Why do Turkish men cheat
Justagirl

Cheltenham, UK

#411 Jul 22, 2013
Guys please don't feel I'm disrespecting your views because really Im not.
I am british but have been visiting going all over turkey from a very young age
As a result I am very partial to the culture and know a lot about the place
I have a lot of friends and family there also

Buy here's the thing, Turkish men much like brazilians are very lustful and the majority will cheat.
However this can't be taken personal, there is a huge difference between lust and love.
A Turkish man will sleep with many many women in his life but there is only one he wants to marry and spend his life with. I'm finding this difficult to explain but I'll tell you my story..
And please don't judge me

Ok so we've been going to this bar for years in turkey and we are very close with all the owners and staff. I got particularly close to one of them whom I'd known a long time.
But he didn't just seduce me straight away.
He works a split shift and works from 12pm till 4pm then goes home and sleeps before starting again at 7pm and he usually won't finish until 3am.
He began to meet me at about half three and we would spend time together. He would take me up the mountains on the motorbike and we'd have a great time. We went on many dates like this and he was always a gentleman.

His feelings began to show. He would tell me he'd never felt like this about anyone and he would get angry at himself because he "couldnt understand why he fucking liked me so much and he felt stupid"
He began to get jealous if I danced with other people. and as I knew him well I knew he actually cared for me.
Eventually and I do mean EVENTUALLY we slept together, but it wasn't rushed, and before and after he told me "I need you to know this is not about sex, I truly want to be with you, I would wait forever if I had to"

But as everything eventually ends, I had to go home again..
He said his goodbyes and gave me his t-shirt and told me that it was so I wouldn't forget him

He isn't perfect. His bar has a live watch system so previous customers can still watch the entertainment and feel part of it every now and again.
I once watched him leave with another girl, but it doesn't phase me. You can call me a fool but what do you expect from a Turkish waiter?
But he never saw her again after that, he did not date her or spend time with her the way he did with me.
He calls me every night and texts me during the day. When he calls he always tells me that he wants to be with me forever and that I'm the only one he keeps in contact with and I believe him. On multiple occasions he gave me his phone and told me he had nothing to hide.
He still gets angry with himself for liking me..

I know he is not with me for a visa as he told me he will never live in Europe because he loves his home in hatay. He is not with me for money as (this is hard to admit) I have none! And he knows that!
So at the end of the day, you can't change a moral code which has been drilled into them from a young age. They will cheat but there is only one person they will love truly. The only question is can you handle the fact that until you are married for a long time to this man he will probably be with other women.

as I said its only my views, please don't judge me
But I love my Turkish man and I know that his disloyalty does not mean he doesn't love me

Xxxx
Kirara

Baliuag, Philippines

#412 Jul 29, 2013
my question is ...is it ok for turkish girlfren that their turkish boyfriend cheating them even online?
Kirara

Baliuag, Philippines

#413 Jul 29, 2013
JUSTA GIRL...u said they will cheat and sleep with other women but they will love one...What is the definition of love ? i think if u meant love a person not even a chance to think other person ,more cheating and sleepin?
Kirara

Baliuag, Philippines

#414 Jul 29, 2013
i knew a turkish student had a turkish girlfriend same university..the turkish boyfriend look so gentelman and innocent and nice young man..but in reality..he was the prince of perverts..he got a lot online girlfriends..and using different profiles names in fb so he can get in someone fb account .
Kirara

Baliuag, Philippines

#415 Jul 29, 2013
Soon to be Divorced wrote:
I read these posts years ago when I first got married to my Turkish husband, and I wish I had followed my instincts that the relationship wouldn't work. It's not simply that he cheated but that he cheated constantly. It's a sickness. I know infidelity is common, but it's a sport for these Turkish guys. Everything he said turned out to be a lie. If you want an honest, committed relationship with emotional intimacy, I don't know if you can find that with a Turkish man. Their morals suck, and I think they are psychologically twisted into thinking this is the way life is supposed to be. Mind was so good at hiding it because he was so sweet and affectionate. Even my family ate him up. He hurt us all. Even if you love him, run!
....thanks a lot..i think we need toleave turkish men to turkish women..as all comment here said.turkish women ok for them their husband and boyfriends cheats them..their fate?
Liga

Adazi, Latvia

#416 Jul 31, 2013
I can tolerate many things in my life, except this - turks think, that painful anal is the only method of birth control.

Thank you...
Badass

Norton, MA

#417 Jul 31, 2013
I have decided to leave this forum. I have had years of heartache because of the lying Turk who ruined my life, but now I have finally put my life back together and feel positive about the future and don't want to dwell on this painful part of my life any further.

I have stayed on this forum to try to hep other women avoid the pain & years of heartache that I suffered from the Turkish man who I spent 10+ years with who turned out to be a lying sociopath. As I leave, I say, please ladies, trust your gut instinct - if something seems "off" it most likely is! These guys can be very loving and make you feel that they absolutely love you and only you and never wants to be apart from you. It is so easy to believe because they seem so sweet and almost innocent, that you can't possible believe they'd ever hurt you. Please protect your heart. If you've just met a Turkish guy and he seems wonderful - before you allow yourself to fall head over heels in love with him - I would get out before you get in too deep! They are amazing in bed, so it's tempting to stay with them, but it is not worth it.

I'm not one to generalize and lump all people of a certain race, religion or ethnicity together and label them all bad, but I base my beliefs on Turkish men on years of experience. Yes, I'm sure there are some good ones out there, but just beware, protect your heart and find out all you can about his life and family. Don't believe any sob stories - because they are good at crying to make you feel sorry for them to throw you off their lies!

Good luck ladies!
xoxo Diane
painfull

Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

#418 Aug 4, 2013
Justagirl wrote:
Guys please don't feel I'm disrespecting your views because really Im not.
I am british but have been visiting going all over turkey from a very young age
As a result I am very partial to the culture and know a lot about the place
I have a lot of friends and family there also
Buy here's the thing, Turkish men much like brazilians are very lustful and the majority will cheat.
However this can't be taken personal, there is a huge difference between lust and love.
A Turkish man will sleep with many many women in his life but there is only one he wants to marry and spend his life with. I'm finding this difficult to explain but I'll tell you my story..
And please don't judge me
Ok so we've been going to this bar for years in turkey and we are very close with all the owners and staff. I got particularly close to one of them whom I'd known a long time.
But he didn't just seduce me straight away.
He works a split shift and works from 12pm till 4pm then goes home and sleeps before starting again at 7pm and he usually won't finish until 3am.
He began to meet me at about half three and we would spend time together. He would take me up the mountains on the motorbike and we'd have a great time. We went on many dates like this and he was always a gentleman.
His feelings began to show. He would tell me he'd never felt like this about anyone and he would get angry at himself because he "couldnt understand why he fucking liked me so much and he felt stupid"
He began to get jealous if I danced with other people. and as I knew him well I knew he actually cared for me.
Eventually and I do mean EVENTUALLY we slept together, but it wasn't rushed, and before and after he told me "I need you to know this is not about sex, I truly want to be with you, I would wait forever if I had to"
But as everything eventually ends, I had to go home again..
He said his goodbyes and gave me his t-shirt and told me that it was so I wouldn't forget him
He isn't perfect. His bar has a live watch system so previous customers can still watch the entertainment and feel part of it every now and again.
I once watched him leave with another girl, but it doesn't phase me. You can call me a fool but what do you expect from a Turkish waiter?
But he never saw her again after that, he did not date her or spend time with her the way he did with me.
He calls me every night and texts me during the day. When he calls he always tells me that he wants to be with me forever and that I'm the only one he keeps in contact with and I believe him. On multiple occasions he gave me his phone and told me he had nothing to hide.
He still gets angry with himself for liking me..
I know he is not with me for a visa as he told me he will never live in Europe because he loves his home in hatay. He is not with me for money as (this is hard to admit) I have none! And he knows that!
So at the end of the day, you can't change a moral code which has been drilled into them from a young age. They will cheat but there is only one person they will love truly. The only question is can you handle the fact that until you are married for a long time to this man he will probably be with other women.
as I said its only my views, please don't judge me
But I love my Turkish man and I know that his disloyalty does not mean he doesn't love me
Xxxx
Hey Girl,
As you said, your boyfriend is from Hatay?! How old is he now? I just broken by Hatayer, and he works in Alanya, your story sounds the same to me. Can we share more information for trust?! and you can make sure your boyfriend is okie or not. I will give you an advice!
Ania
First think

Iran

#419 Aug 9, 2013
What you mean because of money, in your last words? May you explain?
melani wrote:
I read all about turkish man cheating ... now I understood everything happened to me in the last 3 yrs with a turkish man.... First they nice when they try to seduce you .. they say lots of romantic things... after that when you see smth is wrong and ask about other woman ...he tries to blame me for not trusting him enough .... actually he had another turkish woman all the time while he had relationship with me and telling me he will marry me... now other woman is writing she is engaged with him ...... again he denies it.... I HAVE NEVER SEEN IN MY LIFE POPULATION WHO CAN LIE MORE THEN TURKS... HONESTLY I HAVENT. I SAVED MY LIFE FINALLY. THANkS GOD.
btw most of them marry non turkish woman cause of money ...
First think

Iran

#420 Aug 9, 2013
Hi
I dont know Turkish language, my boyfriend phone was near me, someone texted such: Kemalim nasilsin? I just know Kemalim means my Kemal

Is it possible ordinary friends call eachother such or it just use as a romantic type of calling eachother? Cause he said she is ordinary friend.. Possible?
Please give me exact answer :(
First think

Kalesija, Bosnia and Herzegovina

#421 Aug 9, 2013
First think wrote:
What you mean because of money, in your last words? May you explain?
<quoted text>
I meant in Turkey as much it was case with him, they re very family tightened when it comes to money. For example, dad is sick and cant earn money, but son is having a job and he pays everything for the family (as the only person earning the money). I do not know exactly is it from that fact or something bigger I couldn't manage to see in all that time, my ex was always having money issue problems.... He mentioned all the time he has some debt, and again some new cost etc... it goes like that.... on one occasion he was so desperate he asked money from me, he was even crying ... I was fool who believed him and send him one small amount of money. I asked why his friends and family dont help him in that case... Answer was that they do not have money... As I knew salary range for engineers in Turkey .. among 5000 TL which is 2500€.. and that is considered to be excellent salary .. it was strange where the hell he can spend all that money on.... I know cost of living in Turkey is much cheaper then in my own country ... POINT AFTER ALL THIS WORDS....When I asked that money from him to return me ... he was lying he tried a suicide .... HE NEVER WANTED TO RETURN ME THE MONEY AT THE FIRST PLACE.... THAT IS WHAT KIND OF PERSONALITIES TURKISH PEOPLE ARE ... DISGUSTING .. AND HIS ALL FAMILY IS .... JUST WATCH THAT TURKISH SHOW "KUZEY GUNEY" and you ll see how mother of a son prefers for her son this rich woman who has lot of money,,,, it has truth in it..
Good thing about me, I wasnt stupid to send him a lot of money,,,, just the amount I could say Halal olsun ... but I only wanted to see is he man enough to return a money to a woman .. HE WASNT A MAN ... END OF STORY ... Take care ...
First think

Iran

#422 Aug 10, 2013
Thanks you Dear, he better go to hell than living as a trash on earth..really im so confused..im about to get married a Turkish man, he is engineer, working non stop and we are contacting all day and texting and meet eachother monthly as we live in 2 different countries
He seem jealous but i got used to it after sometime, but the problem is how to be sure he is not cheater, i read many awful comments here about their cheating.. Now im completely confused and doubtful about everything of him...

Wish you find your soul mate..
Helper

Istanbul, Turkey

#423 Aug 14, 2013
First think wrote:
Hi

I dont know Turkish language, my boyfriend phone was near me, someone texted such: Kemalim nasilsin? I just know Kemalim means my Kemal
Is it possible ordinary friends call eachother such or it just use as a romantic type of calling eachother? Cause he said she is ordinary friend.. Possible?
Please give me exact answer :(
Kemalim means my Kemal. It is possible from a GF or from mom or female older relatives such as grandmother.
Helper

Istanbul, Turkey

#424 Aug 14, 2013
For All people, if you understand the situation, please read below.
1- Do not mix Turks with Kurds, because Kurds are much more worse.
2- Do not consider Turkish men who work summer places. At summer places, all men are the same at all over the world. Summer places men are only looking for a few days standing easy EU girls and it is the same at all over the world.
3- Be careful about Turkish man is with you just for sex. They do it very often because they can have sex with Turkish girls because most of Turkish girls keep their Virginity.
4- education or social situation is important for Turkish men, try to find a Turkish man with high education and from west of Turkey such as Istanbul.
5- Internet is not safe way to find out a bf.
6- Do make them think that you are easy and open sex easily. They should understand your value.
7- most of Turkish family do not allow their son marriage with foreign girl. If a Turkish man is marry with you, it means he really loves you.
8- All in all, Turkish men are nice, lovely and fun, but you should be careful about them.
melani

Kalesija, Bosnia and Herzegovina

#426 Aug 15, 2013
Helper wrote:
<quoted text> Kemalim means my Kemal. It is possible from a GF or from mom or female older relatives such as grandmother.
what a coincidence .... my ex was also an engineer .. and I m more then sure he cheated me all the time .. no matter he said how he wanted me to marry him, nor that he wants me to meet his parents .. or smth like that.... only advice I can give you is this: be sure what kind of family he has (are they good or bad)-- then be sure in his love for you .... sometimes guy can pretend they are jealous just to show they re like big in loved with a girl ... that s all acting ... after you do that step .... I mean on marrying him ... it will be to late to act ... so better to be sure before everything ... mine said he will be with me no matter my parents were against everything ... imagine if I lost my parents cause of that guy .. and he cheated me with another girl .. I would never had a family to return to ... It is a big risk .. like everything else in this life .... take care dear .. all the best for you :D ...

Since: Aug 13

Location hidden

#427 Aug 15, 2013
Of course they'll cheat on women. It's their unconscious homosexual drive. They're unconsciously attracted to men, however refuse to accept this due to social and emotional oppression, so they will jump from female to female, trying to find the perfect companion. However, we all know that he longs to have a boyfriend. It's just the sad sad truth my friends. If Freud was alive, he would support my theory.
english blonde broken

Dubai, UAE

#428 Aug 15, 2013
I have had a Turkish boyfriend for 3 years and i loved him so much and after i tell you everything he did to me i am sure you with think i am an idiot for staying so long and putting up with so much crap but i guess when you love someone you do stupid things like keep taking them back. My Turkish boyfriend spend 3 years mentally physically and emotionally abusing me. One day he said he loved me and wanted to move in together and wanted me to be his wife and the next day he would say its over you cannot ever be the mother of my children you are not good enough. He would control me stop me going out with ceratin friends and to certain places he lied cheated and beat the shit out of me. He broke up with me a hundred times and came back and he made me sick from all the hurt and the pain. He would make promises not to lie and then i would find he had been planning to take other girls on holiday and cheated so many times and still lied about it once he even stole something from me and lied and said he threw it away and then i found messages on his phone trying to sell it for money for himself. He was good lucking great in bed and always had a way of convincing me but trust me its like sleeping with the enemy i couldnt ever trust a word from his mouth he would even swear on his own mothers life when he was lying. DISGUSTING. The worst thing is i am a good person and so i feel the hurt when he would do these things but he would look at me with no pain no remorse he was nasty and his behavour was not even human how one person can be so cruel to someone who loves them and cause thm so much pain and not even feel and ounce of guilt. Even animals know better than this .
toulon

UK

#430 Aug 18, 2013
I agree with most of the above ...i ve got several Turkish male friends, all of whom cheat on their wives..even with me. a gay guy. just proves that as long as someone offers them a mouth or an ass.. they'll go for it
SMH

United States

#431 Aug 19, 2013
Any men would cheat if they get a chance.
Heartbroken girl

London, UK

#432 Aug 22, 2013
Andordinarygirl wrote:
<quoted text>
Is his name by anychance Emre Karabulut?
Or Recep !!!!

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