INQUISITIVE

Australia

#66 Aug 6, 2012
Wow! I can't believe this forum and the stereotyping you have going on here. Well I am one lucky "Anglo Saxon" lady to have my Kaiviti husband. Who brings me a cup of tea in the mornings and doesn't expect me to cook him eggs. He owns more property than I do, and paid for his own visa to come here. So don't put them all in the same box. I lived with an aussie bloke for 10 years and he walked out and left me $ 200,000 in debt so you can't judge a man by their race. Yes, I've copped it all. He only married you for the money and a ticket to Australia. Then why is he so keen to earn money and save so that we can go back to Fiji when we are older and live the good life? And as for Gloria well lady when your boyfriend is bringing you other men and you go for it, you obviously have no respect for yourself.
timpinpong

Stoke-on-trent, UK

#67 Aug 6, 2012
INQUISITIVE wrote:
Wow! I can't believe this forum and the stereotyping you have going on here. Well I am one lucky "Anglo Saxon" lady to have my Kaiviti husband. Who brings me a cup of tea in the mornings and doesn't expect me to cook him eggs. He owns more property than I do, and paid for his own visa to come here. So don't put them all in the same box. I lived with an aussie bloke for 10 years and he walked out and left me $ 200,000 in debt so you can't judge a man by their race. Yes, I've copped it all. He only married you for the money and a ticket to Australia. Then why is he so keen to earn money and save so that we can go back to Fiji when we are older and live the good life? And as for Gloria well lady when your boyfriend is bringing you other men and you go for it, you obviously have no respect for yourself.
funny thing she ended up marrying fijian mixed native in pacific harbour lamoo
Dickhead

Renton, WA

#68 Aug 6, 2012
timpinpong wrote:
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funny thing she ended up marrying fijian mixed native in pacific harbour lamoo
Please, shut up and go away, I'm beginning to think your a patient at a methadone clinic.
timpinpong

Stoke-on-trent, UK

#69 Aug 6, 2012
Dickhead wrote:
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Please, shut up and go away, I'm beginning to think your a patient at a methadone clinic.
lamooo
island man

Australia

#70 Oct 14, 2012
Skull wrote:
intercultural relationship is fine. instead of sterotyping all the typical fijians not all fijians are like that. about 5%
u are part of the 5%..lol
JD Angel

Sydney, Australia

#71 Nov 15, 2012
fijianbugger wrote:
fiji is not a western culture so your personalty from your western country is not welcome the world aint perfect but what we have in my country is what i love is my people we are a very community type of people and to a western person it will drive them crazy. time goes slow in this part of the world if you waste your life in this form taking about Fijian so be it. end of the day i can always go back and live and enjoy my life back in my island home free from people like this and also learn something about life and thats why we are always happy.
Your relationships is your own business if you cheat then thats your fault because god gave you the brains to use it but dont go point the finger at people if it mess up your life.
You're a perfect example of why I love the Fijians so much. Gentle where it counts, fun where it counts, strong where it counts. I have a Fijian boyfriend and he always reminds me to smile. It's priceless. People if you've been to Fiji you will know EXACTLY what i'm talking about. God bless
JD Angel

Sydney, Australia

#72 Nov 15, 2012
vanessa wrote:
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hi , i completely agree with you!!! take a chance !.. we are so caught up in finding the negatives in people.... the fijian i met 3 months ago , hasn t asked me for a cent ! we write to each other and thats about it... he is a lovely man .. i love the fijian people they are the kindest people i ever met . i have a lot of time for them .
yes i could stick to what i know.. white men here in OZ ... but they can also be selfish ad painful!! amd most aussie guys dont know how to treat their women... they are unemtional creatures....
so good luck with your man...
I went to Fiji and met a man with a tattoo that said 'love & kind' and got an accidental.... love heart shaped hicki on my neck. Sooo Fiji! Love it.
lewa vula vula

Suva, Fiji

#74 Dec 7, 2012
I am a caucasian woman living in Fiji for the last 5 years and I have a Fijian boyfriend. It is truly awful to read some of the ignorance going on in this thread, but it is not uncommon to encounter that barbaric, colonial attitude that still exists in Fiji with some whites. Coming from the US with the civil rights movement makes us Americans take equality very seriously, of race, gender, and creed. To get back to the point of the original woman's questions about inter-cultural relationships. My recommendation is to really spend time with the culture before jumping in. It is true that different cultures very often think differently and this all comes down to our environment and how we are raised within our culture. Fijian culture is beautiful but if you don't understand it, it could drive you crazy. For example, if your boyfriends relatives need help, your boyfriend might give them his paycheck from last week because it is expected of him. "Kere Kere" in modern times may be a little out of balance and not reciprocated like it once was historically. If a local Fijian is perceived as "successful" he may be expected to support others who may be perfectly capable of supporting themselves. For an outsider this might be unacceptable but we also have to remember that probably the most successful type of "socialism" actually exists in most villages in Fiji. My point is, it's not about race, it's about cultural differences. And we white people have a lot of neurotic behavior that could potentially drive a Fijian nuts too. So it has to be taken slowly and on a personal basis for what works for you. I have taken it slowly and was friends first for 3 years. My Fijian boyfriend is one of the hardest working and most intelligent people I have ever met and we are learning to appreciate eachother's cultures and to find the overlap of what it means to be a human being, regardless of color, culture, or religion.
alyssa

Sydney, Australia

#75 Dec 9, 2012
Allie wrote:
Iím interested in peopleís perspectives on inter-cultural relationships.
I am a 25 year old Aussie girl dating a 27 year old Fijian man. We have been together 6 months. We talk twice a week on the phone during the times we are in different countries. I have been lucky to be able to visit him twice in Fiji and he came to Australia once. Iíve received a lot of judgement for this relationship. People assume itís about money. I am brokeÖI have no savings. I am young and consider myself attractive and slender. My partner is also young, healthy, fit and handsome.
I donít know why people think itís not real romance.
Any other stories of inter-cultural relationships?
hi allie, are you still with the same man??? just asking
alyssa

Sydney, Australia

#76 Dec 10, 2012
nickle91 wrote:
I went to Fiji on holiday and fell in love with Fijian. He professed his love to me. He wants to come to the USA to play rugby. I want to believe him but I don't. He is a divemaster so has easy access to girls. He had sex with someone else after I left island.
He wants to add my name to his bank account in FIJI. why would he want to do that. he said it would be easier to get a visa for him?
What do you all think?
i say move on>>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>
Amigo

Suva, Fiji

#77 Jun 23, 2013
selvin wrote:
im christian indian boy dating a fijian girl we were best frnds n than love jus hapened bt her family dont want us together coz we of different race i got beat up to n than they beat her up recently n sent her to nz for a month we truely love each other been togther for three years we both working pray for us GOD BLESS
Hey Selvin are you two still seeing each other??
Anonymous

San Diego, CA

#78 Aug 30, 2013
I am an american woman in a relationship with a Fiji man. Yes,I have met many fijian men who percieve non local women as a "prize" and perhaps even a "cash cow.". I have also met many men in america who act the same way. I have also met men in st lucia who act the same way... and so on.
Women from anywhere need to know what they want and set limits.
We need to stop blaming the fijians when we show up and try to "buy affection" while displaying those things we have which they dont.
In Fiji,sex is part of living- just like breathing. It is very natural for them. Many "visitors" come over craving the affection they are unable to find in their home countries.
There are still some good fijian men left who have not been tainted.
As women, it is crucial that we think with our head and identify when something isnt right.
Of all the things I have read, I can honestly tell you that I have not experienced any of these things. I have not been robbed,given to a "friend" for sexual favors, or threatened in any way.
Yes, there is a police force in Fiji and they do not take these accusations lightly. As a traveler, you need to maintain your safety wherever you are.
If you get involved with a man from fiji, you must understand and accept the culture. Some things will never change- hot stuff, kava, and the community spirit. You can modify these things to an acceptable level if you are with the right man.
Dont fall for the rock hard bodies and smiles of the men from fiji- look further- there are still some caring spiritual men.
Anonymous

San Diego, CA

#79 Aug 30, 2013
Thank you to the caucasian woman living in Fiji. Yes, all threads tend to be a forum for grievance. It is pitiful the way that visitors throw themselves into the lap of a fijian and then complain about it- only to return and do it again!
I have even met woman who want the fijian man but not his culture, or family- ladies, it is a package deal.
stokie1970

Wells, UK

#80 Sep 15, 2013
I've just started to date a Guy from Fiji. He is currently serving in the British Navy. I am British. My concern is that I am a very head string professional person. good job. own house etc. Many people have told me that Fijian men can be very controlling and over protective. This concerns me. I know its not good to generalise but I don't know much about his culture. Does anyone from the western world successfully have a relationship with a guy from Fiji?
Mark Manning

Auckland, New Zealand

#81 Sep 17, 2013
Off course money is the driving factor. I have first hand experience on the cruetly with which they treat their women. I was in Fiji for Holidays and saw this fijian bloke punching the lights out of his wife and the stomping her while she was on the ground. While all of this was happening, a group of fijian was standing not far away and smiling. I askedthe taxi driver why they dot intervene and he said that its okay in fijian culture to beat up women. I was shocked. Thought that was only in the arab world where women were treated as slaves. He also told me that in the fijian culture, it is the women who are responsibly for putting food on the table. The man basically eat and laze around. So the lady that claims that her husband was abusive and lazy is definately telling the truth. Fijian customs is like that so anyone marrying one should be ready to feed their lazy ass and taking a beating once in a while. Fijians being friendly is all a farce. When they couldnt appreciate the very people who provided them with a decent lifestyle, there should be no expectation from them of treating others differently..
Isabel

Honolulu, HI

#82 Sep 20, 2013
Okay I've noticed ALOT of rascism and it's getting overboard in these comments.
So some Fiji guys will take advantage of you.
I'm pretty sure that does not mean all of them.
It's nice to see all your guys stories but I don't appreciate these ridiculous acusations on how "You should stick with your own blood,and not with these savages"..
You know what.
Upright fuck you.
It's okay to not want to get in a relationship with them or whatever.
But please cut out this bullshit.
Thanks.
James Woods

Suva, Fiji

#83 Sep 20, 2013
Isabel wrote:
Okay I've noticed ALOT of rascism and it's getting overboard in these comments.
So some Fiji guys will take advantage of you.
I'm pretty sure that does not mean all of them.
It's nice to see all your guys stories but I don't appreciate these ridiculous acusations on how "You should stick with your own blood,and not with these savages"..
You know what.
Upright fuck you.
It's okay to not want to get in a relationship with them or whatever.
But please cut out this bullshit.
Thanks.
Fark off! Nobody wants savages in their blood.
ping pong

Stoke-on-trent, UK

#84 Sep 20, 2013
I totally agree fijian women love fijian men thats why we should stick with our own bloodline. Only marry those who are mix fijian value. This interracial shiiit is crappp cause fijian women talk shit about fijian man because they dont want you to marry them.
Fijian should only marry our own race this is what happen my fijian brothers we should stick to our own race and only marry fijian or mix fijian native.
Marrying western my brother is killing our race we must protect our own bloodline for the future and our kailoma bloodline.
If this is going on we need to stop it before we die out my boso.
ping pong

Stoke-on-trent, UK

#85 Sep 20, 2013
Fijian should marry fijian.
White western women should marry their own race white male.
I'm not bs but our bloodline is important western culture will kill us fijian.

Encourage fijian marriage with fijian bloodline including kailomas we must stay pure for the future or our generation.
mereoni

Suva, Fiji

#86 Sep 20, 2013
ping pong wrote:
I totally agree fijian women love fijian men thats why we should stick with our own bloodline. Only marry those who are mix fijian value. This interracial shiiit is crappp cause fijian women talk shit about fijian man because they dont want you to marry them.
Fijian should only marry our own race this is what happen my fijian brothers we should stick to our own race and only marry fijian or mix fijian native.
Marrying western my brother is killing our race we must protect our own bloodline for the future and our kailoma bloodline.
If this is going on we need to stop it before we die out my boso.
you get lost...i like white men n i have a white bf n we are going to marry soon. you just one fat jealouz gay guy that can't get a fijian gal for himself. that's why you want to make all these stories up. sona... i'm going to marry my white bf soon, onz lolz n u can't do anyhting about it but just watch! damn! us fijian gals like white men too u know. u..just fcuk off u poofta!

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