Why do Turkish men cheat
Lada Zhiguli

Novi Sad, Serbia

#511 Jun 10, 2014
melani wrote:
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it doesnt have to do anything with religion Lada Zhiguli cause Islam doesn't give you the right to have wife by law and a lover (or even more then 1) aside ....... But it is common everywhere as I saw to have a wife and mistress ..... There is bad people everywhere ... Unfortunately ..
Oh it does give you the right in Islam to have more than one woman. Go check
Laura

Ridgewood, NY

#512 Jun 12, 2014
I dated a Turkish man for almost 6 years, at first everything was wonderful what would'nt he do for me we fell deeply in love and had plans to marry one day. But a few years later he changed I started noticing him not really caring about my personal needs and he became a bit disrespectful racist and thinking his culture was the best he was hard working but also a workaholic, which was not good because he hardly had time for me he was lying a lot to me and I found out he was cheating on me for months he really broke my heart and is not man enough to face me. I was left devastated so please women keep your eyes open with Turkish men his name is husseyin they call him Huss he lives in long island and owns a limo company and recently bought a bar in queens he'll get his karma is a bitch.
Lana

Massapequa, NY

#515 Jul 15, 2014
I met a Turkish guy a couple of months ago, holds a prominent position in his company, travels all over the world for business, initially acted in a charming and polite manner, seemed like he really had his act together. Until...
He was texting me, emailing me, calling me pretty much on a regular basis. He would say things like, I wonder where this relationship is heading, I get strength and energy when I see your photos, I miss you, I'm thinking of you all the time. Then I wouldn't hear from him for a week. He's traveled to my city 3 times now, and this third time he said we would vacation together, and spend our free time together, but when he groped me and tried to sleep with me, he lost interest when he didn't get what he wanted.
After reading all the posts, and also reflecting on my own personal experience, I would say Turkish guys suck. They lull you into a false sense of security with their charm and sweet talk. In fact, it's all just a pack of lies. I really hate to be so judgmental, but if I ever met another Turk, I wouldn't walk away, I would RUN.
Turkish Guy

Istanbul, Turkey

#517 Aug 3, 2014
Emma wrote:
My boyfriends Turkish were both in our early 20s he comes from an upper class family met him thru school. Both live in Boston and he treats me great. Like almost to good to be true he's handsome, smart, and has great fashion sense haha. I think it just depends on the guy of course background plays a role doesn't it for all of us? I'm American but my moms a flight attendant allowing me to be fortunate to travel a lot. There's good and bad ppl everywhere no matter the race, gender, culture.. Listen to your heart not others opinions. Not mine or the person above or below me. The best choice is your own.
You talked great!
Mama bear

Louisville, KY

#518 Aug 4, 2014
I don't believe all Turkish men cheat, cheaters are found everywhere. The many Turks who cheat do it because they think they can get away with it, they forget they are not in Turkey anymore. Turkey is a patriarchal society where from birth boys are treated differently than the girls,they are seldom held accountable for their behavior. In fact cunning and conniving behavior is praised in little boys. Despite being one of the better Middle Eastern countries for women, the voices of women are not as respected as a man's and father's seldom consider the mother's feelings. Because of the stigma of divorce, many women stick it out for the kids, Turkish men grow up getting away with everything, this thinking never goes away. It is so ingrained in them that it is subconscious by the time they are adults. Do you know who the biggest culprits of enabling this behavior? Turkish mothers, who raise their boys to be spoiled and never held accountable for their behavior. In short Turkish men are used to women enduring and never questioning their bullshit so they become arrogant and inconsiderate.
Larry

Saskatoon, Canada

#519 Aug 5, 2014
Why are you insulting Turkish men???
Why are you insulting Turkish women?

I have traveled extensively.
All people on our beautiful Planet behave/misbehave the same.
We all feel the same emotions.

Does anyone care to comment about the "wonderful" relationships we have with Turkish people?
I do.
I have been to Turkey several times.
I have not met a Turk that I did not like.
Turks are, without a doubt, the most respectful, peaceful, loving, caring, passionate people I have ever known.

Look at the middle East.
The only stable rock is Turkey.

I am ashamed of any person/people/country that does not respect our Turkish sisters and brothers.

Why is it that Canada is the only country that has learned to live in absolute Peace with all mankind; We have so much love for each other.
We love our differences; No hatred or anger.

If you take one minute of your day to be angry, you are stealing one finite minute of your life in which you could be laughing, perhaps hugging a wonderful Turkish person!!!!
Smile at the next person you meet. Guess what you get back?????
poov

Dracut, MA

#520 Aug 5, 2014
Larry wrote:
Why is it that Canada is the only country that has learned to live in absolute Peace with all mankind; We have so much love for each other.
We love our differences; No hatred or anger.
You must be living under a rock. Racism and intolerance in Canada:

http://www.crr.ca/divers-files/en/pub/faSh/eP...

http://www.debwewin.ca/racism.htm

Turkey, the butchers/police state nation:

http://www.amnesty.org/en/region/turkey
aria

Velenje, Slovenia

#521 Aug 6, 2014
Well this is interesting. Never thought I would end up reading a thread like this. I've met a nice turkish guy on a seminar abroad. We became friends, went out talked nothibg special. Well mannered,educated, good english skills, modern lifestyle.Told us he has a wife (we were a group of 5), so i thought this is it. I have a bf but we are struggling atm. Well we got along great, i was a bit attracted to him (he looks nice) but i saw him more as friend as anything else. One night we went back home from a bar,both bit drunk and he wanted to make out. I refused, so nothing happened. But boy i wished it had later on... ;) anyway we stayed friends, he never tried anything again and i liked him more for that. We talked about everything, his past life, girls, life in general. I know he cheated before because when i stopped him that night saying "we will regret it" he said "i never regret". so i'm guessing it happened before. Well to wrap it up:we stayedin touch. We text during work. It not completely innocent but not really dirty. He wants to meet again and plays jelous but we know that we both have partners. I see him as a friend but i do like him a bit more than that. Im attracted to him physically. I do feel sorry for his wife, she supposed to have some mental issues and he said they were separated before but decided to try again. I dont really care, not even sure if i believe him either. Im not stupid, i travel a lot due to my job so i dont have any illusions about this. I do know a thing or two about their culture which is not in favour of women so i do not hope to be with him or anything. But i also do not want any drama. I landed here because i wanted to learn why do they (or he) cheat. They are young, married for only few years.(We are all same age, 33) And yet this. To me its fun to chat, i like him, he is a smart person. I like turkey a lot so i was mainly interested to learn more about his culture. If we meet again somehow we might have an affair. Attraction is there from both sides. Not planning it though. My question: can a turk be a friend with he woman or is he just after sex? we dont talk much about feelings,but we do say that we miss eachother. Which is true, since we got along great. Should i stay in touch or should i stop everything? i have other male friends, we talk, meet, go out. My bf trusts me, and i trust him. I never cheated before and i wont do it now. As i said we are currently struggling so i might be more open to notice and to flirt with men. But that is it. has anyone had a friendly relationship with turkish man? Any thoughts on that matter? sorry for long post and for mistakes (stupid tablet keyboard...) have a good day!
Poov

Dracut, MA

#522 Aug 6, 2014
aria wrote:
My question: can a turk be a friend with he woman or is he just after sex?
He's just after sex.
Lina

Milton, Canada

#523 Aug 6, 2014
to aria - he is only after sex. Turkish men, like most Middle Easter men, do not understand the concept of friendship between men and women. But they are great at giving a false sense of security to us, romantically starving Western women :) they are not a solution to that though - they get what they want and move on with no regrets.
aria

Velenje, Slovenia

#524 Aug 7, 2014
Lina wrote:
Turkish men, like most Middle Easter men, do not understand the concept of friendship between men and women.
Had the same feeling. I've met turkish men (and women) before due to my work and the ones from Istanbul were very different to the ones from more remote countrysides. But since I work in academic field most of them were also educated and treated men and women equally when we worked together, So I do know both sides. He is also the first Turkish guy that I find attractive. Where I lived before turkish men were labeled as small, lazy and unattractive, spending most of their time smoking, drinking tea and gambling. So I never considered one attractive until now. And even here I wasn't really interested at start. I also don't consider myself very attractive (not ugly though ;)). So I would say that he was interested in friendship/hanging out first and then tried to take to another level.:))
I like the chatting, flirting etc. and I can see that he is confused at times where to put me. I do know things about him his wife doesn't and he told me stuff you would not tell someone you want to score so it's confusing. And then the flirting part :D It's interesting to see how people can be so much different. As I said I have good male friends so the concept is familiar to me, but obviously not to him. Well, we will see. I'll stay in touch with him but keep it on non-emotional level.:)) But I'm sure we would make a great friends with benefits :)))
Thank you for replying.
Sally

London, UK

#525 Aug 11, 2014
I was in Istanbul , obviously I saw Turkish men who weren't good and respectable but I also so very Gentelmen as well. It depends on you to be honest. Turkish men or middle eastern men don't like easy access women. If they find you easily be sure they will leave you easily too
Mama bear

Louisville, KY

#526 Aug 15, 2014
Larry, you are making me laugh. Did you forget to take your meds again? What the hell are you yapping about?
Larry wrote:
Why are you insulting Turkish men???
Why are you insulting Turkish women?
I have traveled extensively.
All people on our beautiful Planet behave/misbehave the same.
We all feel the same emotions.
Does anyone care to comment about the "wonderful" relationships we have with Turkish people?
I do.
I have been to Turkey several times.
I have not met a Turk that I did not like.
Turks are, without a doubt, the most respectful, peaceful, loving, caring, passionate people I have ever known.
Look at the middle East.
The only stable rock is Turkey.
I am ashamed of any person/people/country that does not respect our Turkish sisters and brothers.
Why is it that Canada is the only country that has learned to live in absolute Peace with all mankind; We have so much love for each other.
We love our differences; No hatred or anger.
If you take one minute of your day to be angry, you are stealing one finite minute of your life in which you could be laughing, perhaps hugging a wonderful Turkish person!!!!
Smile at the next person you meet. Guess what you get back?????
Mama bear

Louisville, KY

#527 Aug 15, 2014
Sally wrote:
I was in Istanbul , obviously I saw Turkish men who weren't good and respectable but I also so very Gentelmen as well. It depends on you to be honest. Turkish men or middle eastern men don't like easy access women. If they find you easily be sure they will leave you easily too
True, but then how do you explain the many Turkish men who cheat on their Turkish wives?
Aria

Europe

#528 Aug 19, 2014
Mama bear wrote:
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True, but then how do you explain the many Turkish men who cheat on their Turkish wives?
I would guess because the divorce rate is very low. So they stay in marriage even when they are unhappy and seek for pleasure else where. And because they can get away with it. Western women usually leave their cheating husbands where as turkish wives tend to pretend they dont know about the cheating and stay in marriage. What surprises me is the ability to live a double life with such ease. Like its normal and not something bad.
Anyway we are still chatting and I enjoy it. He's funny and smart and makes my work days easier.:-) And even if friendship with a women is not 'their thing', we became good friends.:-)
ladylove30

Knoxville, TN

#530 Aug 27, 2014
TURKOV wrote:
I am a Turk and I don't believe we are as described by this intense organised propaganda, if you need anymore advice Heartbroken just post it.
Yes sir, I happened to have met someone whom i thought at first was single, because he presented himself as one. We have been communicating for 6 years now. I discovered his real name and identity through facebook because of the picture. It was an accident because my bestfriend just so happened to have been looking through facebook and typed in his name and comes this picture whose face was very familiar to me. This guy is married and have a child . When i approached him with this , he could not believe how i acquired such information, and then finally told me that he was so hesistant to tell me because of his fear of losing me. We have established a relationship , a very intense relationship . I begun to trust him and told him some of some personal things about me. When i discovered his true identity and confronted him about it , my heart felt like someone just gouge it with a blunt knife and hammering it at thesametime. I have loved this man for the past 6 years. If his secret was not discovered he probably would have continued hearing those lies , but i cant seem to take him off my mind, because i truly and honestly love him.
as soon as i found out about it , things between us becomes weird. He kept begging me for forgiveness . He said he is truly separated from his wife. His main concern is that if his wife will find out about this elicit affair, that she will no longer let him see his son. I am dating a doctor now , to whom I am planning to spend my labor holiday with and looking forward to meet his family in northcarolina. But I cant get this turkish man off my mind. I was honest to him about me dating someone and contemplating to move on with my life, BUT I STILL LOVE HIM VERY MUCH. pLEASE NEED YOUR ADVICE FOR THIS .Should i give him another chance since he said he is contemplating on divorcing him when his son reach a certain age like 15 to divorce her. Or should I just move on with this man who happens to be a doctor a handsome doctor , who is also helping me forget the whole thing. He was the one who discovered the pictures. Advice please
meme

Europe

#531 Aug 31, 2014
What was the nature of your relationship? What do you mean by communicating? How did you meet him?
Well he Lied and the best thing would be to move on. But this is hard. 6 years is a lot. Do you think you were the only one? Maybe he had more on the side... Is it possible?
Second chance or not, you need to end this on emotional level as well before jumping in a new relationship. The doctor is just a way out. Not a real solution.
Are you still communicating with him now?
montreal quebec canada

Lasalle, Canada

#534 Nov 3, 2014
Ouff Turkish men!.. What can i say they are very charming at first but then you become their thing that is when things turn sour... i Met a turk guy who proposed marriaged a few months after we started dating then came the story that his parents decided on an arranged marriage but he was already married she came to canada 2 years later..... she moved in with him and prmoised there was nothing and he woul djust make her papers and that he loved me... she got pregnant lost the children and he left her and got a divorce and we were back together..... we were good for year... then i hired a girl for cleaning and turns out hes been having an affair with her for 6 months,, now he is like give me time i need to think what i am going to do with no regards for me and my feelings... All his friends are married and they are all on dating sites and cheating on their wives,, they are the biggest liers i have ever met. BEWARE OF TURKISH MEN! They cheat they lie they hurt you and then its like they never met you and hate you... They take take take and then when there is nothing left to take they move on to their mistresses..........Good LUCK and be careful
Pishijoon

Louisville, KY

#535 Nov 14, 2014
melani wrote:
I read all about turkish man cheating ... now I understood everything happened to me in the last 3 yrs with a turkish man.... First they nice when they try to seduce you .. they say lots of romantic things... after that when you see smth is wrong and ask about other woman ...he tries to blame me for not trusting him enough .... actually he had another turkish woman all the time while he had relationship with me and telling me he will marry me... now other woman is writing she is engaged with him ...... again he denies it.... I HAVE NEVER SEEN IN MY LIFE POPULATION WHO CAN LIE MORE THEN TURKS... HONESTLY I HAVENT. I SAVED MY LIFE FINALLY. THANkS GOD.
btw most of them marry non turkish woman cause of money ...
I am American and Married to a Turkish men, dating and being married to my husband ( and thus his mother) was no walk in the park but my husband is a great provider, in fact the sole provider and a great father. My husband had his PhD, the established career and a green card before we were married, his work sponsored it. There are a lot of losers in Turkey, it is a patriarchal society, where child like male behavior is condoned and mother's treat their adult son's like toddlers and the wife can never live up to the mother. I have American friends married to educated Turkish men, their marriages take work and a lot of tears were shed do to cultural differences, but they are happy. There are a lot of losers in this world, including America. BTW.. I had a 70 something year old Serbian neighbor Jelena, She fled Serbia with her 12 year old daughter to escape her 13 years married to an paranoid abusive alcoholic. My American Grandfather was a monster of a father, husband and human being, just truly a sick human being. People like this happen throughout

Since: Mar 13

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#537 Nov 14, 2014
My dad is 71 years old and he still cheats on my mom. Even when my mom was topless on the beach which he wanted, he still went and flirted wth topless British women in fron of her

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