your beliefs and comfort are not the great concern here; faith in God's Word is the great concern.
if/when we're born again, we literally are born of the Spirit of God and the Spirit is not unrighteous, but He IS Righteousness.
therefore, Righteousness is a gift, not earned, the same as all the other free gifts from God, including grace/forgiveness/salvation, love, peace, joy, holiness/sanctification, faith...etc.
if you don't want to be a pharisee, dear sister, don't believe and act as tho you are:-)
It's what he does. He doesn't have to answer anyone's questions, but everyone has to answer him because he has jesus in him. He doesn't have to obey "god's word," because he's got jesus in him and he's forgiven--but everyone else has to obey it. Now he's all pissed off at me because now he doesn't think my avatar is a picture of me, and he might be wanking off to someone else instead of me.<quoted text>
Are you going to make an attempt to answer my original question, or are you simply going to persist at being condescending towards my faith?
To him, being a christian is to be completely without responsibility; for him, being a christian is continuing to behave like the same pile of slime he was before, only now he has his jesus's blessing.