My Daughter wants a non-family friend...

My Daughter wants a non-family friend to be grandma to our first grandchild!!

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Since: Oct 13

Halethorpe, MD

#1 Oct 20, 2013
Would you feel left out, inadequate and disrespected if your daughter wants a non-family member to be grandma? This is my dilemma. I raised my 2 kids on my own. As a single parent I gave them what I could, struggled horribly and had no help at all. I admit that I was stern, sometimes worn out, but did everything I could to give them what they wanted and needed. We have a long time family acquaintance that has interfered and underminded every decision with my daughter...I got my daughter a car...it wasn't to her liking...she was 17....family friend goes and co-signs on a different car..I told the family friend no, she has a car and doesn't need a car payment..friend did it anyhow. This is how everything has been. My daughter now favors her and resents me. Now she is pregnant with the first grandchild. I am so excited and looking forward to it. My daughter is calling the friend grandma. I was told that I have to earn the right to be called grandma. That I was not a good enough parent. For the birth of the child I was told that Grandma Debbie..the friend....will be by her side and I am welcome to come but have to just deal with it. My feelings are so hurt! I feel like my right to be a grandma has been taken from me. I am her mother and was there all her life thru all her problems and successes. I feel disrespected. I also feel like I don't have to earn anything...she should give me the respect I deserve as her mom.. I also have serious health issues with my heart and lungs....I have to remain calm to not have a heart attack or stroke. So I am trying to avoid feeling bad, putting myself in situations that I know will upset me. As a result, I feel it best to stay home during the birth. I will hurt my feelings to be pushed aside and over run by Grandma Debbie...and she has never known her place and I am sure she never will. I don't know what to do other than feel bad. I did talk with my daughter about my feelings and all of this and more was what her reply was. My gosh! Moms are supposed to be the grandmas. Don't our kids know to give us some respect. Family is family...we cant choose our families but we need to put them first. We are the ones that will always be there for them but when they don't care....what do you do then.
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#2 Oct 20, 2013
don't feel so bad about it. you are her parent. her real love is with you as a parent. remember the bonding between parents and children ? you are her parent, and no matter what, she will always come back to you, because she loves you and you love her.

Since: Apr 13

Scappoose, Oregon USA

#3 Oct 21, 2013
Wow, sometimes something comes along on these forums that I just have to put under the heading of "you just can't make up that stuff!" I guess if I were to offer some serious advice, assuming this is a serious post (although please be aware, these forums are not the place to post serious important questions) I'd have to say don't fight it, let her go and make these decisions and then one day something will happen, perhaps a little maturity on her part or a change of heart or something, when she realizes that this other person helping her out financially for car doesn't make that other person "grandma" and she'll come back. Just don't let it be for money when she can't make that new car payment! Remind her she had one paid free and clear, but got greedy.
Pizzedoffdad

Portsmouth, VA

#4 Oct 21, 2013
My 15 YO daughter wants to have sex with her black
BF who is 3 years older in our home in her bedroom!
Pizzedoffdad

Portsmouth, VA

#5 Oct 21, 2013
we can hear her screwing and kumming loudly

we know she sucks his black kock and all that

it is just not something I can condone or tolerate!

she is only 15 and how can we enforce our rules?

but my wife says this is the new way, we can't interfere....

I think she might be getting some of his black kock!
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#6 Oct 21, 2013
Pizzedoffdad wrote:
we can hear her screwing and kumming loudly
we know she sucks his black kock and all that
it is just not something I can condone or tolerate!
she is only 15 and how can we enforce our rules?
but my wife says this is the new way, we can't interfere....
I think she might be getting some of his black kock!
I agree. like mother, like daughter. that's the deep throat (truth).

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