I am sorry that happened to you. From my perspective the hardest thing for me to come to terms with was the simple idea of no belief in God. I know it probably sounds like a simple concept .but it wasnt for me. I have a very eclectic group of people in my life from family to friends. Christians, atheists, an aunt that passed was Wicca, a Jewish godfather I think because of the environment my parents raised me in, I dont look at different beliefs/opinions as wrong - just different, and simply not right for me.<quoted text>
I have lost friends that had known me for years when I actually finally said, "I'm atheist". The "friends" usually responded something like "well, we know you aren't religious, but you believe in a god, right?...some sort of a god or higher power..."
I don't rue the loss.
No, I do, since I counted them as a friend, no matter that they were theist, Democrat, vegetarian, whatever the term, but they suddenly they saw me as some sort of thing to shield themselves, kids and such from.
I was still the same old me I'd ever been.
On the flip side, many theist friends I did retain, and there is no issue at all. Real friends.
You wanna know who your friends are or may be?
Tell them you are atheist.
That isn't an issue any longer, I let it be known up front.
My husband and I went through a very difficult time in our lives. We decided to move from N.C. to Florida with our young children, for a fresh start the year that four hurricanes came through. We lost everything in the second storm.(long story short) His aunt stopped by just to tell us face to face that if we knew God, we would not have lost our home. As a Christian he had just lost his mother to cancer, had two small children just made homeless, and an aunt thats only help was the advise that if we knew God, somehow our house would have miraculously survived a storm that took out the neighborhood (looked like a war zone). Straw that broke the camels back I guess you could say, he had already been questioning his beliefs at that point. My husband is now an atheist.
It was a long and difficult road for him, we went through a lot as a couple while he found himself as well. To be honest as he was working through things, I found a lot more out about my own faith. We have now moved back to Michigan due to my parents health issues. When my father asked my husband why he does not come to church anymore, my husband told him simply Im an atheist. My fathers response was simply huh when did that happen? and let me know if you ever need to just talk. That was it. My mom looked a bit distressed during the conversation to be honest, but she does not treat him any different. When folks on here first read it I tend to get the whole yoked thing tossed at me .I have read it all, even one Christian questioning my abilities as a mother. <<Shrugs>>
1 Corinthians 7:13-15
New International Version (NIV)
13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
It is my honest opinion that we only hurt ourselves by not trying to understand other beliefs/opinions. I have some incredible people in my life that would not be in it, if I chose not to leave it to God.