Native

Shenzhen, China

#401 Sep 20, 2007
Robert wrote:
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Too many white women are racists. Dont think many will find non-white men attractive other than light or white skinned Arab men (some may even prefer a would be fanatic over a sane Asian) or light skinned south asian men.
Racism could be a pretext, but don't you really belive there are some barriers risen by cultural kernels?
Robert

Arlington, VA

#402 Sep 20, 2007
Native wrote:
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Racism could be a pretext, but don't you really belive there are some barriers risen by cultural kernels?
I have defined racism narrowly. My definition is based on culture. If for instance a white American woman of southern extraction says that she will only marry a white southerner, it is cultural compatability based on perhaps waving the confederate flag. However, if she says it is ok to marry an Armemenian from Armenia but not a Japanese American born and brought up in the south, she is a racist, as whiteness is the only similarity between the two, but not culture. We have to understand that whiteness is a color, not culture. There is more cultural difference between a white American woman and an Armenian from Armenia than between a white American woman and a sixth generation Asian American in California or for that matter even a Christian Chinese Singaporean. Now, in the Racism in Australia site there is a white woman who insists that all whites are the same...she is a racist. However, several are only interested in maintaining culture.
Native

Guangzhou, China

#403 Sep 20, 2007
Robert wrote:
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Too many white women are racists. Dont think many will find non-white men attractive other than light or white skinned Arab men (some may even prefer a would be fanatic over a sane Asian) or light skinned south asian men.
Well, you've deciphered that preference of racists' is not the cultural but the physical. So, back to my issue, to a white-woman racist, Chinese guys are considered inert subject, if love is a sort of neurochemical reaction.
Robert

Washington, DC

#404 Sep 20, 2007
Native wrote:
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Well, you've deciphered that preference of racists' is not the cultural but the physical. So, back to my issue, to a white-woman racist, Chinese guys are considered inert subject, if love is a sort of neurochemical reaction.
Too complicated for my mediocre brain. Perhaps a racist white woman will understand.

Since: Aug 07

Shenzhen, China

#405 Sep 21, 2007
Robert wrote:
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Too complicated for my mediocre brain. Perhaps a racist white woman will understand.
You are way overboard. I'm pretty dark skinned and I have never had a problem dating white women. Actually they are a lot easier to get than the average black woman. In fact I am engaged to a blond white woman from south carolina. You are overgeneralizing, probably because of your own inability. And you are purposely refusing to notice all of the interracial couples that proliferate all over America including Virginia.
Robert

Washington, DC

#406 Sep 24, 2007
BM in SZ wrote:
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You are way overboard. I'm pretty dark skinned and I have never had a problem dating white women. Actually they are a lot easier to get than the average black woman. In fact I am engaged to a blond white woman from south carolina. You are overgeneralizing, probably because of your own inability. And you are purposely refusing to notice all of the interracial couples that proliferate all over America including Virginia.
Still 85% of white American women and girls wont date a non-white man compared to 80% of Asian American girls and women dating non-Asians.
Canadian-Born Chinese Man

London, Canada

#407 Sep 24, 2007
There is absolutely nothing wrong with women who are not physically attracted to Asian men. It is a preference. It becomes a problem when the reasons are prejudiced. But simply not being attracted to the physical traits of Asian men is NOT racist.

Also, for a white woman to date or marry a non-white man can be considered dating or marrying down. And if she has children, the children will be outsiders amongst the white majority.

But for an Asian woman to date or marry a white man is often considered dating or marrying up to increase her status in society. Her children will also be one step closer to being white and being accepted amongst the white majority (even though this is often not the case).
Robert

Arlington, VA

#408 Sep 25, 2007
Canadian-Born Chinese Man wrote:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with women who are not physically attracted to Asian men. It is a preference. It becomes a problem when the reasons are prejudiced. But simply not being attracted to the physical traits of Asian men is NOT racist.
Also, for a white woman to date or marry a non-white man can be considered dating or marrying down. And if she has children, the children will be outsiders amongst the white majority.
But for an Asian woman to date or marry a white man is often considered dating or marrying up to increase her status in society. Her children will also be one step closer to being white and being accepted amongst the white majority (even though this is often not the case).
Racism is racism whatever BS you try to use to cover it up.
Canadian-Born Chinese Man

London, Canada

#409 Sep 28, 2007
Cries of racism can also simply be political correctness.
Robert

Arlington, VA

#410 Sep 28, 2007
Canadian-Born Chinese Man wrote:
Cries of racism can also simply be political correctness.
I think you are one deluded wannabe!!
mystic - canada

Sault Sainte Marie, Canada

#411 Sep 29, 2007
Whoa, P and P get a life girl! LOL.
There is nothing wrong with chinese men, sheesh! I too have studied their history, culture ,philosophies, architecture and I do find it quite intriguing. If I were to snag me a chinese hubby I'd be a very happy camper!(joys of being divorced and looking) The biggy is where to find them! LOL. Anyways.... I think the differences of cultures adds to the diversity and a unique element to the relationship. I once knew a Japanese guy who was an exchange student at college here, and he was the most well mannered man I have ever met! He use to come over for coffee, and we speak about our differ ancestries. It was a lot of fun and my son enjoyed his company immensely, he was a very good friend.
I guess life is what one makes of it tho. I,myself choose to see the beauty...
Hey Jesus taught it best! It's that unconditional love aspect that one learns from his unfathomable timeless wisdom.
Canadian-Born Chinese Man

Kingston, Canada

#412 Sep 29, 2007
Robert wrote:
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I think you are one deluded wannabe!!
And I think you are a bitter individual who has a chip on his shoulder.

The ones who rant and complain constantly are really the ones who are bringing the Asian man down!!
unveiled in PHL

Philadelphia, PA

#413 Sep 29, 2007
I think this conversation has taken a turn from the original topic..."How do Chinese men feel about dating white women"
I for one would like to know. I am a White female and am very attracted to a certain Chinese man. I know that he feels the same way, yet he is very shy in actually asking me out.
Could it have anything to do with the fact that I am not an Asian woman? He is incredibly introspective, which is what I find so attractive about him. Could he be thinking about his family and what they might think about him dating a non-Asian woman?
leah_macau

Bacoor, Philippines

#414 Sep 29, 2007
i love chinese men but pls don't be to conservative its outdated already, be open to any relationship even to other races.

Since: Aug 07

Flushing, NY

#415 Sep 29, 2007
unveiled in PHL wrote:
I think this conversation has taken a turn from the original topic..."How do Chinese men feel about dating white women"
I for one would like to know. I am a White female and am very attracted to a certain Chinese man. I know that he feels the same way, yet he is very shy in actually asking me out.
Could it have anything to do with the fact that I am not an Asian woman? He is incredibly introspective, which is what I find so attractive about him. Could he be thinking about his family and what they might think about him dating a non-Asian woman?
There are conflicting reports on statistics. Some have noted that third generation American Chinese, as high as 40 Percent outmarried mostly to Whites.

As far as internet dating, I won't reveal numbers (but numerous) White women have shown interest in me. I personally prefer Spanish women however. Being handsome and charming goes a long way on my end.

A lot of Chinese guys prefer Asian women. But don't dispair, a lot of Chinese guys do like White women.
dreamer

Brooklyn, NY

#417 Sep 30, 2007
Yitzchakera wrote:
How do Chinese men feel about dating white women?
how do caucasian women feel about dating chinese men?
(i thought i'd add to the conversation this way.)
i guess these questions include the thoughts of what you like and dislike about each race + gender. Its a true tragedy to be in love and have race be a concern or an issue or the trigger to pain, for anyone.
How do we create intimate and universal love? I'm not sure, but i'm still trying.
I fell in love with a chinese man, and all i know is the joy of that love. the differences are what they are, and they make the picture vibrant with color, so to me, they are perfect.
Singapore Boiler

Arlington, VA

#418 Oct 1, 2007
Canadian-Born Chinese Man wrote:
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And I think you are a bitter individual who has a chip on his shoulder.
The ones who rant and complain constantly are really the ones who are bringing the Asian man down!!
Look man...the issue is not bringing the Asian man down...racism is racism and many white women are racists..may be not so much in Canada, but definitely here in the US
Robert

Arlington, VA

#420 Oct 2, 2007
Shawn wrote:
Most of the chinese men are ugly by whites standar.All the good looking chinese guys have their hand full with hot chinese girl,so why bother with white girl?
Stereotypical just like most white women are prostitutes by Asian standards and all the decent ones are taken by white men.

Since: Oct 07

Orillia, Canada

#421 Oct 2, 2007
Hey kinda late for this post... but what the heck. As a chinese, practically born in Toronto, I can tell you that I prefer caucasian women over asian. Reason? I find that caucasian women are more down to earth and overall a lot more outgoing. This makes them very fun to hangout with. Also, they have a lot more confidence, and I love confident women.

Since: Aug 07

Guangzhou, China

#422 Oct 2, 2007
Robert wrote:
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Still 85% of white American women and girls wont date a non-white man compared to 80% of Asian American girls and women dating non-Asians.
Where are you getting these stats? I'd like to see the data.

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