My quote marks were not meant to indicate any restriction on what I think would constitute a fan but were in reference to Lisa's comment that I was confusing "fans" with Heather. No judgment of how fans define themselves was intended. I apologize if that's the way it reads.<quoted text>
What you do seem to be confused about is that you appear to be under the impression via your usage of quotes around the words fan and fans, that your get to define who is a fan and who isn't. Of course you have your opinions about that stuff... like we all do... but the reality is that you are just voicing your opinions.
Any ways... in my opinion... I am a fan of Bon Jovi... and in my opinion... if Richie would like to mend fences with the very very large number of fans who have been disappointed about his choice not to show up to work, etc., etc., then a clear explanation of the reasons behind his behaviour could possibly help. Though it is possible that since most of his varying explanations tend to come off as he is going through some version of a mid life crisis or maybe reading between the lines... perhaps some form of stage fright... perhaps it would be for the best if he didn't attempt to explain his behaviour.
What probably would make the majority of fans less annoyed at him would be for him at some point in time within the next year would be to mend fences with Jon and start working on a new album. That would be step one. Step two would be for Richie to show up on stage at some one off Bon Jovi concert and at least look like he is getting along with Jon and the other guys.
No public grovelling involved. Just like um.... showing up for work and doing his job involved. Though the reality is that Richie would probably have to show up to a whack of concerts consistently for a lot of fans to trust him again.
Just my opinion.:)
(After I read your comment I looked back at both posts and also discovered that I can't count or proofread very well either.:( Sheesh!)
And, you're right, of course, that it's only my opinion. I assumed that was a given since this is a forum; but perhaps I should have stated that more clearly.
The only other thing I would add after reading your comment is that it would indeed go a long way towards improving the situation if we understood the backstory. I guess the difference for me is that I choose to wait for that BEFORE deciding that someone doesn't care or is being disrespectful, rather than assuming that now and then making them responsible for making me feel better about them.
Even with what I am reasonably sure some will see as negative statements about the way Jon is spinning everything, I'm not saying that he's a liar or a bad person or that he owes me an explanation. It's just that his statements raise questions for me just as much as Richie's do.
Again, just my $0.02.