my one & only son passed away 2-7-09 ...

my one & only son passed away 2-7-09 unknown reason as of yet!

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christina carter

Springfield, KY

#1 Feb 24, 2009
i'm 37yrs. old raised three children and now have a beautiful grandaughter 2yrs.old. i've struggled along the way, but i've made it.. and now i've lost my baby boy at such a young age, he lived in tucson az. with his father for a1/2 yr. he got on black tar herion, his dad found all the parfanella in his room and told him to man up! that's it!! glenn called me @ 2 days later crying sicker than a dog, i knew it was withdrawls, i immedietly called his prior probation officer and told them everything, and to get him now!!. so they did they took him to detox for 2 weeks, and then on to rehab for 60 days. we talked everyday for 45 mins., he wanted to come home in march, he got out in jan.20th. 2009 and seemed to be doing better,except his myspace seemed so dark, he would post dark messages, like he hated life, he hated being happy etc. i told his dad these things.. anyway glenn called me on feb.6th 2009 and sounded great, he was in the process of straighting his hair, and then going to a meeting with his dad and then off to see his girlfriend, we said our good byes & our love yous.. the next day his dad called me to tell me glenn was gone , he never woke up and there was a bottle robittussin cough syrup by his bed..he was gone my baby..soafter the shock i spoke with his dad and decied i wanted him to be home in ky., and his dad had already made arrangements,b/c he didn't i could come up with the money, and plus i have custody..i stopped everything borrowed2500.00 from my dad to get him here and then i had to collect more money to transport the body from the airport to the funeral home in ky. 285.00, not to mention the funeral expeneses 2,000.00, and then the cemetary expense, i got a beautiful lot for him at a discount for my making payments on mine right next to him 3,600.00 and the last but not least "my son deserves a beautiful heastone" and all the income i have is 674.00mth. ssi. 83.00 food stamps.. i have worked and supported my family on my own and yes we struggled but we always had what we needed, "thank be to god" i've been to many goverment agencies, federal, nothing avaliable, i've been to churches our very own brothers and sisters and you have to be a member, i'm glad it's not that way in heaven, i've put cans in different places throughout the city, some it's against their policy.. IF ANY THING AT ALL THAT I COULD ASK FOR, WOULD BE TO HELP WITH THE COST OF A HEADSTONE" FOR MY BABY BOY" I OWE SO MUCH MONEY BACK RIGHT NOW, I HOESTLY DON'T KNOW HOW I'M GOING TO MAKE IT.. WELL GOD CHECKS ME EVERY TIME, GOD WILL SUPPLY MY NEEDS!!! I LIVE IN A LOW INCOME APARTMENT, SO THAT HELPS FOR NOW!!! ANYWAY THANK YOU FOR LISTENING TO MY STORY!!!
christina carter

Springfield, KY

#2 Feb 24, 2009
Glenn Neil Cisneros Jr.(1993-2009)
Glenn Neil Cisneros Jr., 16, went to be with the Lord on Saturday, Feb. 7, 2009, in Tucson, Ariz.
He was born Jan. 13, 1993, in Boulder, Colo., to parents Glenn Cisneros Sr. and Christina Carter.
In addition to his parents, he is survived by two sisters, Kayla Carter and her family and Cassandra Carter; grandparents Lee and Anna Carter; great-grandmother Dorothy Cox; uncle Matt Carter and his family; and many more family members and friends.
Glenn spent 15 years of his life in Ashland, Ky., and surrounding areas. He spent the last year with his father in Tucson. He made many friends wherever he was with his great sense of humor and witty ways. Glenn will be greatly missed by many friends and family.
To all of you who do or donít know Ron Daugherty, he has been my complete rock through all of this tragedy. I couldnít have done it without him. I love you, Baby, and Glennie loved you too! He will always be in our hearts and minds forever. Iíll see you soon, Glennie. Love, Mommie.
Funeral services will be at 11:30 a.m. Thursday, Feb. 19, 2009, at Evans Funeral Home in Raceland, Ky., by the Rev. Jimmie Morrison and the Rev. Liz Wireman. Burial will be in Golden Oaks Memorial Gardens in Ashland, Ky.
Friends may call after 11 a.m. Thursday at the funeral home.
Contributions may be made to the family to help with funeral expenses
CHRISTINA CARTER 2719 FIELDS AVE.APTE3 FLATWOODS KY. 41139
Saddened

Memphis, TN

#3 Apr 2, 2009
It seems to me that you want to put all the blame on his father.
I never want to imagine what it's to lose a son, but until you take responsibility for your part,you will hold bitterness in your heart for something that you nor his dad had control over.
There is a reason that he was living with his dad and did not want to live with you. He was happy there. Addiction is an indicriminant thing and geography does not dictate this.
Until you forgive yourself and his Dad, you will not get the help you are so desparately seeking. It was not his fathers responsibility to foot the bill for your entire family. He conceded to you burial sight, because he loved Glen.
Seek help with love and you will receive. Everyone is grieving.
Saddened

Memphis, TN

#4 Apr 2, 2009
God will provide, but your heart cannot be hardened.
Kids do not realize the reprocussions of their actions, they think they are invincible.
Educate yourself on addiction.
It seems to me that you think that you could have stopped it. I come from a family raised by the same mother and father. One child and addict and the other never touched anything.I would be willing to help you because I loved Glen, but it is so unfair what you insinuate in your letter.
One side of the story does not mean the truth.
Please don't diminish the strong bond he had by your bitterness, this will not heal you--You were and are a good mom, but innuendos of blame will not bring him back nor help your cause.Again,No one can understand how you feel. I will pray for you and his father.
CHRISTINA CARTER

Russell, KY

#5 Apr 2, 2009
Saddened wrote:
It seems to me that you want to put all the blame on his father.
I never want to imagine what it's to lose a son, but until you take responsibility for your part,you will hold bitterness in your heart for something that you nor his dad had control over.
There is a reason that he was living with his dad and did not want to live with you. He was happy there. Addiction is an indicriminant thing and geography does not dictate this.
Until you forgive yourself and his Dad, you will not get the help you are so desparately seeking. It was not his fathers responsibility to foot the bill for your entire family. He conceded to you burial sight, because he loved Glen.
Seek help with love and you will receive. Everyone is grieving.
TO WHO DOSN'T KNOW WHAT THEIR TALKING ABOUT,
THE ONLY BLAME ON MY PART WAS TO ALLOW HIM TO GO TO HIS FATHERS, AND THE ONLY REASON HE HAD TO GO
IS BECAUSE HE REFUSED TO GO TO SCHOOL, SO IT WAS DETENTION OR HIS FATHERS. SO UNLESS YOU HAVE CHILDREN OF YOU'RE OWN, I'M CERTAIN YOU WOULDN'T WANT THEM SITTING IN THE DETENTION CENTER..AND RAISING TEENAGERS BY YOU'RE SELF ISN'T AN EAST TASK, BUT I DID IT WITH THREE AND TWO OF WHICH IS NOW COLLEGE EDUCATED. AND YES I HAVE SOME BITTERNESS FOR THE SIMPLE FACT HE LEFT HERE WITHOUT ANY
ADDICTIONS AND A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LOOK,ATTITUDE,CURSING AND VERY DARK!!!!! I SEEN HIS MYSPACE
ACCOUNT DAILY, WHILE HIS FATHER WORKED, WENT STRAIGHT TO THE BAR EVERY NIGHT, DIDN'T HAVE ANY IDEA
THAT HIS SON HAD BEEN USING "BLACK TAR HEROIN" FOR A YEAR, MY SON CALLED ME FOR HELP, I CALLED
AROUND AND GOT HIM INTO REHAB FOR 60 DAYS, AND TALKED TO HIM EVERYDAY, WHILE HIS DAD WENT TO
MEXICO ON VACATION!!! GLENN WAS COMING BACK HOME TO ME IN MARCH!!!!!! SO WHOEVER YOU ARE GET YOU'RE FACTS STRAIGHT!! AND I HAD LEGAL CUSTODY, I HAD HIM TRANSPORTED BACK HOME. I PAID FOR IT MY SELF NOT HIS FATHER!! HIS FATHER WAS GOING TO BURY HIM WITHOUT MY KNOWING, I STOPPED IT (LEGALLY)... BY THE WAY I DON'T NEED ANY ONE'S HELP NOW, GOD MADE THE WAY, EVERYTHING IS PAID IN FULL!!!!! IF THIS IS MICHELLE OR BRITTANY YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW BIG GLENN IS WAS HE THERE FOR YOU????
CHRISTINA CARTER

Russell, KY

#6 Apr 2, 2009
CHRISTINA CARTER wrote:
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TO WHO DOSN'T KNOW WHAT THEIR TALKING ABOUT,
THE ONLY BLAME ON MY PART WAS TO ALLOW HIM TO GO TO HIS FATHERS, AND THE ONLY REASON HE HAD TO GO
IS BECAUSE HE REFUSED TO GO TO SCHOOL, SO IT WAS DETENTION OR HIS FATHERS. SO UNLESS YOU HAVE CHILDREN OF YOU'RE OWN, I'M CERTAIN YOU WOULDN'T WANT THEM SITTING IN THE DETENTION CENTER..AND RAISING TEENAGERS BY YOU'RE SELF ISN'T AN EAST TASK, BUT I DID IT WITH THREE AND TWO OF WHICH IS NOW COLLEGE EDUCATED. AND YES I HAVE SOME BITTERNESS FOR THE SIMPLE FACT HE LEFT HERE WITHOUT ANY
ADDICTIONS AND A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LOOK,ATTITUDE,CURSING AND VERY DARK!!!!! I SEEN HIS MYSPACE
ACCOUNT DAILY, WHILE HIS FATHER WORKED, WENT STRAIGHT TO THE BAR EVERY NIGHT, DIDN'T HAVE ANY IDEA
THAT HIS SON HAD BEEN USING "BLACK TAR HEROIN" FOR A YEAR, MY SON CALLED ME FOR HELP, I CALLED
AROUND AND GOT HIM INTO REHAB FOR 60 DAYS, AND TALKED TO HIM EVERYDAY, WHILE HIS DAD WENT TO
MEXICO ON VACATION!!! GLENN WAS COMING BACK HOME TO ME IN MARCH!!!!!! SO WHOEVER YOU ARE GET YOU'RE FACTS STRAIGHT!! AND I HAD LEGAL CUSTODY, I HAD HIM TRANSPORTED BACK HOME. I PAID FOR IT MY SELF NOT HIS FATHER!! HIS FATHER WAS GOING TO BURY HIM WITHOUT MY KNOWING, I STOPPED IT (LEGALLY)... BY THE WAY I DON'T NEED ANY ONE'S HELP NOW, GOD MADE THE WAY, EVERYTHING IS PAID IN FULL!!!!! IF THIS IS MICHELLE OR BRITTANY YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW BIG GLENN IS WAS HE THERE FOR YOU????
WHO ARE YOU????
Saddened

Memphis, TN

#8 Apr 5, 2009
I'm sorry. God Bless you!
christina carter

Richmond, KY

#9 Apr 5, 2009
Saddened wrote:
I'm sorry. God Bless you!
thank you, god bless you if this is brittany, glennie loved you very much, even when he was little i alway's ttaught him about you, when people asked do you have any bro. & sis.? he always included you!!! if you would like
you can call me sometime and i can send you some pics.
[email protected]
i would like to get to know you, you looked so much like glenn, i'm the one that,inforced the visit to see you when you were young, do you remember? love glennie's mommy
Brandon

Ashland, KY

#10 May 6, 2009
Hello Christina. I understand this was just a few months ago, but I have a few friends that knew Glenn. I don't want to imagine the pain and heart-ache that your family is going through. It sounded so tragic, and unexpected. I understand you miss him very much, I would miss my son too (if I had a boy) but I can understand maybe just a little of the pain. It made me tear up just sitting here reading this. I know this is very hard for you, but just pray to God, and everything will get better. No matter what he will always be watching over you & so will Glenn. God Bless you and your family's pain and heartache. Bye.
Bochel

Ashland, KY

#11 Sep 16, 2009
To be honest, we think a lot of people are to blame including Glenn. Don't get us wrong we aren't condoling his father's actions or the numerous other people involved in his addiction but Glenn knew what he was doing was wrong. We love Glenn very much and we miss him quite a lot. He was the most incredible friend We've ever had, and he got us through a lot. We couldn't wait for him to get home and we both had just talked to him several hours before the tragedy occured and we wish we could've stopped it from happening. We love Glenn and his family, other than his dad, and Jenn if you want to count her as anything..(not trying to be rude, that's just our input.) Jenn needs to grow up and stop using his death as a way to get attention. She fucked him up probably more than anyone else did, and deep down she knows that. We hope she feels guilty, and we hope Glenn's "dad" feels guilty as well. Thanks. And We love you Christina and Cassie.
-Bobbi Franklin
&
Chelsea Fannin
Bochel

Richmond, KY

#12 Sep 19, 2009
And we love you too, Kayla.
You 3,[Christina, Cassie and Kayla] are all amazing people. We really love you.

Since: Sep 08

Palos Hills, IL

#13 Sep 20, 2009
Its all the man's fault let the Lord God Barrack Obama with his mighty Science bring him into nothingness

WE MUST DESTROY ALL MEN! BOW DOWN AND PRAISE THE LORD ART GOD OBAMA!
sorry

Ashland, KY

#14 Oct 26, 2009
Excuse me but this has nothing to do with "your god" barack!!
His_Shadow wrote:
Its all the man's fault let the Lord God Barrack Obama with his mighty Science bring him into nothingness
WE MUST DESTROY ALL MEN! BOW DOWN AND PRAISE THE LORD ART GOD OBAMA!
kat

Rahway, NJ

#15 Jan 1, 2010
Christina, I know you don't know me but I knew Glenn, for a short time anyway. We had talked a few times and he seemed like an amazing kid. I even thought I had a crush on him for a while. But I'm so very glad I got to know him while I could. He will be forever missed. I don't blame you for throwing a little blame towards his father. From what you said, it seems that he didn't care all too much, although I can not say for sure. To be honest I can't believe it's been almost a year. I send all my love to you and your family <3
Michael Simpson

Columbus, OH

#16 Aug 3, 2010
Christina , I was just surfing the web and ran across your story . I am very saddened to hear about your sons unfortunate death , I am a heroin addict in recovery I have been sober for 7yrs., I lost several people who I loved very much as a result of overdoseing on black tar heroin .. I know that it is incredibly difficult to find comfort in words well for me the kind words of friends and family just did not help or provide any comfort to me .. The loss of those so dear to me has really never healed time has helped me to sort things out although I still struggle everyday . I do find some peace knowing that my loved ones are in a better place where the pain of the addiction and struggle of just getting through the day is a battle they no longer have to fight , still I would walk through hell to have them back . I know your son is in a wonderful place with his God and in no pain .. He will always live in your heart and you will be reunited again someday when it is time ... I just wanted to let you know that there are people who understand what you are going through and who care .. I will keep you in my prayers .. Keep your head up and stay strong that is what your son would want for you ..

Michael
Jillian

Ashland, KY

#17 Oct 26, 2010
Christina, you don't know me but I knew your son. I went to Crabbe with him & dated him for about a week then and stayed friends with him for the time he went to Ashland. I also talked to him a little while he was in Arizona. I could tell a huge difference in him. I'm so sorry you lost such a great person. My heart and love goes out to you and your family. My boyfriend use to live in Tucson also. He WAS doing the same things that Glenn was doing. When I found out about it I told him he needed to come back. Now he is back in Ashland and staying clean. I hope you don't mind that i let him read your story about Glenn. He said that it helped him a lot. We thank you because you have helped someone that I care for dearly stay clean. I will always keep you and Glenn in my thoughts.
love always,
Jill Smith
his love

Ashland, KY

#18 Apr 16, 2011
hey i know u might not remember me but i knew glenn...i miss him like crazy !! he was amazing !! i love him so much !! it makes me mad cuz i feel like we should have done something !! but we didnt ):
Jordan Morris

United States

#19 Aug 18, 2011
Who ever knew glenn never knew Glenn like I did I was his best friend and brother. The kid is one thing I miss most in my life. Without him I've been lost. The kid was gonna move in with me to help me survive cancer when I was diagnosed. Any body that has talked shit about Glenn or his family will pay for it. I will forever love and miss you Glenn. You were my best friend an still are to this day. I hope you're havin a damn good time in heaven!!
Ex-Exabyte

Santa Clara, CA

#20 Apr 20, 2012
Is his father the same Glen Cisneros that worked at Exabyte in Boulder, CO in the mid/late 1990's?
christina

Ironton, OH

#21 Nov 10, 2012
Ex-Exabyte wrote:
Is his father the same Glen Cisneros that worked at Exabyte in Boulder, CO in the mid/late 1990's?
yes that would be correct..

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