So you had an abusive marriage and encouraged women to stay with abusive men just because YOU did it? Really sick but explains SO much.<quoted text>
You are an idiot. Not that I have to explain my life to anyone but I had a long marriage with one man, raised four great kids, ran several businesses and as a family traveled all over the country showing horses. My volunteer work was with families having issues of abuse and trying to keep them together. My husband and I also have fishing trophies for catching stripers off of Martha's Vineyard and the NH coast. I'm on my second life now and it is even better.
You have no idea how less than ideal situations can be turned around with some effort. I think you are the type that just cops out when things get tough. A virtual lightweight.
SO you finally got divorced after the kids were grown because you did not want to give up the financial benefits your HUSBAND provided while they were young and to have to get a job. You raised your kids to think abuse was A-OK to give and receive. Well, at least the fishing was good.