Let's pretend you're married. Let's pretend your wife gravitates towards a charismatic religious minister. You suspect things but have no evidence.If marrying a woman still married does not penetrate an LDS and they have no moral objections to this and still consider a man that marries an already married woman to a still living husband
a living prophet after reading the NT and the teachings of Jesus then only the Holy Spirit and a divine act of God will.
So one day a friend of your's that goes to this faith, they tell you that your wife has married that minister. You're first response is denial and disbelief.
When you're wife comes home from work you ask her if she married the minister and her guilty look tells you the answer. So now your hurt and pissed and mad. You rant and rave as your wife cries seeing you hurt by the news.
So you tell her your reporting her and the minister to the police on charges of bigamy and you're divorcing her. She looks confused hearing this and getting you to calm down a bit, she tells you it wasn't a real marriage. That she and the minister weren't legally married as you and she were married legally.
You're really confused now. Your friend told you she was married to the minister and she admitted it. But it wasn't a real marriage? no legal marriage certificate?
Your wife kind of smiles warmly seeing now how you don't understand because who ever told you, didn't tell you everything. So your wife tells you it was a spiritual marriage for the here after and nothing more. You ask/accuse her of consummating the 'spiritual marriage' and she says no they didn't. That the minister was happily married and had several 'spiritual wives' but none were legal marriages. They were really just 'pretend marriages'.
She tells you she didn't think you'd mind because you don't believe in marriage after death continuing. But she liked the idea of being married after death and didn't think you'd mind.
So what now? The air just got blown out of your sails. Your wife did a pretend marriage for the next life, not for this life. She is there for you till death do you part, not the minister. And she said no sex had taken place and you have never known your wife to lie to you. Tough to still be mad huh.