I have a question about eritrean women

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#1 Jul 21, 2012
Hello my cousins,

This is not about me, my friend is somali and fell in love with an eritrean girl and after a yr and 8 month relationship he proposed, she took the ring, then called him back and asked him to come back and take his ring back. he told her to think it over, she did but never called him the entire time, so he went over and they ended things. i guess he had no choice but to accept her wishes.

she says her parents want her to be with an eritrean guy. she's muslim he's muslim. we're all african, especially east african. why is being eritrean so important, help me understand so i can help him understand. thank you!
Sayed

Kuwait, Kuwait

#2 Sep 14, 2012
Sayed
Sara

Arlington, VA

#3 Oct 5, 2012
I know you probably needed a response a while back. For most people, their nationality is something they are born into, the same goes for Eritrean people...but, we had to fight blood, sweat, and tears for a long time to earn the title to be called that. Most people take their nationality, identity for granted...we don't, because so many times have people tried to take it away. Now, in the greater scheme of things...you are right, it does not matter, we are all one people. But, to most people it does matter, especially to our parents and their parents, and they want the traditions and lineage to be carried on. On another note, we are very few people, and most parents feel like when their child marries into another race, the lineage and culture is gone...because the child that they give birth to will not understand or appreciate his identity. There is more to it, but it's mostly because we have a culture that emphasizes pride in its origins starting from 1000's of years, even when they married within the country, where you are from matters...because that tells her family, what kind of people raised you, what values you have...and in accordance with theirs, they give their daughter's hands. The last part like I said is because our identity is constantly attacked, to preserve it with all our might is important especially for the older generation. I hope that clarified a few things...it makes it difficult for all the interracial couples, especially for Eritrean women that choose to marry outside their race, because that means she has to completely give up her family...her children and herself will never be completely accepted and that is a huge gamble. Who is ever worth you leaving your family? And who do you run to if the man you loved ends up leaving you, cheating or divorce? That's not a gamble most Eritrean women can take...
Kehd

United States

#4 Oct 5, 2012
She want to fac% wihte gay
Titi

Salisbury, MD

#5 Dec 12, 2012
Sara wrote:
I know you probably needed a response a while back. For most people, their nationality is something they are born into, the same goes for Eritrean people...but, we had to fight blood, sweat, and tears for a long time to earn the title to be called that. Most people take their nationality, identity for granted...we don't, because so many times have people tried to take it away. Now, in the greater scheme of things...you are right, it does not matter, we are all one people. But, to most people it does matter, especially to our parents and their parents, and they want the traditions and lineage to be carried on. On another note, we are very few people, and most parents feel like when their child marries into another race, the lineage and culture is gone...because the child that they give birth to will not understand or appreciate his identity. There is more to it, but it's mostly because we have a culture that emphasizes pride in its origins starting from 1000's of years, even when they married within the country, where you are from matters...because that tells her family, what kind of people raised you, what values you have...and in accordance with theirs, they give their daughter's hands. The last part like I said is because our identity is constantly attacked, to preserve it with all our might is important especially for the older generation. I hope that clarified a few things...it makes it difficult for all the interracial couples, especially for Eritrean women that choose to marry outside their race, because that means she has to completely give up her family...her children and herself will never be completely accepted and that is a huge gamble. Who is ever worth you leaving your family? And who do you run to if the man you loved ends up leaving you, cheating or divorce? That's not a gamble most Eritrean women can take...
Sara I am so proud of you how answer the Question really great i don't need to add more
WediQuBi

Brussels, Belgium

#6 Dec 13, 2012
why do most Eritrean womens use to say 'AwdQeni Nab AraAT Shekorey' wheen they are in the mood to make Love why?....why Awdqeni Nab AraAT? i Wonder!!
larenz

Gainesville, FL

#7 Jan 2, 2013
Sara wrote:
I know you probably needed a response a while back. For most people, their nationality is something they are born into, the same goes for Eritrean people...but, we had to fight blood, sweat, and tears for a long time to earn the title to be called that. Most people take their nationality, identity for granted...we don't, because so many times have people tried to take it away. Now, in the greater scheme of things...you are right, it does not matter, we are all one people. But, to most people it does matter, especially to our parents and their parents, and they want the traditions and lineage to be carried on. On another note, we are very few people, and most parents feel like when their child marries into another race, the lineage and culture is gone...because the child that they give birth to will not understand or appreciate his identity. There is more to it, but it's mostly because we have a culture that emphasizes pride in its origins starting from 1000's of years, even when they married within the country, where you are from matters...because that tells her family, what kind of people raised you, what values you have...and in accordance with theirs, they give their daughter's hands. The last part like I said is because our identity is constantly attacked, to preserve it with all our might is important especially for the older generation. I hope that clarified a few things...it makes it difficult for all the interracial couples, especially for Eritrean women that choose to marry outside their race, because that means she has to completely give up her family...her children and herself will never be completely accepted and that is a huge gamble. Who is ever worth you leaving your family? And who do you run to if the man you loved ends up leaving you, cheating or divorce? That's not a gamble most Eritrean women can take...
I understand what you are saying and don't disagree with it at all. My question is if your culture is so important, why date someone outside of your culture in the first place? Shouldn't you express that you strongly prefer being with someone from your own culture or WILL only be with someone from your own culture? If she didn't express that to him early on then I think it is unfair. If she did express that then it is his fault for trying to change her. This is very difficult with Eritrean women (from my experiences only) because they complain about the Eritrean men so much, date outside of the culture, and then show so much reservation to the men outside of the culture they date. Again just my experiences.
jon

Auckland, New Zealand

#8 Jan 27, 2013
i 'm in love with ethio girl, but she doesn't knoeww that i love her, we just met a few week ago, i would like to be my girl firend, because she is so beautiful...!! <3
aidsabeba

Washington, DC

#9 Jan 28, 2013
jon wrote:
i 'm in love with ethio girl, but she doesn't knoeww that i love her, we just met a few week ago, i would like to be my girl firend, because she is so beautiful...!! <3
watch out cuz they have 1 of highest std rate in world so use 3 condom
Sara

Washington, DC

#10 Feb 20, 2013
larenz wrote:
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I understand what you are saying and don't disagree with it at all. My question is if your culture is so important, why date someone outside of your culture in the first place? Shouldn't you express that you strongly prefer being with someone from your own culture or WILL only be with someone from your own culture? If she didn't express that to him early on then I think it is unfair. If she did express that then it is his fault for trying to change her. This is very difficult with Eritrean women (from my experiences only) because they complain about the Eritrean men so much, date outside of the culture, and then show so much reservation to the men outside of the culture they date. Again just my experiences.
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Logically, you make sense my friend. However, when it comes to our culture vs. personal interest...I'm afraid it is not as black or white. There are numerous people that I personally know who married outside the race and are as happy as ever, I also know the opposite. Henceforth, it is imperative not to generalize; meaning, not all Eritreans that date you are doing so wanting to break up. Letting go of someone you love because of your parents choices is one of the hardest things to endure and trust me it is not a CHOICE sometimes. To answer your question, some date outside their race because one cannot always help who they fall in love with...it might not be planned. Or that once they are deep in the realtionship, their parents might give them an ultimatum. As far as I know, most people that date outside their race now-a-days do it knowing the risks. So, if an Eritrean girl is dating you...trust me it is because she truly loves you...it is in our culture in a sense to do so, but if she leaves...trust me it was MORE THAN LIKELY NOT A CHOICE. Communication early on would help avoid this...because, some of the youngsters are naive enough that their parents would get over it...not realizing the seriousness of the situation. I hope that clarifies things a bit.

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#11 Mar 20, 2013
Whats happening to me

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#12 Mar 20, 2013
Ethiopiaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#13 Mar 20, 2013
AKELIDAMA

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#14 Mar 20, 2013
i AM INSANE

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#17 Mar 20, 2013
ERI

Since: Mar 13

ALEXANDRIA, VA

#20 Mar 20, 2013
michigan
Beraki

Calgary, Canada

#22 Jul 10, 2013
if she was orthodox christian it would be easier than muslim , b/se the christian are most easy to mary if they are in love in sudan i know alot of ethio eritrea marry sudance and sometsimes also b/n somalia man and eri women but for short time i know one lady who got child from somalia man . God pleas help young generation ethi , eri
LiLo

Brussels, Belgium

#23 Jul 10, 2013
Geeee 17 wrote:
Whats happening to me
Sudani dk is inside yo Axsss LOL.Luti
PuntlandGeezer PIS

London, UK

#24 Jul 19, 2013
Eritrea has nine ethnic groups and each of the ethnic group have their own different culture, languages etc. The Afars of Eritrean and Ethiopian are historically have the same DNA as those of ethnic Somalis.

The somali guy probably rejected the Eritrean lady when he found out that she was undercover prostitute and drug addicted cheap girl.

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