Cuca

Novy Jicin, Czech Republic

#236 Apr 14, 2012
I was dating a Turkish guy for 5 months only and when he came to my country, he started to control my every step. He got jealous many times and he was also aggressive because he read all my emails or facebook and skype messages. We had a lot of fights and then I found out he cheated on me. So, for him it's okay that he cheated but I can't even keep a contact with my old friends... Also, he said to me it's fine that Turkish men have sex with prostitutes although they have girlfriends. He minded I wasn't a virgin after some time of dating. When I wanted to break up with him, he threatened me with his suicidal tendencies and he and his friends arranged everything for me to believe that he really tried to kill himself.

I have more bad experiences with Turkish men. One of them, doctor, wanted to "just talk with some foreigner" and invited me to a hospital where he worked and I was really stupid because I was told to come there for examination of my knees. But, of course, he wanted just sex and I felt really abused and I had to literally run from his intentions.

One other Turk, a university teacher, is trying to seduce so many girls anytime he has an opportunity. And this is really disgusting because he is newly married with a foreigner girl with a newborn baby.

This is unpleasant and I wish nothing like this will happen to you. Turkish men always want everything very quickly, but you should be with him at least few years and get to know him very well before you marry or have a baby with him. I really hate prejudices and stereotypes and I've always defended Turkish men against my friends and family but this is reality, something that happened to me and I think by breaking up with "my" Turk, I made a really good decision. I really like and adore Turkish culture but I am done with Turkish men for good!
poovaloop

Tyngsboro, MA

#237 Apr 17, 2012
Cuca wrote:
tI really hate prejudices and stereotypes and I've always defended Turkish men against my friends and family but this is reality, something that happened to me and I think by breaking up with "my" Turk, I made a really good decision. I really like and adore Turkish culture but I am done with Turkish men for good!
You can like the culture, but STAY AWAY FROM THE MEN!

Tell all your friends!
Badass

Taunton, MA

#238 Apr 17, 2012
poovaloop wrote:
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You can like the culture, but STAY AWAY FROM THE MEN!
Tell all your friends!
So true- yeah they're sexy as hell- but they really will mess with your head.
poovaloop

Tyngsboro, MA

#239 Apr 19, 2012
They're not even sexy.
Ashley

Tampa, FL

#240 Apr 24, 2012
I have been with my husband for 12 years and Hr is from Busa turkey, Hr is the most amazing, gentle, and caring man I have ever met. I was diagnosed w breast cancer in 2010 and he has come to every appointment and surgery. I love him and hope that every women can find such an amazing husband, father, and friend like me!
Abby

Surfers Paradise, Australia

#241 Apr 24, 2012
Hi everyone,

I met a Turkish guy 15 months ago on the net we fell inlove and everything was going perfectfor about 12 months, we were planning to meet up in Turkey this year and get married but he had a (friend with benefits) which I did not know about, who contacted me and told me that he is her boyfriend which he totally denied. We broke up 3 months ago because of her.

I left him after discovering that he took her with him to Turkey for a holiday and she met his family. Now he wants me back and asking me to forgive him and that he is very sorry and does not love that woman she is just a sex buddy but he does not have feelings for her.

Please I don't trust him but I still have feelings for him and he has been begging me to give him another chance for the last few weeks. Should I trust him & give him another chance? Please HELP
Badass

Washington, DC

#242 Apr 25, 2012
Don't do it! Mine told me he had divorced his wife ( who I didn't know about for the 10 years we were together) I then found out they were still married. Do not believe a word he says- it took 20 years of my life & a lot of heartache to finally figure this sad truth out. Good luck!
Lucie

Novy Jicin, Czech Republic

#244 Apr 26, 2012
Abby wrote:
Hi everyone,
I met a Turkish guy 15 months ago on the net we fell inlove and everything was going perfectfor about 12 months, we were planning to meet up in Turkey this year and get married but he had a (friend with benefits) which I did not know about, who contacted me and told me that he is her boyfriend which he totally denied. We broke up 3 months ago because of her.
I left him after discovering that he took her with him to Turkey for a holiday and she met his family. Now he wants me back and asking me to forgive him and that he is very sorry and does not love that woman she is just a sex buddy but he does not have feelings for her.
Please I don't trust him but I still have feelings for him and he has been begging me to give him another chance for the last few weeks. Should I trust him & give him another chance? Please HELP
Abby, I agree with Badass!

You should not give him another chance because you can never know whether he is lying or not. There are better men waiting for you! You don't deserve to be treated like this.
poovaloop

Tyngsboro, MA

#245 Apr 28, 2012
Abby wrote:
Hi everyone,
I met a Turkish guy 15 months ago on the net we fell inlove and everything was going perfectfor about 12 months, we were planning to meet up in Turkey this year and get married but he had a (friend with benefits) which I did not know about, who contacted me and told me that he is her boyfriend which he totally denied. We broke up 3 months ago because of her.
I left him after discovering that he took her with him to Turkey for a holiday and she met his family. Now he wants me back and asking me to forgive him and that he is very sorry and does not love that woman she is just a sex buddy but he does not have feelings for her.
Please I don't trust him but I still have feelings for him and he has been begging me to give him another chance for the last few weeks. Should I trust him & give him another chance? Please HELP
OMG, NO!!! Don't do it!

Find another boyfriend. You'll get over the jerk quickly.
Abby

Surfers Paradise, Australia

#246 Apr 29, 2012
Thank you all for your great advice I greatly appreciate it. I am just starting to heal and now he trying to get me back but the trust is gone so even I still love him but I don't think I can ever trust him and without trust no relationship will survive. Thanks ladies xxx
Badass

London, UK

#247 Apr 29, 2012
Good for you. I wish I had been as strong as you. Instead I wasted 20 years of my life and by the time it was finally over I was too old to have kids. I hope you find someone else to love who is deserving of your love and makes you happy. Sending you hugs xo
caroline

Laval, Canada

#248 Apr 29, 2012
OK do not be fooled by Turskish romantic ways and words... They lie all the time! They will look in the eyes ans swear they are not cheathing even if you catch them,,,I know a turkish man for 2 years now ..he has cheated on me several times but the worse is that when we met he said he was single and i told him i wanted something serious and get married and he said him too... in the end i found his papers that he is already married with a girl from Turkey....So he has been cheating his wife with me for a very long time and cheated her with all the woman he cheated on me... All of his friends are married and they all have at least 2 or 3 girls and their life and they say they are single to them when they meet........so 20 of 20 guys i met cheat and lie.......THESE ARE THE TURKISH MEN OF MONTREAL QUEBEC AND CANADA
poovaloop

Tyngsboro, MA

#249 May 1, 2012
Abby wrote:
Thank you all for your great advice I greatly appreciate it. I am just starting to heal and now he trying to get me back but the trust is gone so even I still love him but I don't think I can ever trust him and without trust no relationship will survive. Thanks ladies xxx
Once you start dating (get out there and date. Don't fall in love, just go out and date and have a good time), you'll heal and you won't be in love with him anymore. You'll look back and wonder what you saw in him.
Abby

Surfers Paradise, Australia

#250 May 1, 2012
Thanks Poovaloop and Badass, Caroline, Lucie and all everyone for the support and information. We all are either experiencing pain and healing from it. Its wrong that these guys do the wrong thing by innocent people. I know not all of them are like that but for those who lie & cheat what a horrible way to live your life and what do they get out of it?

Its tough tryiing to move on when he keeps hasseling me and wanting me to believe him. I am doing my best to move on.

Please keep exchanging the good and the bad hopefully these dishonest people will learn and grow up and stop hurting innocent people. It's a horrible way to live your life in cheat and dishonesty.
Lucie

Novy Jicin, Czech Republic

#251 May 1, 2012
Abby wrote:
Thanks Poovaloop and Badass, Caroline, Lucie and all everyone for the support and information. We all are either experiencing pain and healing from it. Its wrong that these guys do the wrong thing by innocent people. I know not all of them are like that but for those who lie & cheat what a horrible way to live your life and what do they get out of it?
Its tough tryiing to move on when he keeps hasseling me and wanting me to believe him. I am doing my best to move on.
Please keep exchanging the good and the bad hopefully these dishonest people will learn and grow up and stop hurting innocent people. It's a horrible way to live your life in cheat and dishonesty.
Abby I am proud of you. You will do better. In future, you could never trust him and the relationship could be harmed with high probability. For example, I had a Turkish boyfriend who had cheated on me and I can't imagine being with him and "just forget and forgive" and let him manipulate with me (because, apparently it is ok he cheated). None of us deserves that.
poovaloop

Tyngsboro, MA

#252 May 2, 2012
Be strong, ladies. Stand strong and forget those jerks.
curiousturk

Arlington, TX

#253 May 10, 2012
For any men/women, not excluding turks, there is a chance of cheating. Culture plays a role? Yes
AND PLEASE DO NOT FORGET THERE IS A LOT OF KURDS IN TURKEY AS WELL!!!

If you don't want to be cheated/broken by your turkish men, follow easy steps.

1- No Holiday Romance in a 2 week resort stay, period, nada, doesn't work out.

2- If you 5-10 years older than the guy, leave it as it is unless you really looking as if you are in his age group

3- If you are considered fat, ugly; and suddenly this guy found your inner beauty, forget about it, its scams

4- If he is unemployed, illegal, not able to speak your language and/or english, not educated, from eastern parts of turkey, stay away from them.

5- Never ever expect anything from a guy you slept at first time, wait, wait as long as you can be sure.

6- If he has any statement about virginity, and you are not, run away, even the smallest tiny statement

7- If he likes/wants to introduce his parents, that's a good sign

8-Never ever marry after dating very short, 6 months is the minimum and online long distance talks donít count. Know him in his natural setting

9- If he never advances to marriage dating sleeping with you after 1-2 years, time to rethink

10-Observe his friends, are they nice? Do they treat you good? Do they treat other women/girlfriends good?

11- If he cheats you while dating, don't forgive and move on. That doesn't include innocent flirts; turkish men do that all the time, only some cheat

12- If all women in his family cover their head (turban), and you not muslim, it will not work for you

13- Appreciate nice words of him, romance as Turks good in that, but DO NOT FALL IN LOVE QUICK, Rather make it gradually

14- If he feels socially uncomfortable next to you, your friends, work, your entertainment, your hobbies; give him time, if he cannot still adjust you, move on

15- If starts telling you how to dress, how to act and you donít like, or you didnít grow up in such a culture similar to this, latin or muslim; time to move on.

16- Vice versa, If he is not any jealous of you, donít mind you party with your ex-boyfriend, he is either not Turkish enough, or he doesnít love you

17-If you are eastern European, Balkans, Russia, be more cautious.

18- I think I mentioned this before, but again if he is waiter, animator, hotel person, anyone working with hands, donít expect anything!!!!!

Since: May 12

Turkey

#254 May 10, 2012
Hi girls;
&#304; agree with curiousturk as a turkish girl :) by the way i wonder why foreign girls choose turkish men??
justaguy

Brisbane, Australia

#255 May 11, 2012
I am a turkish men and I did cheat my girlfriend(s).
1st reason
They were doing whatever they want sexually but refusing my requests.
2nd reason
Not beautiful enough and not taking care of themselves. E.g shaving their belly every 20 days which ends up by having a hairy stomach
3rd reason
They act like I am their sex toy. Whenever they're horny they call me and when I say I can't come sry they act like I refused something really important.
4th reason
Ability to upgrade. You cannot trust girls because almost 90% of them make fun of you. So, to make sure that I found that 10%. I had to cheat the current girlfriend for once then dump her or never answer her calls.
5th and the most important one
Heaps of turn offs! Turkish men are SILENT! You have to build a great trust between you and us! If I tell you something and you act or respond unexpected and unpleasant such as when I say "hey I don't want you to see your ex" or "don't want you to talk with him" or "this is my friend&family please get along with them" you should not threat me for breaking up or deny, because I do whatever you want and I expect you to do whatever I want, otherwise I'll remain silent and try to hit you with my best shot(which is cheating you) until you understand. Then I'll break up with you because all of my respect and love(if I had) are gone after you did not respect my decisions about you!
6th reason
Find a proper boyfriend. If you look at turkish chicks most of them would try to marry with someone who is a graduate of a bachelors or greater degree. Because someone who is decent in Turkey means a guy with a university degree, not a bartender or DJ who starts to tell lies since the moment that you started to talk. Because many people in Turkey learn some values and ethics at university. If you find a guy who cannot even speak English, uneducated, without a proper job. That guy would look at you as a sex toy.

PS: That hairy girl was anglo-celtic descented Australian, and I live in Australia, so all these observations are made accordingly to that.
justaguy

Brisbane, Australia

#256 May 11, 2012
Catwhisperer wrote:
Hi girls;
&#304; agree with curiousturk as a turkish girl :) by the way i wonder why foreign girls choose turkish men??
1) Most tourists who come to Turkey, e.g Kusadasi are chubby british/irish chicks who cannot even find a sex buddy.
2) A chick has a compliment/beauty ratio. It should be close to 1, which means if a chick is gorgeous, that chick should get gorgeously complimentaries. When this ratio is more than 1, an ugly gets heaps of complimentaries, then that ugly is flattered therefore gets attracted quite easily and quickly in which turkish guys are pretty good at it because turkish guys learn it how to do on turkish girls first and that ratio is different compared to foreign girls. I'd say that ratio is probably compliment/beauty^2(squared)

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