulking, suspicious, quiet, etc). He would hold EVERYTHING in and then only after weeks or maybe months, HE'd BLOW UP and then tell me all the things he thought was wrong with me. He'd take HIS time to settle down a few days later and then go back to life like normal WITHOUT having any discussion or communication to prevent it from happening again... I had to walk away. As much as I loved him... a relationship without communication will NEVER work.
there must be respect before you can comunicate. I have been there mutual respect must be given. Unconditional love is what we all aspire to have not love based on conditions.
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#79
Jan 26, 2013
 
I heard that proud_haitian_man! my sexy Haitian man is nothing close to these steriotypes
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#80
Jan 31, 2013
 
I have a haitian man, we ve dated for almost2 years. Throughout this time he s changed a lot, in the beginning he would text me compliments, take me out, make love to me. Now, all he does is lie about everything from where he is to when he s coming to see me. He no longer tells me he loves, I practically have to beg for sex when he s around but when I told him I was unhappy and that I m leaving his entire demeanor changed. Oh and I forgot he proposed said he wanted to wake up to me every day and then things changed smh... DRAMATICALLY!!! I love him but i m so unhappy with him. He s not jealous, controlling or anything he s the exact opposite which why I love him and we can talk about anything smh.. He does stay in the streets with his friends a lot though.
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#81
Feb 5, 2013
 
hari67 wrote:
Here you go again......most Haitian do not date American woman except for convenience or green card good luck
Not true, I'm married to a Haitian man and he had his American citizenship before we met. By the way, we married on the beautiful Island of Barbados and my husband is a wonderful man. There is good and bad in all people no matter what your nationality/culture. I'm Cuban & African American so there you go.. To each it's own!!
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I posted a few months ago about my friend. Its going a year and I am falling for him. But, sure if I should . He still says he isn't ready for a relationship. But, when I tell I can't be his friend and allow him to be with others, even though he is always with me, unless we fighting. See thats the thing when welcum go days without seeing each welcum argue . I am just so confused and frustrated. Cause I don't know wat to think, feel, or say. And he know how I feel. Someone please give me some insite
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#83
Feb 7, 2013
 
Linda wrote:
I posted a few months ago about my friend. Its going a year and I am falling for him. But, sure if I should . He still says he isn't ready for a relationship. But, when I tell I can't be his friend and allow him to be with others, even though he is always with me, unless we fighting. See thats the thing when welcum go days without seeing each welcum argue . I am just so confused and frustrated. Cause I don't know wat to think, feel, or say. And he know how I feel. Someone please give me some insite
you know there are many Haitian around i can send you one maybe this guy is looking for your replacement soon you will not see eachother again
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Feb 7, 2013
 
Mrs Fontus wrote:
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Not true, I'm married to a Haitian man and he had his American citizenship before we met. By the way, we married on the beautiful Island of Barbados and my husband is a wonderful man. There is good and bad in all people no matter what your nationality/culture. I'm Cuban & African American so there you go.. To each it's own!!
he said African American and you claim to be half cuban again most Haitian will date but not Marie a black african am woman
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Feb 11, 2013
 
I sometimes agree with but iyo has been almost a year. In two months it will be a year. And we do more than we should with each other.specially if we are just friends. It seems as when I am ready to let go and just be friends, he switches it up on me. He knows I want him, and I thought he would run when I told him how I felt, specially when I told him I was falling in love with him. But, he didn't. I don't know he is literary driving me crazy. To the point where I want to transfer my job, to get away from him. Or change my, number. It's like he know when I am gettn fed and he change . Like the other night he put hickies in visible places. And when I ask he says he did it because he can, and he wants ppl to know I am taking . But we are just friends. And when he is mad he makes da point to let no. it's crazy how he takes me on an high, even being this messed up.
wino wrote:
<quoted text>you know there are many Haitian around i can send you one maybe this guy is looking for your replacement soon you will not see eachother again
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Feb 11, 2013
 

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Haitians are the worst except all the other black men
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Feb 12, 2013
 

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Linda wrote:
How is dat teasing him. Im with him every night, I wait for him to get off and he has no set tym to get off. Goes in at 3pm, bt cn get off anytime. We talk on dA phone all da tym. I dont agree with ur idea of me teasing him. Wat makes u say dat?
I am dating this Hatian man now and he sounds like the same person. I agree. They are such gentlemen. They are very Civil ;)

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