My Husband has cheated on me after Ye...

My Husband has cheated on me after Years.....PLEASE HELP!!!

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Cindy

Lititz, PA

#1 May 21, 2009
We always seemed like a happily married couple with many things in common. We have two small children. My husband is a great father. My husband has cheated on me and everything is out in the open now. We have talked many times about it and he admits he did something so wrong and bad. I know the affair is over but I still feel horrible. Everyday I feel so sad and just don't know how to get back to myself. I just want to feel happy again. I do want to work this out and do love him very much but still feel so angry with him which I don't think will ever go away. I am just looking for someone to email or chat with that has the same problem or even a guys point of veiw would be great. I don't want to have to have my family broken up. I just want to be able to feel better while trying to rebuild my marriage. Will the sadness ever go away. The trust is also a hard thing. Please help! ↓
Mary

Lexington, TN

#2 Apr 16, 2010
Cindy maybe you are just ready to move on. He had his cake and ate it too. Now its just time for you to move on. As far as the children he can continue to be a good father but you just deserve better.
TnGirl

Franklin, TN

#3 Feb 2, 2011
Cindy: Just now found and read your post. I am currently going through the same thing. He just confessed as he stated it: "I'm having an affair." Not "had", "done", or "had". It was ongoing. The evening he told me he called her to end it. HOWEVER, it has been a month and as of last night he is still in love with her. If he still has feelings for her, I'm beginning to wonder if we both made the right decision to try to make this work. For ourselves and our 3 kids. Please let me know how you are doing -- I notice it's been several months since you posted. I can feel your pain; it's a pain, deception, and betrayal like I have never felt before. I'm here to listen if you would like to share.
flamingoshon

Elkridge, MD

#4 Feb 24, 2013
TnGirl wrote:
Cindy: Just now found and read your post. I am currently going through the same thing. He just confessed as he stated it: "I'm having an affair." Not "had", "done", or "had". It was ongoing. The evening he told me he called her to end it. HOWEVER, it has been a month and as of last night he is still in love with her. If he still has feelings for her, I'm beginning to wonder if we both made the right decision to try to make this work. For ourselves and our 3 kids. Please let me know how you are doing -- I notice it's been several months since you posted. I can feel your pain; it's a pain, deception, and betrayal like I have never felt before. I'm here to listen if you would like to share.
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TnGirl: It has been a long time since you posted this. How are you doing? Were you and your husband able to work through this? My ex-husband did the same thing with a co-worker. All three of us worked for the same company; she worked at a different location. The betrayal does cut like a knife in your heart. There can be a silver lining after an affair. I hope you are doing well.
Liz

United States

#5 Mar 13, 2013
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I pray that you guys were able to get past this. As much as I say that I do not believe all men are cheaters deep.down inside I dont know if I truly believe that. If that is the case what do you do about it? Last night I was doing laundry and opened the door to dryer and there it was a Trojan condom jusy staring at me. I had caught him in a lie only an hour prior to that but did not say a word. I grabbed the.condom sat down and thought about my next move. I shocked myself when I grabbed a paper towel and wrapped it.up and put it in the garbage, folded the laundry and went and laid down next to him without saying a word. I really love this man. No one truly understands why I stick it out with him. They say love is blind. My eyes are wide open. I cant help how I feel. I dont know if I will ever confront him. I am curious to know if there are other women out there who understand because I dont.

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#7 Nov 5, 2013
Cindy wrote:
We always seemed like a happily married couple with many things in common. We have two small children. My husband is a great father. My husband has cheated on me and everything is out in the open now. We have talked many times about it and he admits he did something so wrong and bad. I know the affair is over but I still feel horrible. Everyday I feel so sad and just don't know how to get back to myself. I just want to feel happy again. I do want to work this out and do love him very much but still feel so angry with him which I don't think will ever go away. I am just looking for someone to email or chat with that has the same problem or even a guys point of veiw would be great. I don't want to have to have my family broken up. I just want to be able to feel better while trying to rebuild my marriage. Will the sadness ever go away. The trust is also a hard thing. Please help! ↓
Try having a threesome with your husband and another guy. Then with a woman, then with a couple. You might find that all adults develop desires over time. It's all ok. Just don't destroy your kids lives over pride.

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