My boyfriend's developed a PE problem

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Concerned

Storrs Mansfield, CT

#1 Feb 19, 2008
My boyfriend and I are in a healthy, long-term relationship. We have been having sex for about six months now and up until recently we haven't had any problems. However, within the past four weeks he has started ejaculating within three or four minutes of penetration. I would say that it only happens about 50% of the time but this a sharp increase from never!

I love him very much and our sex has always been extremely satisfying in the past. The development of this new problem has been a surprise and my biggest concern at this point is for his self-esteem. I'm afraid that this problem will get exponentially worse as he approaches sex with more and more anxiety each time. He always apologizes when it happens but we haven't talked about it any further.

I am wary to approach my boyfriend about the problem because I don't want to increase any feelings of anxiety or inadequacy but at the same time I'm afraid that my frustration and his subsequent embarrassment will start to interfere with our relationship.

I have come to understand that PE is fairly common and normal but why would this problem have developed at this point in our relationship? Should I be concerned? Also, what can I do as a partner to help him control his ejaculation and prolong sex? I am fairly sure that he knows when he is going to ejaculate early because he will pause three or four times during the short-lived intercourse. Could it be as simple as encouraging him to take his time when he pauses?

Help please!!!
Givegive

Russia

#2 Mar 24, 2008
Advise him to try Extagen. It gives fast and prolonged results. He will make his PE and you'll forget about this problem.
Michael Walters

Island Park, NY

#3 Jun 7, 2008
Its been several mths since you posted. I hope since then you found ans to at least some of your concerns, they are very real and a whole lot of folks are having these similar concerns. For some good info reguarding how to approach your man see the second post on this blog http://treatprematureejaculation.blogspot.com...
Hope this helps. Good luck!
Doug T

United States

#4 Jun 7, 2008
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Hi Guys , This is a story hits close to home for me. I suffered from pre mature ejaculation syndrome & lack of performance during sex with women. I would come pre maturely just touching their vaginal area. All the excitement from the touching , caressing , kissing , feeling caused me to shot immediately. I could not control it. I was never able to be inside them & I was already done. I lost many women in my life due to this problem. The women were extremely disappointed & angry. I do not blame them.

As I fully went to orgasm , they were just started getting turned on or really horny. I felt like a worthless fool not able to satisfy the women who loved me. Some of them were understanding but for a limited time. Eventually all women left me because I could not full fill their sexual needs. This problem became so severe that it caused break ups , problems with relationships in my life. I was so afraid when it came to sexual activity that I would pretend to be to tired , have a book next to have an excuse to read , saying I have a lot of things on mind ,... excuses for me not to have sex.

This seems weird & awkward due to my age range. I was in my mid 20's. I was in my sexual prime & I was refusing sex ??? All men would say I am crazy to refuse this awesome feeling. The reason was I suffered from pre mature ejaculation & performance. It was not that I did not want sex , but I was embarrassed & scared due to this problem. I was so depressed by all these women leaving me for other men that can satisfy them. I turned to medical help : doctors , sex therapists , specialists , etc... Even with their help was limited. I bought over the counter drugs , lotions , creams , pills , etc... I spent a lot of time & money & none of these things worked. I also bought dvds , literature , etc... which did not help either.

I was getting DESPERATE due to feeling lonely & alone. I wanted to try anything. I stumbled upon the Ejaculation Master. Needless to say , I bought the program. I felt this was my last chance to cure my problem. I followed the program precisely. The program took about an half hour a day. 3-7 times a week for about a month. It was structured for training with or without partner. I did not have a partner which was good. This allowed me to practice by myself without anyone seeing me.

Anyway , I put it to the test after practicing the techniques for 2 months. I took more time to train myself to master techniques outlined in course. I wanted to see if this program was a fluke so I went hire an escort. I was AMAZED by the results. I did not come for a least 45 minutes & felt the whole sexual power of real intercourse. But I wanted to prove it again to myself that this program works. Next , I wanted to try it on 1 of my ex girlfriends to see if she would notice the difference. She still cared about me so I had the chance to be intimate with her again. She noticed an IMMEDIATE change as I did not come. I was able to be inside her for a good 45 min. before anything happened. She climaxed 4-5 times she told me before I came. That was a nice change for once.

With this program I have no more fear of this problem again. Along with the self confidence to perform with the sexual stamina that I never had before. I am writing this from personal experience so I can help fellow guys not to be embarrassed & suffer what I did. There is a way to eliminate & prolong your sexual power & stamina. If you suffer from pre mature ejaculation then there is a solution : Ejaculation Master. This program changed my life & it will change yours too. Thanks for the read , Doug

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John Richards

UK

#5 Jun 10, 2008
You asked if it could be as simple as taking his time? Yes, it can be - but he has to know what to DO when he's pausing etc... He can't just think of something like dead puppies or whatever, he needs to learn how to connect with his body.

Point him in the direction of: http://www.ultimatemanplan.com/premature

If its shit, just get a refund. Helped me with my gf, can't believe people suffer with P.E when there is a simple way to get in control of it.
Rana

Upper Darby, PA

#6 Jun 12, 2008
Premature ejaculation is a common problem affecting most men of all ages.So you need not be concerned, but you have to take positive action.

The good news is that premature ejaculation is completely curable.It's mainly a mental problem, and so it can be cured by doing some special mental exercises. You can go to http://www.prematureejaculation.50g.com/ , This site helped me a lot in curing my premature ejaculation and will help you too, if you foolow it.
Rana

Upper Darby, PA

#7 Jun 12, 2008
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common complaints affecting most men of all ages.

But pe is curable, if you take action.
go to http://www.prematureejaculation.50g.com/
I got help from this site.
newlywedhusband

United States

#8 Jul 9, 2008
I am a 30 year old man recently married. On our wedding night I looked at my beautiful wife and I lost control. Before I even knew it I had come with out even entering her. My wife was really disappointed. She is about 22 and was a virgin as I was and she was excited about her wedding night. I didn't take her virginity and though I tried I didn't have the strength to try again.The next night was a little better, I was able to enter her but could only hold off for a few seconds. I didn't even have a chance to thrust. The thing that embarrassed me the most is when I rolled off of my wife she was surprised because she didn't even know I had entered her. She thought I had done what I did the first night. Over the month since we've been married she has talked to various family and friends. I overheard her tell a friend, she didn't know I was outside the room, that she felt like she was still a virgin. Her family has come up for a nickname for me referring to my quickness. They don't know that I knowthough. I need to know how can I get better at this? Does this have anything to do with penis size or hardness, because I am kind of smaller than average and my erections are soft?Are their anything that can help me? Time isn't helping me because sometimes, like my wedding night, I wont even be able to enter her vagina. I don't make in time. Please help. I heard condoms helped but we're Catholic and don't beleive in them.My wife has been understanding but she has never felt arousal and she resents that. Its hurting the rest of our marriage.
Alex Moritz

Woodstock, IL

#9 Jul 15, 2008
I used a supplement called HARD for this problem, I have posted about it on this forum before. I am not completely over my PE, but this has helped me satisfy my lover and we are working on it together.

Now, even if I loose control before she is ready, I will still have a stiff erection and I will be able to continue making love with her, despite having already ejaculated myself. you can purchase HARD Pills at http://hard.njoynow.com and keep your girl satisfied while you work on your PE together.
Mixo Lydian b7

Cherry Hill, NJ

#10 Nov 13, 2008
Hi, its been a while since you posted, so hopefully you found a solution already. Like your boyfriend, I had also been sexually active for several months without having any problems. But all of a sudden I started having consistent problems with PE.

I have done a good deal of research on the internet and read a little bit in a few books about the Topic. I have found that it is both a physical and mental problem. Usually, it starts as a physical thing, then as confidence lowers, it gets worse and harder to fix.

PE is usually defined as not being able to control when you come. The exercises that I have been doing and have found success with are ones that are designed to help you first gain awareness of when you will come, then slowly learn how to control it.

The first exercise that I started to do was the kegel. You could find a description of this easily on the internet. This is a strength training exercise for the PC muscles (theyre used to start and stop urinating, they flex during ejaculation) where you flex them on and off. This wont help with learning to control, but it will help in the grand scheme of things in the same way that exercising your fingers would for a guitarist.

The more important exercises are the masturbation and partner exercises. It is probably best to practice alone first. Basically, you must first gain the ability to know when you will come. To help with keen awareness, begin to rate you arousal level from 1 (not aroused) to 10 (point of no return) when you masturbate. Use a dry hand. When ever you recognize that you are near 8 or 9, stop for 30 secs to 1 min (or enough time to lower your arousal level by a few points). Go through as many stops as you need to until you reach 15 minutes, then allow yourself to come. It is important to stay relaxed, to breathe slowly and to not flex your pc muscles(the ones you use to start and stop peeing). If you canít go long before stopping, try mixing up the intensity and the type of strokes that you use. It may take several weeks, but with regular practice (no less than 3 times a week), the stops should become less and less. You should try to keep yourself leveled off at an arousal level near 7 or 8 for a long time. When you want to come(at 15 minutes or so), flex your PC muscles for a while (it usually takes under 2 minutes) and you should be able to control it that way. This however is only the first step.

The next step would be to increase arousal by using erotic pictures or videos. Use the same exercises as before (15 minutes) until you feel comfortable. When you are doing well with this, move to videos plus using a lubricant. This will likely be a much harder step because it will increase stimulation to the tip of your penis and cause you arousal level to go way up. Get used to this slowly. Donít use lotion as a lubricant because that will actually decrease stimulation after a while. Good things to use are store bought lubricant, olive oil, or saliva.

These may take a few months to master, but DEFINITALY WORK. I have been doing these for about a month and a half and am on the last step. I have seen great improvement, but wouldnít call myself cured yet.

Once these are mastered, you could go to partner exercises. These are similar. Make sure to talk it over with you partner first. Start with a hand, then maybe move to oral if everyone is comfortable with that. With vaginal, enter slowly, vary your thrusts, remember to breath slowly and deeply.

With regular practice, even once you are cured, these should be very helpful. Once you learn (from what I hear) to control ejaculation, its not something that you forget. It pisses me off how no one ever puts this stuff up with out charging money, so I thought I could help make it more public information. If anything is unclear, please post a comment saying so, and I will try to explain. Good luck and I hope this helps.
Endre

United States

#13 Feb 27, 2009
Mixo lydian , you are THE man. Keep that in mind.. u will help many people with these post.. Everyone just keeps trying to make money out of this shit, and nobody wants to pay for it. What happens ? PE keeps the same shit, cuz people wont know how to deal with it, therefore it will keep spoiling lotta relationships and self confidence.
Keep rockin!
BobCat

London, UK

#14 Feb 28, 2009
PE is a very annoying problem and i think also very complex to understand. i had a great sex life with an ex gf for 2 years, then i got PE and to this day i still have it. i heard somewhere that it can be caused by many different things.

but i was thinking, if there is no real way to totally cure it, why not just take some viagra so that way even if you do PE you will still have an erection so you can not disappoint your partner. i was wondering if anyone has tried this or if it would work.

what i have noticed though, and i think it should be researched heavily is that PE has a lot to do with serotonin. i know this because i use to be a raver and take ecstasy weekly. if i took it on say a saturday night, the following sunday if i was with my gf i would not ejaculate for at last 30 minutes maybe not at all. when you take ecstasy your brain produces huge amounts of serotonin which is what makes you happy. normally your brain produces it slowly and at a steady pace, but on ecstasy it floads your brain. when the drug wears off you are left with little amounts for a couple of days and i found during this time i could go for ages
Totally Normal

Courtenay, Canada

#16 Mar 2, 2009
Its more normal than you may think, but there is a solution. There are a ton of products out there that can help with this. Two of the most common are Semenax and Volume Pills. There are a number of websites out there but this one lets you compare them easily: http://www.topvolumepills.com/ . Good luck.
Peter Flynn

Oakville, Canada

#17 Mar 2, 2009
premature ejaculation is more common than you think. up to 40% of all males experience this in their life-time. I personally overcame my issues with premature ejaculation by following these very helpful tips.

If interested, please click here:

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I hope it helps you as well as it did for me.
John

Ashburn, VA

#19 Jun 20, 2011
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Premature Paul

Australia

#20 Jun 26, 2011
Hi guys,
I also suffer from PE and the only advice I can give you is DO NOT use AMI products. I paid $2,500 all up and got nothing in the way of results.
AMI has a policy that if their product does not work they will allow you to try another of their products and I nothing else you apparently receive a refund.
When the product didn't work, I informed them of this and they always told me that they would call me back, but they never did. Almost four years later, I still have not received all the products that I paid for, nor did I receive a refund.
They are a con job. After visiting a doctor he informed me that the product they use is a standard anti-depressant which would cost roughly $20 in a pharmacy compared to the $2,500 I paid.
Tiffany

United States

#21 Jun 28, 2011
This program is the one that me and my boyfriend used. It worked perfectly! We were both amazed at how well it worked.
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Since: May 12

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#28 May 28, 2012
Concerned wrote:
My boyfriend and I are in a healthy, long-term relationship. We have been having sex for about six months now and up until recently we haven't had any problems. However, within the past four weeks he has started ejaculating within three or four minutes of penetration. I would say that it only happens about 50% of the time but this a sharp increase from never!
I love him very much and our sex has always been extremely satisfying in the past. The development of this new problem has been a surprise and my biggest concern at this point is for his self-esteem. I'm afraid that this problem will get exponentially worse as he approaches sex with more and more anxiety each time. He always apologizes when it happens but we haven't talked about it any further.
I am wary to approach my boyfriend about the problem because I don't want to increase any feelings of anxiety or inadequacy but at the same time I'm afraid that my frustration and his subsequent embarrassment will start to interfere with our relationship.
I have come to understand that PE is fairly common and normal but why would this problem have developed at this point in our relationship? Should I be concerned? Also, what can I do as a partner to help him control his ejaculation and prolong sex? I am fairly sure that he knows when he is going to ejaculate early because he will pause three or four times during the short-lived intercourse. Could it be as simple as encouraging him to take his time when he pauses?
Help please!!!
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mike

San Antonio, TX

#30 Jun 12, 2012
Duramale for Premature Ejaculation - http://www.duramale.com/... I received the order and it was on time and the pills work great.
Mitch Johnson

North Hollywood, CA

#32 Jul 3, 2012
I heard of this new product known as Promescence. I ran across it while watching Dr. Oz, and according to Dr. Laura Berman itís the only topical spray of its kind with absorbent technology. This is an added bonus because of this technology it doesnít transfer to my partner during intercourse. In addition this technology allows you to maintain sensation while gaining more control over ejaculation. Promescent is FDA approved and is backed by the leading urologists and physicians. The best part about this is that you do not need a prescription to get Promescent. I believe all you have to do is going to promescent.com

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