Parental Alienation & Hostile Aggressive Parenting.
Hostile Aggressive Parenting (HAP) is defined as : A general pattern of behavior, manipulation, actions or decision-making of a person (usually a parent or guardian) that either directly or indirectly; 1) creates undue difficulties or interferences in the relationship of a child with another person (usually a parent or guardian) involved with the parenting and/or rearing of the child and/or, 2) promotes or maintains an unwarranted unfairness or inequality in the parenting arrangements between a childís parents and/or guardians and/or, 3) promotes ongoing and unnecessary conflict between parents and/or guardians which adversely affects the parenting, well-being and rearing of a child.
Hostile Aggressive Parenting or H.A.P., is a serious form of child maltreatment and abuse, and is encountered in most high conflict child-custody disputes and is often used as a tool to align the child with one parent during litigation.
A parent suffering from HAP will do their best to interfere with the relationship of a child with another person, usually the other parent or guardian. Such interferences include using an older sibling to control the child, guilting the child into submission, not allowing telephone, denying visitation, email or any other communication between the child and the other person.
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting is most apparent in child-custody disputes and is used most often as a weapon & tool to align the child with one of the parents during litigation over custody or control of the child. However, HAP can be present in almost any situation where two people involved in a childís life are at odds with each other over how a child may be raised or influenced by the parties.
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting is a very serious and damaging form of child abuse and maltreatment that parents engage in. HAP is most often identified in individuals with "Narcissistic", controlling and bullying personalities or those with mild to severe PERSONALITY DISORDERS. HAP can be a factor in all types of parenting arrangements including sole maternal custody, sole paternal custody and joint custody.
Parents exhibiting Hostile-Aggressive-Parenting have not succeeded in getting on with their own life and remain, instead, controlled by their negative dysfunctional emotions and continue to exercise power and control over their ex-spouse's life, their ex-spouse's parenting and over the children of the relationship as well. HAP parents will blame everyone else except themselves and continue onward with their sickness.
Hostile-aggressive parents are unable to appreciate the needs of their child and view their children as a possession belonging to them and no other persons have any right to the child, especially not the childís other parent. Hostile-aggressive parents will use the child as a weapon against the other spouse and family members whenever they have the opportunity. Angry and vindictive HAP parents are often able to bring a reign of terror and revenge on to a non-custodial parent and their family, their goal being to get them out of the childís life or at the very least to severely damage their childís relationship with the other parent and other parentís family.
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting just like Parental Alienation Syndrome (related) is considered by many health care professionals and legal experts a mental disorder, mental illness, dysfunctional parenting, abusive behavior which is emotionally damaging and contrary interest of a child. These individuals are unhealthy and ill and require medical & counseling treatment to cure these debilitating diseases!