Sean Hayes Just Came Out. And He's Furious You Made Him Do It

There are 69 comments on the www.queerty.com story from Mar 8, 2010, titled Sean Hayes Just Came Out. And He's Furious You Made Him Do It . In it, www.queerty.com reports that:

That Sean Hayes is gay is Hollywood's worst kept secret - circa 1998, when his character Jack debuted on Will & Grace. Played with a natural flamboyance, Hayes portrayal of the serially out-of-work mooching neighbor was either an exercise in extreme method acting, or just an extension of Hayes' true self. Or somewhere in the middle. But with an upcoming Broadway turn opposite Kristin Chenoweth in Promises, Promises, he's acknowledging what nobody pretended was even something worth hiding: that he's a proud, Emmy-winning gay actor. But damn you for making him say it aloud.

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“Married as I can be!”

Since: Jun 07

Las Vegas

#63 Mar 12, 2010
lndychick wrote:
I'd rather be represented by Sean Hayes than Perez Hilton.
Didn't he make "Billy's Hollywood Screen Kiss" about the same time as W&G? He may not have danced in a Pride parade, but he was out.
I actually think that movie came out before Will and Grace, and I think he had done a couple of other gay indie films as well. I'm just not interested enough to go to imdb and research it though.

What a tempest in a teapot! Even without Mr. Hayes publicly acknowledging his sexual orientation, did he really think that he had a chance to play Rambo 12?

And Frank: Gay stereotypes exist, why? Because there are a lot of gay people that act that way. Sometimes, representing people as stereotypes can be offensive, I'll admit, but I usually find it amusing. I certainly don't think that Will and Grace did anything to harm the LGBT rights movement. Certainly Jack was a stereotype, but not an offensive one, as he was played by Mr. Hayes. I still watch the re-runs sometimes, and I always laugh.

Favorite line: Jack - "There's my car! It's a HUFF and I'm LEAVING in it!"
Frank Stanton

Saratoga Springs, NY

#64 Mar 13, 2010
ltndncr59 wrote:
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I actually think that movie came out before Will and Grace, and I think he had done a couple of other gay indie films as well. I'm just not interested enough to go to imdb and research it though.
What a tempest in a teapot! Even without Mr. Hayes publicly acknowledging his sexual orientation, did he really think that he had a chance to play Rambo 12?
And Frank: Gay stereotypes exist, why? Because there are a lot of gay people that act that way. Sometimes, representing people as stereotypes can be offensive, I'll admit, but I usually find it amusing. I certainly don't think that Will and Grace did anything to harm the LGBT rights movement. Certainly Jack was a stereotype, but not an offensive one, as he was played by Mr. Hayes. I still watch the re-runs sometimes, and I always laugh.
Favorite line: Jack - "There's my car! It's a HUFF and I'm LEAVING in it!"
I found it offensive. I was a bartender in a gay bar, and 95% of gay people I have met act just like str8 people.

And I dated drag queens for years so I am not at all prejudiced against fem gay guys. But the way they present gay people on tv, particularly on W & G makes most Americans think we are all that way.

And obviously gay guys like Sean Hayes who refuse to admit they are gay shows to me that they are ashamed and fearful. I've been out for 30 years.
Pleasure Beach Lover

Chesterfield, MO

#65 Mar 15, 2010
Frank Stanton wrote:
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I found it offensive. I was a bartender in a gay bar, and 95% of gay people I have met act just like str8 people.
And I dated drag queens for years so I am not at all prejudiced against fem gay guys. But the way they present gay people on tv, particularly on W & G makes most Americans think we are all that way.
And obviously gay guys like Sean Hayes who refuse to admit they are gay shows to me that they are ashamed and fearful. I've been out for 30 years.
Good for you, and so have I.

I can't see why anyone has to bash him for not publicly outing himself
prior to this. It's HIS business, it's HIS life, correct?
What do you care? I thought being gay meant that you were more
open-minded, but I see that's not true. Everyone has something to
say, and in the big scheme of things....it's nobody's business.

Personally, I thought Will & Grace, with the exception of the 1st season,
did a very accurate portrayal of gay men. Not to mention the fact that
it was very well written and friggin' hilarious.

“The Buybull is innerrrent.”

Since: Jun 08

Pennsburg, PA

#67 Mar 15, 2010
Pleasure Beach Lover wrote:
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I can't see why anyone has to bash him for not publicly outing himself
prior to this.....it's nobody's business.
Funny, Hayes now tried to claim he's been out all along. Your reply indicating he's not out publicly hints at Hayes' disingenuousness on the matter.

Sexual orientation is a matter for public discussion since g/l/b/t face discrimination. It's pretty obvious bigotry has made sexual orientation everybody's business.

Of course, public persons don't have to come out, but we can call them cowards. And if they don't want to be out then they certainly should avoid going to gay bars or public events with a boyfriend or to hook up with a same sex partner. Those are public places. You wanne be closeted, then keep it private. snicker

“Married as I can be!”

Since: Jun 07

Las Vegas

#68 Mar 15, 2010
Frank Stanton wrote:
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I found it offensive. I was a bartender in a gay bar, and 95% of gay people I have met act just like str8 people.
And I dated drag queens for years so I am not at all prejudiced against fem gay guys. But the way they present gay people on tv, particularly on W & G makes most Americans think we are all that way.
And obviously gay guys like Sean Hayes who refuse to admit they are gay shows to me that they are ashamed and fearful. I've been out for 30 years.
And I've been out for about 35 years, depending on what your definition of "out" is. I don't think it's very attractive of you to vilify someone for living their life as they see fit. Do you know one iota of Mr. Hayes' private life, and what circumstances might be the reason he felt more comfortable NOT making his sexual identity public, regardless of how he was and is perceived by the public? Tsk tsk, Frank!
Frank Stanton

Saratoga Springs, NY

#69 Mar 15, 2010
ltndncr59 wrote:
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And I've been out for about 35 years, depending on what your definition of "out" is. I don't think it's very attractive of you to vilify someone for living their life as they see fit. Do you know one iota of Mr. Hayes' private life, and what circumstances might be the reason he felt more comfortable NOT making his sexual identity public, regardless of how he was and is perceived by the public? Tsk tsk, Frank!
Before Sean Hayes was on W & G, he WAS an out actor. After being cast in W & G, he went back in the closet by refusing to discuss his sexuality. By being out in a popular comedy, he could have helped people, instead of effectively saying that being gay is something to ashamed about.

Being WILLINGLY in the public eye nowadays, you are expected to disclose your sexuality. Whether you like it or not, that is reality today. By your line of reasoning, someone in the public eye should not be expected to answer "Are you married, and if so to whom ?".

“Married as I can be!”

Since: Jun 07

Las Vegas

#70 Mar 15, 2010
Frank Stanton wrote:
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Before Sean Hayes was on W & G, he WAS an out actor. After being cast in W & G, he went back in the closet by refusing to discuss his sexuality. By being out in a popular comedy, he could have helped people, instead of effectively saying that being gay is something to ashamed about.
Being WILLINGLY in the public eye nowadays, you are expected to disclose your sexuality. Whether you like it or not, that is reality today. By your line of reasoning, someone in the public eye should not be expected to answer "Are you married, and if so to whom ?".
You are exactly correct. In my opinion, a public figure's (read: in the arts) marital status is irrelevant.
And why do you think Mr. Hayes is obliged to "help people", and how do you know he hasn't helped people?
If Sean Hayes was out of the closet publicly before appearing in Will and Grace, there is no way he could have "gone back in the closet." And he is perfectly within his rights to refuse to discuss his sexual orientation, whether he is in the closet, out of it, or doesn't even know what a closet is.
Pleasure Beach Lover

Chesterfield, MO

#71 Mar 16, 2010
writewingproxycontin wrote:
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Funny, Hayes now tried to claim he's been out all along. Your reply indicating he's not out publicly hints at Hayes' disingenuousness on the matter.
Sexual orientation is a matter for public discussion since g/l/b/t face discrimination. It's pretty obvious bigotry has made sexual orientation everybody's business.
Of course, public persons don't have to come out, but we can call them cowards. And if they don't want to be out then they certainly should avoid going to gay bars or public events with a boyfriend or to hook up with a same sex partner. Those are public places. You wanne be closeted, then keep it private. snicker
From what I understand he wasn't hiding it, he simply didn't "announce" it.
I guess you can call people who do that cowards if it makes you feel better,
but personally, I can't fault someone for not making the pronouncement.
Whatever works for them is fine for me. Maybe I'm too easy going? ;-)

“The Buybull is innerrrent.”

Since: Jun 08

Doylestown, PA

#72 Mar 18, 2010
Pleasure Beach Lover wrote:
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From what I understand he wasn't hiding it, he simply didn't "announce" it.
This notion that str8 people would have to "announce" their sexual orientation is exactly the point. They don't. It's revealed in a thousand, tiny, conversational or behavioral ways.

To hide your sexual orientation takes effort. Sean Hayes going back in the closet - after clearly having been out publicly - took effort and self censorship.

Since he was out before we know it had nothing to do with his "personal circumstances." It had to do with his larger, national, TV career.

It was a craven, cowardly decision then, and it's a craven, cowardly decision now to supposedly come out while claiming he's been out all along.

Thankfully, we get to choose whom to admire and discuss those we do not. I doubt after W&G that he'll be able to have much of a career. I've seen quite enough of him, for one.

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