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Rajesh Khanna was lonely; he needed a companion

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Sarkar

Mumbai, India

#1 Jan 31, 2013
Cut Paste Indian Express by Anjali Jhangiani

I had interviewed Rajesh Khanna just before his engagement with Dimple Kapadia in April 1973. I got this news through a public relations executive and thought of going over to Ashirwaad, his residence for an interview. I wasn't sure how he would react, but he understood that I was just doing my job and invited me in.
I asked Rajesh Khanna why he wanted to get into the hassles of marriage when his career was at its peak, and he gave me an answer I will never forget. He said he had full faith in his fans. He told me how girls would sneak into his parking space and slash their fingers to write 'I love you' on his car almost every day. He thought that it would not make any difference to his fans whether he got engaged or married; they would always love him passionately.
I remember that it was the same year that Dimple was also on an all-time high as her blockbuster Bobby had just released. She had proposed to Rajesh Khanna a few times earlier but he refused. Finally, after Bobby's release, he accepted her proposal. He was very lonely. Even though he had so much fame and fan following, he needed a companion and finally accepted Dimple.
Rajesh Khanna was very co-operative with the media, but he was also egoistic at times. If he liked you, he would be nice and friendly but if he got a bad vibe from you, he would not entertain you. He had his favourites in the media, and I believe myself to be among those few. I met him three times after that interview, and he always remembered who I was.
Rajesh Khanna was a theatre person at heart. He just loved the stage. He would dramatise everything he did, right from his wave to the crowd to the way he talked and even chit-chat off-screen. There was an uncanny charm about him.
The last time I met Rajesh Khanna was at a book launch three years ago in Matunga. He came up to me and said, "Milte nahi ho aap aaj kal?" in the same dramatised tone. In spite of the hysteria around Rajesh Khanna, he was a humble man. His death is a great loss.
Mr A

Kolkata, India

#2 Jan 31, 2013
Successful people are always very lonely.
Suhan

Alexandria, VA

#3 Jan 31, 2013
Mustafa - This article is factually incorrect! E.g.,'Bobby' released 8 months AFTER Rajesh and Dimple's marriage. They married in March 1973 and Bobby released in November 1973.

Someone who writes such obvious whoppers can't be believed on the other stuff either I'm afraid.
MEE12

Bromley, UK

#4 Jan 31, 2013
Mr A wrote:
Successful people are always very lonely.
Like who?
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Sarkar

Mumbai, India

#5 Feb 1, 2013
Suhan wrote:
Mustafa - This article is factually incorrect! E.g.,'Bobby' released 8 months AFTER Rajesh and Dimple's marriage. They married in March 1973 and Bobby released in November 1973.
Someone who writes such obvious whoppers can't be believed on the other stuff either I'm afraid.
You are right,but I only wish to get your attention towards the point that Dimple had actually proposed to Rajesh Khanna many times,but he refused.If there happens to be and element of truth in this statement Rajesh Khanna was faithful in his releationship with Anju Mahendra and he accepted Dimple's proposal only after he broke up with his then girlfriend Anju Mahendra.
Sarkar

Mumbai, India

#6 Feb 1, 2013
Mr A wrote:
Successful people are always very lonely.
Besides Rajesh Khanna perhaps Rekha.
VIPIN

Noida, India

#7 Feb 2, 2013
Sarkar wrote:
Cut Paste Indian Express by Anjali Jhangiani
I had interviewed Rajesh Khanna just before his engagement with Dimple Kapadia in April 1973. I got this news through a public relations executive and thought of going over to Ashirwaad, his residence for an interview. I wasn't sure how he would react, but he understood that I was just doing my job and invited me in.
I asked Rajesh Khanna why he wanted to get into the hassles of marriage when his career was at its peak, and he gave me an answer I will never forget. He said he had full faith in his fans. He told me how girls would sneak into his parking space and slash their fingers to write 'I love you' on his car almost every day. He thought that it would not make any difference to his fans whether he got engaged or married; they would always love him passionately.
I remember that it was the same year that Dimple was also on an all-time high as her blockbuster Bobby had just released. She had proposed to Rajesh Khanna a few times earlier but he refused. Finally, after Bobby's release, he accepted her proposal. He was very lonely. Even though he had so much fame and fan following, he needed a companion and finally accepted Dimple.
Rajesh Khanna was very co-operative with the media, but he was also egoistic at times. If he liked you, he would be nice and friendly but if he got a bad vibe from you, he would not entertain you. He had his favourites in the media, and I believe myself to be among those few. I met him three times after that interview, and he always remembered who I was.
Rajesh Khanna was a theatre person at heart. He just loved the stage. He would dramatise everything he did, right from his wave to the crowd to the way he talked and even chit-chat off-screen. There was an uncanny charm about him.
The last time I met Rajesh Khanna was at a book launch three years ago in Matunga. He came up to me and said, "Milte nahi ho aap aaj kal?" in the same dramatised tone. In spite of the hysteria around Rajesh Khanna, he was a humble man. His death is a great loss.
Dear Sarkar Ji very good information and I can believe on your words as you have met with KAKAJI. Really it was a GREAT LOSS of the nation but this is a bitter truth that in India the good people do not get exact impotence rather then the person who are actually politician and clever or in refined form I would say who have no self respect get the importance and name & fame.

But beside these factors Rajesh Khanna has made the real space in his fan's heart which is eternal.Nobody touch this real achievement.

His liking in his fan's heart till today has been generated by own their own ,not through KAKAJI nor foolish media or by any other way.
sharmila

UK

#8 Feb 5, 2013
i think rk was a very affectionate person,could give love very easily and wanted to get love.if you watch hisvfilms very carefully one dialogue comes again and again.he says "arre pagli or arre paglo,"sometimes to his daughter or wife or sons.this he says with so much affection and love that it seems obvious that a person cannot show tha feeling intensely unless he feels it or he is an affectionate type of person.cannot dream of devanand, or dharm ,jeetendra or ab showing so much intense affection.only other actor capable was sanjeev kumar.
MEE12

UK

#9 Feb 5, 2013
sharmila wrote:
i think rk was a very affectionate person,could give love very easily and wanted to get love.if you watch hisvfilms very carefully one dialogue comes again and again.he says "arre pagli or arre paglo,"sometimes to his daughter or wife or sons.this he says with so much affection and love that it seems obvious that a person cannot show tha feeling intensely unless he feels it or he is an affectionate type of person.cannot dream of devanand, or dharm ,jeetendra or ab showing so much intense affection.only other actor capable was sanjeev kumar.
So how comes his love and affection with 3 women did not materialise with 3 women....Anju, Dimple and Tina?

The the actors you mentioned are all successful in their marriage....is it because they know how to show love and affection?

Please explain?

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Dev

Chennai, India

#10 Feb 6, 2013
MEE12 wrote:
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So how comes his love and affection with 3 women did not materialise with 3 women....Anju, Dimple and Tina?
The the actors you mentioned are all successful in their marriage....is it because they know how to show love and affection?
Please explain?
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Other actors are of compromising nature. Kaka is not like that he wants perfecton as per his thoughts & dreams. I mean kaka will not compromise nor step down even in case of his personal life. In case of Anju , kaka cannot tolerate his GF moving with sobers. In case of Dimple , she wanted to act in films & making kaka's life miserable with torcher , kaka sustained to some extent & kicked her off. In case of Tina , even though kaka wants to marry he has to convert to islam like what dharam has done, which he does't want on the other hand tina also does't want to be a living partner without marriage, kaka even kicked off tina. This is how kaka will not compromise like dharam or AB & hence kicked off all the 3. Kakaji does't want to be benefited in the name of religion by changing , he has strong ethics. AB has comprised for jaya,

Later at the end of his life, since Anju ,dimple had love of kaka they have realised & came to him for his love. Even mum also has love for kaka that's the reason all the way she has come to see kaka. For that matter, all the people of nation admires & loves kaka that's the reason over 9 lakh people attended the last journey of kaka. offcourse, some of them who could't attend even shed tears at their own place. To understand kaka , a person should have BIG HEART. Few persons who oppose kaka are exceptions like anti-eliments in the society.
MEE12

UK

#11 Feb 6, 2013
Dev wrote:
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Other actors are of compromising nature. Kaka is not like that he wants perfecton as per his thoughts & dreams. I mean kaka will not compromise nor step down even in case of his personal life. In case of Anju , kaka cannot tolerate his GF moving with sobers. In case of Dimple , she wanted to act in films & making kaka's life miserable with torcher , kaka sustained to some extent & kicked her off. In case of Tina , even though kaka wants to marry he has to convert to islam like what dharam has done, which he does't want on the other hand tina also does't want to be a living partner without marriage, kaka even kicked off tina. This is how kaka will not compromise like dharam or AB & hence kicked off all the 3. Kakaji does't want to be benefited in the name of religion by changing , he has strong ethics. AB has comprised for jaya,
Later at the end of his life, since Anju ,dimple had love of kaka they have realised & came to him for his love. Even mum also has love for kaka that's the reason all the way she has come to see kaka. For that matter, all the people of nation admires & loves kaka that's the reason over 9 lakh people attended the last journey of kaka. offcourse, some of them who could't attend even shed tears at their own place. To understand kaka , a person should have BIG HEART. Few persons who oppose kaka are exceptions like anti-eliments in the society.
U have used AB and Dharm as examples, but u misses out Jeetu....what about him?
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nikki

Oakland, CA

#12 Feb 6, 2013
The woman Kaka loved was Anju. However, Anju was too independent minded to be tied down in marriage. That's the reason they broke up. In the breakup at least 80% of the fault was Anju's. Kaka was very serious about her and proposed to her several times but she kept turning it down. This is when Dimple was proposing to Kaka but Kaka was ignoring her proposals.Only after the breakup with Anju he accepted Dimple's proposal and married her. After this, it was very wrong of Anju to accuse Kaka of dumping her. He din't do any such thing. Anju was totally responsible for that breakup. She was playing very hard to get. She wanted that relationship without any commitment. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. She was never there for Kaka. Really sad!
Later when he wanted to marry Tina, Dimple was the problem. She refused to divorce him and he could not move on with his life. And she moved on and had this big affair with Sunny Deol. He was left lonely. It was very wrong of her to do that. Tina would have been a good wife to him. She is a gentle natured person, spiritual minded and very grounded - the exact qualities Kaka needed in a wife.
Anju may be a good person, but with her bohemian outlook towards life, does not have the makings of a good wife. Dimple is more grounded but does not come across as a very gentle person. Tina, I think had all the right qualities for Kaka. He was a very emotionally needy person.
It was his bad luck that he failed in all his relationships
It was not his undoing, just his bad luck.
All these others: AB, Dharam, Jeetu, etc., etc. are no good but have luck on their side. AB has been a terrible husband to Jaya but she is totally devoted to him. She thinks she has been put on this earth just to serve him. That is his tremendous luck.
If Anju, Kaka's 1st love had been half as serious about Kaka as Jaya, he could have lived his life happily and not drowned himself in alchohol and killed himself prematurely.
He really loved Anju very passionately and that's one reason why he could not warm up to Dimple and the marriage failed.
Kakaji, may your soul R.I.P.
VIPIN

Noida, India

#13 Feb 6, 2013
MEE12 wrote:
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U have used AB and Dharm as examples, but u misses out Jeetu....what about him?
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Jitu has not faced the same problem from his wife which KAKAJI had faced.Understand.

It is a great pain of life if the anybody's wife does not understand what his husband wants from him.You can feel that feeling if you are married.
MEE12

UK

#14 Feb 6, 2013
nikki wrote:
The woman Kaka loved was Anju. However, Anju was too independent minded to be tied down in marriage. That's the reason they broke up. In the breakup at least 80% of the fault was Anju's. Kaka was very serious about her and proposed to her several times but she kept turning it down. This is when Dimple was proposing to Kaka but Kaka was ignoring her proposals.Only after the breakup with Anju he accepted Dimple's proposal and married her. After this, it was very wrong of Anju to accuse Kaka of dumping her. He din't do any such thing. Anju was totally responsible for that breakup. She was playing very hard to get. She wanted that relationship without any commitment. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. She was never there for Kaka. Really sad!
Later when he wanted to marry Tina, Dimple was the problem. She refused to divorce him and he could not move on with his life. And she moved on and had this big affair with Sunny Deol. He was left lonely. It was very wrong of her to do that. Tina would have been a good wife to him. She is a gentle natured person, spiritual minded and very grounded - the exact qualities Kaka needed in a wife.
Anju may be a good person, but with her bohemian outlook towards life, does not have the makings of a good wife. Dimple is more grounded but does not come across as a very gentle person. Tina, I think had all the right qualities for Kaka. He was a very emotionally needy person.
It was his bad luck that he failed in all his relationships
It was not his undoing, just his bad luck.
All these others: AB, Dharam, Jeetu, etc., etc. are no good but have luck on their side. AB has been a terrible husband to Jaya but she is totally devoted to him. She thinks she has been put on this earth just to serve him. That is his tremendous luck.
If Anju, Kaka's 1st love had been half as serious about Kaka as Jaya, he could have lived his life happily and not drowned himself in alchohol and killed himself prematurely.
He really loved Anju very passionately and that's one reason why he could not warm up to Dimple and the marriage failed.
Kakaji, may your soul R.I.P.
How do you know the personal marriage life's of Kaka, AB, Dharam and Jeetu?

Was you a fly on the wall who flew from one house to another?
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MEE12

UK

#15 Feb 6, 2013
VIPIN wrote:
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Jitu has not faced the same problem from his wife which KAKAJI had faced.Understand.
It is a great pain of life if the anybody's wife does not understand what his husband wants from him.You can feel that feeling if you are married.
bipin,

Read the posts before mine thats where Jeetu was also mentioned!
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MEE12

UK

#16 Feb 6, 2013
VIPIN wrote:
<quoted text>
Jitu has not faced the same problem from his wife which KAKAJI had faced.Understand.
It is a great pain of life if the anybody's wife does not understand what his husband wants from him.You can feel that feeling if you are married.
bipin,

A wife is not a slave, she also has feelings. Kaka should not have been harsh on her. A wife is not a yes sir or no sir! A marriage needs to work from both sides.....u can't keep blaming the wife you moron!!
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Indo

Birmingham, UK

#17 Feb 6, 2013
nikki wrote:
The woman Kaka loved was Anju. However, Anju was too independent minded to be tied down in marriage. That's the reason they broke up. In the breakup at least 80% of the fault was Anju's. Kaka was very serious about her and proposed to her several times but she kept turning it down. This is when Dimple was proposing to Kaka but Kaka was ignoring her proposals.Only after the breakup with Anju he accepted Dimple's proposal and married her. After this, it was very wrong of Anju to accuse Kaka of dumping her. He din't do any such thing. Anju was totally responsible for that breakup. She was playing very hard to get. She wanted that relationship without any commitment. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. She was never there for Kaka. Really sad!
Later when he wanted to marry Tina, Dimple was the problem. She refused to divorce him and he could not move on with his life. And she moved on and had this big affair with Sunny Deol. He was left lonely. It was very wrong of her to do that. Tina would have been a good wife to him. She is a gentle natured person, spiritual minded and very grounded - the exact qualities Kaka needed in a wife.
Anju may be a good person, but with her bohemian outlook towards life, does not have the makings of a good wife. Dimple is more grounded but does not come across as a very gentle person. Tina, I think had all the right qualities for Kaka. He was a very emotionally needy person.
It was his bad luck that he failed in all his relationships
It was not his undoing, just his bad luck.
All these others: AB, Dharam, Jeetu, etc., etc. are no good but have luck on their side. AB has been a terrible husband to Jaya but she is totally devoted to him. She thinks she has been put on this earth just to serve him. That is his tremendous luck.
If Anju, Kaka's 1st love had been half as serious about Kaka as Jaya, he could have lived his life happily and not drowned himself in alchohol and killed himself prematurely.
He really loved Anju very passionately and that's one reason why he could not warm up to Dimple and the marriage failed.
Kakaji, may your soul R.I.P.
Hello Nikki

I have read your observation about kaka's marraige, however i have to disagree with some of your points.
kaka and Anju were in love for over 7 years upto until he was just a person trying to get into films BUT once he became big and bigger he didnt want Anju to such extent that he took his wedding horse and baraat deliberately past her to spite her and her house was not even onroute.
Dimple did love him but by now he had Tina and for Dimple, although it was difficult to live with kaka she she did.

As fot Dharam and others you mentioned, Dharam did make a mistake of falling in love with Hema but he did the right thing of moving back to his 1st wife Prakash. Hema should not have fallen in love with a married man, serves her right.
sharmila

UK

#18 Feb 6, 2013
nikki wrote:
The woman Kaka loved was Anju. However, Anju was too independent minded to be tied down in marriage. That's the reason they broke up. In the breakup at least 80% of the fault was Anju's. Kaka was very serious about her and proposed to her several times but she kept turning it down. This is when Dimple was proposing to Kaka but Kaka was ignoring her proposals.Only after the breakup with Anju he accepted Dimple's proposal and married her. After this, it was very wrong of Anju to accuse Kaka of dumping her. He din't do any such thing. Anju was totally responsible for that breakup. She was playing very hard to get. She wanted that relationship without any commitment. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. She was never there for Kaka. Really sad!
Later when he wanted to marry Tina, Dimple was the problem. She refused to divorce him and he could not move on with his life. And she moved on and had this big affair with Sunny Deol. He was left lonely. It was very wrong of her to do that. Tina would have been a good wife to him. She is a gentle natured person, spiritual minded and very grounded - the exact qualities Kaka needed in a wife.
Anju may be a good person, but with her bohemian outlook towards life, does not have the makings of a good wife. Dimple is more grounded but does not come across as a very gentle person. Tina, I think had all the right qualities for Kaka. He was a very emotionally needy person.
It was his bad luck that he failed in all his relationships
It was not his undoing, just his bad luck.
All these others: AB, Dharam, Jeetu, etc., etc. are no good but have luck on their side. AB has been a terrible husband to Jaya but she is totally devoted to him. She thinks she has been put on this earth just to serve him. That is his tremendous luck.
If Anju, Kaka's 1st love had been half as serious about Kaka as Jaya, he could have lived his life happily and not drowned himself in alchohol and killed himself prematurely.
He really loved Anju very passionately and that's one reason why he could not warm up to Dimple and the marriage failed.
Kakaji, may your soul R.I.P.
you r right.some people do need a devoted wife and some can do without.i think rk needed a very homely and not very ambitious wife.anju was too bohemian and domple was ambitious,as she leftbher career at a very crucial stage when she could have become a female superstar.jeetendra had a wife who was totally devoted like jaya and dharm's wife.but rk was notbatball lucky in this aspect
nag shankar

Guntur, India

#19 Feb 6, 2013
The undoing of rajesh khanna was that all his three women were connected with film and film industry and interested in doing films at one time or the other. Actually, rajesh khanna needed a homely wife who is not at all 100% connected with the films/film industry. Imagine a simple homely wife who could have taken the care of rajesh khanna. Had he married a non-filmy girl, I personally presume, he would not have seen the doldrums and disappointments in his personal life. He would have been more happy in his personal life and therby remained healthy and lived longer. But alas. it was not to be.
sharmila

UK

#20 Feb 6, 2013
nag shankar wrote:
The undoing of rajesh khanna was that all his three women were connected with film and film industry and interested in doing films at one time or the other. Actually, rajesh khanna needed a homely wife who is not at all 100% connected with the films/film industry. Imagine a simple homely wife who could have taken the care of rajesh khanna. Had he married a non-filmy girl, I personally presume, he would not have seen the doldrums and disappointments in his personal life. He would have been more happy in his personal life and therby remained healthy and lived longer. But alas. it was not to be.
most talented persons are unhappy in their lives.the seed also lies in them .the non-filmy person can adjust to the eccentricity but not the famous or filmy wife.if he had a wife like dharm or ab then the story would be totally different.but he married when he was at the top but this people married when they were nothing.when you marry at that level you are sure to make a mistake.

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